Marriage and Martinis

Marriage and Martinis is an attempt to present a real, authentic marriage at its core: the love, hate, teamwork, struggles, laughter, humiliation, and ever-changing dynamics that comprise spousal relationships. Join Danielle and Adam as they explore every hilarious, heartfelt, shocking, embarrassing, and completely inappropriate facet of marriage and parenting. It’s a bumpy ride, but it’s worth it.


  • Trust

    Jun 24 2019

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  • Bonus Episode: Family Vacation Expert Tamara Gruber

    Jun 21 2019

  • The Redefining Success Episode

    Jun 17 2019

    A lot has happened in the lives of Danielle and Adam this past year that has made them totally re-evaluate the idea of what it truly means to feel and be successful. How much do success and wealth overlap? Whom do each of them deem to be truly successful and inspiring? What makes a successful marriage and do they consider their own marriage to be an example of one? What do they not want their kids to lose as they get older and start to equate accomplishment with skill? There's so much more to th...more

  • Father's Day Episode - Conversation with Doyin Richards

    Jun 10 2019

    Doyin Richards is an in demand keynote speaker who goes all around the country discussing modern day fatherhood, how to deal with toxic masculinity, and highlighting what being an involved dad really looks like in today's society. He talks to Danielle and Adam about his experience as a black dad raising two multiracial daughters, why wives need take a step back and let husbands help in their own way, and why he has created a platform that focuses on awesome dads from all different walks of life....more

  • Sexual Communications Coach Leah Carey - Part 2

    Jun 06 2019

     Leah Carey is back by popular demand answering listener questions about dry spells, incompatible sexual preferences between partners, and how to achieve a bit more body confidence in the bedroom. Also, we follow up the “when I’m done I’m done” statement Adam so infamously made in the first sexual communications episode (April 5th). Join us in this fun, important conversation concerning how we can all feel a little more comfortable discussing all things sex related Episode Sponsors: Casper Promo...more

  • The Safe and Wild Episode

    Jun 03 2019

    How do we balance our need for safety in our relationship with our need to indulge our wild side? What happens when one person starts to overindulge and the other one has to pick up the pieces? The struggle between these two necessities can be exhausting, and finding a balance is an ongoing process. Danielle and Adam break down the dichotomy and the steps they’re currently taking to get back on track to both getting to enjoy their carefree needs while also creating a safe haven for one another i...more

  • Conversation with Darcy Lockman, Author of "All The Rage"

    May 28 2019

    We're delving deeper into this idea of "the mental load." Darcy Lockman is a psychologist who researched the myth of 50/50 partnerships between moms and dads, and why it's taking so long for us to finally find an equal ground concerning parenting and household responsibilities. What were Darcy's findings? What did the hundreds of couples she interviewed reveal about their situations? How can we bridge this gap so everyone feels some relief concerning responsibilities? Also, Adam weighs in as a h...more

  • Pet Peeves - Part 2

    May 23 2019

    Danielle and Adam have been co-habitating for almost 20 years. It's no surprise then that there are a bunch of habits they each have that really annoy each other to no end. For the second time on the podcast (the first time was way back on their second episode!) they duke it out about messiness, forgetfulness, dishes, mail, and so many other habits. Do they both come out of the episode alive? Listen to find out. Episode Sponsors: Duke Cannon Promo Code: MARRIAGE 15% Off 1st Order Swig & Swallow ...more

  • Conversation with Polyamory expert Dr. Elisabeth Sheff

    May 20 2019

    After reading the book, The Polyamorists Next Door, Danielle was so interested in the topic that she asked the author and polyamory expert, Dr. Elisabeth Sheff, to come on the podcast to teach them about a lifestyle which they knew very little. Not to be confused with Polygamy, Polyamory is the act of being open to having more than one consenting relationship, and any gender can partake in having multiple partners. As the book title suggests, Polyamorists truly are living around us, but they are...more

  • The Expectations Episode

    May 13 2019

    Are our expectations for ourselves, our partners, and those around us too high? Are we setting ourselves up for failure? Is social media causing us all to feel we pale by comparison? Adam and Danielle discuss all of this, how their own upbringings has influenced their set of expectations, and what our expectations for our own kids are. Maybe if we can start figuring out a way to appreciate for what we already have and instead of concentrating on what hasn’t happened or gotten done, we would all ...more

  • Neat Method - Tips For Home Organizing

    May 09 2019

    When Danielle decided she wanted to surprise Adam by finally attempting to organize their house, she reached out to Neat Method to help her. but she had some stipulations: the people who came to help had to be fun, non-judgmental, and not ask her to hug her clothing to see if she still loves it or wants to donate the item instead. She wound up having such a great time, that she asked the ladies to come back and answer some listener questions all about some simple ways to make our routines easier...more

  • Mother's Day Episode: Inspiring Mom, Valli Gideons

    May 06 2019

    Valli Gideons joins us to talk all about being the wife of someone in the military who has been deployed ten times throughout their marriage. She's also raising her two children, both of whom are deaf, and uses her blog, My Battle Call, to educate as many people as possible about the hard of hearing.  As moms, we are stronger than we often believe and more capable than we often give ourselves credit. Valli is one example of just how tough and unstoppable moms are. We are so grateful that she too...more

  • "The Mental Load" With Life Coach Amy Alpert

    Apr 29 2019

    A recent study shows that 86% of us are feeling exhausted and overwhelmed by a this ongoing burden that is now finally being labeled as, "The Mental Load." In honor of Mother's Day, which is quickly approaching, Adam and Danielle sat down with resident Life Coach Amy Alpert to discuss how moms, especially, seem to constantly be weighed down by balancing the schedules, chores, appointments, household duties and emotional burdens that saturate everyday familial life. By opening up a dialogue, brea...more

  • Back To The Beginning

    Apr 22 2019

    Danielle and Adam are taking you back to when it all first started: meeting, re-meeting, wedding planning, those first few years of marriage, and everything in between. Anyone engaged or newly married will definitely want to hear this episode. Anyone who was married at a younger age will understand how there are so many aspects of their wedding that they would do so differently now. Why was Danielle hesitant about their relationship in the beginning? What regrets do they have about those first f...more

  • The "You Can't Say That Out Loud" Episode

    Apr 18 2019

    We're so tired of there still being things that we should feel shameful to admit out loud even in 2019. Topics that are considered "taboo" such as parenting hardships, sexual preferences, being on anxiety medication, bottle feeding, breastfeeding in public, (among so many others) need to be discussed as often as it takes until it all becomes commonplace and we no longer feel the need to hide our true feelings and actions. We hope you'll join us on Marriage and Martinis as we try to get one step ...more

  • Interview with Couples’ Therapist, Liz Colizza

    Apr 15 2019

    So many of us would love to attend couples’ therapy on a regular basis. However, due to reasons such as financial issues, lack of childcare and a partner’s unwillingness to attend, it’s often just not in the cards. Lasting marriage counseling app is offering an affordable and convenient solution to all of that. We had the chance to talk to one of the app’s top researchers about the benefits of connecting with our partner on a more regular basis, why so many partners are so resistant to attending...more

  • The Finance Episode - Part 2

    Apr 08 2019

    Adam & Danielle discuss personal finances with Joel from the How To Money Podcast in this 2nd part episode. Episode Sponsors: Care/Of Promo code: MNM50 Zeta Finance App  

  • Sexual Communications Coach Leah Carey

    Apr 05 2019

    Leah Carey is helping us reclaim (or claim) our sexuality and helping us to understand that it's never too late to start getting the greatest amount of sexual pleasure possible. At 42 years old, she realized the power of her sexual identity for the first time, and since then she has made it her mission for couples everywhere to start getting what they truly want in the bedroom, and making it an easier topic to discuss even for the most hesitant and introverted personalities. We ask her a bunch o...more

  • Distance, Space, & Privacy

    Apr 01 2019

    After going through a reoccurring pattern of Adam becoming distant and seeming aloof, Danielle put an Instagram story out asking if other couples struggle with this, too, and the response was overwhelming. Obviously this is a huge issue for a lot of couples. After 18 years, Danielle finally confronts the issue, and gets an unexpected response concerning why Adam falls into this behavior. They also discuss how much alone time is necessary for spouses to feel a sense of independence, and what acti...more

  • The Finance Episode - Part 1

    Mar 25 2019

    Danielle and Adam have discussed financial tension in their relationship in several recent episodes. Considering the number one cause of divorce in marriage involves financial disagreement, we need to be doing a better job of getting on the same page about money as couples and parents. Danielle and Adam sit down with finance guy Joel from the How To Money podcast and simplify some concepts that seem intimidating to many people. They also ask Joel a bunch of questions from listeners and discuss i...more

  • The Jealousy Episode

    Mar 18 2019

  • The Birth Order Episode

    Mar 11 2019

    Do you think that where you land in your birth order or if you're an only child really affects you in life? Have you ever thought about how you and your spouse's place in your birth order affects your marriage and how you act as adults? Where do Danielle and Adam land in their own birth order among their siblings? No matter what you think about the whole topic, it's a fun discussion, and one that hasn't really been researched until the past 20-30 years. No matter if you're an oldest, middle, you...more

  • The Secrets and Lies Episode

    Mar 04 2019

    Danielle and Adam further discuss some issues that arose during the Guilt and Communication episodes, and dive more deeply into the occurrences of the past few years concerning drinking, gambling, and other problematic struggles in their marriage. Plus they discuss and debate what, if any, secrets are acceptable to keep in a marriage and what happens when a spouse finds out about them. How does Adam plan on dealing with honesty going forward, and what will happen if anymore secrets arise in thei...more

  • The Sleep Episode

    Feb 25 2019

  • Growing Your Instagram Community - Part 1

    Feb 21 2019

    Ever wonder how accounts get to have a hundred thousand followers or more? Want to mold your account to help you to become an online influencer, lead people to your website, learn about your brand or business, or sell something you make? Danielle has done all of this and is sharing some of her strategies and inside secrets with you. Forget algorithms, statistics, and spending money on sponsored posts. Gaining organic followers who help build your community and fulfill your ultimate goals is real...more

  • Jodie Utter and Her Story Of Infidelity, Trust and Forgiveness

    Feb 18 2019

    We were so privileged to talk with our friend, Jodie Utter, who embraces vulnerability in order to share her personal experience with marital infidelity and how she got through the immense pain of dealing with her husband's affair. What was her initial reaction? Did she think about leaving the marriage? What made her stay? How did she trust again?  If anyone has experienced any form of lying and betrayal in their relationship, you won't want to miss this episode, and you won't believe her braver...more

  • The Communication Episode Part 2 - Take 2

    Feb 11 2019

    Adam and Danielle continue their discussion of effective communication (or lack thereof) in their relationship. Danielle focuses on Adam's lack of communication in the bedroom and how learning from the BDSM (Bondage Dominance Sadism and Masochism) community might benefit all couples in more open and honest dialogue concerning sex. Plus, more tips from Esther Perel, and a look towards the future with Adam drinking less and trying to be more involved in family dynamics.    Episode Sponsor: www.awe...more

  • The Communication Episode - Part 1

    Feb 04 2019

    Adam and Danielle discuss everything from how they communicate well to ways they both need a lot of improvement when manifesting their needs. Raising their voices, avoiding the problem, refusing to get outside their comfort zones are just some of the ways they struggle with communication. Any spouse hoping to better express him/herself won't want to miss this important episode. Episode Sponsor: www.awesomefuel.com/marriage

  • Flirty Girl - Part 2

    Jan 31 2019

    In this follow-up episode with FlirtyGirl, we discuss everything from how to introduce new sexual ideas to a partner who's less adventurous, to what to do if one spouse has a lower libido, to well, just about everything you were too embarrassed to ask but always wanted to know. It's so much fun when Danielle and Adam get together with Brooke and this conversation is no exception. Plus, what do women really want for Valentine's Day? https://www.flirtygirlguide.com

  • The Food Episode

    Jan 28 2019

    It's no secret that Danielle and Adam share a great love of good food, and on this episode they're discussing everything from foods that remind them of their childhoods, to the greatest meals they've shared together, their great love of Anthony Bourdain, foods that are aphrodisiacs, fast food as a form of self-care, and so much more. Also, they discuss what happened one night while dining at one of the best restaurants in the world, that led Danielle to have the idea to start the Marriage and Ma...more

  • Things We're Embarrassed To Admit

    Jan 21 2019

    While Danielle and Adam are always open and vulnerable, this episode takes certain things to a new level. What will Danielle not do because she's worried that at 41 years old she'll still disappoint her dad? What sexual position does she despise? What are Adam's serial killer tendencies? Why is he embarrassed about his bathroom habits? They both reveal insecurities that are not easy to admit. If you are easily offended or uncomfortable, this will definitely NOT be the episode for you.

  • The Past Episode

    Jan 15 2019

  • Goals With Amy - Life Coach

    Jan 05 2019

    Adam and Danielle sit down to talk about “goals” with Life Coach Amy Alpert, who also happens to be Danielle’s sister. Is it possible to help the hosts of Marriage and Martinis figure out how to get organized and buckle down to commit to some resolutions for the New Year? It’s definitely not an easy task to give anyone, but Amy is up for the challenge and extremely patient with these two slackers. And if nothing else, they definitely had a lot of fun chatting together.

  • Health, Diet, & Exercise - M&M Style

    Dec 31 2018

    Adam & Danielle close out 2018 with everyone's favorite topics to discuss... Health, Diet, & Exercise! Don't worry, it's Marriage & Martinis style, as always.

  • Our Parenting Strengths

    Dec 19 2018

    Of course, you can imagine how hard it was for Adam and Danielle to just concentrate on the stuff we do well as parents, cause complimenting ourselves is so out of our comfort zone. But despite how crazy we are, there are a few ways we don’t suck.

  • The Moving Forward Episode

    Dec 11 2018

    Danielle and Adam follow up the guilt episode with a discussion about how they can move forward into the future without anger or resentment. Adam does some research about steps people can take to say they're sorry, and Danielle responds to Adam's progress and intentions for the future of their marriage. Plus, Danielle says what she thinks she needs to do in order for their marriage to be the best it possibly can.

  • Interview with Amber Leventry, LGBTQ Activist

    Dec 07 2018

    Amber Leventry identifies as non-binary and uses their platform as a writer and advocate to educate people about the LGBTQ community. They explain why they prefer to be referred to using "they, them" pronouns, how they are adjusting and learning while raising a transgender daughter, and how getting sober helped launch a whole new perspective on life and advocacy. Marriage and Martinis is so grateful that Amber was willing to share with us and our community. Join us in this incredibly important i...more

  • The Guilt Episode

    Dec 03 2018

    This might be Danielle and Adam's most vulnerable episode yet. What do they both feel guilt about on a daily basis, and what are the more serious issues that they struggle with concerning feelings of shame? Plus, Adam relives a night when he made one of the most horrible and humiliating mistakes in the history of their relationship. If you're a Marriage and Martinis fan, this is an episode you won't want to miss.

  • The Gifting Episode

    Nov 26 2018

    What do Adam and Danielle think each other would want for the holidays? How well do they know one another concerning their wish lists? What are the best gifts they have given one another, and when did they feel unappreciated for a present they worked really hard to acquire and give one another? Plus, what do husbands and wives really want from their spouse for the holidays?

  • Jen, founder of Motherhood Understood discusses Post-Partum Depression

    Nov 20 2018

    At least 20% of women experience some type of postpartum depression. Danielle was one of those sufferers, and was burdened with an extreme mental illness throughout her first pregnancy and even after her child was born. In this episode, Danielle and Adam discuss so many aspects of maternal mental health with fellow PPD sufferer and motherhood blogger, Jen Schwartz. As always, they are honest and forthcoming while sharing their own unique experiences with the topic. What are the signals that indi...more

  • The First Stay-At-Home-Mom Episode

    Nov 12 2018

    The highly anticipated episode in which Adam and Danielle discuss the role of a SAHM and why it's complicated and misunderstood. Danielle attempts to show Adam that he does not completely realize the extent of her role. They discuss everything from maternity/paternity leave to the benefits and complications of having one parent who "doesn't work." Also, the beginning of the episode follows up the Flirty Girl interview in which Adam and Danielle review a product given to them by the sex expert. M...more

  • Dealing with (or not dealing with) life stresses.

    Nov 08 2018

    Work, family life, "adulting," and so many other forms of stress pervade our everyday life. Danielle and Adam discuss how they deal with (and avoid) stressful situations. How do each think the other one handles stress? What ideas do they have for how one another could better handle these situations? How much do one another contribute to or make difficult situations better for each other? They discuss all this and more in this episode.

  • Fears, Nightmares, & Death

    Oct 30 2018

    Danielle and Adam discuss and debate everything from our smaller, everyday phobias to more serious fears, nightmares, thoughts on death and everything in between. What keeps us up at night? How have our fears changed? Plus, plenty of random facts and questionable advice seeps in although should be taken with little to no degree of seriousness and validity.

  • Keeping Up With The Joneses

    Oct 22 2018

    Adam and Danielle have certainly dealt with their struggles when it comes to "keeping up with the Joneses," and they have some pretty unique stories to tell about the topic. One situation almost led to Danielle calling it quits in the marriage. Plus, find out something that happened to Adam that he never told anyone other than good friends about before. 

  • Flirty Girl: Sex Expert Interview

    Oct 16 2018

  • What Men and Women Don't Understand About One Another

    Oct 13 2018

    Sure, we don't really understand anything about one another, but let's get married and spend the rest of our lives together. Sounds perfectly logical, right? Adam and Danielle discuss everything from a woman's "ugly cry" to men's fascination with big screen televisions in this fun episode. Why are men in the bathroom so long? What's the hardest part about being a man or a woman? Join us and laugh along while we discuss, argue, and keep it real and inappropriate throughout this entire episode. Pl...more

  • Bonus Episode: Movie Swap - Danielle

    Oct 09 2018

    It's Adam's turn to choose two movies for Danielle to watch which she would never otherwise see. Of course we all know he chooses at least one sci-fi film (Interstellar) and one war film (Braveheart). Will Danielle understand what's going on in either of them? Find out what she thinks and how she reacts. Spoiler alert: this was recorded after movie swap #1 so Danielle is already a few cocktails deep, and we all know what that means.

  • Adult Friendships

    Oct 05 2018

    Danielle and Adam talk about if/how friendships have changed as they've gotten older, whether or not they would be ok with the other having a good friend of the opposite sex, celebrities they would love to be friends with, and Adam's "bromances." 

  • Bonus Episode: Movie Swap - Adam

    Oct 02 2018

    After years of begging Adam to watch certain movies that she loves, Danielle finally convinces him to view two of her choosing. How did he like them? What did he learn about the making of the films? How long can he spend giving a summary of each movie before Danielle totally loses it completely? So many fascinating topics to be discussed, and we even manage to throw in a bit of a discussion about labiaplasty, because we always like to keep things nice and random around here.

  • Marital Advice - Marriage and Martinis Style

    Sep 28 2018

    Admittedly having gone through some really tough periods throughout their 16-year-marriage, Danielle and Adam discuss how and why they've made it through, and offer some wisdom and real-life experiences concerning what helps a relationship withstand the test of time, hardships, and loss. Plus, they reveal some very personal information that they haven't yet revealed on the podcast.

  • Bonus Episode: Never Have I Ever

    Sep 23 2018

    What stuff have you done that you wouldn't be so forthcoming about with your spouse, even after being married for so long? Adam and Danielle come out with details of their life that the other may or may not be ok with. As always, they divulge way more than originally intended, so if you're not comfortable with the real life details of relationships and marriage, you may want to skip this episode.

  • The Romance Episode

    Sep 18 2018

    How do men and women's ideas of romance differ? Adam and Danielle discuss everything from their romantic fantasies to which movie couples they think represent the ideals of romance, plus so much more. As always they reveal way more than they originally intended, and keep it completely real in a way that is totally relatable. Get ready to laugh your way through another meaningful but hilarious episode.

  • Parenting Truths

    Sep 13 2018

    Adam and Danielle tell it like it is (as always) concerning what a person really needs to expect when having kids. What could be better than they're non-expert, questionable advice, experience, and ideas for how to raise the youth of the world. Trust us...whether you don't have kids, are planning on having them, or are already a mom or dad, you're going to want to listen to this episode, and then probably forget everything you've heard after you've laughed your way through. 

  • Body Image and Double Standards

    Sep 07 2018

    Adam and Danielle discuss the differences and similarities with men and women concerning issues such as weight, height, aging, and plastic surgery. What are men really thinking about women's bodies during sex? What are men self-conscious about? What would Adam and Danielle love to have someone say about them? They explore all of this and more in this completely honest and revealing episode.

  • Bonus Episode: 2 Truths & A Lie

    Sep 04 2018

    Adam and Danielle continue their game series as they try to stump one another with facts and lies about science, celebrities, movies, and their own childhoods. Laugh with them throughout this bonus episode as they reveal personal information about their youth, and as Adam cheats his way through the game.

  • Pregnancy & Labor

    Aug 31 2018

    C-sections, morphine, push presents, baby nurses, and all the other fun stuff associated with bringing life into the world. Danielle and Adam explore everything from pregnancy sex to things you should never say to a woman in labor. Join them as they share their experiences and give their non-expert, always questionable advice on these subjects.

  • Bonus Episode: Would You Rather?

    Aug 28 2018

    The first of many bonus episodes to come in Marriage and Martinis "Game Nights" edition, in which Danielle and Adam take a popular game and personalize it to fit the show. Play along in the car or at home as they hilariously answer questions made up by each other. As always, the banter, language, and humor is off-color, and truths and realness of marriage come through again and again.

  • The Fighting Episode

    Aug 24 2018

    What happens when Adam and Danielle explore their different fighting styles and openly discuss how they feel when they argue? Because they both allow themselves to be completely vulnerable and open in this episode, a lot of unexpected turns of events take place, causing for some pure emotional rawness. As always, they keep it authentic and don't pretend that anything in marriage is sugar coated and easy. There's definitely something something very intimate and deep about this episode (while stil...more

  • Traveling Family Style

    Aug 18 2018

    When kids are involved, it's a trip, not a vacation. Find out what Adam and Danielle learned after almost two weeks overseas with their family. Spoiler alert: there's some extra bickering in this episode due to jet lag, exhaustion, and just being really sick of one another after 12 days straight of being together.

  • Decoding Modern Terminology

    Aug 12 2018

    Millennials, Snapchat, YouTube, texting acronyms....it's nearly impossible to keep up with all the terms and advancements today. Join us as we discuss all these things and more, and then quiz one another to try and figure out who knows more about all the new and trendy concepts. Of course, we do it all Marriage and Martinis style, so expect a whole lot of banter, humiliating one another (and ourselves), and a ton of laughter.  marriageandmartinis@gmail.com  

  • Laminated List

    Aug 05 2018

    Most of us have seen the Friends episode about getting a free pass to sleep with any five celebrities you want. If given the same chance, who would you choose? In this episode, Adam and Danielle reveal who would be on their lists. Spoiler alert: they have at least one of the same people on both their lists.

  • Extreme And Exotic Vacation Experiences

    Jul 28 2018

    How far would you and your significant other go to have the experience of a lifetime and add excitement and adventure to your life? In this hilarious, inappropriate, and fun episode, Adam and Danielle compare ideas of what makes the perfect exotic vacation.

  • Getting Real About OCD

    Jul 22 2018

    Adam and Danielle talk completely openly about dealing with OCD and mental illness. As usual, there's no holding back with these two, as they discuss very private aspects of Danielle's constant battle with anxiety.

  • Hot Mess Parenting

    Jul 16 2018

    What makes us hot mess parents? We talk about the film Bad Moms and then discuss this somewhat new idea of being a "hot mess." What ways do we fall into this category? Hear some hilarious stories and play Never Have I Ever - Parenting Edition.

  • TMI: How Much Is Too Much?

    Jul 11 2018

    How much is too much to do in front of your spouse? Adam and Danielle explore everything from bodily functions to “that time of the month” during this hilarious episode.

  • Finding Time For Sex

    Jul 10 2018

    Kids, pets, work, friends, devices, exhaustion: all these distractions make it tough to find time for sex. Danielle and Adam discuss the importance of making sex a priority. Show clip: Modern Family

  • Pet Peeves

    Jul 02 2018

    What are the top pet peeves for couples? If you could list your top annoyances about your spouse what would they be? What do you think they would say their greatest frustrations with you are? Danielle and Adam fess up about what drives each of them insane about the other person. (Spoiler alert: they both come out alive). Movie clips: Father of the Bride

  • What I Would Tell My Younger Self

    Jul 01 2018

    If you could go back in time and give your younger self advice, what would you say? Danielle and Adam explore this and how turning 40 and being married for 15 years has affected them. Movie clips: This Is 40