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ONE Extraordinary Marriage Show

Is your marriage everything that you want it to be? Are you ready to make a change? Join Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo to create a strong marriage so you can have mind blowing intimacy inside and outside the bedroom. Marriage is not always easy but it's so worth it. Come and make your marriage EXTRAORDINARY!

Episodes

  • 602: YOUR VIEW OF SEX

    Jul 07 2020

    How do you and your spouse view sex? Can you take it or leave it? Learn how your view of sex impacts the two of you inside and outside the bedroom. | "Seeing things from a different point of view can help us understand why people act the way they do. We too often judge people without having all the facts." —Sean CoveyEvery marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you experience the extraordinary. That’s why we have the Position of the Month Club! It is the #1 Community for Couples who w...more

  • 601: OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE: PART 5 — THE DATING ROUTINE

    Jul 02 2020

    Learn about the dating routine that has you going through the motions instead of really being present with your spouse when you go out on a date. | "Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result." —Albert EinsteinEvery marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you experience the extraordinary. That’s why we have the Position of the Month Club! It is the #1 Community for Couples who want Better Sex in and out of the bedroom.The Position of the Month...more

  • 600: CELEBRATE THE WINS IN YOUR MARRIAGE

    Jun 30 2020

    You need to be deliberate about celebrating your wins together. Learn why it's important to celebrate these in your marriage. | "Track your small wins to motivate big accomplishments." —Teresa AmabileEvery marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you experience the extraordinary. That’s why we have the Position of the Month Club! It is the #1 Community for Couples who want Better Sex in and out of the bedroom.The Position of the Month Club is a community of folks who uplift and encourag...more

  • 599: OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE: PART 4 — SPIRITUAL CONNECTION

    Jun 25 2020

    Time to get out of the comfort zone when it comes to your spiritual intimacy. Learn about how you can create that spiritual connection in your marriage. | "The only time that you are growing is when you are uncomfortable." —T. Harv EkerEvery marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you experience the extraordinary. That’s why we have the Position of the Month Club! It is the #1 Community for Couples who want Better Sex in and out of the bedroom.The Position of the Month Club is a commun...more

  • 598: COMING TOO SOON

    Jun 23 2020

    Premature ejaculation is one of those topics that isn't talked about openly. Learn about the impact that coming too soon has on each of you. | "Instead of being a product of my circumstances, I am a product of my decisions." —Stephen CoveyEvery marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you experience the extraordinary. That’s why we have the Position of the Month Club! It is the #1 Community for Couples who want Better Sex in and out of the bedroom.The Position of the Month Club is a com...more

  • 597: OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE: PART 3 — TALKING ABOUT SEX

    Jun 18 2020

    Learn about what you can do today to start talking about sex with your spouse and why it's important that you do so with your spouse. | "Sex is perfectly natural? It’s something that is pleasurable. It’s something that is enjoyable and it enhances a relationship." —Sue JohansonEvery marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you experience the extraordinary. That’s why we have the Position of the Month Club! It is the #1 Community for Couples who want Better Sex in and out of the bedroom....more

  • 596: HEADACHE BEFORE ORGASM

    Jun 16 2020

    Learn about what you can do if you get a headache that comes right before or right after orgasm and how it can impact your marriage. | "Some pain you can distance yourself from but a headache sits right where you live." —Mark LawarenceEvery marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you experience the extraordinary. That’s why we have the Position of the Month Club! It is the #1 Community for Couples who want Better Sex in and out of the bedroom.The Position of the Month Club is a communi...more

  • 595: OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE: PART 2 — HANDLING FINANCES

    Jun 11 2020

    When you share the same vision, it’s easier to step out of your financial comfort zone. Learn about handling finances as it's part of every marriage. | "Sometimes it’s not about the money but rather the process of managing the money." —AnonymousEvery marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you experience the extraordinary. That’s why we have the Position of the Month Club! It is the #1 Community for Couples who want Better Sex in and out of the bedroom.The Position of the Month Club is...more

  • 594: BEYOND COLOR BLIND

    Jun 09 2020

    Let's talk about what you are experiencing in your families, in your marriages, in your cities when it pertains to looking beyond being color blind. | Let's talk about what you are experiencing in your families, in your marriages, in your cities when it pertains to looking beyond being color blind.Every marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you experience the extraordinary. That’s why we have the Position of the Month Club! It is the #1 Community for Couples who want Better Sex in an...more

  • 593: OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE: PART 1 — FEEDBACK LOOP

    Jun 04 2020

    Learn what can happen to your emotional intimacy when the two of you create a feedback loop which allows for open, honest and transparent communication. | "Get a feedback loop and listen to it. When people give you feedback, cherish it and use it." —Randy PauschEvery marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you experience the extraordinary. That’s why we have the Position of the Month Club! It is the #1 Community for Couples who want Better Sex in and out of the bedroom.The Position of ...more

  • 592: CONVERSATIONS AROUND ORAL SEX

    Jun 02 2020

    When it comes to oral sex this is an area where your emotional intimacy, the conversations, you have will impact your sexual connection. | "It’s amazing how one little conversation can change things forever." —AnonymousEvery marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you experience the extraordinary. That’s why we have the Position of the Month Club! It is the #1 Community for Couples who want Better Sex in and out of the bedroom.The Position of the Month Club is a community of folks who ...more

  • 591: ROMANCE DEFINED: PART 3 — WHAT YOUR HUSBAND WANTS

    May 28 2020

    Being romanced is not just something for the women. Men want to be romanced as well. Learn what your husband wants when it comes to romance. | "I vow to love you, and no matter what challenges might carry us apart we will always find our way back to one another." —The VowEvery marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you experience the extraordinary. That’s why we have the Position of the Month Club! It is the #1 Community for Couples who want Better Sex in and out of the bedroom.The Po...more

  • 590: CRYING DURING SEX OR AFTER ORGASM

    May 26 2020

    Tears and sadness, especially unexplained can be hard to talk about. Learn about why wives are spontaneously crying during sex. | "Tears are words the heart cannot express." —AnonymousEvery marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you experience the extraordinary. That’s why we have the Position of the Month Club! It is the #1 Community for Couples who want Better Sex in and out of the bedroom.The Position of the Month Club is a community of folks who uplift and encourage each other, wh...more

  • 589: ROMANCE DEFINED: PART 2 — WHAT YOUR WIFE WANTS

    May 21 2020

    Ladies your spouse can’t romance you if he doesn’t know what his wife wants and you can’t tell him what you like if you don’t know. | "I’m just a girl, standing in front of a boy asking him to love her." —Notting HillEvery marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you experience the extraordinary. That’s why we have the Position of the Month Club! It is the #1 Community for Couples who want Better Sex in and out of the bedroom.The Position of the Month Club is a community of folks who up...more

  • 588: THE UPS AND DOWNS OF HER CYCLE

    May 19 2020

    A woman experiences hormonal and physical changes every month. Learn about the ups and downs of her cycle and its impact on your relationship. | "When a woman tells you she started her period the correct response is NEVER “well that explains it”." —AnonymousEvery marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you experience the extraordinary. That’s why we have the Position of the Month Club! It is the #1 Community for Couples who want Better Sex in and out of the bedroom.The Position of the ...more

  • 587: ROMANCE DEFINED: PART 1 — WHAT'S THE DEAL WITH THIS WORD

    May 14 2020

    It's time to rediscover the romance and make it a strength in your marriage. Learn about this word and the impact it has on you and your spouse. | "So it’s not gonna be easy. It’s gonna be really hard. We’re gonna have to work at this every day, but I want to do that because I want you. I want all of you, forever, you and me, every day." —The NotebookEvery marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you experience the extraordinary. That’s why we have the Position of the Month Club! It is ...more

  • 586: I NEVER THOUGHT I WOULD DO THAT

    May 12 2020

    Oh the things you would do as a married couple. Learn about the random things that you never thought you would do after you got married. | "Your blessings may come in unexpected ways." —Neil AndersenEvery marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you experience the extraordinary. That’s why we have the Position of the Month Club! It is the #1 Community for Couples who want Better Sex in and out of the bedroom.The Position of the Month Club is a community of folks who uplift and encourage...more

  • 585: NAVIGATE THE PANDEMIC TOGETHER: PART 5 — FIGURE OUT YOUR FINANCES

    May 07 2020

    Finances are an area that can be a challenge. Learn about how the two of you can and will figure out your finances together. | "Stay on top of your finances. Don’t leave that to others." —Leif GarrettEvery marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you experience the extraordinary. That’s why we have the Position of the Month Club! It is the #1 Community for Couples who want Better Sex in and out of the bedroom.The Position of the Month Club is a community of folks who uplift and encourag...more

  • 584: WATCH ME UNDRESS

    May 05 2020

    Getting undressed in front of your spouse can be a stumbling block but it doesn't have to be. Learn about how your spouse feels when you watch them undress. | "What makes you vulnerable makes you beautiful." —Brene BrownEvery marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you experience the extraordinary. That’s why we have the Position of the Month Club! It is the #1 Community for Couples who want Better Sex in and out of the bedroom.The Position of the Month Club is a community of folks who...more

  • 583: NAVIGATE THE PANDEMIC TOGETHER: PART 4 — WORK DYNAMICS

    Apr 30 2020

    Learn what you can do to not only survive, but thrive at home while you are working together. These work dynamics can be beneficial your marriage. | "We cannot accomplish all that we need to without working together." —Bill RichardsonEvery marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you experience the extraordinary. That’s why we have the Position of the Month Club! It is the #1 Community for Couples who want Better Sex in and out of the bedroom.The Position of the Month Club is a communit...more

  • 582: SLEEP NAKED

    Apr 28 2020

    Learn about taking off your jammies before you head to bed to enjoy the many benefits when you sleep naked next to your spouse. | "Sleeping naked is good, to sleep naked with you is the best." —AnonymousEvery marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you experience the extraordinary. That’s why we have the Position of the Month Club! It is the #1 Community for Couples who want Better Sex in and out of the bedroom.The Position of the Month Club is a community of folks who uplift and encou...more

  • 581: NAVIGATE THE PANDEMIC TOGETHER: PART 3 — EXTROVERTS

    Apr 23 2020

    An extrovert is someone who thrives off of connection with other people. Learn about how extroverts approach life and this season. | "The best part of being with a group is that you don’t have to do everything alone. You are with your friends." —Justin TimberlakeEvery marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you experience the extraordinary. That’s why we have the Position of the Month Club! It is the #1 Community for Couples who want Better Sex in and out of the bedroom.The Position of...more

  • 580: ALL THE LITTLE THINGS

    Apr 21 2020

    So much is made of the big things in marriage. The epic trip. The larger than life experiences. Learn about the importance of the little things. | "It’s the little details that are vital. The little things make the big things happen." —John WoodenEvery marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you experience the extraordinary. That’s why we have the Position of the Month Club! It is the #1 Community for Couples who want Better Sex in and out of the bedroom.The Position of the Month Club ...more

  • 579: NAVIGATE THE PANDEMIC TOGETHER: PART 2 — INTROVERTS

    Apr 16 2020

    Even though this could seem like the most perfect situation ever for introverts it’s not a perfect scenario and it’s hard for introverts. | "Solitude matters and for some people it is the air they breathe." —Susan CainEvery marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you experience the extraordinary. That’s why we have the Position of the Month Club! It is the #1 Community for Couples who want Better Sex in and out of the bedroom.The Position of the Month Club is a community of folks who u...more

  • 578: INTIMACY WITH EVERYONE HOME

    Apr 14 2020

    Learn what you can do to work through the challenges you currently face so that you can maintain your intimacy with everyone home. | "When you are really in need you think of creative solutions to your problems" —AnonymousEvery marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you experience the extraordinary. That’s why we have the Position of the Month Club! It is the #1 Community for Couples who want Better Sex in and out of the bedroom.The Position of the Month Club is a community of folks w...more

  • 577: NAVIGATE THE PANDEMIC TOGETHER: PART 1 — OUR NEW NORMAL

    Apr 09 2020

    There is a new normal happening right now. Learn how your marriage can come out stronger as you press in together during this season. | "As you move outside of your comfort zone what was once unknown and frightening becomes your new normal." —Robin SharmaAre You Ready to Try Something New?Life is stressful, but wen you are too busy (or tired) to find time for sexual intimacy, your marriage suffers.The 7 Days of Sex Challenge provides a fun game-plan for busy couples who would like to reboot thei...more

  • 576: MAKE YOUR BEDROOM A SANCTUARY

    Apr 07 2020

    Learn how you can take your bedroom from just OK to a romantic sanctuary where you and your spouse can focus on loving on each other. | "To be creative you must create a space for yourself where you can be undisturbed...separate from everyday concerns." —John CleeseAre You Ready to Try Something New?Life is stressful, but wen you are too busy (or tired) to find time for sexual intimacy, your marriage suffers.The 7 Days of Sex Challenge provides a fun game-plan for busy couples who would like to ...more

  • 575: DEALING WITH CONFLICT: PART 4 — OUR CONFLICT PLAN

    Apr 02 2020

    Conflict is an area of marriage that can be dramatically improved with having a plan on how you are going to navigate it with your spouse. | "Plan your work and work your plan." —Napoleon HillEvery marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you experience the extraordinary. That’s why we have the Position of the Month Club! It is the #1 Community for Couples who want Better Sex in and out of the bedroom.The Position of the Month Club is a community of folks who uplift and encourage each o...more

  • 574: EXCUSES TO AVOID HAVING SEX

    Mar 31 2020

    The problem with excuses is that they often have an element of truth in them. Learn about facing the excuses when it comes to not having sex. | "Excuses will always be there for you, opportunity will not." —AnonymousEvery marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you experience the extraordinary. That’s why we have the Position of the Month Club! It is the #1 Community for Couples who want Better Sex in and out of the bedroom.The Position of the Month Club is a community of folks who upl...more

  • 573: DEALING WITH CONFLICT: PART 3 — HOW I HANDLE THINGS

    Mar 26 2020

    The only person that you can change is yourself. Learn about how you handle things when it comes to conflict and what you can do to improve. | "Strive for continuous improvement instead of perfection." —Kim CollinsEvery marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you experience the extraordinary. That’s why we have the Position of the Month Club! It is the #1 Community for Couples who want Better Sex in and out of the bedroom.The Position of the Month Club is a community of folks who uplif...more

  • 572: MARRIAGE IN THE CORONAVIRUS PANDEMIC

    Mar 24 2020

    Learn what you can do to make your marriage a priority when dealing with the coronavirus as well as during times of uncertainty. | "Hope and fear cannot occupy the same space. Invite one to stay." —Maya AngelouEvery marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you experience the extraordinary. That’s why we have the Position of the Month Club! It is the #1 Community for Couples who want Better Sex in and out of the bedroom.The Position of the Month Club is a community of folks who uplift an...more

  • 571: DEALING WITH CONFLICT: PART 2 — I WISH YOU WOULD JUST...

    Mar 19 2020

    In times when you say "I wish you would just..." this often comes from observing how others in your world interact with each other in times of conflict. | "Sometimes I wish that you were able to read my mind so that I wouldn’t have to explain myself." —AnonymousEvery marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you experience the extraordinary. That’s why we have the Position of the Month Club! It is the #1 Community for Couples who want Better Sex in and out of the bedroom.The Position of ...more

  • 570: WHY IS INITIATING SEX SO DIFFICULT

    Mar 17 2020

    Sex is important to vibrant and healthy marriage. Learn about the difficulties you face when it comes to initiating sex with your spouse. | "The easiest thing to do is to react. The second easiest thing to do is to respond. The hardest thing to do is initiate." —AnonymousEvery marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you experience the extraordinary. That’s why we have the Position of the Month Club! It is the #1 Community for Couples who want Better Sex in and out of the bedroom.The Po...more

  • 569: DEALING WITH CONFLICT: PART 1 — WHAT ARE WE FIGHTING ABOUT

    Mar 12 2020

    Let's take a look at what you fight about, how you respond to conflict and how you can better deal with conflict in your marriages. | "You get in the biggest fights with the people you care the most about because those are the relationships you are willing to fight for." —AnonymousEvery marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you experience the extraordinary. That’s why we have the Position of the Month Club! It is the #1 Community for Couples who want Better Sex in and out of the bedr...more

  • 568: VIDEO GAMES

    Mar 10 2020

    Video games, marriage and what’s going on behind the controllers. Learn how video games impact your marriage for better and for worse. | "I truly don’t mind my husband playing video games. It’s when he makes them a priority over me that I have a problem." —AnonymousEvery marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you experience the extraordinary. That’s why we have the Position of the Month Club! It is the #1 Community for Couples who want Better Sex in and out of the bedroom.The Position...more

  • 567: STEP INTO A SEX CHALLENGE: PART 3 — PUTTING IT ALL TOGETHER

    Mar 05 2020

    When you come together to learn about each other's body parts, how you romance, and your emotional intimacy you'll have success during a sex challenge. | "Love is about growing as a couple, learning about each other, and sticking together." —AnonymousEvery marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you experience the extraordinary. That’s why we have the Position of the Month Club! It is the #1 Community for Couples who want Better Sex in and out of the bedroom.The Position of the Month C...more

  • 566: POLITICAL DIFFERENCES

    Mar 03 2020

    Learn about navigating the political minefield that you may encounter with your spouse, family and in-laws during an election season. | "I never considered a difference of opinion in politics, in religion, in philosophy, as cause for withdrawing from a friend." —Thomas JeffersonEvery marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you experience the extraordinary. That’s why we have the Position of the Month Club! It is the #1 Community for Couples who want Better Sex in and out of the bedroom...more

  • 565: STEP INTO A SEX CHALLENGE: PART 2 — WHAT YOU NEED TO CONSIDER

    Feb 27 2020

    A sex challenge doesn’t just happen. Learn about what you need to consider when it comes to having a successful sex challenge. | "I can give you a six word formula for success. Think things through - then follow through." —Eddie RickenbackerEvery marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you experience the extraordinary. That’s why we have the Position of the Month Club! It is the #1 Community for Couples who want Better Sex in and out of the bedroom.The Position of the Month Club is a c...more

  • 564: REBUILDING TRUST WITH YOUR SPOUSE

    Feb 25 2020

    Learn what the two of you can do to begin rebuilding trust after infidelity, an emotional affair, lying, financial infidelity or other breaches of trust. | "Rebuilding trust when it has been broken is not dependent only on the person who has broken the trust." —Doe ZantamantaEvery marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you experience the extraordinary. That’s why we have the Position of the Month Club! It is the #1 Community for Couples who want Better Sex in and out of the bedroom.Th...more

  • 563: STEP INTO A SEX CHALLENGE: PART 1 — MORE THAN JUST SEX

    Feb 20 2020

    There is much more that happens around a sex challenge than sex. Emotional, physical and spiritual intimacy can all be grown during this time together. | "Challenges are what make life interesting, overcoming them is what makes life meaningful." —Joshua J. MarineEvery marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you experience the extraordinary. That’s why we have the Position of the Month Club! It is the #1 Community for Couples who want Better Sex in and out of the bedroom.The Position of...more

  • 562: WHAT SHE WANTS YOU TO KNOW ABOUT HER ORGASM

    Feb 18 2020

    Learn about what wives want their husband’s to know about her orgasm and how what husbands have to say about giving her an orgasm. | "Vulnerability is the only bridge to build connections." —AnonymousEvery marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you experience the extraordinary. That’s why we have the Position of the Month Club! It is the #1 Community for Couples who want Better Sex in and out of the bedroom.The Position of the Month Club is a community of folks who uplift and encourag...more

  • 561: DATING YOUR SPOUSE: PART 4 — HOW TO DATE AT HOME

    Feb 13 2020

    Enjoy a date at home experience as it may be what you need to get some time together and truly connect without having to blow the budget. | "There’s nothing like staying at home for real comfort." —Jane AustenEvery marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you experience the extraordinary. That’s why we have the Position of the Month Club! It is the #1 Community for Couples who want Better Sex in and out of the bedroom.The Position of the Month Club is a community of folks who uplift and...more

  • 560: GO BARE DOWN THERE?

    Feb 11 2020

    Razor, wax or laser? Learn about the conversations that are happening or may need to happen when it comes to going bare down there. | Razor, wax or laser? Learn about the conversations that are happening or may need to happen when it comes to going bare down there.Every marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you experience the extraordinary. That’s why we have the Position of the Month Club! It is the #1 Community for Couples who want Better Sex in and out of the bedroom.The Position ...more

  • 559: DATING YOUR SPOUSE: PART 3 — LOW COST DATE IDEAS

    Feb 06 2020

    What if having low cost date ideas in your toolbox gave you the ability to make this happen on a more regular basis. Check out these low cost date ideas. | "Opportunities don’t happen, you create them." —Chris GrosserEvery marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you experience the extraordinary. That’s why we have the Position of the Month Club! It is the #1 Community for Couples who want Better Sex in and out of the bedroom.The Position of the Month Club is a community of folks who up...more

  • 558: DON'T TAKE YOUR MARRIAGE FOR GRANTED

    Feb 04 2020

    Learn about what can you do today so that you do not take your marriage for granted as none of us know how many days we have. | "Life can change in an instant, don’t take anyone or anything for granted." —AnonymousEvery marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you experience the extraordinary. That’s why we have the Position of the Month Club! It is the #1 Community for Couples who want Better Sex in and out of the bedroom.The Position of the Month Club is a community of folks who uplif...more

  • 557: DATING YOUR SPOUSE: PART 2 — CREATIVE DATE IDEAS

    Jan 30 2020

    Why go on the same date over and over again? Learn about creative date ideas the two of you can enjoy when you are on your next date together. | "Do something today that your marriage will thank you for." —AnonymousEvery marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you experience the extraordinary. That’s why we have the Position of the Month Club! It is the #1 Community for Couples who want Better Sex in and out of the bedroom.The Position of the Month Club is a community of folks who upli...more

  • 556: SPONTANEOUS VS SCHEDULED SEX

    Jan 28 2020

    Learn what you need to know to best understand the difference between spontaneous and scheduled sex so that you have the sexual intimacy you desire. | "Spontaneity is an infinite number of rehearsed possibilities." —Peter DruckerEvery marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you experience the extraordinary. That’s why we have the Position of the Month Club! It is the #1 Community for Couples who want Better Sex in and out of the bedroom.The Position of the Month Club is a community of ...more

  • 555: DATING YOUR SPOUSE: PART 1 — WHAT YOU EXPECT

    Jan 23 2020

    Learn about the nitty gritty of what the expectations are around dating your spouse no matter what season you are in or your budget. | "Chase her. Chase her when she’s already yours. That’s the only way you’ll be assured to never lose her." —AnonymousJoin Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo for a marriage conference unlike any other! This year’s theme Dream Again will take you on a journey to experience your best marriage for years to come. Register today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone....more

  • 554: SEXUAL DESIRE DIFFERENCES

    Jan 21 2020

    Learn about how the two of you can navigate differences in sexual desire no matter how long you have been married or what season you're going through. | "Our goal should be to understand our differences" —James D. WatsonJoin Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo for a marriage conference unlike any other! This year’s theme Dream Again will take you on a journey to experience your best marriage for years to come. Register today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 553: MORE THAN A RESOLUTION: PART 3 — YOUR GAME PLAN

    Jan 16 2020

    There are obstacles that keep you from being able to honor your commitment to your resolutions and that’s why you need a game plan. | I no longer believe in New Year’s Resolutions. I believe in daily resolutions.” —AnonymousJoin Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo for a marriage conference unlike any other! Next year’s theme Dream Again will take you on a journey to experience your best marriage for years to come. Register today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 552: 10 YEAR ANNIVERSARY SHOW

    Jan 14 2020

    An anniversary is a time of celebration. We share about what’s been accomplished in the last decade and what's to come in the next decade. | "Celebrations of your accomplishments raise your awareness of what you’ve done." —Palma PoscillicoJoin Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo for a marriage conference unlike any other! Next year’s theme Dream Again will take you on a journey to experience your best marriage for years to come. Register today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices...more

  • 551: MORE THAN A RESOLUTION: PART 2 — WHAT KEEPS ME FROM HAVING SUCCESS

    Jan 09 2020

    There’s a disconnect between what you want and the actions that you need to have the success that you desire for yourself and you marriage. | "Resolutions require only words. Results take action." —Tony RobbinsJoin Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo for a marriage conference unlike any other! Next year’s theme Dream Again will take you on a journey to experience your best marriage for years to come. Register today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 550: POWER OF EXPECTATIONS

    Jan 07 2020

    So many wants, so many expectations. Learn about how the power of your expectations can make what you desire for your marriage a reality. | The best way to predict the future is to create it. —Peter DruckerJoin Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo for a marriage conference unlike any other! Next year’s theme Dream Again will take you on a journey to experience your best marriage for years to come. Register today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 549: MORE THAN A RESOLUTION: PART 1 — WHERE DO I START

    Jan 02 2020

    What is a resolution? Learn about what they are and how you can successfully implement them to create lasting change in your life and marriage. | "Tomorrow is the first blank page of 365 page book. Write a good one." —Brad PaisleyJoin Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo for a marriage conference unlike any other! Next year’s theme Dream Again will take you on a journey to experience your best marriage for years to come. Register today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 548: LEAVE IT BEHIND

    Dec 31 2019

    That's right leave it all behind. Learn about what you need to leave behind so that you can make this next year your best year yet. | "Leave the past behind it’s time to move on to bigger and better things." —AnonymousJoin Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo for a marriage conference unlike any other! Next year’s theme Dream Again will take you on a journey to experience your best marriage for years to come. Register today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 547: DREAM AGAIN: PART 4 — LET'S GET PHYSICAL

    Dec 26 2019

    Being physical can be about the activities that you enjoy together and yet for most it’s all about the sexual connection between the two of you. | "Sex is more than an act of pleasure, it’s the ability to be able to feel so close to a person, so connected, so comfortable that it’s almost breathtaking to the point that you feel that you can’t take it and at that moment you are a part of them." —Thom YorkJoin Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo for a marriage conference unlike any other! Next year’s theme Dr...more

  • 546: CHRISTMAS (EVE) MAGIC

    Dec 24 2019

    Make this a night you'll both remember. Learn about what the two of you can do to make your own Christmas Eve magic to start your holiday of right. | "Christmas magic is silent. You don’t hear it... You feel it. You know it. You believe it." —AnonymousJoin Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo for a marriage conference unlike any other! Next year’s theme Dream Again will take you on a journey to experience your best marriage for years to come. Register today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone...more

  • 545: DREAM AGAIN: PART 3 — SPEND TIME TOGETHER

    Dec 19 2019

    Time is the one thing that when given can never be returned. Learn what you can do to create opportunities to spend time together. | "The best gift you could ever give someone is your time because you are giving them something your can never get back." —Anonymous Join Tony and Alisa for a marriage conference unlike any other! Next year’s theme Dream Again will take you on a journey to experience your best marriage for years to come. Register today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megapho...more

  • 544: HOLIDAY SEX

    Dec 17 2019

    It's the most wonderful time of the year! Learn about what the two of you can do to have better holiday sex no matter where you are celebrating. | "I already have what I want for Christmas and it’s you." —Anonymous Join Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo for a marriage conference unlike any other! Next year’s theme Dream Again will take you on a journey to experience your best marriage for years to come. Register today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 543: DREAM AGAIN: PART 2 — BRIDGING THE EMOTIONAL GAP

    Dec 12 2019

    Learn how the two of you can bridge the emotional gap that you are currently experiencing in your marriage and reconnect once again. | "It’s a shame when things that are on your mind or in your heart never reach your lips." —Anonymous Join Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo for a marriage conference unlike any other! Next year’s theme Dream Again will take you on a journey to experience your best marriage for years to come. Register today at http://oneliveevents.com! Learn more about your ad choices. Vis...more

  • 542: GIVE YOUR MARRIAGE AN UPGRADE

    Dec 10 2019

    What if you chose to upgrade yourself? Learn about the mindset around what you choose to upgrade and how that mindset impacts your marriage. | "You’ve upgraded your technology but you’ve not upgraded yourself." —Eric Thomas Join Tony and Alisa for a marriage conference unlike any other! Next year’s theme Dream Again will take you on a journey to experience your best marriage for years to come. Register today at http://OneLiveEvents.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoi...more

  • 541: DREAM AGAIN: PART 1 — THE POWER OF A DREAM

    Dec 05 2019

    The dreams that you have for your marriage are so important. Learn what happens to you and your spouse when you come together and dream again. | "Man alone has the power to transform his thoughts into a physical reality; man, alone, can dream and make his dreams come true." —Napoleon Hill Join Tony and Alisa for a marriage conference unlike any other! Next year’s theme Dream Again will take you on a journey to experience your best marriage for years to come. Register today at http://OneLiveEven...more

  • 540: THE INTIMACY LIFESTYLE DURING TOUGH SEASONS

    Dec 03 2019

    The unexpected does happen. Learn about what you have to do to keep the intimacy lifestyle going when tough seasons come your way. | "One cannot plan for the unexpected." —Anonymous Join Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo for a marriage conference unlike any other! Next year’s theme Dream Again will take you on a journey to experience your best marriage for years to come. Register today at http://oneliveevents.com! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 539: LET'S TALK ABOUT SEX: PART 6 — WHEN HEALTH GETS IN THE WAY

    Nov 28 2019

    What happens when health gets in the way of you being intimate with your spouse.An illness does not only impact you, it takes a toll on everything. | "When I is replaced with WE even Illness becomes Wellness. —Anonymous Join Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo for a marriage conference unlike any other! Next year’s theme Dream Again will take you on a journey to experience your best marriage for years to come. Register today at http://oneliveevents.com! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm...more

  • 538: A SIMPLE THANK YOU

    Nov 26 2019

    Learn about the power that a simple thank you can have on your spouse and those around you. Sometimes it's the simple things that go a long way. | "Happiness isn’t getting what you want all the time. It’s about loving what you have and being grateful for it." —Anonymous Join Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo for a marriage conference unlike any other! Next year’s theme Dream Again will take you on a journey to experience your best marriage for years to come. Register today at http://OneLiveEvents.com! L...more

  • 537: LET'S TALK ABOUT SEX: PART 5 — TO OUR KIDS

    Nov 21 2019

    Learn what you can do to have the sex talk with your kids in a healthy way. This is not a one and done conversation but one you can have as they grow. | "It would be irresponsible in this day and age not to talk to our kids about sex." —Katrina Farmer Join Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo for a marriage conference unlike any other! Next year’s theme Dream Again will take you on a journey to experience your best marriage for years to come. Register today at http://OneLiveEvents.com! Learn more about you...more

  • 536: I DO MORE THAN YOU

    Nov 19 2019

    Learn about what happens when you have this recurring statement in your mind, “I do more than you”. It's a form of score keeping in your marriage. | "The minute you start keeping score you’re destroying the relationship." —Tony Robbins Join Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo for a marriage conference unlike any other! Next year’s theme Dream Again will take you on a journey to experience your best marriage for years to come. Register today at http://oneliveevents.com! Learn more about your ad choices. Vi...more

  • 535: LET'S TALK ABOUT SEX: PART 4 — AFTER HAVING KIDS

    Nov 14 2019

    After having kids there are still two adults that need that physical connection to feel important, to feel loved and to feel valued. | "You’re not learning anything unless you are having the difficult conversations" —Gwyneth Paltrow Start your week off on the same page with your spouse. Take A Break... A Coffee Break this week. https://oneextraordinarymarriage.com/coffeebreak Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 534: SNIP SNIP IT'S TIME FOR A VASECTOMY

    Nov 12 2019

    There are a lot of considerations for a couple to make when facing this big decision. Learn about what happens when you get the snip snip of a vasectomy. | "Life presents many choices, the choices we make determine our future." —Catherine Pulsifer Join Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo for a marriage conference unlike any other! Next year’s theme Dream Again will take you on a journey to experience your best marriage for years to come. Register today at http://oneliveevents.com! Learn more about your ad...more

  • 533: LET'S TALK ABOUT SEX: PART 3 — WITH OUR FRIENDS

    Nov 07 2019

    Let's talk about sex! Learn what’s OK to talk about and what’s not when it comes to sharing your sexual intimacy with your friends. | "Not every part of your personal life needs to be public." —Anonymous Grab Our Six Questions today. Six incredible questions to instantly break the silence with your spouse. http://oursixquestions.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 532: IF YOU LOVED ME

    Nov 05 2019

    The statement “If you loved me” holds a lot of weight. Let's unpack this statement and the impact it has on both you and your spouse. | "Expectations can be premeditated resentments." —Anonymous Register for the Love Deeper Online Workshop. https//oneextraordinarymarriage.com/lovedeeper Learn about not just why you are the way that you are BUT how your two styles work together to create an extraordinary marriage. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 531: LET'S TALK ABOUT SEX: PART 2 — AS NEWLYWEDS

    Oct 31 2019

    Learning to talk about sex as a newly married couple is a skill. This week we are focusing on the sex conversations as newlyweds. | "Sex is... perfectly natural. It's something that's pleasurable. It's enjoyable and it enhances a relationship." —Sue Johnson Join the #1 Community for Couples That Want Better Sex... www.PositionOfTheMonthClub.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 530: SEX CHALLENGE

    Oct 29 2019

    Get answers to your top sex challenge questions so that you and your spouse can reignite the connection inside your bedroom. | "Challenges (or a sex challenge) are what make life interesting. Overcoming them is what makes life meaningful." —Joshua J. Marine Start your own sex challenge today. Grab the Amazon best seller 7 Days of Sex Challenge: Rock Your Sex Life and You Marriage -- http://7DaysOfSex.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 529: LET'S TALK ABOUT SEX: PART 1 — AN IMPORTANT CONVERSATION

    Oct 24 2019

    Join in as this series will address the topic of talking about sex in different seasons of your marriage. It all starts with an important conversation. | "To make progress you have to learn to be comfortable being uncomfortable." —Anonymous Grab the 19 Questions to Amazing Sex to rekindle your sexual intimacy! http://oneextraordinarymarriage.com/19questions Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 528: WHAT'S FOR DINNER

    Oct 22 2019

    What's for dinner? Our delicious suggestions make it easy to answer this age-old question so that you and your family can sit down and eat. | "All great change in America (and the world) begins at the dinner table." —Ronald Reagan Join the #1 Community for Couples That What Better Sex... www.PositionOfTheMonthClub.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 527: WALKING OUR FAITH: PART 3 — ACTS OF LOVE

    Oct 17 2019

    Often times you speak of doing things in the name of love. Of caring for your spouses based on love and yet… What does it mean to demonstrate acts of love? | "Great achievement is usually born of great sacrifice and is never the result of selfishness." —Napoleon Hill Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 526: INTIMACY REQUIRES VULNERABILITY

    Oct 15 2019

    Vulnerability is not weakness, it's your greatest measure of courage. Learn the importance of vulnerability and its power to create a shift in you. | "Vulnerability is not winning or losing. It’s having the courage to show up and be seen when we have NO control over the outcome." —Brene Brown Grab these 6 INCREDIBLE Questions To Instantly Break The Silence With Your Spouse -- http://oursixquestions.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 525: WALKING OUR FAITH: PART 2 — BELIEFS ABOUT SPIRITUAL INTIMACY

    Oct 10 2019

    Spiritual intimacy is just as important as the other intimacies and has the potential to be one of the most intimate of the intimacies. | "One difficult conversation is better than a bunch of conversations that avoid the truth." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 524: WHEN REJECTION HAPPENS

    Oct 08 2019

    Learn what happens when rejection becomes a source of pain leaving both you and your spouse feeling frustrated inside and outside the bedroom. | "Often when you are rejected you think that you are not good enough. The truth is that they weren’t ready for all you have to offer." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 523: WALKING OUR FAITH: PART 1 — GETTING STARTED

    Oct 03 2019

    Spiritual intimacy is the sharing of your faith beliefs whatever that may be for you and your spouse. Learn how you can share and grow your faith. | "Our faith becomes stronger as we express it." —Billy Graham Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 522: LOVE LANGUAGE

    Oct 01 2019

    There are 5 love languages. Learn how you can speak your spouse’s love language, especially when it’s different from yours. | "We assume that others show love in the same way that we do and if they don’t we worry the love isn’t there." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 521: MARRIAGE THROUGH THE YEARS: PART 8 — GOLDEN YEARS

    Sep 26 2019

    The golden years is a time where folks are starting their second life, couples aren’t slowing down as a new adventure awaits them and their marriage. | "Getting older is an adventure not a problem." —Betty Friedan Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 520: SEX OUTSIDE YOUR BEDROOM

    Sep 24 2019

    Learn about having sex outside of your bedroom by using the many different rooms and areas available to you in your home. | "A change of scenery can help everything" —Drew Pomeranz Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 519: MARRIAGE THROUGH THE YEARS: PART 7 — SANDWICH GENERATION

    Sep 19 2019

    When you have kids to look after and parents who need care you're part of the sandwich generation. How do you do both and have time for your marriage? | "Parenting is the easiest thing in the world to have an opinion about and the hardest thing in the world to do." —Matt Walsh Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 518: THE BENEFITS OF CUDDLING

    Sep 17 2019

    There are many benefits of cuddling. Learn what you can do to get more cuddle time between the sheets with your spouse as you enhance your marriage. | "When you are in a relationship (especially a marriage) you should cuddle and kiss. Often. And a lot." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 517: MARRIAGE THROUGH THE YEARS: PART 6 — GETTING OLDER

    Sep 12 2019

    You're getting older. No matter how long you've been married you know that your body is not the same as it was when you first got married. | "You can’t help getting older but you don’t have to get old." —George Burns Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 516: SEX OUT OF OBLIGATION

    Sep 10 2019

    Learn what you can do when sex becomes an obligation. Break free of this pity sex cycle so you can enjoy sex with your spouse again. | "Sex is an art form not a chore." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 515: MARRIAGE THROUGH THE YEARS: PART 5 — MOVING DAY

    Sep 05 2019

    It's moving day. In this series we are exploring different circumstances that couples can find themselves in through the years of their marriage. | "All great changes are preceded by chaos." —Deepak Chopra Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 514: IDENTITY CRISIS

    Sep 03 2019

    You're having an identity crisis. What happens when you face this in your marriage? Learn how you and your spouse can work through this season together. | "Identity cannot be found or fabricated but emerges from within when one has the courage to let go." —Doug Cooper Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 513: MARRIAGE THROUGH THE YEARS: PART 4 — WORK LIFE BALANCE

    Aug 29 2019

    Work life balance can evoke emotions of what marriage should look like and yet does it truly exist or should it be something you strive for in your life. | "Work is a rubber ball, if you drop it, it will bounce back. The other four balls-family, health, friends, integrity-are made of glass. If you drop one of these it will be irrevocably scuffed, nicked, perhaps even shattered." —Gary Keller Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 512: THE CHATTER IN MY HEAD

    Aug 27 2019

    Learn about taking control of the chatter in your head during sex and those thoughts that keep you from taking action in your marriage. | "When eagles are silent, parrots begin to chatter." —Winston Churchill Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 511: MARRIAGE THROUGH THE YEARS: PART 3 — CHORE WAR

    Aug 22 2019

    Learn how to stop fighting about housework, the chore war, and get on the same page so that the cleaning gets done around your house. | "Marrying is easy it’s housework that’s hard." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 510: BACK TO SCHOOL

    Aug 20 2019

    Learn what you can do to stay connected with your spouse when the kids go back to school (no matter if it's traditional, year around or homeschool). | "You learn something every day IF you pay attention." —Ray LeBlond Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 509: MARRIAGE THROUGH THE YEARS: PART 2 — CHILD REARING YEARS

    Aug 15 2019

    The child rearing years don’t end in the infant stage, they change over time and is one of the longest seasons that a couple will experience. | "Our children are not going to be just “our children” - they are going to be other people’s husbands and wives and the parents of our grandchildren." —Mary Calderon Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 508: MUTUAL MASTURBATION

    Aug 13 2019

    Learn about mutual masturbation and its role in your marriage. Stimulating each other’s genitals is not only normal but a healthy part of sexual intimacy | "Sometimes the most important conversations are the most difficult to engage in." —Jeanne Phillips Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 507: MARRIAGE THROUGH THE YEARS: PART 1 — NEWLY WED

    Aug 08 2019

    Marriage changes over the years and that’s not just about how old you are but also how long you’ve been married. It starts when you're a newly wed. | "A wedding is an event, a marriage is a lifetime. Invest more in your marriage than your wedding and success is inevitable." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 506: MARRIAGE IS A TEAM SPORT

    Aug 06 2019

    You could say that marriage is a team sport. Learn what you can do so that yours is a place where you and your spouse are working together on the same team. | "Coming together is a beginning. Staying together is progress. Working together is success." —Henry Ford Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 505: MONEY AND MARRIAGE: PART 6 — ESTATE PLANNING

    Aug 01 2019

    When you look at estate planner remember that this is an act of love for those who will be in mourning and addressing your estate. | "Love begins by taking care of the closest ones-the ones at home." —Mother Theresa Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 504: LONELINESS IN MARRIAGE

    Jul 30 2019

    Learn what you can do when you are faced with feelings of loneliness and the challenges you need to overcome within your marriage. | "The most terrible poverty is loneliness and the feeling of being unloved." —Mother Theresa Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 503: MONEY AND MARRIAGE: PART 5 — PLANNING FOR THE FUTURE

    Jul 25 2019

    Whether your newly married or making the decision to go from separate to joint accounts. There comes a time when you need to discuss your future. | "Planning is bringing the future into the present so that you can do something about it now." —Alan Lakein Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 502: FEEL MORE COMFORTABLE WHEN YOU TALK ABOUT SEX

    Jul 23 2019

    Learn what you can do to equip yourself to feel more comfortable when you talk about different aspects of sex with your spouse. | "Be brave enough to start a conversation that matters." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 501: MONEY AND MARRIAGE: PART 4 — SIDE HUSTLE

    Jul 18 2019

    If you're looking to make some extra money, a side hustle might be just what you need. Learn how to pick one that will benefit you and your family. | "I never dreamed about success. I worked for it." —Estee Lauder Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 500: THE POWER OF A HUG

    Jul 16 2019

    It's time to celebrate the 500th episode of the ONE Extraordinary Marriage Show. Learn how a hug can transform your marriage and others in the ONE family. | "A hug is like a boomerang, you get it back right away." —Bil Keane Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 499: MONEY AND MARRIAGE: PART 3 — DEALING WITH DEBT

    Jul 11 2019

    Whether your newly married or making the decision to go from separate to joint accounts. What are the conversations around bringing your debt? | "Just because you can afford the payments doesn’t mean that you can afford the item." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 498: EXPRESS YOUR SEXUAL DESIRES

    Jul 09 2019

    Learn about the need for and the power in expressing your sexual desire to one another for life long connection.You need o feel desired and to act on it. | "True desire is expressed by action. Only action brings results." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 497: MONEY AND MARRIAGE: PART 2 — THOSE MONEY CONVERSATIONS

    Jul 04 2019

    In this series we are digging deep into the role of money in marriage.This is Part 2 on Money and Marriage: Those Money Conversations. | "Almost everyone is uncomfortable talking about money." —Olivia Mellan Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 496: ADULT TOYS IN THE BEDROOM

    Jul 02 2019

    Learn about the different types and styles of adult toys you can use in your bedroom. These are great to enhance your sexual connection. | "Just Play. Have fun. Enjoy the game." —Michael Jordan Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 495: MONEY AND MARRIAGE: PART 1 — BRINGING FINANCES TOGETHER

    Jun 27 2019

    Whether your newly married or making the decision to go from separate to joint accounts. What are the conversations around bringing your finances together? | "Money is an opportunity to reach unity in marriage. When couples work together they can do anything." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 494: SEX BEFORE DATE NIGHT

    Jun 25 2019

    Date nights have a lot of expectations. Learn what you can do to set yourself up to have sex before you go out on your date night. | "Life is uncertain. Eat dessert first." —Ernestine Ulmer Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 493: MEDIA AND MARRIAGE: PART 3 — WHERE ARE YOU SCROLLING

    Jun 20 2019

    The Media and Marriage series explores the impact different forms of media have on your thoughts and actions. This week it's about where are you scrolling. | "Spend more time with people who make you forget to look at your phone." —Jay Shetty Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 492: SEXLESS MARRIAGE

    Jun 18 2019

    Sexless marriage is exactly what it sounds like, a marriage in which husband and wife are not having sex for an extended period of time. | "Are you lovers or just roommates?" —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 491: MEDIA AND MARRIAGE: PART 2 — WHAT ARE YOU WATCHING

    Jun 13 2019

    The Media and Marriage series explores the impact different forms of media have on your thoughts and actions. This week it's the shows you're watching. | "Your diet isn’t only what you eat. It is what you watch, what you listen to, what you read and the people you hang around. Be mindful of the things that you put into your body spiritually, physically and emotionally." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 490: ALCOHOL AND YOUR MARRIAGE

    Jun 11 2019

    Learn about the impact that alcohol can have when it becomes a crutch to facing what's going on in your life and strategies to shift that dynamic. | "Every action that we take impacts the lives of those around us. The question is are YOU aware of YOUR impact?" —Arthur Carmazzi Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 489: MEDIA AND MARRIAGE: PART 1 — WHAT ARE YOU LISTENING TO?

    Jun 06 2019

    The Media and Marriage series explores the impact different forms of media have on your thoughts and actions. This week learn about what's in your ears. | "You are what you listen to." —Alicia Keyes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 488: KEGEL TO BETTER SEX

    Jun 04 2019

    Yes, both men and women can kegel to better sex. Learn why it important for you to tighten your pelvic floor muscles from time to time. | "The hardest thing about exercise is to start doing it. Once are doing exercise regularly the hardest thing to do is stop." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 487: OUR MARRIAGE VOWS PART 5 — AS LONG AS LIFE SHALL LAST

    May 30 2019

    Our Marriage Vows series explores each phrase of the wedding vows. This week we're wrapping up with the final line in your vows, As Long As Life Shall Last. | "Most people fail not because of a lack of desire, but because of a lack of commitment." —Vince Lombardi Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 486: YOU NEED TO FIX OUR MARRIAGE

    May 28 2019

    So many times this phrase YOU need to fix this comes as a result of frustration. Learn what to do when you hear, “You need to fix our marriage!” | "Marriage is like home maintenance. When the smoke detector starts beeping you fix it. You don’t buy a new house." —Amy Miller Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 485: OUR MARRIAGE VOWS PART 4 — FOR BETTER OR WORSE

    May 23 2019

    Our Marriage Vows series explores each phrase of the wedding vows. This week we’re going to discuss what it means when you said "for better or worse". | "More marriages might survive if partners realized that sometimes the for better comes after the for worse." —Doug Larson Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 484: KISS ME LIKE YOU MEAN IT

    May 21 2019

    Learn about one of the most intimate and sometimes overlooked aspects of marriage, a long, passionate kiss between you and your spouse. | "I like kissing, kissing a lot" —Audrey Hepburn Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 483: OUR MARRIAGE VOWS PART 3 — FOR RICHER, FOR POORER

    May 16 2019

    Throughout the Our Marriage Vows series we'll explore each phrase of the wedding vows. Learn what you were in for when you said “for richer, for poorer”. | "There is no my money, his money or her money in a successful marriage." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 482: PLAN THE PERFECT VACATION

    May 14 2019

    Learn what you can do to plan for the perfect vacation and what you need to do before you go and while you are vacationing. | "Never go on trips with someone you do not love." —Ernest Hemingway Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 481: OUR MARRIAGE VOWS PART 2 — TO HAVE AND TO HOLD

    May 09 2019

    Throughout the Our Marriage Vows series we'll explore each phrase of the wedding vows. Learn more about what it means when you said “to have and to hold”. | "And it’s still true, no matter how old you are, when you go into the world it is best to hold hands and stick together." —Robert Fulghum Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 480: LEAVING THE TOILET SEAT UP

    May 07 2019

    Learn about the tension that happens between you and your spouse when it comes to hair, clothes, and leaving the toilet seat up in your bathroom. | "Marriage is two people in love standing in the same bathroom." —Austin Kleon Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 479: OUR MARRIAGE VOWS PART 1 — I TAKE YOU

    May 02 2019

    Throughout this series we'll explore each phrase of the wedding vows and equip you to take action on them in your marriage. | "People with good intentions make promises. People with good character keep them." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 478: DEEPEN YOUR SEXUAL CONNECTION

    Apr 30 2019

    Learn how to have the sex talk again and again, what the obstacles are and how you overcome them to have a deep sexual connection. | "When we avoid challenging conversations we trade short term discomfort for long term dysfunction." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 477: EMOTIONAL EXHAUSTION

    Apr 23 2019

    Learn what happens when you experience emotional exhaustion and begin to feel like you have no power or control over what’s happening in your life. | "Challenges are what make life interesting and overcoming them is what makes life meaningful." —Joshua J. Marine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 476: WHEN “OK” IS NOT OK

    Apr 16 2019

    What happens in your marriage when you say “I’m OK” and yet you’re not really OK? Learn how to break the cycle of saying you're OK when you're not. | "Don’t fake being OK. You only hurt yourself. Be real with what you are going through but don’t let it consume you." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 475: TAX TIME

    Apr 09 2019

    Learn about the dynamic that happens in your marriage when it comes to tax time, filing, owing and maybe even getting a refund. | "Spend your tax return. Because, really...you earned it." —Dayana Yochim Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 474: OVERCOMING THE NO

    Apr 02 2019

    Marriages become extraordinary when you choose connection. Learn about overcoming the no that you say when you don’t want to put forth the effort. | "Explain your feelings instead of acting them out and you will find solutions instead of arguments." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 473: ROOMMATE SYNDROME

    Mar 26 2019

    There are a number of contributors that lead to roommate syndrome. Learn what causes it, how long it lasts and what your spouse needs in this season. | "Nobody is too busy, it’s just a matter of priorities." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 472: MAKE UP SEX

    Mar 19 2019

    Learn about the phenomenon of make up sex and how you can use this time to heal, grow, and connect with your spouse after a fight. | "Every couple fights. Just make sure that the makeup sex ALWAYS lasts longer than the fights." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 471: THE DANGER OF ISOLATION

    Mar 12 2019

    You need the support of community to do this thing called marriage. Learn about the danger of isolation and why your marriage needs community. | "Isolation is the enemy of improvement." —Tony Wagner Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 470: WHAT COLOR IS YOUR UNDERWEAR

    Mar 05 2019

    The color of your underwear can make a difference. Learn what the color of your underwear says about you and the influence it has on your marriage. | "The best color in the world is the one that looks good on you." —Coco Chanel Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 469: THOSE SWEET BEDROOM SOUNDS

    Feb 26 2019

    Learn about those bedroom sounds (music, TV, sound machine) that are used to enhance or mask the noises that come from having sex. | "Music can change the world because it can change people." —Bono Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 468: ORAL SEX FOR HIM AND FOR HER

    Feb 19 2019

    Learn about oral sex for him and for her. If this is an area that you want to explore it's time to start the conversation. | "Oral sex can be foreplay, the main course or the dessert!" —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 467: TIME FOR BED

    Feb 12 2019

    What does that time before bed look like for you and your spouse? It's important to create a bedtime routine that brings the two of you together. | "Going to bed at night saying WE’VE done something wonderful. That’s what matters to me." —Steve Jobs Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 466: THE CHALLENGE WITH A SEX CHALLENGE

    Feb 05 2019

    Learn how you can overcome the biggest challenges to starting any sex challenge. It's a way to re-ignite your emotional and sexual connection. | "Treat objections as requests for further information." —Brian Tracy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 465: DATE NIGHT

    Jan 29 2019

    Learn how you can make your date night more than dinner and a movie by getting creative with your time together. | "Live less out of habit and more out of intention." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 464: BEING PREGNANT AND MARRIED

    Jan 22 2019

    Pregnancy changes your life, you body, and your relationship to one another. Learn how you can be intentional when you’re married and pregnant. | "Your priorities aren't what you SAY they are. They are revealed by how you live. What does your life say about the value of your family and marriage?" —Jimmy Evans Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 463: TIME FOR THE MONEY CONVERSATION

    Jan 15 2019

    In this show show we will equip you and your spouse with the tools that you need to have the money conversation that haven’t been happening. | "Money problems destroy marriage, get on the same page with your spouse and work together toward a common goal." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 462: GET OUT OF YOUR HEAD AND INTO YOUR BED

    Jan 08 2019

    Learn the importance of being in the moment by getting out of your head and into your bed to experience a heightened level of sexual intimacy. | "Overthinking ruins you, ruins the situation, twists things around, makes you worry and just makes everything much worse than it is." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 461: IN THE MOMENT

    Jan 01 2019

    Learn what it means to be in the moment and the best ways that the two of you can accomplish this in your emotional intimacy. | "Realize deeply that the present moment is all that you have. Make the NOW the primary focus of your life." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 460: MERRY CHRISTMAS FROM AROUND THE WORLD

    Dec 25 2018

    On this December 25th we wish you and your spouse a very Merry Christmas. We're truly honored and blessed to have you part of the ONE family. | The magic of Christmas never ends and it’s greatest of gifts are family and friends! —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 459: TRADITIONS

    Dec 18 2018

    What is it about traditions that makes them so important. Learn about those fun Christmas traditions that create connection and memories with your family. | "At the heart of every family tradition is a meaningful experience." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 458: BETTER THAN YESTERDAY

    Dec 11 2018

    Don't let perception and comparison can get in the way of action. Learn how your attitude and behavior can make today better than yesterday. | "You can’t have a better tomorrow if you are thinking about yesterday all the time." —Charles Kettering Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 457: 12 SEXY DAYS OF CHRISTMAS

    Dec 04 2018

    Add your own little twist to the traditional 12 Days of Christmas by having the 12 Sexy Days of Christmas to build your intimacy and connection. | "Success is where preparation and opportunity meet." —Bobby Unser Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 456: BEING INTIMATE THIS HOLIDAY SEASON

    Nov 27 2018

    Your marriage needs you to be intimate no matter what the season. Learn how the two of you can build deeper intimacy during this holiday season. | "It's the hap-happiest season of all. With those holiday greetings and gay happy meetings. When friends come to call. It's the hap-happiest season of all." —Andy Williams Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 455: EXPRESSING GRATITUDE

    Nov 20 2018

    Learn what can happen when you’re focusing on the power of gratitude to change how you see your spouse and your marriage. | "The miracle of gratitude is that it shifts your perception in to such an extent that it changes the world you see." —Dr. Robert Holden Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 454: DEALING WITH THE IN-LAWS

    Nov 13 2018

    Your in-laws can create a dynamic especially around the holidays leaving you frustrated with the impact they have on your marriage. | "No one should come between you and your spouse. They should come alongside you but not between you." —Ashley McIlwain Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 453: FEAR IS CRIPPLING MARRIAGES

    Nov 06 2018

    Learn about how fear can cripple your marriage and what you can do to recapture your joy and confidence to live the extraordinary marriage you desire. | "When we invite fear, doubt or worry to occupy seats in the boardroom of our heart, all kinds of things can wreck the joy of our marriages." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 452: MULTIPLE ORGASMS

    Oct 30 2018

    Learn about multiple orgasms for both women and men, and how this information can change what happens in the bedroom. | "The only thing better than having an orgasm? Having another orgasm." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 451: QUANTITY AND QUALITY SEX LIFE

    Oct 23 2018

    Learn the challenge of having both the quantity AND quality sex life your desire and what you can do to begin changing both of those. | "Quality is never the result of an accident. It is always the result of intelligent effort." —John Ruskin Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 450: THOSE BODILY FUNCTIONS

    Oct 16 2018

    Learn the many different bodily functions that regularly occur in your body as well as those that happen with your spouse. | "Never trust a girl who doesn’t fart, you don’t know what else she’s holding back from you." — Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 449: WHAT DID YOU SAY?

    Oct 09 2018

    Your words have power. The power to build up or the power to destroy. What you say and how you say it has the power to build up or tear down your marriage. | "Words are free, it’s how you use them that may cost you." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 448: WORKING OUT FORGIVENESS

    Oct 02 2018

    Learn how forgiveness is the key to unlocking the joy you desire as you experience real growth and connection with your spouse. | "Don’t let the past limit the future." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 447: MAKE INTIMACY A PRIORITY

    Sep 25 2018

    Learn how to make intimacy a priority, what you need to consider and how to get started. | "Great things never come from inside the comfort zone." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 446: MORNING SEX

    Sep 18 2018

    Learn the impact of morning sex on your marriage and how it can become a valuable resource in your relationship. | "Every morning starts a new page in your story. Make it a great one today." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 445: WE DIDN'T KNOW

    Sep 11 2018

    We didn’t know that in order to go to the next level there was something very important that we need to do and that was to ask for help. | "When I first met you I honestly didn’t know how important you were going to be to me." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 444: KEEP THE ROMANCE ALIVE

    Sep 04 2018

    Learn about the state of romance in marriage and what you can do to keep the romance alive with your spouse. | "I fell in love with the way that you touched me without using your hands." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 443: HONEST TRUTH ABOUT THE FEMALE ORGASM

    Aug 28 2018

    Learn the honest truth about the female orgasm and how the two of you can discuss this topic as well as experience joy in this area. | "It takes 237 muscles to fake an orgasm, but only 15 to say, "It's called a clitoris and it's right here."" Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 442: NEVER TOO OLD FOR SEX

    Aug 21 2018

    It doesn’t matter how old you are you can still enjoy sex! Learn how you and your spouse can have an amazing sex life well into your later years of life. | "You can’t help getting older but you don’t have to get OLD." —George Burns Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 441: CRITICAL FEEDBACK

    Aug 14 2018

    Feedback is not a bad thing...it’s all about how it’s delivered. Learn how the two of you handle critical feedback in your marriage. | "Giving honest and well intended feedback is often confused with being mean. It’s not mean. It’s nice." —Robert Kiyosaki Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 440: WHAT MEN GET FROM FOREPLAY

    Aug 07 2018

    Learn what you can do to make foreplay a time when you are both heigtening the sexual arousal and the desire for sexual activity. | "Don’t rush through foreplay. Play with each other until you can’t take it anymore." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 439: STOP SERVING THOSE LEFTOVERS

    Jul 31 2018

    Learn about the dangers of serving up the leftovers to your spouse over and over again and how to turn this around in your marriage. | "Most couples make the mistake of giving each other the remains of the day. The leftover time after every other relationship and task has been attended to. This is not only backwards, but destructive. Stellar partners give each other prime time, and make each other their top priority." — Dr. Rhoberta Shaler Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adc...more

  • 438: DO THE OPPOSITE

    Jul 24 2018

    Learn what happens to the two of you when you choose to do the opposite of what you feel like doing in difficult situations. | "In order to carry a positive action we must develop here a positive vision." —Dalai Lama Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 437: THE ART OF MANSCAPING

    Jul 17 2018

    Manscaping is the removal or trimming of hair on a man's body for cosmetic effect. Learn the impact that it can have on you and your marriage. | "I think grooming is undervalued by men. We expect women to be fully groomed which they do. But I also think it’s just as important for a man to look clean and fresh." —Lewis Hamilton Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 436: SEX DURING HER PERIOD

    Jul 10 2018

    Learn about the possibilities of having sex while she’s on her period, how the two of you navigate that conversation and what factors you might need to consider. | "Do not be too timid or squeamish about your actions. All life is an experiment." —Ralph Waldo Emerson Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 435: HE'S NOT YOUR CHILD

    Jul 03 2018

    Learn the dynamic that occurs in a marriage when a wife refers to her husband as a child and what the two of you can do to change that. | "Handle them carefully, for words have more power than atom bombs." —Strachan Hurd Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 434: LESSONS FROM THE BEACH

    Jun 26 2018

    Marriage is an adventure and it’s one of the most amazing journeys the two of you will ever be on. Learn the marriage lessons from time spent at the beach. | "Attitude is the difference between an ordeal and an adventure." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 433: SETTING UP GUARDRAILS

    Jun 19 2018

    Guardrails are systems that YOU put in place that allow you to be proactive about your marriage rather than reactive after things go wrong. | "Guardrails: No one needs one until they do." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 432: THE END OF REJECTION

    Jun 12 2018

    Learn about the impact rejection has on a spouse’s willingness to initiate again and what the two of you can do to turn this around. | "Being afraid of things going wrong isn’t the way to make things go right." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 431: MARRIAGE BUILDING HABITS

    Jun 05 2018

    You have the power to create new habits around your sex life, with conversations or with anything you do in your marriage. | "A bad habit never disappears miraculously. It’s an un-do-it-yourself project." —Abigail Van Buren (Dear Abby) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 430: SEXUALLY SATISFIED

    May 29 2018

    Learn what to do in your marriage when one of you is not sexually satisfied. It's important to have a healthy understanding of yourself and earnest pursuit of pleasing your spouse as you grow together. | "It’s hard to be satisfied with your life (or your marriage), if you are never satisfied with yourself." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 429: SUMMER LOVIN'

    May 22 2018

    Learn how to keep your summer lovin’ going through those hot nights, vacations, kiddos running around the house and all that comes during this season. | "There is always that one summer that changes you." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 428: DOES THIS OUTFIT MAKE ME LOOK FAT

    May 15 2018

    Learn how to break away from sabotaging your marriage with a question such as “Does this outfit make me look fat?” | "Never, ever underestimate the power of your words to build up or tear down the fabric of your marriage." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 427: TALKING TO YOUR KIDS ABOUT SEX

    May 08 2018

    Learn why it is important to make the most of every opportunity to talk about sex with your kids. | "The greatest enemy of sexual wholeness today, is silence." —Mark Lasser Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 426: SEX IS GOOD FOR YOUR HEALTH

    May 01 2018

    Learn how your bedroom and more specifically sex with your spouse could have an impact on your overall health. | "Most people have no idea how good their body is designed to feel." —Kevin Trudeau Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 425: OH BABY!

    Apr 24 2018

    Learn the impact that having a baby can have on a marriage and how the two of you can maintain intimacy, in all areas after the baby comes. | "Remember that children, marriages and gardens reflect the kind of care they get." —H Jackson Brown Jr. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 424: ANATOMY OF AN ERECTION

    Apr 17 2018

    Learn how and why a man’s penis becomes firmer, engorged and enlarged, or better known as an erection. | "The pursuit of knowledge is never ending. The day you stop seeking knowledge is the day you stop growing." —Travis Ciaccio Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 423: PAYCHECK TO PAYCHECK

    Apr 10 2018

    Learn about the challenges of living paycheck to paycheck and it’s impact on your marriage, especially in the bedroom. | "Money is an opportunity to reach unity in marriage. When couples work together they can do anything." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 422: WHAT IS THE INTIMACY LIFESTYLE

    Apr 03 2018

    Learn how the intimacy lifestyle can become a part of your marriage and we'll answer your questions on how to best set it up. | "The capacity to learn is a gift. The ability to learn is a skill. The willingness to learn is a choice." —Brian Herbert Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 421: TELLING YOUR SPOUSE YOU STRUGGLE WITH PORN

    Mar 27 2018

    Learn about the harm that comes from lying about porn and how to handle the gift of truth when it’s brought into the light. | "The truth may hurt for a little while but a lie hurts forever." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 420: CONFIDENCE IN THE BEDROOM

    Mar 20 2018

    Learn how you can develop the confidence muscle if you are willing to stretch yourself and when you do you'll increase your confidence in the bedroom. | "Self confidence is the best outfit, rock it and own it." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 419: WE HAVE TROUBLE TALKING

    Mar 13 2018

    There are many couples that have trouble talking. Learn what to do when the two of you have trouble talking in your marriage. | "Daring greatly means the courage to be vulnerable. It means to show up and be seen. To ask for what you need. Talk about how you are feeling. To have the hard conversations." —Brene Brown Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 418: CAUGHT IN THE COMPARISON TRAP

    Mar 06 2018

    There are times when you can be so focused on other people’s lives that you have stopped living your own. Learn the destructive nature of comparison and how you can refocus on your marriage. | "Every minute you spend wishing you had someone else’s life is a minute spent wasting yours." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 417: CRYSTAL CLEAR

    Feb 27 2018

    Learn about the challenges you face with your communication when words are not crystal clear and share seven words that will help you clear up the confusion. | "Clarity comes from action, not thought." —Marie Forleo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 416: A LONG HOT SHOWER

    Feb 20 2018

    Learn what can happen when you take off your clothes as you step into the power of a long hot shower to create a connection in your marriage. | "Let’s go take a hot shower. It’s like a normal shower but with us in it." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 415: WHAT'S YOUR LOVE STORY

    Feb 13 2018

    Learn about the ebb and flow of our love story and why sharing your love story can make an impact on both of you. | "Every love story is beautiful but ours is my favorite." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 414: SEXPLORATION

    Feb 06 2018

    Learn how your sexploration, choosing to explore your sexual intimacy as a couple, impacts both of you as well as your relationship dynamics. | "We live in a wonderful world that is full of beauty, charm and adventure. There is no end to the adventures that we can have if only we seek them with our eyes wide open." —Jawaharlal Nehru Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 413: LIKE A BROKEN RECORD

    Jan 30 2018

    Learn what happens when you feel like areas of your marriage are a broken record, playing the same negative scenes over and over again and what you can do to start to create change. | "You can’t change what’s going on around you until you change what’s going on within you." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 412: HOW ABOUT THESE POSITIONS

    Jan 23 2018

    Learn how you can change the atmosphere inside and outside your bedroom when you have more than one sexual position. | "Variety is the spice of life. We all want surprises." —Tony Robbins Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 411: FORGIVENESS WILL SET YOU FREE

    Jan 16 2018

    It’s time to change how you view forgiveness. Learn about the destructive nature of unforgiveness and what happens when you let forgiveness into your heart. | "When you hold onto anger and unforgiveness you can’t move forward." —Mary J Blige Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 410: FIND YOUR PRECIOUS MOMENTS EACH WEEK

    Jan 09 2018

    Learn about making time for the two of you as a couple, why you need to do this and where you can find those precious moments. | "The greatest gift you can give someone is your time. Because when you are giving your time you are giving a portion of your life that you can never get back." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 409: WHAT CAN I DO

    Jan 02 2018

    If you want to create an extraordinary marriage, it starts with one question and only one question...What Can I Do. | "It’s easy to blame others when things are broken. The hard part is recognizing the part you played in it all." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 408: WRAPPING UP THIS SEASON

    Dec 26 2017

    Learn about transitioning from one season to another and how you can make the next season the best ever in your marriage. | "There will come a time when you think everything is finished. That will be the beginning." —Louis L’Amour Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 407: SEXY GAMES TO HEAT THINGS UP

    Dec 19 2017

    Learn how you can heat things up in your bedroom by playing some sexy games together. | "Just play, have fun, enjoy the game." —Michael Jordan Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 406: FAKING IT

    Dec 12 2017

    Learn what happens when you are faking your happiness during the holidays, in social situations and with your spouse in the bedroom. | "Saying you’re happy isn’t the same thing as being happy." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 405: WE DID IT! NOW WHAT?

    Dec 05 2017

    Learn what comes after you complete the 7 Days of Sex Challenge and how you can continue to grow and strengthen the physical intimacy in your marriage. | "I didn’t come this far to only come this far." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 404: ROCK YOUR SEX LIFE

    Nov 28 2017

    Learn how you can rock your sex life and change the dynamics in your marriage in just seven days. | "A lot could happen in a week. Just look at the last one." —Julia Quinn Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 403: A THANKFUL HEART

    Nov 21 2017

    Learn about the impact being thankful has on your marriage and how you can increase your gratitude awareness any time of the year. | "When I started counting my blessings my whole life turned around." —Willie Nelson Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 402: HOLIDAY MARRIAGE HACKS

    Nov 14 2017

    Learn about those special marriage hacks that you can do to make this the most amazing holidays you will celebrate with your spouse. | "It’s not the load that breaks you down, it’s the way that you carry it. "—Lou Holtz Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 401: MOAN OUT LOUD

    Nov 07 2017

    Learn about the impact you have on yourself and your spouse when you moan and verbalize your pleasure during sexual intimacy. | "There’s nothing more exciting than hearing your spouse moan in pleasure and knowing you are responsible for it." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 400: HUGS FROM NEAR AND FAR

    Oct 31 2017

    Over the last 399 shows you have meant a lot to the ONE Family. And this show is all about you as we share hugs from near and far! | “Remember to celebrate milestones as you prepare for the road ahead.” —Nelson Mandela Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 399: WORK SPOUSE DANGER

    Oct 24 2017

    The slippery slope of having a work spouse is real. Learn what you need to do to put guardrails around yourself and marriage to protect yourself. | "Most people involved in emotional affairs will downplay the seriousness of the event by claiming that they are just friends or it’s not big deal, nothing happened." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 398: THE HOLIDAYS ARE COMING

    Oct 17 2017

    Thanksgiving and Christmas are almost here. Learn what you can do to get on the same page with your financial intimacy as the holidays approach. | "Planning for Thanksgiving and Christmas should take place months in advance. They are not a surprise." —Dave Ramsey Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 397: FEELING REJECTED

    Oct 10 2017

    Learn what to do with those feelings you have when you are rejected or when you reject your spouse and what you can do to create change in your marriage. | "Rejection doesn’t mean that you aren’t good enough. It means the other person failed to notice what you have to offer." —Sam Keen Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 396: HONOR YOUR WORDS

    Oct 03 2017

    You spoke your vows on your wedding now now learn what you can do to honor those words you spoke through tough times and good times. | "You come to love not by finding the perfect person BUT by learning to love an imperfect person perfectly." —Sam Keen Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 395: THAT TIME OF THE MONTH

    Sep 26 2017

    A woman's period happens every month. Learn how you can stay connected physically and emotionally when it’s that time of the month in your home. | "A great marriage is made of two people who continuously put their vows ahead of their feelings." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 394: TOTALLY EXHAUSTED

    Sep 19 2017

    The truth is that we spend so much time being exhausted that often we don’t even realize that it’s impacting our marriages. | Survival mode is supposed to be a phase that helps save your life. It’s not meant to be how you live your life. —Michele Rosenthal Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 393: IS YOUR VIBRATOR A CRUTCH?

    Sep 12 2017

    Learn how the vibrator might be a crutch for your sexual intimacy and what it might look like to consider a different path. | "Don’t be afraid to give up the good to go for the great." —John D. Rockefeller Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 392: CAN'T SEEM TO DO ANYTHING RIGHT

    Sep 05 2017

    If you find yourself in a place where you can’t do anything right OR thinking that your spouse can’t do anything right your marriage has a big problem. | "Why can’t my spouse see just how much I am trying." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 391: LUBE IT UP

    Aug 29 2017

    Pull out the lubricant and get ready to enjoy some special one on one time together. | "...friction is likely to generate heat instead of progress." —George Eliot Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 390: ENOUGH DRAMA ALREADY

    Aug 22 2017

    Creating drama can hurt your marriage. Learn what you can do instead to build up, strengthen and support one another. | Don’t start drama and then say you hate drama. —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 389: WE CAN HANDLE IT

    Aug 15 2017

    The two of you can handle the storms in your marriage while becoming united in your commitment to one another like never before. | Relax. Don’t be so hard on yourself. You are living and learning. Forgive yourself and grow from the experience." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 388: SHOULD AN ORGASM BE THE ULTIMATE GOAL

    Aug 08 2017

    Should an orgasm be the ultimate goal for you and your spouse every time you have sex? | Once your learn to appreciate the small victories there is no need for a finish line. —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 387: WHAT ARE YOU LOOKING AT?

    Aug 01 2017

    Stop looking down at your phone. It's important to know where your eyes are looking and the message that they send to your spouse. | I love the look you give me when you really want me." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 386: RULES FOR A BETTER MARRIAGE

    Jul 25 2017

    Learn what you can do now to make your marriage better tomorrow, next week and for years to come. | It’s not about being the best. It’s about being better than you were yesterday. —Anonymous | Subscribe to the show today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 385: WHAT DO YOU WANT IN THE BEDROOM?

    Jul 18 2017

    Learn the different ways to let your spouse know what you like about your sexual intimacy in the bedroom. It's worth every word. | We all need people who will give us feedback. That’s how we improve. —Bill Gates Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 384: BEING SENSUAL

    Jul 11 2017

    Learn what you can do to be sensual and how you can share these ideas with your spouse. | Being sensual in your marriage doesn’t end on the honeymoon, your marriage needs all 5 senses working throughout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 383: CANCER CAN'T STOP THE ADVICE FROM A FATHER

    Jul 04 2017

    Learn the responsibility and impact a father has to give sound advice to his children on living a marriage for years to come. | Son, don’t cheat. I’ve had plenty of opportunities over the years but it’s like this...why would I go out for a hamburger when I have a steak at home. —Carmen DiLorenzo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 382: FOREPLAY FUN

    Jun 27 2017

    Learn why foreplay is a powerful skill you need to know as you lead up to intercourse. | Go down a water-slide without any water and you will understand why foreplay is important. —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 381: SUMMER FUN

    Jun 20 2017

    Learn a number of different date ideas you can enjoy so your marriage doesn’t take a vacation during all your summer fun. | Remember the tans will fade but the memories will last forever. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 380: THE ULTIMATE MARATHON

    Jun 13 2017

    Learn how your commitment to marriage is the ultimate marathon with an unknown finish line. | Your marriage vows say for as long as life shall last NOT until you get tired or you don’t want to anymore. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 379: WHEN HE CAN'T ORGASM

    Jun 06 2017

    You are not just waiting in vain. There is a purpose behind every delay. —Mandy Hale | Learn about the reasons why he can’t orgasm and how the two of you can get through this together. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 378: LET'S HAVE MIND-BLOWING SEX

    May 30 2017

    Your life does not get better by chance it gets better by change. —Jim Rohn | Learn how you can have mind-blowing sex and surprisingly it has very little to do with the act itself. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 377: I'M OFFENDED

    May 23 2017

    If you take everything personally, you will remain offended for the rest of your life. What other people do is because of them, not you. —Vivian Benson | Learn what happens when you are offended and how to work through offense with your spouse. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 376: THOSE PARENTING BEHAVIORS

    May 16 2017

    Each generation will reap what the former generation has sown. —Chinese Proverb | Learn how to break free of those negative parenting behaviors that have held you back from having the extraordinary marriage you desire. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 375: WHEN TRANSITIONS HAPPEN

    May 09 2017

    "Honor the space between no longer and not yet." —Nancy Levin When you are married, transitions don’t only affect you, they also affect your spouse. Transitions can impact the different intimacies in your marriage. Marriage is full of transitions: First house First baby Moves Job changes Job losses Taking care of kids Taking care of your parents One income Two incomes Kids becoming adults And the list goes on You can seemingly be going along thinking... "Ah, life is good, we’ve got everything fi...more

  • 374: YOU’VE LOST THOSE LOVING FEELINGS

    May 02 2017

    "Never stop showing someone how much they mean to you." Over time you have lost the anticipation and excitement of your relationship. Your marriage has become something you have to tolerate, something you have to survive or make it through. For some it's like the song from the Righteous Brother’s “You’ve Lost That Loving Feeling”. You may have lost that loving feeling and you're wondering on what to do next. Do you remember when the two of you were courting one another? There was anticipation an...more

  • 373: ARE YOU UP FOR A SEX CHALLENGE

    Apr 25 2017

    "Never be afraid to try something new BECAUSE life gets boring when you stay within the limits of what you already know." The first sex challenge we completed happened 9 years ago in the fall of 2008. We had been married 11 years and these years were not the best years. Two kids ages 2 and 5 years old had taken up much of our times We lived as roommates with little to no intimacy. It was at this time that we decided to take on the 60 Days of Sex Challenge. A bit crazy... Yes. Worth it... Absolut...more

  • 372: STOP THE NAGGING

    Apr 18 2017

    "She's not nagging. She's trying to tell you something. The only reason she's being persistent is because she cares. When she stops nagging, you should be worried because at that point she no longer cares." Nagging usually doesn’t start out as a problem in marriage. As time goes on though you begin to share things with your spouse that are bothering you. You don't see any change in behavior so you repeat yourself, over and over again. Then you get demanding. Sometimes you get mean and angry. Oth...more

  • 371: YOU CAN BE A SPONTANEOUS LOVER

    Apr 11 2017

    "Success isn’t a result of spontaneous combustion. You must set yourself on fire." —Arnold Glasgow For the most part your day-to-day activities are ruled by your calendars, by schedules, and by alerts popping up on your phone. It doesn’t matter how you stay organized, the fact is that you have ways to keep your time organized and keep you moving to the next thing. And then... It comes to your sex life. You desire spontaneity and yet your life is ruled by schedules. Or you are waiting for the per...more

  • 370: CHANGE STARTS WITH ME

    Apr 04 2017

    "Being vulnerable is not a sign of weakness rather it is a sign of strength. It takes courage to let others into your world." —Anonymous As a couple you may be stuck. You may be stuck in the same routines. Maybe you're stuck in the same fights. Or you've noticed that your marriage is stuck in the same cycles. It’s as if every day is groundhog day. You wake up and the same day is repeated over and over again. This repetition in your marriage leads to feelings of boredom, discontentment and a lack...more

  • 369: MEN NEED FRIENDS

    Mar 28 2017

    "Men who trust other men will make fewer mistakes than he who distrusts them." —Camillo de Cavour When you think about your friendships as a kid and as an adult a few things stand out and the research is supporting this. During childhood both boys and girls have friends and often make deep friendships. From roughhousing on the playground to building with Legos, from competing on the sports field to running to winning the debate, there is a connection that boys have that as children often looks s...more

  • 368: LAST LONGER IN BED

    Mar 21 2017

    "We don’t grow when things are easy, we grow when we face challenges." —Anonymous You want to last longer and yet most of the time you ejaculate quicker than you'd like. When you orgasm within 1-3 minutes of penetration this is general considered premature ejaculation. 20-30% of men (and their partners) are impacted by what is considered the most common type of male sexual dysfunction. Here’s the thing... you are not alone. 60% of US men feel that this is embarrassing which equate to roughly 77 ...more

  • 367: I CAN’T TALK ABOUT SEX

    Mar 14 2017

    "When you can’t talk about your sex life there’s a connection that the two of you are missing out on." —Anonymous The world that you live in is hypersexualized and yet couples struggle with talking about their sex life with each other. How-to talk about sex is everywhere... it's on TV, on magazine covers, right here on the internet, with your friends but, when couples are asked if they are talking about sex the answer more often than not is "no". As a spouse in a committed relationship you may e...more

  • 366: LET’S GO TO BED

    Mar 07 2017

    "The moment when he rolls over, puts his arm around me and pulls me closer, in his sleep. I like that." —Country Thang Many marriages are suffering from some lack of connection. Often it’s due to our busy schedules and the commitments that keep us running around like crazy. Maybe it’s the kids or your parents who have you running around. Work, volunteering and keeping the house inside and out add a lot to your plate. Then the end of the day comes and all you want to do is veg out. Not just from ...more

  • 365: I HAVE A HEADACHE… LET’S HAVE SEX

    Feb 28 2017

    "Sex solves most problems including headaches." —Anonymous You have a crazy headache, while on vacation, with plans to have sex, on the only night you have away from your kids. You take a nice nap to see if that would take care of it and it didn’t. You still have a headache. You're still in the hotel room you booked. And... you still have a spouse with the expectation that this is your opportunity for sex. What if having sex during this time will help your headache go away? Most of the times it'...more

  • 364: VACATION EXPECTATIONS

    Feb 21 2017

    "In life it’s not where you go, it’s who you travel with.” —Charlie Schultz There are times when your vacations don’t always go as planned. You have your expectations for everything. From how relaxing it’s going to be to how often the two of you are going to have sex. You think about the adventures you are going to go on, the shows you will see, the relaxing you are going to do and the money you will spend during your trip. And then, you have instances like we have had on our last couple of vaca...more

  • 363: HEATING UP YOUR BEDROOM

    Feb 14 2017

    "Let’s cuddle so that I can steal your body heat.” —Anonymous There are different reasons and times of the year when your bedroom is cold. It could be winter time, the air conditioning is on to beat the summer heat or your bedroom is in a cool part of your home. On the other hand one of you may run colder than the other. (We live this in our marriage.) When you are cold it makes heating things up in the bedroom a challenge. Let's face it... It’s tough to be naked when you are cold. It's difficul...more

  • 362: ON YOUR KNEES

    Feb 07 2017

    "Intimacy is not purely physical. It’s the act of connecting with someone so deeply, you feel like you can see into their soul.” —Anonymous Spiritual intimacy has a huge impact on you and your marriage. And yet it’s the one intimacy that often gets overlooked or minimized even though it’s just as important if not more so than the others. In our marriage there have been seasons when we are clicking in our spiritual intimacy and times when we experience a dryness. The same may happen in your marri...more

  • 361: MONEY MATTERS

    Jan 31 2017

    "Money is an opportunity to reach unity in marriage. When couples work together they can do anything." —Dave Ramsey You have probably heard the quote, "You should never talk about money, politics or religion." Now, this might be true if you are at a dinner party and yet... You are taking this stance when it comes to money in your marriage. There is no connection, discussion, or even a conversation about your money. If you are honest with yourselves there is no plan for your money. Without a plan...more

  • 360: TOUCH ME

    Jan 24 2017

    "So many people hear the words physical intimacy and think about sex. There are so many layers to being physically intimate with your spouse, choosing just one aspect shortchanges both of you." —Anonymous Touch is so important and yet touch in any form may be absent or inconsequential in your marriage at this time. This absence of touch or in the quality of the touch, leads to a feeling of being unwanted, unseen, undesired. It’s interesting that touch is often one of the first ways that you begi...more

  • 359: WHAT DO WE DO TOGETHER

    Jan 17 2017

    "You define what is important to you by who you spend your time with." —Anonymous When you were dating there was no shortage of things to do or ways that you wanted to spend your time together. No matter where you were or what time of day it was you got creative. You would pick up on the smallest comments and run with it, turning that comment into an incredible adventure you would do together. And then... You begin living together, jobs, bills, volunteering and kids take up time you once had tog...more

  • 358: THE POWER OF AN APOLOGY

    Jan 10 2017

    "When you forgive, you in no way change the past but you sure do change the future." —Bernard Meltzer The year started off with us discussing the importance of emotional intimacy in your marriage. This is how the two of you communicate and is the foundation for growth in the other five intimacies. How the two of you connect during both the good and tough times will make the difference. After last week's show we dealt with a tough time ourselves. There was a breakdown in emotional intimacy after ...more

  • 357: HONEST, OPEN AND TWO WAY LISTENING

    Jan 03 2017

    "Communication must be HOT...Honest, Open and Two Way." —Dan Oswald Do the two of you have time each week when you can connect with your thoughts and feelings?  We spent many years of our marriage, probably the first ten years with little to no emotional intimacy. We could talk about anything while we were dating and then after the ring and the wedding... crickets. It was easier to avoid confrontation. It was easier to stuff things inside. Why share your feeling to deal with deflection, tears an...more

  • 356: GOING NEXT LEVEL

    Dec 27 2016

    "Think as BIG as you possibly can and base what you do, how you do it and who you do it with on succeeding at that level." —Gary Keller & Jay Papasan If the two of you don’t have a vision for 2017, it’s going to look a lot like 2016. As you look ahead you need to know what areas of your marriage you want to focus on? These areas include: Financial intimacy Physical intimacy Spiritual intimacy Recreational intimacy Emotional intimacy What would it take to take each of these intimacies to the ...more

  • 355: TWAS THE NIGHT BEFORE CHRISTMAS

    Dec 20 2016

    "Traditions remind us to stop the busy cycle of life long enough to reconnect and build bonds." —Sabrina Beasley McDonald It’s important for the two of you to have your own night before Christmas or Christmas Day traditions. Something that you do together, a gift or an adventure that is about you as a couple. This is about the two of you as your own separate entity, separate from the kids and from your extended families. It’s that reminder that you and your spouse are a team. When you begin to t...more

  • 354: AWAKE SEX

    Dec 13 2016

    "Right NOW is the most important moment in your life." —Gail Lynne Goodwin Another day comes to an end and you and your spouse are tired. Earlier in the day you both were romancing each other and had every intention to enjoy one another. But it's another night of you falling asleep even before you start foreplay and leaving you both frustrated with your sexual intimacy. There is much on your plates and yet it's time to prioritize your marriage so that you both enjoy your sexual intimacy. It mean...more

  • 353: I’M FINE

    Dec 06 2016

    "Sometimes all you do is smile. Move on with your day, hold back the tears and pretend everything is OK." —Anonymous The holiday season is a busy time of year. You are are pulled in many directions and feel overwhelmed with the responsibilities of job, family, kids, volunteering, Christmas parties, and everything else that is on your plate. It's a time when you may feel like there is too much going on and you’re holding on by a thread. And then your spouse asks you something like… What’s wrong w...more

  • 352: PERSONAL HYGIENE FOR A GREAT SEX LIFE

    Nov 29 2016

    "What do brushing your teeth, taking a shower and making time to shave all have in common? They all improve your chances in the bedroom." —Alisa DiLorenzo Interestingly enough we have never tackled the topic of personal hygiene, even though it’s something that we frequently discuss in our marriage. Things like morning breath, unshaven legs, and manscaping is what we're talking about. When you are aware of what works for you and for your spouse it makes a difference in your sexual intimacy. We ha...more

  • 351: ATTITUDE OF GRATITUDE

    Nov 22 2016

    "Showing gratitude is one of the most simplest yet most powerful things that human beings can do for each other." —Randy Pausch Thanksgiving. It's a time dedicated to giving thanks and expressing gratitude to those you love. The act of expressing gratitude is important for your spouse who receives your gratitude as well as for you who is giving it. When you do this for and with each other it changes your perspective on your marriage. When you express your appreciation for what you have your worl...more

  • 350: YOUR SEXY UNDERWEAR MATTERS

    Nov 15 2016

    "If her bra matches her panties when you take off her clothes, it wasn’t you who decided to have sex." —Anonymous When you are wearing sexy underwear it has a way of bringing you and your spouse together in a special way. A loose definition of sexy underwear is: underwear that has fun colors or patterns that hug you in all of the right places because they fit. Many folks dismiss the importance of underwear, seeing them as merely a functional piece of clothing and yet they have the potential to b...more

  • 349: LIES BECOME A CANCER

    Nov 08 2016

    "Once you lie to me the first time, I’ll question everything else you say." —Anonymous When you lie to your spouse it's a cancer that multiplies over time. The lie starts off small and then grows with one lie after another. Eventually you have something so large and unrecognizable that the pain you are experiencing has to go. We are experiencing an epidemic in marriages, an epidemic of lying and it’s wreaking havoc on relationships. Lies can come in different forms such as... Not telling the tru...more

  • 348: YOU’RE SNORING TOO LOUD

    Nov 01 2016

    "Snoring is a good indication that one person is asleep and no one else is." —Linda Poindexter It's been another long day as you prepare yourself for a good night sleep. You slide into bed, turn on your Sound+Sleep Machine as you enjoy a quiet house. Your eyelids begin to close and you are just about to fall asleep when… The snoring starts. Oh no! Another night of sleep is going to be a challenge. AGAIN. Marriages are struggling when one or both spouse's are snoring. According to the National Sl...more

  • 347: SOMEONE’S KNOCKING ON THE DOOR

    Oct 25 2016

    "Circumstances may cause interruptions and delays but never lose sight of your goal." —Mario Andretti Has there ever been a time in your marriage when you and your spouse were about to enjoy sex and then you hear a knocking at your door? Maybe you can relate to this scenario… All of the kids are in bed (or so you think) The house is quiet You’re locked in your room Your Sound+Sleep Machine is on as you begin to make romantic eyes at one another You start foreplay And there’s a knocking on the do...more

  • 346: UNMET EXPECTATIONS

    Oct 18 2016

    "The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that is has taken place." —George Bernard Shaw When you have certain expectations, your spouse has expectations and yet neither of you communicate them to each other there will be unmet expectations. Each of you will have a level of frustration that you are experiencing. You may even be say things like: I don’t understand why he/she doesn’t know this by now. Isn’t the way we do __________ obvious? Why do I have to spell it out every ti...more

  • 345: LACK OF SEXUAL DESIRE

    Oct 11 2016

    "Desire creates havoc between two people when it is the ONLY thing between them or when it’s what’s missing." —Mignon McLaughlin Have you ever experienced: Lack of sexual desire Low libido No libido A take it or leave it attitude No expression of desire No sexual connection. A sexual connection with your spouse is a primary need. Unfortunately, a lack of sexual desire is impacting your marriage and the reasons for it are varied. It could be from: Stress or anxiety Health issues Resentment Reject...more

  • 344: CELEBRATION TIME (WEDDING ANNIVERSARY STYLE)

    Oct 04 2016

    "A wedding anniversary is the celebration of love, trust, partnership, tolerance and tenacity. The order varies for any given year." —Anonymous When this show is first released on October 4, 2016, we will be 24 hours away from celebrating our 20th wedding anniversary. As with any milestone, we approached this anniversary with celebration. It also became a time to reflect on where we have been and where we are going. While 20 years married is a significant anniversary, it’s not the end of the roa...more

  • 343: WHAT YOU DON’T KNOW IN THE BEDROOM CAN HURT YOU AND YOUR MARRIAGE

    Sep 27 2016

    "Knowing is not enough we must apply. Willing is not enough we must do." —J W Von Goethe When you don’t know what works in the bedroom (or what doesn’t) you may be paralyzed wondering... Does my spouse like this? Is this position OK? Are they initiating? Is this a good time? Think about this for a minute. If you don’t know what your spouse likes, it’s hard to be fully present in the act of making love. If you don’t know how your spouse initiates or if they are initiating, there may be a lot of h...more

  • 342: WHY KNOWING HER MENSTRUAL CYCLE IS IMPORTANT TO YOUR SEX LIFE

    Sep 20 2016

    "In all things there is a law of cycles." —Tacitus (Roman Historian) It is absolutely critical that you understand the female menstrual cycle for your sex life and for your marriage. A woman’s body is absolutely amazing and it’s hard wired to ebb and flow as the hormones fluctuate each and every month. As a woman’s hormones change during the menstrual cycle so does her husband’s responsiveness to her. Pretty cool. Here's the thing though... You need to know what's going on. When hormonal forms o...more

  • 341: STOP THOSE OLD, COMFORTABLE AND INEFFECTIVE PATTERNS

    Sep 13 2016

    "Marriage doesn’t have the power to bind-only the actions of two people can do that. Forever and happy endings aren’t a given." —Leah Mercer You can make changes to your marriage no matter how long you've been married. For us it was at the 11 year make that we got radical when we started and completed the 60 Days of Sex Challenge. What you'll began to realize is that it’s never too late to stop the ineffective patters and behaviors. Here's the thing though... ...you'll need to made a decision to...more

  • 340: 5 STIMULATING SENSES

    Sep 06 2016

    "When you start using senses you’ve neglected, your reward is to see the world [and your marriage] with completely fresh eyes." —Barbara Sher Your marriages may be experiencing some struggles due to the fact that you are loving each other with only one or two of the 5 senses you have. You may have fallen into what’s comfortable for you in your marriage and not necessarily what’s best for your marriages. Using each of your 5 senses can bring a heightened experience to your marriage that may have ...more

  • 339: SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE

    Aug 30 2016

    "Never judge someone on their past because they are no longer in that stage of life." —Alisa DiLorenzo Sex before marriage can be a roadblock to deep sexual intimacy. If you had sex before marriage you may have feelings of guilt, shame, and resentment. On the other side your spouse may have had sex before marriage with other partners and now you question the level of their commitment, you compare yourself to theses previous partners or you grew up knowing you should not have had sex together, bu...more

  • 338: BEAUTIFUL WIFE

    Aug 23 2016

    You've been sharing with your wife that she is beautiful to you inside and out. You see her as this amazing, incredible gift from God. A gift that honestly you cannot wait to unwrap. You want her to realize that it's not a sin to acknowledge her own beauty and sensuality without feeling dirty and yet your wife doesn't see herself as beautiful. Your wife doesn't feel the same way about herself as you see her. There is a struggle you both face with reconciling the expectations in the bedroom with ...more

  • 337: FUN AND GAMES TO BREAK THE SEXUAL ROUTINE

    Aug 16 2016

    "I want a boring sex life, said no one ever." —Alisa DiLorenzo What would happen to your marriage if you broke the sexual routine you've been in and brought back some fun into your bedroom? Many couples are experiencing a sex life that has become one more thing on the to-do list. Same sexual routine time and time again that leads both you and your spouse to wondering why you even have sex. Your sexual intimacy is the same way, at the same time and in the same position time after time. It’s great...more

  • 336: YOUR SPOUSE ISN’T THE PROBLEM

    Aug 09 2016

    It’s not your husband or your wife that’s the problem. The problem is the problem. Do you remember the part in your vows where it was spoken that the “two become one”?  That piece is talking about the two of you. The two of, now marriage, have became one. Newsflash: You are on the same team in your marriage and you need to start looking at life like you are on the same team not as rivals. You need to clearly identify your challenges / problems and know that these are not your spouse. Because whe...more

  • 335: SHE’S NOT YOUR MOTHER

    Aug 02 2016

    Your wife does not want to be your mother! She is and desires to be your wife and your lover. Unfortunately, more often than not she is treat as your mother. She's the person in the house who picks up after you, makes sure your laundry is done for when you need it, and treated the same way you treated your mother when you were growing up. Here's the thing... She does not want to be your mothers. She doesn't want to consider you as another child in the house and yet when your behavior mirrors tha...more

  • 334: THE EMASCULATED MAN

    Jul 26 2016

    Is there an emasculated man living in your home? For the purpose of this show emasculated means: Make a person weaker or less effective Deprive a man of his role or identity Wives, you have the opportunity to not have an emasculated man in your marriage by the thoughts and action you have toward your husband.  Husband's are being emasculated every day in their marriage, even ours has experienced this, and it happens in little ways. It’s not giving his suggestions equal billing in your marriage. ...more

  • 333: REDEFINING THE INTIMACY LIFESTYLE

    Jul 19 2016

    The Intimacy Lifestyle was introduced to the ONE Family as a way for you and your spouse to not have to wonder if you were going to have sex or not. Unfortunately, over the years we have heard from couples who have started to only get derailed for one reason or another. Some of these reasons are... "We agreed to The Intimacy Lifestyle but it seems like I am always having to remind my spouse". "My spouse said that they were on board but it doesn’t really seem like they are into it". "We agreed to...more

  • 332: RELEASING RESENTMENT

    Jul 12 2016

    Resentment is a poison that builds slowly as it snowballs into extreme disconnect. What starts out as one disappointment becomes a laundry list of all of the ways that your spouse has hurt you, disappointed you, not been there for you, etc. The resentment that you harbor toward your partner can be masked as: Anger Boredom Indifference Withdrawal Disconnect What started out as something manageable now has become overwhelming for you and your partner. Right now, it’s feels virtually impossible to ...more

  • 331: HAVING SEX OR MAKING LOVE

    Jul 05 2016

    Married couples perform both sex and making love. Would you agree? Sometimes it is intentional and sometimes it's because of circumstances. Sex happens when you only have 10 minutes before dinner for a quickie. You only have 10 minutes so it’s not going to be a marathon love making session. But if you are on vacation by yourselves with no kids now there’s no need to just have sex. You plan on making love while away. Making love is probably the easier one of these to understand, the slow and go w...more

  • 330: DETOURS TO SUCCESS

    Jun 28 2016

    Last week we returned from our 20th anniversary trip to Peru. Our travels took us from San Diego to Lima, Peru, Cusco and then on to Machu Picchu.  The international trip involved two red eye flights through Dallas on the way there and then Miami on our way home. Once in country... 2 flights from Lima to Cusco and back. 5 van rides from various points of our travel 4 tour buses including one that was hugging the switchbacks up and back from Machu Picchu 2 trains rides And lots of walking We prob...more

  • 329: RISK REWARD

    Jun 21 2016

    What's the risk reward in your marriage? There's a risk in any relationship between two people. You risk being vulnerable. You risk being rejected. You risk being misunderstood. You risk hurt feelings. You risk anger. You risk silence. You risk the distance growing in your marriage. You risk losing your marriage. In many marriage the idea of risk reward is a recurring theme. Here's the thing about risk reward... IT'S ALL ABOUT FEAR! Fear will stop you in your tracks as you ask yourself statement...more

  • 328: THE INTIMACY LIFESTYLE

    Jun 14 2016

    What would your marriage look like if you and your spouse were having sex on a consistent basis? Maybe for the two of you it would be one, two or even 4 times a week and yet your not quite sure how to make this happen. For this to happen it takes planning and a clear understanding of how it will benefit your marriage. It doesn't just happen. You will need to be intentional as you invest your time and efforts into your marriage. It’s time to get radical in your marriage and make a change as you c...more

  • 327: I WANT OUT

    Jun 07 2016

    The truth is that every couple goes through cycles of good times and tough times. The bigger issue is when those cycles last indefinitely and no one takes action. I want out. I don’t want to do this anymore. It’s too hard. You may have said these to your spouse or vise versa. Either way it's time to shift the tide in your marriage before it is to late. According to couples therapist, Carrie Cole: The average couple waits six years from the time they recognize relationship problems until the time...more

  • 326: SUMMERTIME SEX

    May 31 2016

    It’s summertime and like a lot of things your sexual intimacy can take a back seat to vacations, family visitors and even the kids being home. Make sure you have a plan for summertime sex this year and for years to come. The areas that you need to be aware of when it comes to summertime sex are: Setting expectations BEFORE you travel on vacation. When family or friends are in town how do you make sure you're being sexually intimate. Kids are home for the summer and this can put a kink into your ...more

  • 325: TEMPORARY WEDDING VOWS

    May 24 2016

    Do either of these sound familiar… "I, ____, take you, ____, to be my lawfully wedded(husband/wife), to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part." OR "Will you have this woman/man to be your wife/husband, to live together in the covenant of marriage? Will you love her/him, comfort her/him, honor, and keep her/him in sickness and in health, and forsaking all others, be faithful to her/him as long as y...more

  • 324: THE KEY TO YOUR HAPPINESS

    May 17 2016

    "Happiness is not something you postpone for the future; it is something you design for the present." —Jim Rohn Have you ever said: My husband doesn’t make me happy anymore My wife doesn’t make me happy anymore I’m not happy in marriage This isn’t making me happy Don’t I deserve to be happy Where is my happiness Why can’t I be happy There is an epidemic... An epidemic of people who aren’t happy in their life, with their job and in their marriages. You have an expectation that your spouse and you...more

  • 323: SEX IS NOT ALWAYS THE ANSWER

    May 10 2016

    Day after day we hear from couple after couple that their marriage is not what they wanted or expected. There is no romance. The sex is OK, at times. There is a struggle with communication. There are many disconnects. Digging deeper into each relationship, sex has been a part of most of these relationships from the very beginning. Before these couples truly knew each other, they were involved in one of the most intimate acts a couple can face, sex. As a couple who has been in this place we know ...more

  • 322: IT’S TIME TO INITIATE

    May 03 2016

    Knowing how to initiate sex in your marriage can be a very real challenge. You're not sure what to do or when you do if your spouse even realizes that you're initiating. On the other side of this is a frustrated who doesn't understand why you can’t or decide not to initiate. For them it’s similar to living in a constant state of rejection. Think about it. If you rarely initiate then it is always up to your spouse to make a move. If you're not interested, too tired, not in the mood, then they get...more

  • 321: REMEWING YOUR MARRIAGE LICENSE

    Apr 26 2016

    To get married you had to have a marriage licence. Here's the thing though... This is the only license that you are never required to renew. You are not required to go to class, spend time and money, or become more informed to grow. On the other hand you have to renew your driver’s license, retake the written test and sometimes take the driving test. There are many professions that require continuing education: the legal field, auto technicians, financial services, the medical field, educators, ...more

  • 320: CHANGE OF SCENERY

    Apr 19 2016

    When you move into a new house there are... New bedrooms, living areas, bathrooms and other place to explore to enjoy sex. And yet, you may find yourself night after night in the same spot. Your bedroom! What do you do as doing the same thing over and over again, in the exact same way is become to routine. And... Routines leads to boredom and boredom leads to disconnect. When anticipation and excitement stops being a part of your marriage in any area the drift starts to happen. This doesn’t mean...more

  • 319: ESP (EXTRASENSORY PERCEPTION)

    Apr 12 2016

    Having ESP (extrasensory perception) is something that many couples wish they had. The thing is that you don't and neither does your spouse. At times you may ask yourself... Why doesn’t he/she know that? How many times should I have to tell him/her? He/she should know that by know. The truth is that your spouse doesn't have ESP and cannot read your mind. And yet you have been asking yourself, "What’s wrong with expecting my spouse to know what I want? What I need?" The issue is that when you exp...more

  • 318: YOUR MARRIAGE NEEDS YOU TO GROW UP

    Apr 05 2016

    Unless you are a teenager it’s time to grow up in your marriage. When you partake in behaviors that are typical of a teenager you are chipping away at the foundation of your marriage. A marriage that does not have transparency in all areas is a marriage with secrets. Those secrets will destroy the best of marriages. Not allowing YOUR spouse to see the real you can allow for questioning the true nature of your relationship. You may ask... "Does my spouse love me or do they just love the me I pret...more

  • 317: TEXTING IS NOT TALKING

    Mar 29 2016

    When a “big” or  “important” conversation is being dealt with via texting it is causing more heartache and less connection for married couples around the world. Avoiding the face to face conversation may seem easier and yet, the end result is that more often then not you are more disconnected. You're questioning your spouse more. You're more frustrated. You're not able to get the context or nuance of what is being said. Time Magazine reported in October 2013  a study in the Journal of Couple and...more

  • 316: NO KIDS ALLOWED

    Mar 22 2016

    Kids are amazing from those cute little baby faces to the amazing young adults they become. However, when the kids become more important than your marriage that’s when problems arise. Some of these may be: The kids are still sleeping with you. Everything revolves around the kids activities (to the point that the two of you can’t remember the last time you went out and it was just the two of you). You find yourself drifting apart and using the kids as your buffer zone, your distraction, and your ...more

  • 315: CLEANING UP AFTER SEX

    Mar 15 2016

    Have ever noticed that in movies you never see couples cleaning up after sex? Usually this romantic moment has no clean up afterwards. The couple cuddles together as they basks in the afterglow of an amazing sexual moment together. Seems odd... As long as we have been making love, cleaning up after sex has always been a part of the our sexual intimacy. Throughout your marriage cleaning up after sex can be impacted by your current form of birth control, are you trying to conceive a child, or even...more

  • 314: STOP HOPING, START DOING

    Mar 08 2016

    Lack of action, apathy, laziness are marriage killers.  In this life you have two options, you are either growing or you’re not. When you wish or hope for change without doing what you need to be doing that’s not growth. That’s being outwardly focused. That’s expecting others to do the changing why you sit back and wait. We've both done this in our marriage over the years. At some point in time you've been frustrated with your marriage. Be it emotionally, financially, sexually, and/or spirituall...more

  • 313: PACK THE BOXES, IT’S TIME TO MOVE ON

    Mar 01 2016

    Moving is truly one of those events that literally turns everything upside down. You go from being settled and knowing all of your routines to have everything boxed up (both before and after the move) and everything is different. This includes how the two of you act with one another as you prep, box your things, move in day, and afterwards. When it's time to move on for us we sort our things into 3 piles. Donate Get Rid Of (Trash) Take With You Let's look at your marriage from the perspective of...more

  • 312: WHAT YOUR HUSBAND IS THINKING BEFORE AND DURING SEX

    Feb 23 2016

    Have you ever wondered what your husband is thinking before and during sex? It may have crossed your mind from time to time or it's something you haven't even considered. Here's the thing though... Just like you and all you have going on he has thoughts that can hinder him from being fully present with you. We learned this first had as we were in the middle of completing our 8th 7 Days of Sex Challenge. By far one of the toughest we have done. One of the nights we began a conversation have sex t...more

  • 311: JEALOUSY (THE GREEN EYED MONSTER)

    Feb 16 2016

    Jealousy is destructive to both the one who is being jealous and the one who is receiving it. After 19 years of marriage we've experienced jealousy at different times and over different things. Jealousy  can take the form of: interrogations about where someone has been, what they have been doing or who they were with searching through your spouse's phone or through a computer questioning any time that your spouse happens to look at a member of the opposite sex rifling through their bags/suitcase...more

  • 310: VALENTINE’S DAY, MAKE IT MORE THAN JUST ONE DAY

    Feb 09 2016

    Do you remember your first Valentine’s Day together? I do, I was living in the Delta Gamma house at DePauw University and Tony was at the University of Colorado at Boulder. I had sent him a poem I had written and waited all day for my “Valentine”. I couldn’t wait to see what would come. Would Tony surprise me by showing up? Would he come with a ring and a proposal (I can’t even believe I thought that after only 6 months of dating he would, but hey I was dreaming.) Would he even remember? He did....more

  • 309: SEX IS NOT A DUTY IT’S A GIFT

    Feb 02 2016

    Sex is one of the biggest perks of being married and yet so often, relegated to an obligation instead of being the gift it truly should be. Have you ever said (or at least thought) any of the following in regard to sex in your marriage. It’s one more thing I have to do I’m so tired Don’t you ever get enough What about MY needs I could take it or leave it How does sex with your spouse get to this point? There is an anticipation to be sexually intimate at times, but more often than not it's not ev...more

  • 308: TWO BECOME ONE

    Jan 26 2016

    Two become one. You may have heard this when you stood before your pastor as you were about to say "I Do". Since you got married though you feel that the two of you are not united in your marriage. This is showing up in areas ranging from: handling finances dealing with family what’s going on with the kids your sex life having a conversation creating a safe environment, free of judgment or harsh words spending time together and the list goes on You did not get married to do marriage by yourself....more

  • 307: STRENGTH TRAINING YOUR MARRIAGE MUSCLES

    Jan 19 2016

    Strength training your marriage isn't just about you as an individual. It's about strength training your marriage so that you and your spouse create a healthy, vibrant and growing marriage. The first 11 years of our marriage. we didn’t do much strength training in our marriage. We read a few devotionals, we had done a few small groups at church for married couples, occasionally we went out on date night or got a weekend by ourselves but that was about it. The foundation of our marriage was awful...more

  • 306: A GOOD HUSBAND ISN’T SO HARD TO FIND

    Jan 12 2016

    Husbands get a bum rap in media, books, movies, tv--out of touch, unfeeling, sexed up, jerks. And yet your husband your husband is a good husband. You may look at yourself and even say that you are a good husband and one that doesn't even compare to how the media portrays you. Your're a husband who does dishes, change diapers, makes dinner and much more. A Husband who rubs your wife's feet, starts a bath plus you join in and sends love letters to your wife throughout the year. Is every husband l...more

  • 305: TWICE IN ONE DAY (MAKING LOVE THAT IS)

    Jan 05 2016

    Making love to your spouse is one of the most intimate times you two have together. It's a time when everything else falls away while you bask in each others arms. Now when you make love twice in one day that double the pleasure... Well is it? It sure is because it changes things up in your marriage and your sexual intimacy. This brings on a new and fresh perspective that you may have not seen. When you are making love multiple times in a day sexual intimacy becomes a priority as it puts the foc...more

  • 304: YOUR BEST YEAR EVER

    Dec 29 2015

    It’s that time of year when you are thinking about the New Year and what's ahead for your marriage. You've thought about what happened over this past year and what you want this next year to look like. During this time you may be taking a serious look at your marriage and how you can strengthen each of the six intimacies. Your are counting down to the New Year and wondering how you can make it your best year ever. Starting this year or a new season of your life without a plan means that you are ...more

  • 303: ARE YOU BEING PRESENT?

    Dec 22 2015

    The presents are wrapped and under the tree, the stockings are hung, the cookies are baked and you’re exhausted. As a couple you find yourselves rushing through life, rushing through your marriage and missing out on being present with your spouse. Here's the thing... There will always be stuff to do in every season of your marriage. There will always be distractions in your life. In our 19 years of marriage we can attest to this. What sets your marriage apart is how you make each other a priorit...more

  • 302: WHEN DRIFT BEGINS TO HAPPEN

    Dec 15 2015

    This time of year can be challenging for so many marriages. You are trying to hold it together for the family, for the kids, for the holidays and for yourself. Over the last weeks and months you have noticed that you and your spouse have begin to drift. You're living in survival mode, dealing with one thing after the next and yet you were designed to thrive. How did the drift begin in your marriage? For many of us we are TOO busy. There are his schedule, her schedule, the kids’ schedules, volunt...more

  • 301: THOSE COMPETING VOICES

    Dec 08 2015

    What you choose to listen to does and will impact the decisions that you make. You have voices that are marriage enriching, which foster your relationship and are strong when the two of you are making time for each other, sharing your lives with each other both emotionally and physically. Then there are those voices encouraging you to be selfish. They begin to get louder when there is a disconnect in your emotional, physical, spiritual and financial intimacies. It gets harder to listen to those ...more

  • 300: WE NEVER THOUGHT WE WOULD BE HERE

    Dec 01 2015

    "A journey of a thousand miles starts with a single step." —Laozi In your marriage there have been joyous times when you look around and think to yourself, " I never thought I would be here" and tough times when you never thought you would be here. Either way you are here right now. What you choose to do at this time will be instrumental in where you are heading in your marriage journey. What we have enjoyed doing over our 19 years of marriage is to celebrate and remember these times. They are a...more

  • 299: YOUR SEXUAL INTIMACY DURING THE HOLIDAYS

    Nov 24 2015

    Your to-do list is a mile long as the holidays and the end of the year approaches. You have meetings, parties, shopping, last minute errands, cleaning the house, end of the year reports, travel, kids out of school, and more that need to get done. There is so much to do and yet your sexual intimacy gets push aside for this "season", to another day, another week, or maybe you'll wait until next year. Yes you'll celebrate New Year’s together. Hugging, kissing and then starting the new year cuddled ...more

  • 298: TRULY THANKFUL

    Nov 17 2015

    The word thankful means, "feeling or expressing gratitude; appreciative." As a married couple you should take time each day, week, and month to share with your spouse how truly thankful you are for them. For how they have had a positive impact in your life. With the end of the year and the holidays upon you it is a perfect time to share with your spouse why you are truly thankful for them over the past year. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about expressing gratitude to your spouse about ...more

  • 297: DE-STESS THE HOLIDAYS

    Nov 10 2015

    Surprise. Christmas is coming AGAIN this year, in fact it comes every year. Can you believe it? —Said with a little sarcasm. However this is often the sentiment that couples experience when the holidays roll around, every December. Here are a few things that happens during this time of year... lots of activities, parties, concerts, school programs gift exchanges holiday shopping All of these take time and money. From new outfits, a gift to share at a work gift exchange or buying presents for the...more

  • 296: YOUR MARRIAGE MANUAL

    Nov 03 2015

    Many items that you purchase come with a manual. Your car, your crockpot, the computer, TV, kid's toys and even your mascara has instructions. And yet you and your spouse despite all in all of their complexity do not. You marry someone who is completely unique, who has all kinds of quirks, some of which won’t even come out until you’ve been married for quite awhile. We know because after 19 years of marriage we are still learning about some of them. :) How do you figure out and learn your spouse...more

  • 295: THE NO REJECTION ZONE

    Oct 27 2015

    Creating a no rejection zone in your marriage is vital to creating an environment where both you and your spouse trust one another. Rejection is incredibly destructive. It eats away at a person’s sense of worth, it creates doubt, it destroys the foundation of your marriage. For the first 11 years of our marriage rejection was as common as breathing air. Over the past eight years we have decided that our bedroom is a no rejection zone. In doing so there has been a shift in us and in our marriage....more

  • 294: YOU HAVE 168 HOURS EACH WEEK

    Oct 20 2015

    You’re busy. There is a lot going on in your life. When you’re dating or even newly married it seems like you have the ability to make the time for one another no matter what. You’ll rearrange your schedule. You’ll say no to other people or activities that would take you away from your love. And then over time... well other things start to fill up that time. The less time you spend engaged in your relationship the more disconnect there is. No matter if you have been married, 3 months or 30 years...more

  • 293: HOLD ON TIGHT

    Oct 13 2015

    On October 5th we celebrated our 19th wedding anniversary! For our anniversary day we choose to have a date day with a theme...we’ll share this date idea on an upcoming Periscope. Follow us there @oneextraordinary. One part of the date was to go to a local shooting range. It was one of those things that sounded like a good idea until we got there and started going over all of the safety features. There was one moment when Alisa almost said, "Nope, not gonna do it." Fear of the unknown almost sto...more

  • 292: IT’S BEEN TOO LONG SINCE WE’VE HAD SEX

    Oct 06 2015

    When you have said to yourself and/or to your spouse, "It's been too long since we've had sex", then it's time to sit down to figure out what is going on. The topic of sexless marriages is one a lot of people shy away from. Most of the time because if it is not talked about then the problem doesn't exist. Unfortunately, roughly 15% of marriage have not had sex with their spouse in the last six to twelve months, according to Denise A. Donnelly, associate professor of sociology at Georgia State Un...more

  • 291: THE MARRIED COUPLES GUIDE TO PMS

    Sep 29 2015

    Premenstrual syndrome (PMS) is not just about the emotional toll it has, but also the physical impact it has on women. There are many symptoms that can be experienced. Some of these are: feeling tired food cravings trouble with memory joint or muscle pain tension, irritability, mood swings or crying spells PMS can create feelings of disconnect during the month. Leading her to... An unwillingness to be touched. A short "fuse". Roller coaster of emotions. And for him... Not knowing what to do or s...more

  • 290: GROUNDHOG DAY

    Sep 22 2015

    Routine... while is seems easy and comforting at first really and truly leads to boredom. Boredom in your marriage leads to looking for other people or things to break that sense of routine. This boredom if not address can lead to emotional affairs, to physical affairs, to erotica and pornography, to excessive spending, to countless hours lost on social media and most importantly a loss of connection with your spouse. For you this feels like Groundhog Day. The same thing is happening day in and ...more

  • 289: WALK AROUND NAKED AT HOME

    Sep 15 2015

    This show came out of a conversation we had as Tony walked from the master bathroom into our bedroom... naked. It occurred to us that those couples who walk around naked are couples who are vulnerable and comfortable with each other. We realized through this conversation that walking around naked in our own marriage has taken many different forms over the years. There have been different times in our lives when we would walk around naked and other times when we would not. These include: Newlywed...more

  • 288: DISCOVERING YOUR TRUE VALUES

    Sep 08 2015

    People are lost. Marriages are lost. Families are lost. We have become a society, that for the most part, doesn’t plan who or what we stand for. Do you know what your marriage stands for? Every couple and family has their own unique set of characteristics. Whether it's something that they have sat down and consciously decided on OR it's something that they have just "fallen" into. This is their identity. Sometimes those things that you are known for, aren't necessarily positive... that family is...more

  • 287: THE IMPACT OF TONE AND TIMING

    Sep 01 2015

    When you first meet your spouse you were most likely on your best behavior at all times. You would watch out for what you would say and how you would say it. Over time, as you became more familiar with each other that “best behavior started to slide”. You got more comfortable with the fact that your future spouse would be sticking around. As time passed you took the relationship for granted and AS A RESULT you would say things however you wanted, whenever the mood strikes. Unfortunately, this ca...more

  • 286: SEX IS A PART OF MARRIAGE

    Aug 25 2015

    In your marriage there are six forms of intimacy that build your foundation. Each are vital to a successful marriage, a marriage based on safety and trust. And, sexual intimacy is one of them. When your needs or those of your spouse are not being met a few things start to happen… You wonder why you are married in the first place and start thinking about getting out. You begin to get resentful and withdraw from the marriage. You don’t see the harm in look toward other things to fulfill you (porno...more

  • 285: WORDS OF ENCOURAGEMENT

    Aug 18 2015

    There are a lot of distractions in the world… electronics, social media, daily tasks, other people, etc. Because of these distractions it’s easy to lose sight of the gift that you have right in front of your face. The gift of your spouse that God has given to you. You and your spouse spoke a covenant to each other to be together “as long as life shall last.” And yet time goes by and what you once did you no longer do anymore. Saying words of encouragement and complimenting your spouse is vital f...more

  • 284: COCONUT OIL, VIBRATOR AND THE GAME OF LOVE

    Aug 11 2015

    You desire to be sexually intimacy with your spouse and at the same time add some adventure and variety in your bedroom. Where do you start? What do you need? We struggled with this for years in our own marriage. You know how it goes, you do the same things over and over and it can be tough to jump out and try something new. To be honest we tried many ways to do this and have experienced many misses along the way. We weren't going to be stopped though. We desired to make our bedroom a sanctuary,...more

  • 283: THE HAPPINESS MYTH

    Aug 04 2015

    Everyday there are conversations going on about marriage where someone says... My spouse doesn’t make me happy. I’m not happy in this marriage. Why isn’t my happiness important? The issue many marriages face right now is that of the ME focus. It is common place that there is an expectation that everyone and everything exist for your happiness. This is especially prevalent in the marriage relationship. A shift needs to happen in you for your marriage to thrive. As an individual and part of a marr...more

  • 282: LOOK UP

    Jul 28 2015

    Are you living in your own little bubble with your head down, focused only on yourself, your needs, your wants... And yet your spouse may be there wondering if you even know what’s happening to them, what’s going on at work or at home, or how a recent event has impacted them. You haven't taken time to look up recently and in doing so you've forgotten that you are in a marriage with another person. Your community is being impacted. You have stopped seeing the needs of others are are ONLY focused ...more

  • 281: CAN’T DO ANYTHING RIGHT

    Jul 21 2015

    Defeated. Worn out. Frustrated. Any of these and many more emotions can get you to a place where you have told yourself that you can't do anything right. Nope. Nothing. This is a lie and four words that will bankrupt you and your marriage. Before you say these words to yourself make sure you use the "3 P's". Pause. Pray. Proceed. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about getting past a place of disconnection especially when you say, "I can’t do anything right" to yourself and to your spouse....more

  • 280: THESE WILL FAN THE FLAMES OF YOUR SEXUAL INTIMACY

    Jul 14 2015

    Have you lost the spark, emotional, physical, or sexual, in your marriage? Has the fire you once had burning strong is now a flicker and dimming more and more with every day that passes? If the fire isn’t as hot as you would like it’s time to fan the flames and get it going again. For a fire to burn you need to fan the flames with oxygen, heat and fuel. It's time for you to pour each of these into your marriage and if one of these is missing you will have a difficult time trying to fan the flame...more

  • 279: LIVE THIS DECADE WITH PURPOSE

    Jul 07 2015

    According to a 2014 article in The Economist, the average length of marriage in the USA is 8 years. When you factor in that many couples will wait 2-3 years after marriage to have kids you can see that there is a need to better understand the years and decade after having kids. The math from above if it plays out means that many divorces are happening midway through having kids introduced to the marriage. So... ...if this is the case then you need to be equipped and ready for the decade that fol...more

  • 278: THE SECRET VALUE OF THE QUICKIE

    Jun 30 2015

    The quickie can be an amazing sexual experience in your marriage if you know the secret to enjoying it together. In our own marriage, our sex life can be a bit off during the summer months. Different schedules, kids are home, vacations, and just hanging out. This change in seasons can be challenging if you and your spouse don’t discuss what is happening. When expectations are kept to yourself it sets the two of you up for frustration and failure. Not something either of you want. In this week's ...more

  • 277: DRUG OF CHOICE

    Jun 23 2015

    When you find yourself spending more and more time or being more and more distracted there is something going on. Maybe society wouldn’t call it a drug of choice. Maybe you even joke about “having a little problem”. The truth is that these choices can take you away from your spouse and pull you out of your marriage. You are “busy” and there are many demands on your time and yet you have a choice. Every relationship has it’s issues and there will be times and seasons where you will have to go thr...more

  • 276: MONEY IN THE BANK

    Jun 16 2015

    Financial stress is an intimacy killer. Plain and simple. It can keep you up at night and it keeps you worrying during the day. It’s hard to let down your guard when you are worried about paying the bills or having food on the table. The fear keeps you and your spouse from living the life, the marriage you were meant to have. Today it's time to make the decision that you are going to tell your money what to do. You are going to live an extraordinary life and it’s starts with making a change to t...more

  • 275: COMMUNICATION DOESN’T END WITH FOREPLAY

    Jun 09 2015

    It starts with the sweet talk. Then it leads to both of you romancing each other all through the day. And then other times you just want a quickie. In all truth there is some form of communication going on between the two of you to get to the point that you are deciding to have sex. Foreplay starts (however short or long) and then it stops... Once you're past that point all there is between the two of you are a few moans or groans and the sigh of "is this over yet". The thing is that communicati...more

  • 274: IT’S TIME TO TAKE THE LEAD

    Jun 02 2015

    There may have been seasons in your marriage when neither one of you stood up to lead the family. You, your spouse and your marriage were like a boat with no rudder, just going around and around in circles trying to get somewhere but going nowhere. The definition of insanity is, doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result. If you aren't sure when, why or how to lead your marriage then it's time to begin learning. Your marriage needs leadership. You both have different ski...more

  • 273: TIME FOR AN OIL CHANGE

    May 26 2015

    You spend time, effort and energy in maintaining your stuff and yet, you are not giving your marriage that same courtesy. Your expectations for your marriage is so much more. The problem is that you are not giving it the tools that you and your spouse need to be successful. In your life you may see the doctor once a year, go to the dentist for regular cleanings and get the oil changed on your vehicles every 3-5,000 miles. And then there’s your marriage... When was the last time you did some main...more

  • 272: WALKING IN THE DOOR

    May 19 2015

    Throughout the day you are transitioning from waking up, heading to work, coming home, going to bed to doing it all over again. The heading out times always seem to be easier, except for you parents of little ones that are leaving for the first time and there is crying to no end. Walking in the door time can be a "witching hour" for you. Whether you’ve been away for a few hours, or a few months or even just locked in your office during the day. Transitioning from your work day and walking in the...more

  • 271: RUNNING BELOW EMPTY

    May 12 2015

    The idea of running below empty is nothing new. What is new is how running below empty is impacting marriages. Possible even having a negative affect on you right now. When you are below empty what suffers the most is not your job or your obligations to others... ...instead what often suffers are your personal relationships. Specifically the one with your spouse. In this week's show Tony & Alisa talk about when you are running below empty and the impact that doing too much has on your marria...more

  • 270: A TRENCHCOAT AND HIGH HEELS

    May 05 2015

    It can be hard to step out of your comfort zone, to try something new, to be adventurous. This can be as simple as changing your hair color (Alisa went RED once), to eating at a new restaurant, to wearing new clothes, shoes, or trying a different wardrobe style, to experimenting with a new position sexually or even GASP a new way to initiate. Your mind might be racing with questions, such as: How will I be received? What will he or she think of me? Will I be able to pull this off? What if it doe...more

  • 269: ABSENCE DOESN’T MAKE THE HEART GROW FONDER

    Apr 28 2015

    Distance in your marriage can be tough. This can happen in your home or it could be when you and your spouse are miles apart. This can be for work, family illness, deployment, moving to a new city, or any other reason. As much as the old saying goes, distance makes the heart grow fonder, this usually isn't the case. Distance can cause heartache, anxiety, frustration and loneliness. In this week's show Tony & Alisa talk about ways that you can strengthen your marriage no matter if you're toge...more

  • 268: WHY ARE YOU ACTING LIKE THIS?

    Apr 21 2015

    You've decided that it's time. It's time to change because what's been happening isn't what you want to continue doing. You've decided to make some changes. Well... ...your spouse has just noticed that something is up and is asking, "Why are you acting like this?" You know why and yet it's a bit difficult to explain to your spouse. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about what happens in your marriage dynamic when you start to work on yourself and your spouse starts wondering why you are ac...more

  • 267: BE PREPARED

    Apr 14 2015

    Preparation is one of the biggest gifts that you and your spouse can give to each other and your family. And yet it’s hard to think about our own mortality. People often say that it’s the teenagers that think that they are invincible but in reality most of you think you have all the time in the world. Be prepared. When you have a document, Our Family Emergency List, you are setting yourself and your family up for a smoother transition. Not having this type of information prepared and easily acce...more

  • 266: TAKE HOPE FROM A FANTASY TO A FORCE IN YOUR LIFE

    Apr 07 2015

    Hope is in short supply in our world. From news reports talking about all of the ugliness to televisions shows that are completed scripted to bring you down. Here at ONE Extraordinary Marriage it has been our goal to bring you hope each and every week. Sharing with you how your marriage can not only survive but thrive after challenges as well as for the long haul. Every hug is a story of hope, every picture on the love you guys wall of fame, ALMOST every review on iTunes (there are a few that ju...more

  • 265: RUN THE RACE

    Mar 31 2015

    Sprinters are amazing at short bursts of energy for a short period of time. However, if your vows were anything like ours they had something like “as long as life shall last” (until death do us part, forever, etc). That is not a short period of time, that’s not until the next commercial break, or until this gets too hard. Marathoners or distance runners know that they have to pace themselves. They're in it to run the race. For them to complete it they need know that... Nutrition matters Supporte...more

  • 264: MARRIAGE THROUGH YOUR SPOUSE’S EYES

    Mar 24 2015

    Looking at the world, especially your marriage, from only your point of view is short sighted. By doing this... you are only taking your feelings, wants and desires into account. Over time this lack of perspective can lead to little consideration from the perspective of your spouse. What they may be going through, how the world looks to them, what they are struggling with. It's time to have some introspection time about being able to see what your marriage looks like from your spouse's eyes. Her...more

  • 263: LESSONS LEARNED FROM HAVING SEX (A LOT)

    Mar 17 2015

    Having sex is a beautiful experience that you and your spouse get to enjoy together. Unfortunately, there are times when having sex goes by the way side. It's at this moment when you realize that it's time to change it up. The 7 Days of Sex Challenge is just the way to have a new experience and learn about yourself and your marriage. Here's a few things you can expect to learn during a challenge: It’s a way to put each other first, even for us there can be times where we take each other for gran...more

  • 262: SAVE MY MARRIAGE

    Mar 10 2015

    Your marriage isn't going the way that you expected when you said "I do" to your spouse. Actually... Your spouse has expressed that it's time for the two of you to either separate for a time or get a divorce. You need to know that you are not alone. We know this doesn't make things better and yet we get many emails each and every day from couples who are where you are. In all honesty our society, as a whole does not set you up for success. Most people come into marriage with no real idea on how ...more

  • 261: BEFORE AND AFTER SEX

    Mar 03 2015

    The time is right and you are ready to make love to your spouse. You've been romancing each other and it's your time to initiate sex. There are certain rituals that you both may have before you make love. These may include, but not limited to... Dimmed lights Light candles or turn them on Warm the bed (turn on electric blanket) Turn up the heat Turn on the sound machine Take a shower Essential oil diffuser On the other had what you do afterwards also plays a part in your sexual intimacy. You may...more

  • 260: WHERE ARE YOUR PRIORITIES

    Feb 24 2015

    When you first met your spouse there was this time when each of you were each others priority. You made sure that you spent time together and if something got in the way you'd reschedule that obligation. As time has past the priorities of life have now take over. Instead of making sure you and your spouse have time together it's everything else that takes priority. Is this the way you want to live your life and marriage? We don't think so because you are listening to this show. It's time to take...more

  • 259: BACK TO BASICS

    Feb 17 2015

    There’s a reason that things are so good at the beginning of a relationship... Both you and your partner are putting forth effort into making the relationship work, into learning all about each other, and being on your best behavior. Then comes the ring, the wedding and life: kids, bills, obligations and the two of you... well you get relegated to the back burner. All those little things that were so important in the beginning don’t seem so important as the two of you have the stability and comm...more

  • 258: THE TRUTH SHALL SET YOU FREE

    Feb 10 2015

    To tell the truth or not to tell the truth? That is something you may ask yourself when talking to your spouse. It's something that seems so minimal and yet it can have a huge impact on your marriage foundation. There are topics that are not always easy to bring up to your spouse. Topics that can make you feel uncomfortable or “fudging” things a little bit. The reality is that you aren’t “fudging” things you are destroying your foundation. When you and your spouse are able to tell the truth and ...more

  • 257: EROTICA… MY DIRTY LITTLE SECRET

    Feb 03 2015

    the book 50 Shades of Grey has become the most successful erotica book ever to be written. It's a #1 Best Seller with over 100 million copies sold. In it's path it has left many who have read it yearning for more in their marriage. The problem is that you feel let down and unsatisfied with what you have. Erotica, the written form of pornography, impacts you as much as someone who is viewing naked pictures on the internet. The hold erotica has on you, your mind and how you view your spouse are as...more

  • 256: SEX WHEN THE KIDS ARE HOME

    Jan 27 2015

    When you choose to only have sex when your kids are away or when everyone is, can be limiting in terms of when the two of you can be sexually intimacy. Giving yourself permission to have sex when the kids are home can be liberating. Your kids are not going to die if they find out that their parents have sex. In fact, they might just feel a bit more secure about their family knowing that their parents are choosing to be sexually intimate. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about what you can...more

  • 255: DELAYED EJACULATION

    Jan 20 2015

    Delayed ejaculation is a condition in which it takes an extended period of sexual stimulation for a man to reach sexual climax and release semen from the penis. There are times when a man will not achieve climax as well. There are three causes to why you may be experiencing delayed ejaculation during sexual intercourse. These include physical, psychological or medicinal. In this week's show Tony & Alisa talk about delayed ejaculation and the physical as well as the emotional ramifications th...more

  • 254: PREMATURE EJACULATION

    Jan 13 2015

    Premature ejaculation occurs when a man ejaculates sooner during sexual intercourse than he or his partner would like. It's a time when you can feel embarrassed and/or lacking as a man. The ability to extend sexual pleasure is directly related to your manhood and premature ejaculation doesn't make you feel this way. The moment after this happens is a critical time between you and your spouse. What the two of you do, how you react, and where you go from here are all important as you process the s...more

  • 253: GOOD TO GREAT

    Jan 06 2015

    There are many things competing for your time, attention and energy and yet you want to have the best marriage you can possible have. Being over committed, busy and overwhelmed is not healthy for you or your marriage. When you have too many things to do or too many things vying for your attention (no matter how good they are) you tend to place less of a priority on your relationships. They are good for the most part, but you want a great marriage! In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about wh...more

  • 252: MORE THAN JUST AN ORGASM

    Dec 30 2014

    An orgasm can enhance your sexual experience for yourself and your spouse. However, an orgasm shouldn’t be the ultimate goal of every sexual encounter. The experience of being together, of sharing that time and space in your marriage bed, that is the ultimate goal of your sexual intimacy. Your sexual encounters are about bringing the two of you together in a way that is only for you two. When it’s not all about achieving an orgasm you can find yourself with mind blowing sex. In this week's show ...more

  • 251: TRUST ME

    Dec 23 2014

    Many marriages have experienced broken trust in some form or another. Everything from little white lies, financial wounds, infidelity and addiction impact the trust you have with your spouse. Hiding the truth and not owning up to your actions prevents trust from being experienced between the two of you. After many times of this happening it's difficult for your spouse to believe you when you say, "Trust me". It's natural to want to paint yourself in a pretty picture or to fudge what really happe...more

  • 250: UNDER THE SHEETS AND NAKED

    Dec 16 2014

    When you get under the sheets and sleep naked with your spouse there are a number of benefits that both of you will experience. There are three ways you will benefit from getting under the sheets and sleeping naked. You will experience health benefits (think hormones), better sleep as well as both physical and sexual benefits. Take on the challenge of sleeping naked and experience the connection you'll have with your spouse. In this week's show Tony & Alisa talk about the benefits of sleepin...more

  • 249: SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE

    Dec 09 2014

    We had sex before marriage. Probably like you or someone you know. It's really between a couple and yet there seems to be someone always pointing a finger at you for doing so. You cannot change what you did prior to getting married and yet you can learn from the past to better your current situation. Having sex before marriage can impact you and your spouse or maybe it hasn't. Either way there are lessons learned. In this week's show Tony & Alisa talk about why sex before marriage can leave ...more

  • 248: FOOD COMA

    Dec 02 2014

    You've been there before... whether after a large Thanksgiving meal or a meal where you ate too much and need to take a long rest after. It’s that time when the food coma sets in. That period of time when you check out and don’t do anything. When you have pushed yourself past the point of no return. Where you can’t really do anything because your resources are depleted. Food coma is one thing and yet similar to it is a marriage coma. Unlike a food coma where you knowingly eat more than you shoul...more

  • 247: THANKFUL FOR YOU

    Nov 25 2014

    Being thankful for your spouse and your marriage is something that you may or may not think about often. Each year we love to share what we are thankful for in our marriage and lives. It's a way for you to listen in, get ideas and then do this with your spouse. Really this should be done monthly and yet if not this is a great time to start. Share why you are thankful for your spouse. Grab a notepad and write down the reason. Share them face-to-face, on a note, or text one reason a day until you ...more

  • 246: THE FIRST TIMES: SEX IN DIFFERENT SITUATIONS

    Nov 18 2014

    The different situations you will have sex for the "first times" as a married couple are important to acknowledge. The truth is that there are many firsts over the years as you may not have even recognized them. Each first is a time to connect with your spouse sexually at a new level. These times can deepen your desire for one another as you begin to fully enjoy your sexual experiences. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about the "first times" you have sex in different situations that you ...more

  • 245: CREATE A FINANCIAL PEACE MARRIAGE

    Nov 11 2014

    As a married couple the way you choose to combine your finances is going to play out in your relationship. How it is combined (or not), how it is spent, how it is saved, as well as other factors impacts the two of you. Finances do not and cannot exist in a vacuum in your marriage. This is an area of your marriage where the two of you need to become one so you can experience financial peace. This is one intimacy that should not be avoided, rather it is an area that you and your spouse need to be ...more

  • 244: INTENTIONAL INTERRUPTION

    Nov 04 2014

    In the hustle and bustle of the holiday season it is so easy to lose sight of one another. Between holiday parties, buying gifts and making sure everything gets done you often find yourself putting your spouse at the bottom of the to-do list without even realizing that it has happened. Unfortunately, every day that goes by without connection, without investing in your relationship can make it harder on both of you to reconnect. On your wedding day when you both said, "I Do", you didn’t say those...more

  • 243: STOP STUFFING IT DOWN

    Oct 28 2014

    When tears are withheld and emotions are stuffed down inside of you this is a recipe for disaster over time. Stuffing it down again and again lead to frustrated people. Frustrated people lead to angry conversations and than more hurt. As a society and more specifically as married couples you need to make your marriage a safe places to cry. A place where you can release your emotions to be real with our spouses. It’s time to STOP living the lie that stuffing it down is the way to go. In this week...more

  • 242: LET’S TOUCH EACH OTHER

    Oct 21 2014

    There are many benefits to touch that have been studied over the years. They range from increased levels of oxytocin to lower blood pressure as well as an increase in overall connection. Physical touch that doesn't lead to sex is important. It's something that you should be doing in your marriage for your benefit and that of your spouse's. Three ways you can have non-sexual touch are when you hug, cuddle or even sleep naked with you spouse. In this week's show Tony & Alisa talk about making ...more

  • 241: THIS WOMAN’S HEATH (MAMMOGRAM, ULTRASOUND & STERILIZATION)

    Oct 14 2014

    Woman's health may have an impact on your marriage when the time comes for a mammogram, ultrasound or when sterilization is brought up. These are just a few of the health procedures your spouse can have. The emotional toll these may take can lead you both feeling drained and on an emotional roller coaster. Through effective communication you can get through these woman's health issues together. In this week's show Tony & Alisa talk about the challenges of this woman's health and how you can ...more

  • 240: BRING YOUR GOOD TIMES AND YOUR LAUGHTER TOO

    Oct 07 2014

    Whether you are celebrating your first wedding anniversary or your fortieth, this is a time to celebrate the good times you've had together. It's a time to look back over the past year and then look forward to what's ahead. Make it a day where you celebrate one another and your marriage. In this week's show Tony & Alisa talk about celebrating those good times on that annual milestone in your marriage, your wedding anniversary. He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path "Love ...more

  • 239: IT’S NOT A PROBLEM, PORNOGRAPHY IS AN ADDICTION

    Sep 30 2014

    Pornography is becoming the drug of choice for many individuals. It's easy to conceal, doesn't cost as much as alcohol or drugs, but gives them the same euphoric high that they enjoy. Unfortunately, pornography in marriage is destroying the sexual intimacy that you desire. The sex is not what it used to be, your spouse has become withdrawn, or you may not be getting straight answers from your spouse. These are just a few indications that pornography has permeated your life or of someone you love...more

  • 238: COMMON COURTESY

    Sep 23 2014

    Common courtesy is something that you know you should extend to your spouse and yet it's not happening. It may be because you allow your spouse's actions to dictate if you will be courteous or not. The thing is that true common courtesy should not be a reaction but instead a heart attitude. This means that you say "please" and "thank you", you call to let your spouse know that you are running late, and even ask what can you can do for your spouse. In this week's show Tony & Alisa talk about ...more

  • 237: PUTTING THE KIDS FIRST

    Sep 16 2014

    Your job as a parent is to have your children for a season in your house. While they are there you must equip them with the tools that they need to leave your house and live on their own. Being your child's savior, rescuing them and providing for all of their needs and wants impacts three generations. These three generations could be impacted for the positive or for the negative. You get to decide. In this week’s show Tony & Alisa talk about the impact of continuously putting your kids ahead...more

  • 236: LOVE IS GREATER THAN FEAR

    Sep 09 2014

    Fear or worry can stop you in your tracks when it comes to moving forward in your marriage. Events in the past, words spoken or unspoken, or what may happen leave you feeling helpless. Fortunately for you love is great than fear. The love you have for your spouse can overcome the fear that is holding you back. It's time to push past the fear. In this week's show Tony & Alisa talk about the impact fear has on your marriage and your intimacy. EPISODE SPONSOR Melt: Massage for Couples will teac...more

  • 235: SPEAK UP…VOCALIZE YOUR SATISFACTION

    Sep 02 2014

    You and/or your spouse may struggle with how to be vocal and speak up during sex. There isn't a one-size fits all, but there are a few different ways that you can speak up. Vocalization during sex is one way to encourage your spouse during sex. Both of you share in the enjoyment and excitement. Incorporate any of these and you will transform your sex life as it brings another form of communication to your marriage. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about the different ways you can speak up...more

  • 234: MARRIAGE BONK

    Aug 26 2014

    There will come a time when you will come to a point in your life when you feel depleted, whether it is because of circumstances at home, at work, with family or health. At some point you are going to run out of steam and hit the wall. Your marriage is great when all is running smooth and yet it is what you do in those times when you bonk. You will either push through and let your ego take over, you may freeze up to ask your spouse for help, or when help is offered you'll accept it so you can he...more

  • 233: ADVICE GIVEN IN LOVE

    Aug 19 2014

    When your spouse gives you advice that is unsolicited you may become defensive toward them. It's times like these that you need to check yourself and understand where they are coming from. Advice that is given in love without complaining or grumbling could very well be one of the most important things you can do. When you do this you show your spouse that you value them for seeing something you may not have seen. In this week's show Tony & Alisa talk about listening and taking advice given i...more

  • 232: YOUR PERSONALITY TYPE AND SEX

    Aug 12 2014

    You are uniquely made as there is no one else on this earth that is like you. Even though this is true, you have a personality type that can be learned to better understand yourself and your spouse. The Ennegram with it's nine personality types is a tool that should be used by you so that you can grow in your life and marriage. In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk about how personality types impact perception when it comes to the high desire spouse and low desire spouse. Wisdom of the Ennegra...more

  • 231: IS IT MY DAYS OR YOUR DAYS TO INITIATE

    Aug 05 2014

    The Intimacy Lifestyle at it's core is about being able to set specific days that you initiate sex and the days your spouse will initiate sex each week. It's also a fantastic way for the both of you to not put off sex to another time, but to make it a priority in your marriage. By having days where both of you initiate sex it ultimately brings you closer together. There will be times though when both of you or one of you is not tracking. We can totally relate because we have been there. In this ...more

  • 230: VULNERABILITY WHEN TRYING NEW SEXUAL POSITIONS

    Jul 29 2014

    In your marriage the vulnerability you experience sexually with your spouse can be a challenge. Trying any position outside of the missionary position feels uncomfortable. For you it may be that the missionary position is efficient. Your spouse does this, you do that and wham bam it’s all done. You’re on your way and the next thing on your to-do list. Or maybe it’s routine. No need to think outside the box and complicate things. Your go-to position works so why rock the boat and change things up...more

  • 229: WHEN FACETIME MATTERS

    Jul 22 2014

    There are many ways that you can connect with your spouse. The way that you do this depends on where you are and the time you have scheduled for each other. You may even FaceTime your spouse if you are traveling or away from each other. FaceTime is important in many ways as you get to experience more than just their tone of voice. The same goes for us here as our main way of connecting with you is through emails, phone calls or voice mail. In this week's show Tony & Alisa share why the FaceT...more

  • 228: STRESS AND YOUR LIBIDO

    Jul 15 2014

    Low libido due to stress can be frustrating to you and your spouse over time. You want to have a libido that is ready to go and yet the stress you endure has impacted you. This may be a phase or it may be going more prevalent due to work demands, family or other issues that you face. Stress has a direct impact on you libido because there is an increase in hormones such as cortisol and epinephrine (adrenaline). The increase of these in your body can also interfere with the hormones involved in yo...more

  • 227: BACK AGAINST THE WALL

    Jul 08 2014

    The words you never thought you'd hear in your marriage, "I want a divorce", have been uttered by your spouse. They hit you as if you slammed into a brick wall and at that moment you're back against the wall. Your mind is flooded with all the reasons why this is happening to you right now. As you get your wits together you begin to recall all the times you've been asked to make a change. In this week's show Tony & Alisa share why you need to DO SOMETHING when you're back against the wall. It...more

  • 226: (WO) MAN IN THE MIRROR

    Jul 01 2014

    You are constantly sending your spouse facial expressions. When things are going well you give a smile, bat those loving eyes, as well as radiate joy. When things aren’t going as well those facial expressions are not positive. From grunts, to the raised eyebrow, the looks of frustration and irritation. You send out these messages expecting that your spouse will make a change. Unfortunately, sending out those messages OVER and OVER and OVER again doesn't have the desired effect you expected. In t...more

  • 225: WHEN KIDS TAKE PRIORITY IN YOUR MARRIAGE

    Jun 24 2014

    When your marriage is pushed to the bottom of your priority list you can sense a disconnect with your spouse. Our priorities have been messed up in our marriage as well. Kids are one of the biggest reasons that your marriage has a lack of priority. How do the two of you expect to grow your marriage and your relationship if you don't put yourselves at the top. In this week's show Tony & Alisa talk about what your priorities are when it comes to who should be at the top of the list in your lif...more

  • 224: IMPROVE YOUR PHYSICAL INTIMACY

    Jun 17 2014

    Summertime is here, the kids are out of school, and learning is the last thing on their mind. Unfortunately many of you have taken the same attitude in your marriage. School has been out for awhile now. You know what you know about your spouse and you don’t need to learn anything more. We can relate this to the high school senior that has stopped studying after receiving their college acceptance letter. No need to work hard now that the prize has been obtained. When it comes to your physical int...more

  • 223: SUMMER DAZE (SEX WHEN THE KIDS ARE HOME)

    Jun 10 2014

    Summer is a time when your sexual intimacy can take a back seat. There is no down time for you and your spouse with the kids home. The thought of having sex during the summer is the last thing you even think about. We’ve been there! The awkward moment when you hear the footsteps in the hallway. A knock on the door at an inopportune time. Or you're having a fantastic love making session and the kids hear you. Oh, sex during the summer has it's own challenges. In this week's show Tony and Alisa sh...more

  • 222: THE CHOICES YOU MAKE EVERY DAY

    Jun 03 2014

    When you participate in activities that are going to impact you, your spouse and your marriage these are not good choices. These choices don't foster trust, nor do these choices bring the two of you together. In fact it’s just the opposite. Knowing what to do so you don't make these choices is half the battle. It's the actions you take daily that allow for growth in you and your marriage. In this week's show Tony and Alisa share how the choices you make can be detrimental for you and your marria...more

  • 221: IT’S NOT ABOUT THE NUMBER

    May 27 2014

    How many times have you had a conversation with someone about their marriage and heard, “Well, we’ve been married (insert number of years) years", as if that’s all their marriage is about. The longevity of their relationship means so much more instead of the quality of their relationship. We've been there too. When it comes down to it you can be married 6 months or 50 years and yet it's about the quality of that time together that matters. In this week's show Tony & Alisa share that it's mor...more

  • 220: FOREPLAY PLEASE

    May 20 2014

    Foreplay is an opportunity for the two of you to mentally and physically get in the same place before intercourse. It's a time when you are brought into the present with your spouse as you enjoy one another without the distractions of your daily lives. During foreplay the two of you have time to love on each other in anticipation of what is coming up. And yes, both MEN and WOMEN need and desire foreplay. This week Tony & Alisa share why it is important for you to explore what foreplay looks ...more

  • 219: I LOVE YOU, BUT I’M NOT IN LOVE WITH YOU

    May 12 2014

    These nine words, "I Love You, But I'm Not In Love With You", when said in your marriage are a sucker punch to the stomach. They convey that you or your spouse are no longer willing to put forth any effort into the relationship. "In love" is really about the idea of being in love with the ideal spouse. Loving your spouse is love on a whole other level, it’s knowing what they look like when they don’t have any makeup on or when they have had a rough day at work. It’s honoring the vows that you to...more

  • 218: IT’S NOT ALL GOOD OR ALL BAD

    May 06 2014

    In your every day life you see the world and all that is around you in shades of grey. On the other hand you look at your marriage and there is only black and white, it's either all good or all bad. Your perception is that if your marriage isn't in one of these extremes then there is something wrong. Well, that place in the middle is where you want to be. This week Tony & Alisa share why it is important to live your marriage in the middle instead of living as if it is all good or all bad. Su...more

  • 217: I WISH I WOULD HAVE KNOWN

    Apr 29 2014

    When you get engaged and become newlyweds you get lots of advice from family and friends. They want you to start your marriage out on the right foot and yet the advice usually given is the same ole thing. After hearing, "don't sweat the little things", "hold hands all the time" and "be there for one another", for the hundredth time you want more. You're an engaged couple or married now and you know that marriage isn't going to be as easy as this. This week Tony & Alisa share the things they ...more

  • 216: UGHH! INTERRUPTED AGAIN

    Apr 22 2014

    At some point in time you have been interrupted while trying to have sex with your spouse. It’s not always the kids that interrupt you, but maybe a phone call, an alert on the phone or a knock at the front door. When interrupted there is a break in the connection you are experiencing with your spouse. It's the "Ughh! Interrupted Again" moment. What do you need to do to get back to being intimate after you've been interrupted. In this week's show Tony & Alisa share a recent time when they wer...more

  • 215: SEPARATE BEDS

    Apr 15 2014

    When you leave your marriage bed and begin to sleep in separate beds it can be the beginning to the end to your physical as well as emotional intimacy. Separate beds lead to separate lives and an up hill fight to keep your marriage together. What is it that has happened to you and your spouse that you would sleep outside of your marriage bed? Both of you need to take time and look back at why you even started down this path. This week Tony & Alisa share why it is important to face your probl...more

  • 214: STRANGER DANGER

    Apr 08 2014

    If you allow you marriage to be stagnant for any amount of time you become distant from your spouse. This leads to a disconnect between the two of you and ultimately you become strangers. Be aware of the signs of stranger danger. It's a point where you or both of you are no longer able to recognize the person you married. You can reconnect again! This week Tony & Alisa share how you can put protections into your marriage so that you will not have to worry about stranger danger. Flame Fest Ch...more

  • 213: SEX IS NOT A COMPLETE BAROMETER OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP

    Apr 01 2014

    When your sex life has simple become a physical act that you and your spouse are doing it's time to evaluate what's going on. The quantity of sex you have each week or month is not a complete barometer of your relationship. Sexual intimacy is only one of the six forms of intimacy that the two of you should focus on to build a strong marriage. These six intimacies are vital to a marriage based on transparency, honesty & trust. This week Tony & Alisa share why you should make sure to not o...more

  • 212: I WANT SPONTANEOUS SEX

    Mar 25 2014

    You want spontaneous sex and you want it often and yet do you even know what spontaneous means? Dictionary.com says that spontaneous is: coming or resulting from a natural impulse or tendency; without effort or premeditation; natural and unconstrained; unplanned. How often is this happening in your life? Expecting to have spontaneous sex seems a bit unrealistic as you have many activities in your day-to-day that are planned. What we have come to realize is that you are not looking for spontaneou...more

  • 211: GET YOUR SEXY BACK

    Mar 18 2014

    Recreational intimacy is being active together. Finding activities you both like to do and do them with each other. Take a walk, hike a mountain, go surf...whatever it is do something with your spouse that will bring the two of you together. When you spend time together you get your sexy back as you see each other excel and have a great time. Fitness doesn't have to be complicated. Get up and move your body. This week Tony & Alisa share how they make fitness and health part of their everyday...more

  • 210: PRAYING OR PROCRASTINATING

    Mar 11 2014

    You've been praying for healing, peace, forgiveness and change in your marriage for a long time. There are times when you wonder if God hears you or if He even cares about your marriage. It's easy to pray and then procrastinate. You've prayed and yet it is what you do afterwards that can have a profound impact on your life and marriage. This week Tony & Alisa share the what it looks like to pray and procrastinate. You'll also learn why it is important to take action and move when you are pra...more

  • 209: YOU SAID VS I HEARD

    Mar 04 2014

    Words that you hear and then say back to your spouse can have a serious impact on the issue you are discussing in your marriage. The walls go up, the conversation stops and then the aftermath occurs. Your perception and the filters you have about what your spouse is going to say can lead to ineffective behavior and communication. There are two words that can change the entire conversation. These two words are: I HEARD (fill in the blank). This week Tony & Alisa dive into why it is important ...more

  • 208: FERTILITY AWARENESS METHOD (NATURAL FAMILY PLANNING)

    Feb 25 2014

    Conceiving a child or not to conceive a child is something many married couples talk about. When it comes to knowing all the ins and outs of ovulation...well that is another story. When the two of you are educated on your (your wife's) menstrual cycle from month-to-month you are better able to understand your sexual intimacy. It's a way for each of you to connect because of the knowledge you now have. This week Tony & Alisa share how they have been using the Fertility Awareness Method so tha...more

  • 207: OUT OF WORK

    Feb 18 2014

    You never plan to be out of work and yet there will probably come a time in your marriage when you or your spouse has lost their job. This can be a stressful time for you as you look for work again. The loss of a job can add financial stress, drive a wedge in your emotional intimacy and impact how you relate sexually with your spouse. It's during this time that you need to get out of the pity party and move. This week Tony & Alisa share how you can stay connected with your spouse even when y...more

  • 206: INITIATING SEX

    Feb 11 2014

    Sexual intimacy is an important part of your marriage. There is a connection only you have with your spouse and it's amazing when you have it. The problem is that you're always initiating sex. After awhile it would be refreshing if your spouse were to pursue you. What would happen in your marriage if this were to happen? This week Tony & Alisa speak frankly about what it means to initiate sex. Their insights in their own marriage will have you learning what you need to do in your marriage so...more

  • 205: WORK, KIDS, LAUNDRY, & DISHES

    Feb 04 2014

    There is so many things going on in your marriage that more often than not the connection you and your spouse have has been placed on the back burner. You can't even remember the last time you two had uninterrupted moments together. It's time to get back to the two of you. It's making a choice right now that your marriage needs to be in the forefront of your lives. Not only so you can talk, but that you can be connected in all forms of intimacy. This week Tony & Alisa share what you can do t...more

  • 204: WE WILL FIGHT (FOR OUR MARRIAGE)

    Jan 28 2014

    Every opportunity you have to fight for your marriage is one that you should take. There is so much out in your every day life that is trying to pull you away from each other. It is time for both of you to focus on each other and fight for your love. It may be for your spiritual intimacy, sexual intimacy, or for dates so you can be alone together. In this weeks show Tony & Alisa share that it is important to fight for the romance and passion in your marriage. You don't need to be at the brin...more

  • 203: CONNECT EVEN WHEN YOU’RE APART

    Jan 21 2014

    There may come a time in your marriage when you and your spouse are miles apart. This may be due to a deployment, work, caring for a family member, a mission trip or many other reasons. It is during these time that you and your spouse need to have a mindset of togetherness. You'll also need to have a few ideas that will keep the two of you connected. This  week Tony & Alisa share how they have stayed connected during times apart. Most recently when Alisa spent 12 days on a short term mission...more

  • 202: TEMPTATION

    Jan 14 2014

    Temptation has been around since the beginning of mankind. It happened in the Garden of Eden and temptation may impact you and your marriage at one time or another. Even though temptation is present and will put your marriage in jeopardy there are safeguards that you need to put in place. These safeguards are set for the sole purpose of keeping your attention on what is most important, your spouse. This week Tony & Alisa share how temptation if not communicated with your spouse can drive a w...more

  • 201: I’M SORRY

    Jan 07 2014

    It is very easy after a confrontation with your spouse to say something like “Are we good?” and expect the issue to be resolved. In other situations you may not say anything and just go about your business with this unfinished issue hanging around you and your spouse. When you have many of these stacked one upon another there is going to be frustration and irritation in your marriage. In this weeks show Tony & Alisa are going to discuss the importance of saying "I'm sorry" so that your spous...more

  • SPRECIAL EDITION: HAPPY NEW YEAR

    Dec 31 2013

    It's a fresh start, a clean slate and the beginning of a New Year! As you start a new year give serious consideration to where you and your marriage will be over the course of the next 365 days. What intimacy do you and your spouse want to focus in on for 2014. This week Tony & Alisa share the 6 intimacies and ideas that you can use starting now to have an impact on your heart. Man Up Gods Way Facebook Page Lessons Learned While Pedaling a Cruiser Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shoppi...more

  • SPECIAL EDITION: MERRY CHRISTMAS ONE FAMILY

    Dec 24 2013

    We know that you are busy with last minute preparations, trimming the tree, wrapping the presents, traveling and setting out the cookies for Santa. So we just wanted to take a few minutes to reflect with you on this season. As you unwrap this holiday season remember that the biggest and best gift that you can give your spouse is the gift of you. Your attention, your intention, and your commitment to the marriage. This week Tony & Alisa share how you can love in spite of life’s challenges. Lo...more

  • 200: WOOHOO!

    Dec 17 2013

    Reaching a milestone in your marriage, your 5th, 10th, 25th, etc anniversary, is a time of celebration. A time when you get to look back at all the amazing things you have done with your spouse. It's a time to share stories of how your spouse impacted you and your marriage. The two of you are the stars on this day. This week Tony & Alisa are celebrating. Not because the ONE Extraordinary Marriage Show has reached 200 episodes, but the impact the show has had on couples around the world. Don'...more

  • 199: IT WON’T HAPPEN TO US

    Dec 10 2013

    Your spouse is asking you to get involved in the marriage because there is a problem. Ignoring it will not make it go away. Apathy will not make it go away. Getting involved with someone else will not make it go away. When this is happening you need to take look at all aspects of your marriage. More importantly you need to get involved with your spouse quickly. This week Tony & Alisa unwrap how you can get involved in your marriage so that you change the future of your relationship. How to W...more

  • 198: WANT TO OR NEED TO

    Dec 03 2013

    Words are interesting and the subtle differences in meaning can often go unnoticed. Except that these words can be played over and over in your head. The words that you choose to use when you have to do something have meaning. These words carry weight not just to you but also for your spouse. This week Tony & Alisa look at two words that can lead to a ho-hum marriage or one that is extraordinary. They share the difference between "Need To" or "Want To" in your marriage and in your life. Supp...more

  • 197: AROUND THE WORLD

    Nov 26 2013

    As the years pass in your marriage it is very easy to settle where you are. Between work, kids, church and other activities you aren't living your life out loud. It's time to bust out of your comfort zone so that you can go after that adventure that inside of you. Both of you will experience a new level in your lives and your marriage. This week Tony & Alisa share how they are getting out of their comfort zone in different ways to experience life to the fullest. GoFundMe - Alisa's Mission Tr...more

  • 196: SEX TOYS

    Nov 19 2013

    Getting creative in your marriage and trying new things can definitely spice things up for the two of you. When sex toys become part of your marriage toolkit you need to keep your motives in check. When you are looking for a way to add something new that you both agree upon, that's OK. If you're looking for a way to replace your spouse because you don’t want to be sexual intimate then there is an issue at hand. This week Tony & Alisa share how they have used sex toys in their marriage over t...more

  • 195: SHOW EMOTION

    Nov 12 2013

    It's a choice to remove the masks and let down the walls in your life. These are holding you back from truly experiencing the joy in your marriage. Your choice to continue living like this is causing your spouse to wonder if you are truly engaged in the marriage. They are frustrated, confused, isolated and/or scared. This week Tony & Alisa share how you can begin to remove your masks and show your emotions to your spouse. When you take off your masks you are loved more not less for who you a...more

  • 194: TOUGH TO SWALLOW

    Nov 05 2013

    The two of you have probably talked about being sexual intimate via a blow job. It's a topic that is brought up, but have you discussed what it would be like to have your spouse get to the point of ejaculation? Over the last couple of months many emails have come in asking this particular question. This week Tony & Alisa dive into a topic, blow jobs, that many in the marriage arena are not willing to discuss. They share 7 tips that could help you and your spouse enjoy blow jobs in your marri...more

  • 193: DIVORCE IS OFF THE TABLE

    Oct 29 2013

    When you say "I Do", the furthest thing from your mind at that very moment is uttering the word "Divorce". As the months and years pass the "D" word begins to enter your vocabulary. The first time it stings and you can't believe it was even uttered. Slowly and over time it doesn't even mean anything to you or your spouse. It is used flippantly and yet it is undermining how you see your marriage. This week Tony & Alisa share how they have taken the word "Divorce" off the table in their marria...more

  • 192: GIVE ME A CHANCE

    Oct 22 2013

    If you've been married for any length of time you may have hurt your spouse. This could be through the words you have said, by being silent, pulling away, not spending time with them, and more. Even though this has happened you can rebuild the trust in your marriage. You need to ask your spouse right now, "Give Me A Chance". This week Tony & Alisa share how you can begin to rebuild the trust in your marriage and be given another chance. Email Coaching Special Are you ready to go deeper and b...more

  • 191: MASTURBATION

    Oct 15 2013

    Masturbation in marriage can have a profound impact on your sexual intimacy. When masturbating in private without your spouse you are diminishing the joy of sex with your spouse. If you are masturbating in your marriage and your spouse does not know you are doing this it’s time to have a state of our marriage conversation. You need to take off the masks and acknowledge what’s going on in your sex life. On the other hand masturbating together can add to your marriage bed. This is where you learn ...more

  • 190: TO TEXT OR NOT TO TEXT

    Oct 08 2013

    You live in a world ruled by your phone, you feel lost when you don’t have it. You send text messages when you don’t want to bother someone and yet you are a slave to those text alerts. Unfortunately, some of you are using your cell phone, specifically texting as a way to have the tough conversations in your marriage. This week Tony & Alisa share why using a text message is not the best way to communicate with your spouse. During this show you'll learn: What's the problem with using a text m...more

  • 189: ARE YOU DOING TOO MUCH?

    Oct 01 2013

    You do everything for your spouse. The laundry, cooking, cleaning, kids, devotional, gardening, and on and on. You don’t understand why your spouse can’t help out around the house. Why are they not engaging with you? Has your marriage become one where you are treating your spouse more like a child than an adult. It's time to treat them like an adult so they can have a sense of value in your marriage. In this weeks show Tony & Alisa are going to share with you how you can take steps today so ...more

  • 188: MAKE A PROMISE

    Sep 24 2013

    It is critical that you make the decision to honor the promise you made on your wedding day. It is by keeping this promise that you will experience the true meaning of love in your marriage. Take time to consider these three promises that you can make and keep in your marriage. You wedding vow Transparency Variety In this weeks show Tony & Alisa share how you can make a promise, keep it, and most importantly demonstrate it to each other. Cuddle Up Online Audio Program Leave a review on iTune...more

  • 187: CHANGE IS GOOD

    Sep 17 2013

    It's time to live the marriage you desire. For change to happen you are going to have to take action. Your marriage has changed over the years. Your priorities are so out of whack that you, your spouse, and your marriage is lost. This week Tony & Alisa share how you can make change happen in your life. Start today. 40 Romantic Ideas You Can Use Today to Spice Up Your Marriage Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.f...more

  • 186: DON’T WAIT

    Sep 10 2013

    Fear. It stops you from taking off your masks. You sit there as you look at your spouse knowing you need to share where you are and yet FEAR is holding you back. Expressing yourself has become difficult. The kids, work, electronics, have made it easy to disengage in your marriage. This week Tony & Alisa share how you can begin to reengage each other so that you don't wait until your marriage is at the brink of ending. 3 Ways to Overcome Your Fear The Question Behind the Question Leave a revi...more

  • 185: LISTEN TO ME

    Sep 03 2013

    One area that is often mishandled in marriage is the art of listening. It's the ability to keep your mouth shut and your ears open as your spouse shares what is happening in their life. During this time you get to learn about your spouse. Better yet, you now have the opportunity to show them that you heard what was spoken. This is not a time to get defensive or fight your position. Relax and open yourself up for a time of growth. You will see the transformation in your marriage as you listen up....more

  • 184: BE A HALL OF FAMER

    Aug 27 2013

    Remember back to those days when you played a sport, competed in a competition, or were launching a new business, product or service. You knew where you wanted to get and yet you didn't have the blueprint to help you get there. Well in your marriage there can come a point where you know that there is more, but you don't know how to work with your spouse to reach that point. Marriage coaching may be the answer for you. This week Tony & Alisa share why it's important to consider marriage coach...more

  • 183: THE IMPACT OF PORNOGRAPHY ON YOUR WIFE

    Aug 20 2013

    You can believe what you are seeing. You're heart sinks as the shame and anger inside you begins to burst out. Right there in front of you on your husband's phone, tablet, and/or computer there are pictures of naked women. The shock has left you wondering why he's looking at it. You're heartbroken as the foundation of your marriage, trust, has been compromised. You're not alone. This week Tony & Alisa share how pornography impacted their marriage from the perspective of the wife. Overcoming ...more

  • 182: KEEPING SECRETS ABOUT THE KIDS

    Aug 13 2013

    There is marriage Before Kids (BK) and then there is marriage After Kids (AK). You know what we are talking about as these can be two extremes. It starts from little sleep, to low sex drive, on to school, sports, and many other good and tough issues as they grow up. One area where this can be most prevalent is in your emotional and intellectual intimacy with your spouse. Kids can be a wedge between the two of you. In this weeks show Tony & Alisa share how you can stay connected when your chi...more

  • 181: WARRIOR OR WALKOVER

    Aug 06 2013

    You've been living long enough in a lack luster marriage. Today is the day that you are going to put on your armor and be a warrior for your marriage. To often you and your spouse get complacent in your marriage. Your expectations are that they will take the initiative and yet it's you who needs to stand tall. This week Tony & Alisa share what you can do today to be the warrior you need to be so that your marriage can thrive and grow. Coaching with Alisa Thrive90 Fitness Program He Zigs, She...more

  • 180: EWWW, THAT’S GROSS

    Jul 30 2013

    These words are uttered across the globe by kids who see their parents kiss, hug, or show some form of affection. You want to hear them say this. It's your responsibility in your marriage to show affection around your kids and their friends. Your ability to show them a healthy marriage is vital for you and for them. This week Tony & Alisa share the times when they have heard these words spoken by their kids. They also share with you what is appropriate affection and what you should leave for...more

  • 179: WARNING SIGNS

    Jul 23 2013

    You feel like something’s not quite right in your marriage right now. As you think about what is going on you wonder if you are making too much out of nothing. Your intuition or gut is telling you something. There are warning signs that something is not the way it should be in your marriage. These warning signs by themselves may not lead to separation and yet a few of them together can mean that things are in jeopardy in your relationship. All in all when your warning signs go off a serious conv...more

  • 178: SEXPECTATIONS

    Jul 16 2013

    You are all excited to take some time away, maybe a long weekend or a week long vacation, with your spouse. You know the two of you are going to have sex and yet have you discussed how many times you will have sex while away. Your sexpectations and those of your spouse may be drastically different for the trip. Taking time before you leave to clarify what each of your sexpectations are will allow for both of you to enjoy your time off. This week Tony & Alisa talk about how their sexpectation...more

  • 177: BICYCLE BUILT FOR TWO (OR NOT)

    Jul 09 2013

    Having your own activities and hobbies separately from your spouse is a healthy way for you to grow individually. At the same time it's also a way for you and your spouse to grow your marriage. Do something that makes your heart sing, brings joy, happiness, and a passion to your life. This joy then is brought into the marriage where you are able to discuss new interests. This week Tony & Alisa share what interests they have together and what interests they have separately. Both have been vit...more

  • 176: HOLD MY HAND

    Jul 02 2013

    So often you find yourself in making advances on your spouse with the sole purpose to have sex. You're touching your spouse for one thing only and it's not appreciated. What transpires is either you getting accepted after numerous advances or you get rejected. Either way you feel as if your spouse really isn't interested in having sex with you. What if you focused on building a connection without the expectation of having sex? Building this connection for the sake of being close to your spouse w...more

  • 175: CONTRACT OF RECONCILIATION

    Jun 25 2013

    You've had enough of your spouse's antics. The word "Separation" or "Divorce" have been said in hurtful ways and now you are really considering one or both. Before you step out of your home you both need a plan to be working on yourself as well as you marriage. If not, the likelihood of both of you working together diminishes. In this weeks podcast Tony and Alisa talk about what to do when you feel like you need to separate to gain clarity in your marriage with the goal of being together again. ...more

  • 174: COVENANT OR CONTRACT

    Jun 18 2013

    When you first got marriage you  may have thought of you marriage as a covenant and/or as a contract. To this day in your mind your marriage is either one of these or both and yet do you know which each of them mean in your marriage? If you view your marriage as a contract it is self-focused. In a covenant you are other-focused. This week Tony and Alisa discuss the major differences between the two to help you better understand which marriage you are in. Either a covenant or a contract you shoul...more

  • 173: CRANK UP YOUR SEX DRIVE

    Jun 11 2013

    You don't have the sex drive you once had within your marriage. It's waned over the years and really you're a bit frustrated that you don't have "IT" like you once did. Your physical well being may be an area that is having a big impact on your sex drive and libido. Being physically fit, eating the proper nutrition, getting the vitamins and minerals you need, as well as having the motivation is paramount to your sexual intimacy. This week Tony and Alisa go over where they are in their continued ...more

  • 172: THOSE WEIRD NOISES

    Jun 04 2013

    You know those noises that come from your spouse. Either in the bathroom or right there in the kitchen they come out and boy is it getting a bit much. Never did you think about the burps, farts, throw up, diarrhea, or those weird noises in bed when you first got together. Now after years of marriage they are beginning to wan on you. This week Tony and Alisa share those noises in their marriage and how they have been able to understand why they occur and when. You don't want to miss this episode ...more

  • 171: SEX HURTS

    May 28 2013

    Ouch! My body hurts. Physical ailments can cause strife in your marriage when you are unable to be sexually intimate with your spouse. You are not doing this to hurt your spouse and yet there is frustration for both of you. Is the pain manageable? Can you make changes to your medication? Would non-vaginal sex satisfy both of you? This week Tony and Alisa share ideas that you may not have thought of so you can be physically intimate with your spouse. Take one action step this week toward healing ...more

  • 170: WHAT’S WRONG WITH MY MARRIAGE…I AM

    May 21 2013

    There are times in your marriage when everything seems to not be going as you planned. It's easy to point the finger at your spouse for all that is happening and yet the issues may be with YOU. Yes, you may be what's wrong with your marriage. Most times it is easier to lay the blame on your spouse. Why do you have to go through all the work to change yourself when your spouse can do it. This week Tony & Alisa share times in their marriage when one of them was the problem in their marriage. T...more

  • 169: IS THIS ABUSE?

    May 14 2013

    You feel alone, unworthy, spoken to like a child, or watched everywhere you go. Physically your spouse hasn't laid a hand on you and yet the verbal and emotional barrage that you get daily has you at wits end. Have you experienced: Humiliation, degradation, discounting, negating. judging, criticizing Domination, control, and shame Accusing and blaming, trivial and unreasonable demands or expectations, denies own shortcomings Emotional distancing and the “silent treatment,” isolation, emotional a...more

  • 168: FLYING HIGH

    May 07 2013

    Get out of your comfort zone and do something exhilarating with your spouse. When you do amazing changes can happen in your marriage. You're flying high as you face your fears and stay present in the moment. To often in your marriage there is so much going on, kids activities, electronics, church function, etc, that you put on the brakes before you ever get the chance to do something new. This week Tony & Alisa are flying high as they talk about how flying on the trapeze helped them overcome...more

  • 167: PLAY BALL

    Apr 30 2013

    Your marriage is a participation sport. There are no rewards for sitting on the sidelines watching as the weeks, months, and years pass by. It's time for the two of you to stand on the field together, playing together, and enjoying this game we call marriage together. When you do your emotional, spiritual, financial, and sexual intimacy are going to be in sync. This week Tony and Alisa share how you can stand together on the ball field and participate in your marriage together. It's time to Play...more

  • 166: HOLEY UNDERWEAR

    Apr 23 2013

    Those underwear you are wearing are dragging you down. Nobody except your spouse sees them and yet when you are wearing them you don't feel sexy. Why would you want to have them around any longer if all they do is bring you down? Git rid of those hoely underwear! It's time for some spring cleaning so get those holey underwear out of your drawer and put them in the trash. In the process you'll lift your self-esteem and self-confidence. This week Tony and Alisa share their experiences with holey u...more

  • 165: CUDDLE UP

    Apr 16 2013

    Cuddling up with your spouse after a great love making session can do wonders for both of you. Your skin is the largest organ on your body and when it is in contact with your spouse's skin it can do wonders for your marriage. The act of cuddling with your spouse releases the hormone oxytocin, "the feel-good hormone", which can lead to overall happiness. Cuddling can also release endorphins, which are the same hormones that are released during a good workout. This week Tony & Alisa share how ...more

  • 164: IS YOUR SEX LIFE GETTING ENOUGH SLEEP?

    Apr 09 2013

    The amount of sleep you get can directly impact your vibrancy as well as the quality of sex you have in your marriage. When you are tired and worn out sex is the last thing you may want to be doing. If anything, you would rather roll over and get more sleep. Well, a good night of sleep will benefit your sex life and many other areas of your life as well. This week Tony and Alisa share how you can feel better by getting more sleep. Not only will you learn the impact from lack of sleep, but tips o...more

  • 163: WHEN THINGS GO WRONG AS THEY SOMETIMES WILL

    Apr 02 2013

    You have waited to try something new in the bedroom for months. You purchased what you needed, set the ambiance of your room, and now it's go time. As the two of you begin having some fun you realize that this isn't going the way you had planned. The candles smell horrible. There are laughs when you turn on the vibrator. Your hotel room bed is bumpy. A long day traveling leaves you spent. Recently one of those planned situations didn't go as Tony and Alisa had expected. This week they share what...more

  • 162: WALK ON WATER

    Mar 26 2013

    Fear can stop you in your tracks and hold you back from what God truly wants from you in your marriage. It's during these times of fear that you need to face what is holding you back and move forward. Peter walked on water, but it was only when he got out of the boat did this happen. (Matthew 14:29-30) It can be difficult to get out of the boat sometimes in your marriage. This week Tony and Alisa share times in their marriage when fear held them back and they didn't want to get out of the boat. ...more

  • 161: I DON’T CARE

    Mar 19 2013

    Love starts out as that butterfly feeling in the pit of your stomach; a physical emotion that washed over you when you first met your soon-to-be spouse. During this get-to-know-you stage you were swept up with everything they did with you, such as holding your hand, rubbing close to you, and those kisses. Your emotions were cranked to the hilt and everything was great. You're happy. You're in love. You get engaged, then married and as time passed the feelings of love began to disappear. Those fu...more

  • 160: FLIP THE SWITCH TO GOOD SEX

    Mar 12 2013

    You were raised in a family where talking about sex and your private parts was a bad. Sex was bad everywhere you went and then you got married. Now you needed to flip the switch to good sex. This has been tough for you and to this day you still have a bad sex view point even with your spouse. This week we are here to help you overcome the thoughts that are holding you back from have good sex if not great sex with your spouse. Listen in to the 3 steps to flipping the switch to good sex in your ma...more

  • 159: SEX ON THE ROLLER COASTER

    Mar 05 2013

    Hopefully you haven't actually had sex on a roller coaster. That would be very difficult to say the least and a bit dangerous too. No, this roller coaster is the parenting kind. The one that you a part of each and every day of your life if you have little ones to adult children living with you. The stress of raising, disciplining, educating, and being active with your kids can put the breaks on your sexual intimacy. You're unable to let go of the daily activities to be present with your spouse, ...more

  • 158: SEIZE THE DAY

    Feb 26 2013

    Stop the Glorification of Busy! It's not uncommon for you to ask someone how their day is going and the response you get is, "I'm really busy". You may even answer the same way when someone asks how your day, week, or month is going. Unfortunately, if you and your spouse are "so busy" that you don't have margin in your life you are missing opportunities when the two of you can seize the day. Yes, you need margin in your lives so that you can experience the emotional, spiritual, and sexual intima...more

  • 157: HOW TO DEAL WITH YOUR PARENTS AND YOUR MARRIAGE

    Feb 19 2013

    Consider yourself warned. Any time that you choose your parents over your spouse you are setting yourself up for heartbreak. Making sure that you have boundaries that will protect you, your spouse, and your marriage are needed. You love your parents, we love our too, and setting boundaries can be tough. Before we were married and after we were married we had to take time with both sets of parents to let them know our marriage came first. What happens is that once you set up these boundaries you ...more

  • 156: VALENTINE’S DAY IS MORE THAN JUST ONE DAY

    Feb 12 2013

    It’s the time of year when cupid is abuzz with love in your marriage. The cost of chocolates, roses, and jewelry double or triple and a night on the town will set you back a Benjamin or two. The card isle at Target is filled with pink, red, and purple for you to profess you love with a card in any shape, style and size. As marriage educators we are not head over heels excited about Valentine’s day. It is a day to share your love with your spouse that is for sure. Unfortunately, it’s can be like ...more

  • 155: HOW-TO MAKE A DAILY DEVOTIONAL PART OF YOUR MARRIAGE

    Feb 05 2013

    Your desire to be closer and more  intimate with your spouse. Emotionally, financially, and sexually you are there and yet your spiritual intimacy is lagging behind. Maybe you've even tried a few times (or many times) without success. We get it! We've been spiritually empty in our marriage. One thing though is that when you come together and dive into your spiritual intimacy it will take your marriage to another level. Spending time together in God's word and in prayer allows the two of you to t...more

  • 154: WRITE ME A LETTER, SPEAK TO MY HEART

    Jan 29 2013

    In this digital age that you live in how often do you write a hand written love letter or get a romantic love letter? There is something to be said about this lost art of letter writing to that connects you to your spouse. The few moments it takes to express your love on paper can last a lifetime. This week we share how you can write a quick romantic love letter to your spouse so that you can express your feelings on paper or in a card. Don't miss the one simple tip to start your letter that wil...more

  • 153: CHEERING FOR THE HOME TEAM

    Jan 22 2013

    Professional football is coming to a close with only one game left, the Super Bowl. The tryouts, practices, scrimmages, and the start of the season started long ago. The players began preparing themselves as well as the cheerleaders many months ago. It's the players on the field playing for that Super Bowl ring, but the cheerleaders on the sideline play an important roll on the field as well. Today we talk about the cheerleaders in your life and in your marriage. You need a cheerleader and you n...more

  • 152: RUB-A-DUB THERE’S A COUPLE IN THE TUB

    Jan 15 2013

    Taking time away and enjoying a sensual shower or bath can do wonders for your marriage. It's a time where you and your spouse are showing everything to one another and yet it brings you closer together. This time in the shower or bath can enhance your emotional, physical, and sexual intimacy in ways other places can't. This week we share 9 reasons why you should be taking a shower/bath with your spouse on a regular basis. Relieves Stress It's Romantic Your Spouse Can Scrub Your Back Have Fun &a...more

  • 151: SLIPPERY SLOPE

    Jan 08 2013

    It started out innocently. The conversation was fun, the walks were refreshing, you were losing weight together, and you were connecting. It wasn't that you were physically attracted and yet you became emotionally attached. Without you realizing it you are now in an emotional affair. This week we share a listeners experience with an emotional affair. She goes in depth on how it started, it's progression, and how it came to an end. As the emotional affair ended, but the ripples affected her marri...more

  • 150: READY, SET, GO!

    Jan 01 2013

    Whether you are kicking off the New Year or looking to set goals that will impact your marriage you need to get Ready, Set, Go! Making time for the two of you to be on the same page and what you'd like to accomplish is the first step toward an extraordinary marriage. The two of you may want to connect emotionally, spiritually, sexually or this may be the year you tackle your finances together. What ever you choose to do being on the same page and having your goals written down will help you stay...more

  • 149: UNWRAPPING EACH OTHER

    Dec 24 2012

    The excitement of Christmas or vacation can have an impact on when and if you are able to make love. Being somewhere other than your house, kids, relatives, friends, and the like make having sex on these occasions a little tougher. It doesn't mean you can make it happen though. Have you ever wanted to make love on Christmas or steal away for some alone time on vacation? You have the best intentions of finding the time to rendezvous and yet you don't plan to make it happen. Before you know it the...more

  • 148: FROM MOURNING TO JOY

    Dec 18 2012

    The events that unfolded at Sandy Hook Elementary School rocked us as we heard about what happened. We sat in our chairs after we recorded this podcast as tears filled our eyes. How is it that this week we would be talking about grief during the holidays and this tragic event happens? We do not know why, but we serve an awesome God.  Our prayers go to the families and marriages that have been impacted by loss. We look back over eight years as we celebrate the short life of our son Andrew. He nev...more

  • 147: THEN AND NOW

    Dec 11 2012

    What was marriage like before we did our 60 Days of Sex Challenge? This was a question we were asked from a listener who is going through a tough time right now. When you are in the depths of those valleys it is sometimes hard to see what's ahead. Your ability to look down the path and see what's ahead is squelched. We know where you are! We've been there before. This week we go back 5+ years to share with you where we were before we started that fateful challenged that changed us and our marria...more

  • 146: MY MARRIAGE IS GREAT BUT…

    Dec 04 2012

    Your brain can and does impact your marriage. Those negative thoughts and positive thoughts that play in your mind will determine the outcome of how you react to your spouse. These thoughts play like a broken record and can stop you from taking action to better your marriage. The power of your words come after the but. My Marriage is Great But... When you use a BUT in your sentence you only focus on what comes after the BUT.  This could be a positive or negative statement-unfortunately it's most...more

  • 145: MAKE TIME FOR A SEXY MARRIAGE

    Nov 27 2012

    Your year is about to get even crazier. Thanksgiving started the season of busy for you and your spouse and it will not end until after Christmas if you are lucky. This is the time of year when you can feel completely overwhelmed! The obligations of the holidays on top of the busyness of your regular life has you grasping for some quality time with your spouse. Finding time for you and your spouse to connect leads to frustration on both of your parts and snippiness factor rises. Like you we have...more

  • 144: I’M THANKFUL FOR…

    Nov 20 2012

    The key to thriving in your marriage each and every year is to take time to share what you are thankful for in your marriage. This is a time when the busyness of every day life is put aside so that you can  honor your spouse. Grab a piece of paper, write down 5-10 reasons why you are thankful for your marriage, and then sit down with your spouse and share. This week we go over our "I'm Thankful For..." list with each other and you. During this time we listen, acknowledge, and respond to what we ...more

  • 143: ARE YOU LIVING A LIE

    Nov 13 2012

    You're hiding something from your spouse and it is weighing you down. Maybe you have an addiction that your spouse doesn't know about. Perhaps you've spent more money than you shouldn't have and you haven't told them. Has that lunch partner become something more? Living with these burdens can stop you and your spouse from connecting emotionally, physically, spiritually, and sexually. You are constantly looking over your shoulder wondering if someone might let the secret out. You know you need to...more

  • 142: BLENDED FAMILIES

    Nov 06 2012

    It can be tough to bring two families together and blend them into one family. Between exes, kids, alimony, child support, and ex-in laws it can be a real challenge for the two of you to find time to make intimacy a priority in your marriage. It is time to fight for your marriage and your blended family. Communication is the key to making this marriage work. Take off your masks, place all of your baggage on the table and decide that the two of you are committed to making this marriage work. It s...more

  • 141: FLIRTING YOUR WAY BACK

    Oct 30 2012

    You may have come to a point in your marriage where sexual intimacy isn't happening any longer. The thought of you and your spouse having sex brings up anxiety in you. This in turn is stopping the both of you from moving forward and having the sexual intimacy you desire. This week we answer in detail how you can get the sexual intimacy back in your marriage. It's simple and something the two of you have done many times before. The thing is that you may not be giving this as much attention as you...more

  • 140: SCHEDULING SEX

    Oct 23 2012

    Sometimes it seems like life is just too busy. You are running around here, there, and everywhere. The thing is that you sense a distance from your spouse and you need to connect. You need to connect emotionally, spiritually, and sexually. It's time to get radical in your marriage and make a change! This week we share all about the Intimacy Lifestyle. That's right, scheduling sex so you can connect in all areas of your marriage. The Intimacy Lifestyle has changed the way that we view sex in our ...more

  • 139: POSITION IT THIS WAY

    Oct 16 2012

    Trying different positions while making love is something that we struggled with early on in our marriage. Since we learned little about the birds and the bees it is no wonder we had a difficult time when it came to different positions. Have you experienced a wall when it comes to trying new positions in your bed? We totally get it! In this episode we talk about the fears each of us face when it came to trying something new. Over the years we have experimented more and we've found our go to posi...more

  • 138: WIND BENEATH MY WINGS

    Oct 09 2012

    I sat in a conference room this weekend for Allison Maslan's Blast Off! Business Breakthrough. It started on my anniversary and I will have to say I was excited to be there. This was mine and Tony's way of celebrating. I know it's kinda weird, but heck we aren't normal anyway. Many of the attendees there thought we were a bit weird once they learned about the awesome ONE Community! Over the weekend Tony took the opportunity to put his money where his mouth is and showed me just how much he belie...more

  • 137: LOVE DOES MAKE A DIFFERENCE

    Oct 02 2012

    Love is active and love impacts the world in very big ways. When you first meet your spouse love was active and running rampant in you. Love was active, making you do things that made an impact. This week we had the opportunity to experience Bob Goff, author of Love Does, share how he does love around the world. Bob is charismatic, animated, and in love with doing to make an impact in this world. Love is something you need to be doing in your marriage as well as your community at large. Love Doe...more

  • 136: AUTHENTICALLY YOU

    Sep 25 2012

    Live from the inside out for lasting satisfaction in your life and marriage starts with you being authentic with yourself. This authenticity is the DNA that God has placed inside of you that makes your heart sing when you are YOU! You are an amazing creation that has the ability to be the same person no matter if you are at work, at church, with a group of friends, or in your bedroom with your spouse. Coming to realize who that person is across all of these groups is the tough part. Take time ov...more

  • 135: THE POWER OF TOUCH

    Sep 18 2012

    In your marriage the power of touch, non-sexual and sexual, are vitally important to your well being. Did you know that touch can ease your pains, lessen anxiety in your marriage, soften the blows of life that come your way, generate hope and has the power to heal you? Your hand upon your spouse can also slow their heart rate, give them a feeling of relaxation and the spiritual connection is long lasting. When words can't say everything you hope for touching your spouse can speak volumes. In thi...more

  • 134: ROLE REVERSAL

    Sep 11 2012

    Sexual rejection is tough on the spouse who is initiating sex. In our society the focus has been that of the husband getting rejected when initiating sex. Unfortunately, it's becoming more common for the husband to reject his wife. Long hours at work, gaming late into the night, pornography, emotional affairs, and other distractions are contributing to this behavior. In this show we look at the role reversal of when a wife initiates sex and continuously gets rejected. The impact this has on a ma...more

  • 133: STATE OF THIS MARRIAGE

    Sep 04 2012

    This week Tony and Alisa catch you up on all of the exciting developments that are being worked on at ONE Extraordinary Marriage. Over the last year the growth of listeners and readers has been amazing. All of your input via email, voice mail, or commenting on Facebook or Twitter have had us discussing how we can impact you and more marriage now and into the future. We need your help and prayers as we continue on this journey. He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path Live Event...more

  • 132: BEING BRAVE

    Aug 28 2012

    Facing those skeletons in your closet can be hard. This week Tony shares about getting his girlfriend pregnant in college and then paying for the abortion. This event still impacts him 21 years later. Bringing up the skeletons in you past might not be worth the anguish to you. Fear, anxiety, and judgement stop you from letting go and releasing the skeletons. Instead you are held hostage, afraid to become the spouse you desire. You probably hear those voices telling you that you can't bring up th...more

  • 131: BIRDS AND THE BEES

    Aug 21 2012

    Is sex a stigma in your marriage? Has the past held you back from completely enjoying the amazing bond you could be having with your spouse? Sex ed or learning about the birds and the bees are an integral part of how you view sex in your marriage. Parents or other respected individuals may not have talked to you about sex, told you it was bad, or mentioned very little that didn't help you prepare for sex in marriage. You may have even been called names or had labels put on you because you looked...more

  • 130: JESUS IN MY BEDROOM

    Aug 14 2012

    The lights are dim in your bedroom and in the corner there is a blue chair. Jesus is sitting there. He is omnipresent in your life and right now he is waiting for you to allow Him into your sex life. Unfortunately, the reality is that you are to quick to compartmentalize Him out of your bedroom. You want to control this area as the thought of Him being there is a bit weird. Instead of developing a reliance on God to help flourish your marriage you are trying to control all aspects of it. You can...more

  • 129: A NEW NORMAL

    Aug 07 2012

    Illness, sickness, injuries, and other long term ailments can change the dynamics of your marriage. When this happens you have to adjust to having "A New Normal." In this episode we share how you have to re-learn all of your intimacies in light of changed circumstances. In your marriage that may mean figuring out new ways to be physically intimate, exploring different types of recreational intimacy or a renewed focus on spiritual intimacy. Look at these life changes as opportunities for growth r...more

  • 128: PLAYING ON THE SAME TEAM

    Jul 31 2012

    The wedding bells ring, you say your "I do's", and the honeymoon is bliss. You're married, the two of you have become ONE and yet you're not on the same TEAM. Shortly after that blissful day you find yourselves on opposite sides working against each other. You didn't expect this to happen in your marriage, yet it has. In this episode, we introduce you to another way to focus on your TEAM. Looking at each of these will enable you to tackle issues in your marriage with a plan. T - Talk: He said to...more

  • 127: ASK AND YOU SHALL RECEIVE

    Jul 24 2012

    This past week we received an email from a listener asking why her husband won't come right out and ask for sex. There is cuddling, kissing, and yet he won't come out and ask for sex. Join Tony and Alisa as they talk about the fear of rejection, the different love languages in marriage and why it's so important to have conversations about sex before they grow into something larger. The 5 Love Languages (affiliate link via Amazon) Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 ...more

  • 126: LAUGHTER FOR THE SOUL

    Jul 17 2012

    As you sit in your living room laughing from the depth of your belly, tears rolling down your face, the world is left behind and all you see is your spouse smiling and laughing too. Both of you enjoying a moment that has pushed aside the emergencies of the day and allowed the two of you to enjoy one another. Laughter is beneficial in many ways. In your marriage laughter allows for you to let loose and have fun. Your endorphines, your body's natural feel good chemicals, are released and you never...more

  • 125: FANTASIZE WITH ME

    Jul 10 2012

    It's natural to fantasize, but are you fantasizing about your spouse or someone else? Fantasies can be a great way to spice things up in your marriage by changing things up. The opposite side is that they can also tear down the foundations of your marriage. In this episode we share the bad and good of fantasies in our marriage and how you can have mind blowing sex when you approach fantasies the right way. Do you and your spouse have fantasies that you play out in your marriage? 4 E's to Live Yo...more

  • 124: JOINT OR SEPARATE CHECKING ACCOUNTS

    Jul 03 2012

    What kind of checking account do you have? The truth is that finances are always going to be a part of your marriage and how you come to handle money will color many aspects of your married years. Each of us comes into marriage with financial baggage. Learning how to join that financial history together is one challenge that ALL married couples face. For us, the decision to have a joint account was indicative of our decision to be unified in all aspects of our marriage. For other, having separat...more

  • 123: THE BATTLEFIELD

    Jun 19 2012

    Men it's time! It's time to show your wife how much you honor and cherish her. In this world where battles are raging against marriage every minute of the day your wife needs to know that the two of you are on the battle field together. She needs to know that there is nothing that you wouldn't do for her. Make a decision that after God she is next on your list of priorities. Do it today! Ephesians 6:10-18 Stripped Down Small Group Podcast Series Are you on the battlefield with your spouse? Leave...more

  • 122: SAY ONE THING DO ANOTHER

    Jun 12 2012

    Many of us don't like confrontation. To avoid a confrontation we'll us different strategies. One of the most damaging is by saying one thing to our spouses with the full intention of doing something else. Instead of being honest with our spouse, we sabotage our marriage with these deceptions. This behavior requires us to expend so much more energy in trying to keep up pretenses then if we had just said the truth in the first place. It's time to draw that line in the sand and decide whether or no...more

  • 121: RESILIENCE

    Jun 05 2012

    This week's podcast comes from our son and little league baseball. We're sure that many of you can relate to kids and their athletic endevours. Early in the season, his first season playing baseball, things were not going so well. He wanted to quit just like many of us want to do at times in our marriage. We asked his coach to talk to him about the problems he was facing on the ball field. His attitude changed, his playing changed and he was having a blast. Even though his game improved and that...more

  • 120: OH THE PLACES YOU’LL GO

    May 29 2012

    Summer is here and it's time to add some adventure into your physical intimacy. This is a lighthearted look at many different places that you can have sex. Get out of your "comfort zone" and have some fun this summer. What places have you or would you like to make love? Share with us below. The Adoption Key Emergency Kit (video) 7 Days of Sex Challenge Book Kindle Edition As C.S. Lewis once said, “Sex that is too serious is deprived of the romp and fun that is essential to a healthy enjoyment of...more

  • 119: WHY CAN’T WE HAVE A BABY?

    May 22 2012

    This weeks podcast is about finding your way back to intimacy after struggling for years with infertility. We share ideas that we have learned from friends of ours who have found intimacy in their marriage after years of struggling with infertility. When we started this episode our main goal is to give a voice to all of you who have struggled with infertility. The ONE community needs for you to share how you overcame your struggles with infertility. Speak up in the comments below. I Am Second - ...more

  • 118: GREAT EXPECTATIONS

    May 15 2012

    Great expectations... All of us have them. The way we want things done, the way we want those in our life to do what we want and yet, it doesn't always turn out the way we want. What do we do then? Sometimes we lash out, sometimes we shut down, but really there has got to be a better way. What would it look like if you changed the way you communicated with your spouse? What would happen if you expressed your expectations? Big Question to Ask:  What is it about our marriage that is important to y...more

  • 117: WHERE IS GOD IN MY MARRIAGE

    May 01 2012

    Who is at the center of your marriage? Have you thought about that. Really taken the time to sit down with your spouse and discuss who is at the center of your marriage. As we prepare for the 3rd annual 7 Days of Sex Challenge we are looking back at when we fully committed to letting Christ be the center of our marriage. It wasn't that long ago, but once we realized that neither one of us was the center lots of good things began to happen. This year we feel the gentle nudge from God to talk abou...more

  • 116: MAD, PASSIONATE, LOVE

    Apr 24 2012

    You have a choice everyday to either have Mad, Passionate, Extraordinary Love or Mediocrity love. No where is it said or written that you have to "settle" for anything in your marriage. Just because you've been married for (insert years married here) years doesn't mean that you can't be crazy in love. Go have Mad, Passionate, Extraordinary Love today! 7 Days of Sex Challenge Book Kindle Edition As C.S. Lewis once said, “Sex that is too serious is deprived of the romp and fun that is essential to...more

  • 115: THE GRASS ISN’T ALWAYS GREENER

    Apr 17 2012

    Over this last week we have heard from many couples that are struggling with emotional affairs, separation or even divorce. It's been frustrating for us to hear the lines spouses are saying during these times such as: You don't make me happy anymore. I don't think I have ever loved you. This other person is so much more in tuned with me. When one spouse is trying to justify the decisions that they are making it wreaks havoc for the marriage. Stop making excuses, have the conversations that you n...more

  • 114: THE SIMPLE LIFE

    Apr 10 2012

    Our house saga is finally coming to a close as we wrap up the short sale. Over the last 4 months we've had the opportunity to really think about those things that serve as a distraction to our marriage. Are you so wrapped up in work or with your friends that you forget to spend time with your spouse? Do the financial burdens cause worry and stress?  Are you holding back emotionally out of fear? It's time to simplify your life, to take stock of where you are and decide to make changes and grow. W...more

  • 113: WANDERING EYES

    Apr 03 2012

    We've all done it, somebody walks across your path and you look. Then maybe you take another one or two looks. Unfortunately, most of the time our spouse catches us looking. This leads to feelings of inadequacy and insecurity in our marriage. We've been there! So what do you do? It's time to have those conversations about what you are feeling and begin the process of healing. The biggest gift you can give your spouse is the gift of making them #1 in your life. Smart Passive Income on Stitcher Ra...more

  • 112: FLAMES BURING BRIGHT

    Mar 27 2012

    Love is an overused word in our society. We love ice cream and we love our spouses, but how did God really desire for us to love our spouses? There are three different types of love used in the bible: raya, ahava and dod. When we think of these as flames burning in our marriages we realize that we need to have all 3 burning bright to have that extraordinary marriage.  Where are the flames burning bright in your relationship. Flame Intimacy & Desire ONE Show on Stitcher Radio **NEW** Stripped...more

  • 111: HIGH DESIRE, LOW DESIRE, WHAT ARE YOU

    Mar 20 2012

    One of you wants sex all the time, one of you not so much-what's wrong with this picture? Nothing! You are just like the rest of us, dealing with differing levels of desire within your marriage. What's a couple to do? Spend some time today learning about high desire and low desire and it's impact on your marriage. Be aware that all couples face this and it impacts more than just what happens in the bedroom. There's nothing wrong with differing levels of desire, what can make or break your marria...more

  • 110: TRUST

    Mar 06 2012

    It hurts when someone violates our trust, especially when that someone is the person that we are married to. Building trust is not easy and it's not automatic either. Building trust requires both a husband and a wife to be willing to draw the line in the sand, the line that says, "I chose this person and I am going to make my marriage work". When both of you decide to give 100% into your marriage, hurts can be healed and relationships can be repaired. Are you willing to rebuild the trust in your...more

  • 109: HONORING THE VOW

    Feb 28 2012

    What do your vows mean to you? In our society when everything seems disposable The Vow made us stop and wonder how would we handle a catastrophic incident in our marriage. Do the words "as long as life shall last" really mean that? And what about how God feels about us, there are powerful parallels between God's love for us and Leo's love for Paige. Tony & Alisa's renewing their vows on their 15th Wedding Anniversary  The Vow Movie Trailer Simple Natural Health Stripped Down Audio Book Remem...more

  • 108: CAN YOU FOCUS NOW

    Feb 21 2012

    When was the last time you sat with your spouse with nothing on. No TV, computer, phones, iPad or other electronics? In today's show Tony & Alisa discuss how turning all the electronics off is helping them to focus in on each other more. Their tips and ideas are to help you and your spouse connect on a deeper level while you engage in emotional intimacy. The problem is that when there are to many distractions around us we aren't focusing in on our spouse. This can lead to misunderstandings, ...more

  • 107: SPICE UP THE BEDROOM

    Feb 14 2012

    Happy Valentine’s Day! So often our sexual intimacy follows the same old patterns until it becomes a habit instead of an experience. This Valentine’s Day message will help spice things up in your bedroom. It can be as easy as turning the lights on, opening your eyes, or finding a new location. The two of you could even incorporate games or foods. The sky’s the limit for you and your spouse when you open up and challenge each other! Start talking and praying about your sex life and see the change...more

  • 106: IMPACTING MARRIAGES

    Feb 07 2012

    The ONE Extraordinary Marriage Conference was held in Okemos, MI. Tony and Alisa had a phenomenal time sharing their story and the importance of sexual intimacy in marriage. From singles to couples married 50+ years, there was something for everyone who wanted to make their marriage extraordinary. Stripped Down Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You w...more

  • 105: BOOM BOOM

    Jan 31 2012

    A listener wrote in describing a week of sexual frustration. She shares that while she and her husband both verbalized their desire for sexual intimacy, it didn't happen for various reasons. So what do you do when you have a week or weeks when the connection isn't there? Tony &  Alisa have cycled through this same thing many times over the years. They share what you can do to make intimacy a priority each and every week. ONE Extraordinary Marriage Conference Stripped Down Audio Book Remember...more

  • 104: RIGHT NOW

    Jan 25 2012

    The future is not promised to you so what are you doing right now to make a difference in your marriage? You need to live in the present with your spouses, loving on them and sharing your life with them. You cannot live so focused on the future that you stop living today. Make the time RIGHT NOW to build up your marriage. Text the Romance Back Stripped Down Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt....more

  • 103: HOME IS WHERE THE HEART IS

    Jan 17 2012

    Life throws us curve balls at times. Tony & Alisa are no exception. Based on circumstances Tony & Alisa are facing the start of 2012 with the realization that they need to short sale their home. In this episode they talk about the impact it is having on their marriage and their family. Through this they are relying on connecting in their financial, emotional, and physical intimacy. How do you work through hardships in your marriage? ONE Extraordinary Marriage Conference in Okemos, MI on ...more

  • 102: WILL YOU GO OUT WITH ME

    Jan 10 2012

    Do you long to spend time with your spouse on a date night? Many of you have shared with us that the one thing you want to do this year is to have date nights. This week Tony & Alisa share 3 ways you can make sure that date nights or date days happen in your marriage while having a lot of fun. 300 Creative Dates Josh Turner - Would You Go With Me (Intro music) Stripped Down Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to r...more

  • 101: OFF AND RUNNING

    Jan 03 2012

    It's the start of a new year and now is the best time to take a good look at your marriage. Sit down with your spouse and examine all 6 forms of intimacy, evaluate where you are and where you want to go in 2012. Episode 101 Off and Running is a time of  reflection for us. We share where we have been over the last year, changes that have happened and a sneak peak of what we have planned for 2012. What intimacy or intimacies are you going to dive into this year? Family First Fitness Challenge Jesu...more

  • 100: CELEBRATE GOOD TIMES

    Dec 20 2011

    The ONE Extraordinary Marriage Podcast presents the 100th episode! This week Tony & Alisa share your stories. Your marriages have been impacted by the podcast, 7 Days of Sex Challenges, and other resources over the years that it was time to share your marriages. Thank you to all of you for your continues support. We look forward to many more shows. Stripped Down Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how ...more

  • 099: DO YOU REALLY HAVE THE TIME

    Dec 13 2011

    In light of watching He's Just Not That Into You and recent conversations with friends going through divorce we find ourselves asking the question... Do you really have the time to invest in another relationship? Whether it's another person, work, volunteering or addiction there are so many places we can find ourselves investing our time when we should be investing in our marriage. Take a minute and think about where you are spending your time...do you really have the time? BarlowGirl - I Need Y...more

  • 098: COMING HOME

    Dec 06 2011

    It's that time of year when we can get very wrapped up in all the "goings-on" and lose track of who we are. Now is the time to take stock of your marriage and make the changes necessary to make sure that you are coming home. Shop Amazon & support ONE Ready-to-go-Dates Stripped Down Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then...more

  • 097: DO YOU HAVE A PLAN THIS CHRISTMAS

    Nov 29 2011

    Christmas is right around the corner and this is a challenging time for couples in terms or finances. Last year, Alisa overspent shopping for everyone in the family. We are changing things up this year. In this episode we discuss working on your financial intimacy before you spend your money on gifts.  Give yourself the greatest gift this Christmas season, the gift of peace. Amazon.com 10-Life Changing Online Christmas Gifts for Married Couples Stripped Down Audio Book Remember back to your wedd...more

  • 096: THANKFUL

    Nov 22 2011

    We've all had those weeks where absolutely nothing seems to go right, when it seems as if Murphy's Law is the only law in your house. That was our week and in the midst of all of that God's blessings continue to tumble forth. This week as you celebrate Thanksgiving take the time to let your spouse know what you are thankful for. Stripped Down Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage ...more

  • 095: ARE THOSE REAL?

    Nov 08 2011

    In this episode we tackle another one of those taboo topics...plastic surgery. Two years ago Alisa had breast augmentation. So why share now? Because once again being transparent about this topic has given women the courage to talk about their own desires, to bring this out into the open. It was a long road from thinking about surgery to actually going through with it and the road definitely had a lot of curves in it. Part of what holds us back from sharing is our fear of being judged, once you'...more

  • 094: GIVE ME EVERYTHING

    Nov 01 2011

    "I want you tonight. C'mon, Let's do it tonight." These were words that would flow out of our mouths in those early years of our courtship. We couldn't get enough of each other then, but as the years have added on things change. The passion that we had for each night we were together isn't there as much, we take each other for granted at times, and overall we pretty much know we are going to be around. What if tomorrow doesn't come?  In this weeks show Tony and Alisa discuss the hardships that h...more

  • 093: NOW YOU’RE TELLING ME

    Oct 25 2011

    Talking to our spouse about certain topics isn’t always easy but it can have such a positive impact on our marriage in terms of increasing our emotional intimacy. The events of our pasts color our future and by sharing with our spouses we can change the course of our history. In this episode Tony & Alisa share their years of experience when it comes to oral sex. They share from the early years of their marriage up to last week when they had some of the best oral sex in their 15 years of marr...more

  • 092: YOU’RE STILL THE ONE

    Oct 18 2011

    There is a lot to be said for celebrating 15 years of marriage. First you lasted 15 years with your spouse, that's big, second you've had your ups and downs along the way, & third it's time to celebrate! In this weeks show Tony & Alisa share their renewal, getaway trip, and the fun they had all along the way. Don't miss the quick tips about how to make your next anniversary trip or any trip one that. Confessions of a Family-First Fitness Coach (Fit Marriage) The Jadedvisalian - Walk and ...more

  • 091: BACK WHEN THE WORLD MADE SENSE

    Oct 04 2011

    As Tony & Alisa get ever closer to their 15th wedding anniversary, happening on Wednesday October 5th, the movie Shrek 4 made them think back to those days before life got crazy. What they discuss in this show is that even though life has become more complex, would you give it all back? It's a question many of us ask ourselves at some point in time in our married lives. Listen and make sure to leave your thoughts and comments below. Big thank you goes out to Evette and Mary for their contrib...more

  • 090: DO I LET YOU REALLY SEE ME?

    Sep 27 2011

    In today's social internet world we live in everyone is looking for individuals that are transparent. Listeners, viewers, readers all want to know that they are like those that they are following. That's great, but are you transparent in your marriage with your spouse? This week Tony & Alisa share how you can become transparent with your spouse. It's vital for your marriage so that you can experience the love you desire. Stripped Down Book, eBook, or Audio Book Remember back to your wedding ...more

  • 089: WHEN DARKNESS FALLS

    Sep 13 2011

    There comes a time in all of our marriages when things just aren't going the way we think it should. Over the past couple of months Tony & Alisa have realized that the darkness has slowly fallen upon them and their marriage. In this episode both Tony & Alisa share why this occurred in their marriage and how YOU can make it through a dark time in your marriage. The Dip by Seth Godin (Not an affiliate since Amazon pulled out of California.) Stripped Down Book, eBook, or Audio Book Remember...more

  • 088: A FORK IN THE ROAD

    Sep 06 2011

    There will come a time in all of our marriages when we will come upon a fork in the road. It's at this fork that our faith, our love, our marriages will be put to the test. Tony and Alisa have come upon one in their marriage. In this episode they talk about that fork as they stand in front of it deciding which path to take. What do you do when you come up to a fork in the road? Stripped Down Book, eBook, or Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony a...more

  • 087: WHEN DISASTER STRIKES

    Aug 30 2011

    What happens when we don't have a topic to start the podcast? An emotional tidal wave of issues that have been building up over the week. In this weeks show we discussed a plethora of topics: 2 Family arguments Learning that Alisa isn't happy with our devotional time Tony being rejected in the bedroom Finding time during the week to talk Planning date night Feeling distant from God And much more. Stripped Down Book, eBook, or Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about ...more

  • 086: THE BEAUTIFUL BED

    Aug 23 2011

    My bed is spread with beautiful blankets, with colored sheets of Egyptian linen. I've perfumed my bed with myrrh, aloes, and cinnamon. —Proverbs 7:16-17 It seemed a little question...What size bed did you start with and what size bed do you have now? Wow! We heard from so many of you and the answers were just as diverse. On today's show we reflect on our own journey from twin to king and how it often mirrored what was going on in our marriage. What does your bed say about your relationship? Is i...more

  • 085: LIVING, LOVING & LEARNING

    Aug 16 2011

    Back from vacation and we are ready to start a new school year. This time of year is a great time to reflect as a couple on what you have done over the past year as well as a great time to look forward to where you are heading. In this weeks show we take the time to evaluate some friendships that have become very dear to us. Alisa shares a book review, The Garter Brides. As our 15th wedding anniversary approaches we discuss why renewing our vows is important to us. Lots of planning and we need t...more

  • 084: AT WIT’S END

    Aug 02 2011

    It had been a rough day. Tony lost his temper, grabbed Alex's arm and scared Abby. And on top of that we got into it ourselves. What do you when it seems like the world is crashing down around you? We made the decision to have a "conference" with our kids and talk through this with them and then with each other. It stinks when things feel out of control but you have a choice as to how you will resolve the situation. What do you do, work through it or push it under the rug? Stripped Down Book, eB...more

  • 083: SOMETHING’S BUGGING ME

    Jul 26 2011

    Are stressful situations good for your marriage? This week Tony and Alisa were hit with an unexpected case of lice (times 3). Tony and Alisa had to make decisions on how they were going to treat each other and how they were going to serve one another. There wasn't much time to think, but the decisions they made had an impact on their marriage. It turns out that having lice this week was really good for our marriage. Next time you are facing a stressful situation stop and think before reacting. D...more

  • 082: ART OF MANLINESS

    Jul 19 2011

    Husbands, it's time to stand up! Take a hard look at yourself in the mirror. Are you taking a stand in your marriage and becoming the man your wife desires? Or are you pulling the "I don't like it card"? It's time that you start taking the lead on date nights, helping around the house, and being the spiritual leader. It's time to become a man. In this episode we rant and rave, but Tony & Alisa do it in love. You want the sexual intimacy in your marriage like you did when you first got marrie...more

  • 081: I WANNA LEAVE A LEGACY

    Jul 12 2011

    One of these days we are no longer going to walk this earth. We'll be in heaven with our Father enjoying the good life. Those left behind though will live on with the teachings we showed them. It is while we are here on earth that we can leave a legacy, a marriage legacy that is. It's not about you leaving a legacy, but the legacy you and your spouse leave together. Sharing the good times, tough times, and the fun times about your marriage to your kids. Teaching the six forms of intimacy at cert...more

  • 080: IT’S NOT JUST ABOUT THE SEX

    Jul 05 2011

    Is it just about sex? Is a question we get asked often. Is that the secret to our extraordinary marriage? You just have a lot of sex and then the marriage gets better? NO! It's not just about SEX. It's about growing in all 6 forms of intimacies in your marriage. It's realizing when you are off track and investing the time and energy in getting back on track. Yes, sex does matter in a marriage but it's not the most important thing...all forms of intimacy are. So, take some time this week and focu...more

  • 079: TAKING STOCK

    Jun 28 2011

    Marriages ebb and flow over days, months, and years. This week Tony & Alisa discuss what to do when taking the lead is not happening during their Intimacy Lifestyle. It was time to bring this up and work through the why's this is happening. It's time to sit down with your spouse and take stock of where you are in your marriage. Stripped Down Podcast Small Group Intentional Moments Fundraiser Take the Challenge Stripped Down Book, eBook, or Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re ...more

  • 078 – What Did You Say?

    Jun 21 2011

    In marriage there come times when our words wound the one we love the most. Many times we don’t realize the lasting effects these words have on our spouse, but in many cases they do. Days, months, and even years later the messages are being played over and over like a broken record. It’s difficult [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 077 – Check Engine

    Jun 14 2011

    Are you paying attention to the warning signs in your marriage? This past weekend we attended the Church at Rancho Bernardo’s annual marriage retreat. This is the third year that we’ve attended and each year we learn something new about our marriage. One of the first questions that was asked of the group was: What [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 076 – As Long as Life Shall Last

    Jun 07 2011

    Nobody likes to talk about death and the impact it can have on our marriage. The reality is that we are all going to die one day. The question to ask yourselves since this will inevitable happen is, Are your affairs in order both spiritually and personally? In this episode we talk through the death [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 075 – I’m Finished…I Want Out

    May 31 2011

    It’s been a week where it feels like all we have heard about are marriages in trouble, conversations with friends who are making life-changing decisions, emails from listeners about to call it quits.  Separation and divorce have been something we’ve been hearing a lot about lately. While this is not a topic that is easy to talk [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 074 – Don’t Stop

    May 24 2011

    There are times in our marriages when we just don’t have the energy or stamina to go on. Between family obligations, kids, work, outside actives, and the like we have nothing left. It’s during these times that we need continue on with God as our guide. Two emails came in this week that prompted us [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 073 – We Did It!

    May 17 2011

    Over the years there have been times in our marriage when we completed a task or challenge and looked each other in the eyes and knew we did something special. This past week was one of those times. The thing is that you can have a We Did IT! moment and it doesn’t have to [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 072 – Dollars and Sense

    May 10 2011

    Have you ever been stressed by your finances? Stupid question, right?  In this episode Tony and Alisa talk about how having financial intimacy can bring peace to your marriage. Date night doesn’t have to cause tension.  You can go out, spend money and have fun…if you have a plan!   The reality is that financial peace or [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 071 – When the Crap Hits the Fan

    May 03 2011

    Wouldn’t it be wonderful if nothing bad ever happened in our marriages? No arguments, no infidelity, no pain, no money issues, & all the other things that come with living with someone.  Unfortunately, that isn’t the way marriage usually goes. In this podcast Tony & Alisa share a Crap Hits the Fan moment that has [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 070 – Let The Good Times Roll

    Apr 26 2011

    There is so much happening in our marriages that we need to enjoy those periods of time when all is going smooth.  Being content in our marriage is a great place to be and one we should enjoy.  We walk a little different, we have a smile on our face, and let’s face it the [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 069 – Are You Aware

    Apr 19 2011

    Have you ever stopped to think about all the different ways that God shows up in your life Whether it’s a phone call from a friend saying, “I’m thinking about you” or an offer of a ride when you need to get somewhere, God is ever present in our lives. This week an email from [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 068 – A Little Bit of Paradise

    Apr 12 2011

    We’re back and it was a wonderful week in paradise.  Warm weather was very welcome as it gave us the opportunity to spend lots of relaxing moments on the beach doing a whole lot of nothing! We did unplug as promised and found that you can spend a week without facebook and twitter and survive [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 067 – A Big Decision

    Apr 05 2011

    We couldn’t go on vacation and not have a podcast ready for you.  So, we recorded this earlier in the week than usual to get it out. Tony scheduled the release date and time so that you could listen to this while we are on the beach in beautiful Puerto Rico! Here’s the thing though… [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 066 – Did Not Finish

    Mar 29 2011

    In life and in our marriage we aren’t able to accomplish everything, we sometimes fail.  This leaves us feeling down because we aren’t able to live up to our expectations or the perceived expectations of others. Do you start to engage in negative self talk that has the potential to destroy the relationships around you? It’s [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 065 – What’s in Your Suitcase?

    Mar 22 2011

    We come into our marriages with baggage from all of previous experiences both good and bad.  Our suitcase colors how we interact in our marital relationship and how we handle life. It’s time to start unpacking your suitcase so that you can be transparent with your spouse! By doing so you can move into that [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 064 – O Yes, That’s the Spot!

    Mar 15 2011

    In this episode of ONE Extraordinary Marriage Podcast Tony & Alisa dig deep into orgasming so that you can have one.  Alisa shares her experience of not having orgasm early in her marriage and faking orgasms to finish the deed.  Through communicating her desires to have one, self exploration with Tony, and showing Tony what [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 063 – What’s For Dinner

    Mar 08 2011

    Over the last 14 years of marriage we’ve spent a lot of time around food.  Something that has peaked our interest in the last couple of months is how food impacts intimacy in our marriage? We’ve gone from eating bean burritos, bad frozen pizza, fish sticks, and eating out often to having a home cooked [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 062 – In Sickness & Health

    Mar 01 2011

    When we take our vows we don’t necessarily think about the bad stuff that might happen, especially sickness.  The thing is that eventually you or your spouse will become sick. How do you handle life when sickness does happen? This week we were hit from a few different sides.  Both of our dads had some [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 061 – There’s A White Elephant In The Room

    Feb 22 2011

    Sometimes people don’t want to talk about what’s right under their noses in their marriages and so of course that makes it the right topic for us to talk about here.  We talked about pornography before from a personal standpoint, in this episode we branch out a bit and talk about the impact it is [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 060 – Broken Hearts

    Feb 15 2011

    Emotional distance can seem impossible  to overcome, we’ve stopped talking or if we are talking it just about the surface stuff.  It just seems easier to avoid the conversations than to face the challenges that come with him.   It’s time to mend those broken hearts, to have the courage to talk about those things that [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 059 – Excuse Me!

    Feb 08 2011

    Last week’s episode really struck a chord with many of you and it wasn’t so much the topic as it was the behavior exhibited in the first 10 minutes of the podcast. Interrupting your spouse shows a lack of consideration and respect. This week we dig deep into this topic in our own marriage, thanks to [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 058 – Are You Looking to Score? Shoot For the Goal!

    Feb 01 2011

    We’ve heard that life is like a “box of chocolates” but after watching kids play soccer tonight I think I might have to change it to marriage is like a soccer game.   It’s interesting to see how much of what we learn and experience as children really does play out later in life. Watching kids [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 057 – Coming Home Again

    Jan 25 2011

    Sometimes we forget where we come from, why we married our spouse.  We allow the distractions of the world: other people, our finances, our jobs-to chip away at the foundation of this specific relationship.  As I (Alisa) travelled this past week I found myself having multiple conversations about marriage and relationships that reminded me that [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 056 – The Strain of Change

    Jan 18 2011

    Over the years we have attended large churches and very small churches and it’s never been an easy decision to change churches. Sometimes, though, it’s been necessary for the welfare of our marriage.  Listen in as we talk about the ups and downs of changing churches, how church attendance (or lack thereof) impacted our marriage [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 055 – Happy Anniversary

    Jan 11 2011

    Sponsored by: This episode marks one year of the ONE Extraordinary Marriage podcast.  It’s hard to imagine how far we have come in the last year, growing deeper in our marriage and helping you to grow deeper in yours. Listen in to emails and voicemails from listeners sharing their thoughts on how ONE has made [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 054 – Hear Us Roar!

    Jan 04 2011

    Welcome to 2011!  It’s the start of a new year and with it comes some big conversations dealing with financial and sexual intimacy.  Alisa reveals some financial dirty laundry and the ramifications, both good and bad, that come with that news.  Tony wants more vocalization during lovemaking, but Alisa’s not comfortable with that.  We’re digging [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 053 – Great Expectations

    Dec 28 2010

    This is the last podcast of 2010 and 2011 is right around the corner.  A new year brings new hopes and new expectations.  What are your expectations for this new year for yourself and for your marriage? Have you shared them with your spouse?  Make the time this week to sit down and write out [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 052 – The Christmas Story

    Dec 21 2010

    Have you ever stopped to think about the couple behind the Christmas story?  Mary and Joseph faced incredible challenges in their young relationship, but they had God the Father and God the Son at the center of their marriage.  With this they were able to make their marriage work. As Christmas approaches remember that you [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 051 – True Friendship

    Dec 14 2010

    Lessons I learned from watching my kids (Alisa)…This weekend as I watched my son make decisions about his birthday cake based on the fact that one of his best friends was coming.  He sacrificed what he may have wanted for what a friend would prefer.  Funny thing was, he didn’t consider it sacrifice.  Are you [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 050 – Shhh! I’ve Got a Secret

    Dec 07 2010

    We had two “We Did IT!” this week! And an awesome number of listener emails that we talk through as they deal with family boundaries, make up sex, and your encouraging words. Secrets can destroy your marriage.  This week Tony & Alisa share how to talk about these secrets and how they have been able [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 049 – Tis the Season to Have SEX!

    Nov 30 2010

    Are you taking the steps necessary to maintain the intimacy in your marriage during this crazy time of year?  This is a time when we can find ourselves so busy with all that “needs to be done” that we neglect the relationships that matter the most.  One way to improve the intimacy in your marriage [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 048 – Count Your Blessings

    Nov 23 2010

    Thanksgiving is just a few days away and this is a fantastic time to reflect back on all of your blessings both large and small.  Sometimes in the midst of everyday life we lose sight of how much we have received. We challenge you during the next month to take the time to write down [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 047 – Getting On the Same Page

    Nov 16 2010

    We are almost to 2011 and it’s a great time to be thinking about your goals for next year.  So often we focus on our individual goals but it’s time to sit down and work through the goals the two of you have for your marriage.  Listen in as we talk through the Lukas Coaching [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 046 – Are You Keeping Score?

    Nov 09 2010

    So often in our marriages we are playing this invisible game where we keep track of everything our spouse does, comparing it to what we are doing to see who is the winner and who is the loser.  You are in a marriage NOT a game.  There cannot be a winner and a loser if [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 045 – Can You Face the Music?

    Nov 02 2010

    So often in our marriages we fail to take responsibility for our actions.  Have you ever not apologized?  Just swept the issue “under the rug”?  Waited for everything to blow over?  STOP IT! It’s does not matter if you get the words right, what matters is that you say them.  Start taking responsibility for your [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 044 – On the Road Again

    Oct 26 2010

    Can the two of you maintain your intimacy while one is away and the other is at home?  You both want to make sure that intimacy stays a priority in your marriage, but how do you make that happen when there is so much to do! Grab your drink of choice, sit back, and enjoy [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 043 – I Don’t Want the World, I Want YOU!

    Oct 19 2010

    Have you stopped to think about what your spouse and family really want from you? Do you know that most of them would be willing to have less “stuff” if it meant more of you?  Part of making your marriage extraordinary is investing in the relationships that matter most.  This week we challenge you to really [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 042 – Do I Really Want to Make a Change?

    Oct 12 2010

    Are you just talking about change or are you ready to step up to the plate and make things happen in your marriage? It’s time to stop trying and start doing! Whether it’s getting in shape or trying a new position make things happen today.  It’s easy to talk about what you are going to [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 041 – Is Your Marriage an Adventure or a Burden?

    Oct 05 2010

    Have you taken the time to think about how you view your marriage? Every relationship has highs and lows but the difference is all in your mindset. Do you choose to look at the future wondering what is around the corner or do you dread every day. This journey called marriage should be the most exciting adventure…what are [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 040 – Screw the Kids…This is Our Marriage

    Sep 28 2010

    Are you focusing more on your kids than on your spouse?  It’s time to teach yourselves and the kids that they are not the center of the universe. It is so easy to get wrapped up in what the kids need that we lose sight of what our marriage needs and our spouse needs. When [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 039 – Heaven Help Us!

    Sep 21 2010

    Week 6 –  Stripped Down 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Small Group Podcast This week we wrap up our small group podcast on Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage. Over the past 6 weeks we dove into the other 11 Keys and this week is no different.  So, [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 038 – Is Your Bedroom a Sanctuary?

    Sep 14 2010

    Week 5 –  Stripped Down 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Small Group Podcast It’s time to take some action this week, starting with your bedroom.  Your bedroom needs to be a sanctuary, a place where the two of you can get away from it all.  Clean out the clutter, the electronics and [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 037 – Looking Good and Feeling Good

    Sep 07 2010

    Week 4 –  Stripped Down 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Small Group Podcast Have you thought about how being physically active impacts your marriage? Yes, you know the kind that makes your heart rate beat fast in your chest while the sweat pours off your brow. We’re talking physical activity not sex. [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 036 – What If?

    Aug 31 2010

    What if we had never done the 60 Days of Sex Challenge? Where would our own marriage be today? Where would the ONE Community be? We talk through the last two years and challenge you to stop asking the “what if” question and start doing something today to make your marriage what you want it to [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 035 – Pencil Me In

    Aug 24 2010

    This episode is sponsored by Blow Up My Marriage! Week 3 –  Stripped Down 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Small Group Podcast Challenge yourself this week to show your spouse just how much they matter by getting them on your calendar. Whether it’s taking a hike together, reading a devotional, or making love [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 034 – Can We Talk?

    Aug 17 2010

    Week 2 –  Stripped Down 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Small Group Podcast Communication is vital to any marriage and it’s importance cannot be overstated. You need to work past the surface conversation and learn about what is really going on with them. Money matters builds on this as financial intimacy can [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 033 – From the Top Down & More…

    Aug 10 2010

    This is the first of our small group podcast on Stripped Down:  13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Marriage.  Each week we will be coving the different Keys that you can use in your marriage today, tomorrow, and into the future to build passion, romance, & intimacy. Join us as we talk about… Chapter 1 [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 032 – Home Sweet Home

    Aug 03 2010

    We spent last week in Morro Bay on our family vacation.  We had a lot of fun together and a few not so fun times.  Just goes to show that we are still a work in progress and that this thing called marriage takes on-going effort.  Come join us as we recount those ups and [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 031 – Queen Size Bed

    Jul 27 2010

    This week we are not in the studio aka the garage, but instead podcasting from a rock overlooking Morro Bay. We used our digital recorder and Tony’s portion is a bit crackly. Sorry about this and we’ll make sure to have this corrected the next time. Luckily this one is only 15 minutes. Enjoy! It’s [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 030 – Sex In The Bedroom

    Jul 20 2010

    Are you able to share your sexual passions and desires to your spouse? What’s keeping you from having meaningful conversation about this area of your life? There are so many distractions pulling us in so many directions that we forget that God has given us this beautiful thing called SEX. It’s time to sit down [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 029 – But Nothing

    Jul 13 2010

    Do you put a period or a comma after “I’m sorry”?  If you are putting a comma, then think about this. When you qualify your apology you minimize the apology and put the blame for your actions/reactions on the other person. What impact does this have on your marriage or your other relationships? It tears them down [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 028 – Life Insurance, Is It Worth It?

    Jul 06 2010

    It’s a tough conversation to have but one that is so worth it…what happens if one of us dies? Are we adequately prepared in terms of life insurance? After seeing a family member deal with the unexpected loss of her husband 4 years ago we both increased our policies to the point that if something [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 027 – The Whole Enchilada

    Jun 29 2010

    Are you loving your spouse with your whole self, serving them in all areas or are you just giving them a part of yourself? Intimacy involves more than just the physical intimacy we think of most the time. There is emotional, intellectual, recreational, financial, and spiritual as well. Stop focusing on just your physical intimacy [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 026 – It’s Summertime

    Jun 22 2010

    How do you make intimacy a priority when schedules are all over the place? With kids out of school, vacations, late nights and other unpredictability what are you doing to make your spouse #1? How are you being creative this summer? We are finding ways to connect…text messages, voicemails, love notes. It’s all about creating [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 025 – Getting Away

    Jun 15 2010

    It’s time to get away with your spouse and reconnect. Getting away gives you the opportunity to have those deep conversations, to sleep late and explore new places with your one and only.Getting away allows you to refocus your priorities and make your spouse #1. Where will you be going next? Leave a review on [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 024 – When It’s Not On The Radar Screen

    Jun 08 2010

    What does your marriage look like when intimacy is not on the radar screen? We had a personal case study last week and it wasn’t pretty. It is never too late to make intimacy a priority in your marriage, it just takes making a decision and making the effort. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 023 – Get Unplugged and Find Your Connection

    Jun 01 2010

    We spent Memorial Day weekend unplugged out at Agua Caliente State Park…no phones, no computers, no video games. It was an amazing time of re-discovering the joys that we have in each other. It was a weekend of togetherness, laughter and conversations. Now that we are home the real challenge starts. What changes do we need to [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 022 – Is It Safe To Share My Emotions

    May 25 2010

    Have you created a marriage where it is safe to share your emotions-both the good and the bad? Are you willing to let the person, who is supposed to love you the most, in on what is truly going on with you? It’s a struggle for us and we share the ups and downs of [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 021 – All is Fair in Love and Marriage…

    May 18 2010

    Do you feel like things aren’t fair in your marriage? Are you busier keeping track of who did what than how you are serving your spouse? Listen as we respond to a twitter question about whether marriage is fair or can be fair. We talk through our own thoughts and come to some unexpected insights into marriage [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 020 – Shaking Things UP!

    May 11 2010

    Has your marriage fallen into a rut?  Do you want to break out of the routines both emotionally and sexually?  Join us for the 1st Annual 7 Days of Sex Challenge.  Today we talk about the details and how this can be transformational for your marriage.  This is a chance to be part of community [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 019 – God Wants You to Make an Impact

    May 06 2010

    Small acts done with great love can transform the world. -Jill Todd Do you realize the power that you have? Every day we are presented with opportunities to change someone’s life be it through a conversation, a situation, a prayer. This isn’t about the recognition, but rather it’s about making a positive difference with no [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 018 – Interview: Facebook and Your Marriage

    May 04 2010

    We are pleased to have had the chance to interview Jason & Kelli Krafsky authors of Facebook and Your Marriage. Jason & Kelli have been married since 1994 and been on Facebook since 2008. They have written a number of articles, including “How Facebook Can Improve Your Marriage Relationship“, “Is Facebook a Cyber-Threat to Your [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 017 – Are You too Tired to Try?

    Apr 29 2010

    Have you worn yourself down? Are there too many “things” demanding your attention? In this weeks podcast we tackle the issue of fatigue in our marriage and how it has the ability to wreak havoc on our marriage and your relationships. We don’t always get it right but we do keep trying. Studio 6 Sense Pursuing [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 016 – An Attitude of Service

    Apr 22 2010

    Do you have an attitude of service in your marriage? You can make a difference in your marriage, in your life, in the world. By choosing to serve, without expectation or requirement of a return, you free yourself to fully enjoy intimacy. You choose to become a giver instead of a taker. When both spouses have this [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 015 – How Do You Like to be Touched

    Apr 15 2010

    We crave physical touch both non-sexual and sexual. Are you able to communicate your desires to your spouse? Are you open to what your spouse might suggest? This week we challenge you to share your desires and make a commitment to deepen the intimacy in your marriage Intimacy Ignited – The book that launched 60 [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 014 – Family Gatherings

    Apr 08 2010

    In California we drive. We drive a lot to tell you the truth so this week on our drive home from Easter with the DiLorenzo family we decided to make use of our drive time. Join Alisa and I as we talk about the family dynamics during a holiday get together. What is it like when [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 013 – The Difference One Week Can Make in Your Marriage

    Apr 01 2010

    Can 7 days really make a difference in your marriage?  We are placing bets that it can. Decide that for one week your spouse is going to be your number one priority and see what happens. Celebrate as you rediscover the communication in your marriage. Why? Because you have to be working through the annoyances [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 012 – Fireproof

    Mar 28 2010

    “Never leave your partner, especially in a fire.” We are a little behind the times but better late than never. This is an amazing movie that will dramatically impact you wherever you are in your marriage. At so many points throughout the movie we found ourselves moved by how true to life this was, how [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 011 – Our Beginning…How the Romance Started

    Mar 25 2010

    We step back in time to talk about how it all started for us. It was the summer of 1994 when Alisa came to the University of Colorado at Boulder on an internship program. I was a student, cook, and maintenance man around the fraternity house where she was staying. It was by chance that [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 010 – Can You Admit When You Are Wrong?

    Mar 18 2010

    Can you admit when you are wrong? Or are you quick to jump on the defensive when your spouse brings up an issue? Listen in as we share our less than perfect week. I (Alisa) was moody and irritable, quick to dismiss anything that Tony had to say. Listen to the he said/she said of [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 009 – Are You Dating Your Spouse?

    Mar 11 2010

    You’ve heard everyone talk about it…but are you doing it?  Date night that is.  Low budget or over the top, spending time with your spouse is critical to the life of your marriage. Listen as  we talk about some of our most recent date nights and what you can do to make date night a [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 008 – Eyes Wide Open

    Mar 04 2010

    Are you able to communicate your desires to your spouse?  How do you react when he/she suggests trying something new.  In this podcast Tony and Alisa talk about one of Tony’s ideas and how it played out in the bedroom. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 007 – Pornography: A Secret That Can Destroy Your Marriage

    Feb 25 2010

    Are you aware of the destructive force that pornography can have in your marriage? 28,358 individuals are viewing porn every second Internet porn generated $2.84 billion in 2006 70% of porn is viewed between the 9-5 eight-hour workday (LJ INdex, September 2007) Pornography not only distorts your perception of your spouse, but it also creates [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 006 – Power of Prayer

    Feb 18 2010

    The Power of Prayer…change is possible, are you willing to ask for what you want and wait for it to happen? In our microwave society we want what we want RIGHT NOW! The reality is this: we can’t change our spouse or their actions no matter how much we want to do so. The power [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 005 – Sex: Quantity vs Quality

    Feb 11 2010

    It’s the ultimate marriage chicken and egg scenario…Are you satisfied with less frequent mind blowing sex? OR Does more frequent sex lead to better sex because you learn how to better please your spouse? We weigh in on these options and discuss what has happened in our marriage. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 004 – Listener Feedback

    Feb 04 2010

    In this episode we answer a number of questions from one of our listeners about ONE Extraordinary Marriage.  Click here to read the email.  Some of the questions we answer are: Who we are? Why we are doing this? Where did ONE come from? Why an Extraordinary Marriage? What we do behind the microphones? We [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 003 – Rejection: Our McDonald’s Theory

    Jan 28 2010

    Have you ever given any thought to the power the word NO has on your marriage? What might be a minor decision for a wife/husband (do we or don’t we make love tonight) can have a larger impact on our marriages, especially if the rejection is repeated often. Stop rejecting your spouse and watch your [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 002 – Can We Talk?

    Jan 21 2010

    Do your talks with your spouse go beyond the small talk about the weather and the kids? Is there a yearning to go deeper in your conversations? Are you wondering how to get the conversation started? Join us as we talk about how we use communicate in our marriage. Over the years we have learned [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • 001 – 60 Days of Sex

    Jan 13 2010

    Eleven years and our marriage had gone through a lot and yet the pain we endured didn’t have to be there forever. So on a fateful day Tony & Alisa began an adventure that would forever change their lives. Since this first show came out we have had listeners from all over the world take [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices