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ONE Extraordinary Marriage Show

Is your marriage everything that you want it to be? Are you ready to make a change? Join Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo as they share tips and stories on how to create the marriage that you want. Marriage is not always easy but it’s so worth it. Come and make your marriage EXTRAORDINARY!

Episodes

  • 452: MULTIPLE ORGASMS

    Oct 30 2018

    "The only thing better than having an orgasm? Having another orgasm." —Anonymous There aren’t a lot of hard-numbers on this topic due to the private and self-reported nature, but 45% of married women and 20% of married men say that they can have multiple orgasms in a given sexual encounter (see more stats like that here). Everyone’s body, preferences and experiences are different. For Tony and Alisa, we spent the first five years of marriage with Alisa faking orgasms. It t...more

  • 391: LUBE IT UP

    Aug 29 2017

    "Friction is likely to generate heat instead of progress." —George Eliot Disclaimer: We are going to be talking about lubrication (lube). Please take the time to investigate how your chosen lube works with your chosen form of birth control AND investigate the ingredients to make sure that you are keeping your body healthy from the inside out. Once in awhile we have an experience that makes us stop and think when was the last time that we discussed this topic. A few weeks ago...more

  • 321: RENEWING YOUR MARRIAGE LICENSE

    Apr 26 2016

    To get married you had to have a marriage licence. Here's the thing though... This is the only license that you are never required to renew. You are not required to go to class, spend time and money, or become more informed to grow. On the other hand you have to renew your driver’s license, retake the written test and sometimes take the driving test. There are many professions that require continuing education: the legal field, auto technicians, financial services, the medical...more

  • 314: STOP HOPING, START DOING

    Mar 08 2016

    Lack of action, apathy, laziness are marriage killers.  In this life you have two options, you are either growing or you’re not. When you wish or hope for change without doing what you need to be doing that’s not growth. That’s being outwardly focused. That’s expecting others to do the changing why you sit back and wait. We've both done this in our marriage over the years. At some point in time you've been frustrated with your marriage. Be it emotionally, financially, sexua...more

  • SPECIAL EDITION: MERRY CHRISTMAS ONE FAMILY

    Dec 24 2013

    We know that you are busy with last minute preparations, trimming the tree, wrapping the presents, traveling and setting out the cookies for Santa. So we just wanted to take a few minutes to reflect with you on this season. As you unwrap this holiday season remember that the biggest and best gift that you can give your spouse is the gift of you. Your attention, your intention, and your commitment to the marriage. This week Tony & Alisa share how you can love in spite of life’s chal...more

  • 182: KEEPING SECRETS ABOUT THE KIDS

    Aug 13 2013

    There is marriage Before Kids (BK) and then there is marriage After Kids (AK). You know what we are talking about as these can be two extremes. It starts from little sleep, to low sex drive, on to school, sports, and many other good and tough issues as they grow up. One area where this can be most prevalent is in your emotional and intellectual intimacy with your spouse. Kids can be a wedge between the two of you. In this weeks show Tony & Alisa share how you can stay ...more

  • 077: CHECK ENGINE

    Jun 14 2011

    Are you paying attention to the warning signs in your marriage? This past weekend we attended the Church at Rancho Bernardo's annual marriage retreat. This is the third year that we've attended and each year we learn something new about our marriage. One of the first questions that was asked of the group was: What is one thing you wish you could change about your marriage? The top 3 answers: I wish we spent more time together. I wish we had better communication I ...more

  • 069: ARE YOU AWARE

    Apr 19 2011

    Have you ever stopped to think about all the different ways that God shows up in your life. Whether it's a phone call from a friend saying, "I'm thinking about you" or an offer of a ride when you need to get somewhere, God is ever present in our lives. This week an email from Alisa's dad opens our discussion on all of the different ways that we can see God in our lives. Whether our relationship with Him is rock solid or not quite-if we are aware that he is constantly there f...more

  • 068: A LITTLE BIT OF PARADISE

    Apr 12 2011

    We’re back and it was a wonderful week in paradise. Warm weather was very welcome as it gave us the opportunity to spend lots of relaxing moments on the beach doing a whole lot of nothing! We did unplug as promised and found that you can spend a week without Facebook and twitter and survive and even thrive. Of course the week had it’s share of adventures which we have reliving on the podcast. One of the most exciting things to happen was the opportunity we had both indivi...more

  • 067: A BIG DECISION

    Apr 05 2011

    We couldn’t go on vacation and not have a podcast ready for you. So, we recorded this earlier in the week than usual to get it out. Tony scheduled the release date and time so that you could listen to this while we are on the beach in beautiful Puerto Rico! Here's the thing though... You can’t reach us! Technically you can still send us emails and voicemails this week, but you are going to have to wait for a response...why?  Because we made a big decision. This vacati...more

  • 066: DID NOT FINISH

    Mar 29 2011

    In life and in our marriage we aren’t able to accomplish everything, we sometimes fail. This leaves us feeling down because we aren’t able to live up to our expectations or the perceived expectations of others. Do you start to engage in negative self talk that has the potential to destroy the relationships around you? It’s time to look at those “failures” and to realize how we can grow from them. It’s time to stop making it all about what’s gone wrong and make it about wh...more

  • 065: WHAT’S IN YOUR SUITCASE?

    Mar 22 2011

    We come into our marriages with baggage from all of previous experiences both good and bad. Our suitcase colors how we interact in our marital relationship and how we handle life. It’s time to start unpacking your suitcase so that you can be transparent with your spouse! By doing so you can move into that extraordinary marriage you’ve been desiring. Everything from how you handle your finances to how you act in the bedroom can be unpacked. It is time you lightened your load! Wh...more

  • 064: O YES, THAT’S THE SPOT!

    Mar 15 2011

    In this episode of ONE Extraordinary Marriage Podcast Tony & Alisa dig deep into orgasming so that you can have one. Alisa shares her experience of not having orgasm early in her marriage and faking orgasms to finish the deed. Through communicating her desires to have one, self exploration with Tony, and showing Tony what feels good to her she is now able to have mind blowing SEX! You can have the same.  Listen as Tony & Alisa give you ideas to help you achieve the orgasm yo...more

  • 063: WHAT’S FOR DINNER

    Mar 08 2011

    Over the last 14 years of marriage we’ve spent a lot of time around food. Something that has peaked our interest in the last couple of months is how food impacts intimacy in our marriage? We’ve gone from eating bean burritos, bad frozen pizza, fish sticks, and eating out often to having a home cooked meal just about every night of the week. We spend a lot of time these days talking about food.  Not in a bad way, but in a way that brings us closer together. We'll discuss o...more

  • 062: IN SICKNESS & HEALTH

    Mar 01 2011

    When we take our vows we don’t necessarily think about the bad stuff that might happen, especially sickness. The thing is that eventually you or your spouse will become sick. How do you handle life when sickness does happen? This week we were hit from a few different sides. Both of our dads had some health problems come up and Tony got sick as well. The strain that health issues put on our marriage is real.  Making intimacy a priority during sickness & health issues is wh...more

  • 061: THERE’S A WHITE ELEPHANT IN THE ROOM

    Feb 22 2011

    Sometimes people don’t want to talk about what’s right under their noses in their marriages. So of course that makes it the right topic for us to talk about here. We talked about pornography before from a personal standpoint, in this episode we branch out a bit and talk about the impact it is having in the lives of our listeners, their spouses and their families. It’s time to take a stand and recognize that until people are honest and open about this issue it’s going to rema...more

  • 060: BROKEN HEARTS

    Feb 15 2011

    Emotional distance can seem impossible to overcome, we’ve stopped talking or if we are talking it just about the surface stuff. It just seems easier to avoid the conversations than to face the challenges that come with him. It’s time to mend those broken hearts, to have the courage to talk about those things that you've been avoiding. A Fish Called Wanda Cooking with Alisa on Fit Marriage Cycling Camp San Diego 77 Intimacy Questions Leave a review on iTunes | Sub...more

  • 059: EXCUSE ME!

    Feb 08 2011

    Last week’s episode really struck a chord with many of you and it wasn’t so much the topic as it was the behavior exhibited in the first 10 minutes of the podcast. Interrupting your spouse shows a lack of consideration and respect. This week we dig deep into this topic in our own marriage, thanks to so many of you pointing out what you heard Tony doing. There are no quick fixes but this is definitely a case where awareness can lead to a change in behavior. Leave a review ...more

  • 058: ARE YOU LOOKING TO SCORE? SHOOT FOR THE GOAL!

    Feb 01 2011

    We’ve heard that life is like a “box of chocolates” but after watching kids play soccer tonight I think I might have to change it to marriage is like a soccer game. It’s interesting to see how much of what we learn and experience as children really does play out later in life. Watching kids figure out how to play to their natural strengths and how to work together as a team reminds us all that these are necessary skills that we use every day in our marriages. When we focus o...more

  • 057: COMING HOME AGAIN

    Jan 25 2011

    Sometimes we forget where we come from, why we married our spouse. We allow the distractions of the world: other people, our finances, our jobs-to chip away at the foundation of this specific relationship. As Alisa traveled this past week I found myself having multiple conversations about marriage and relationships that reminded me that we need to come home. We need to put protection around our marriages so that they are secure  I encourage you this week to think about comin...more

  • 056: THE STRAIN OF CHANGE

    Jan 18 2011

    Over the years we have attended large churches and very small churches and it’s never been an easy decision to change churches. Sometimes, though, it’s been necessary for the welfare of our marriage. Listen in as we talk about the ups and downs of changing churches, how church attendance (or lack thereof) impacted our marriage relationship. And how now, we find ourselves on the same page and growing spiritually. Cycling Camps San Diego Spartan Race Solvang Double Centur...more

  • 055: HAPPY ANNIVERSARY

    Jan 11 2011

    This episode marks one year of the ONE Extraordinary Marriage podcast. It’s hard to imagine how far we have come in the last year, growing deeper in our marriage and helping you to grow deeper in yours. Listen in to emails and voicemails from listeners sharing their thoughts on how ONE has made a difference in their marriage-from the 7 Days of Sex Challenge to taking rejection out of the bedroom, it’s been a year of growth. We appreciate you listening in 2010 and look forwar...more

  • 054: HEAR US ROAR!

    Jan 04 2011

    Welcome to 2011! It’s the start of a new year and with it comes some big conversations dealing with financial and sexual intimacy. Alisa reveals some financial dirty laundry and the ramifications, both good and bad, that come with that news. Tony wants more vocalization during lovemaking, but Alisa’s not comfortable with that. We’re digging in deep, getting to the heart of the matter on both of these topics. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-566...more

  • 053: GREAT EXPECTATIONS

    Dec 28 2010

    This is the last podcast of 2010 and 2011 is right around the corner. A new year brings new hopes and new expectations. What are your expectations for this new year for yourself and for your marriage? Have you shared them with your spouse? Make the time this week to sit down and write out 50 reasons why you want to accomplish these goals, what it will mean to you and your marriage when you do.  BE BOLD! Fit Marriage Transformation Kit by Holly Rigsby Leave a revi...more

  • 052: THE CHRISTMAS STORY

    Dec 21 2010

    Have you ever stopped to think about the couple behind the Christmas story? Mary and Joseph faced incredible challenges in their young relationship, but they had God the Father and God the Son at the center of their marriage. With this they were able to make their marriage work. As Christmas approaches remember that you have been given an incredible gift in Jesus and with Him in your marriage you can survive these challenges. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question |...more

  • 051: TRUE FRIENDSHIP

    Dec 14 2010

    Lessons I learned from watching my kids... This weekend as I watched my son make decisions about his birthday cake based on the fact that one of his best friends was coming. He sacrificed what he may have wanted for what a friend would prefer. Funny thing was, he didn’t consider it sacrifice. Are you willing to make accommodations for your friends or more importantly your spouse just because you are in a relationship with them? Do you keep score or do you serve out of ...more

  • 050: SHHH! I’VE GOT A SECRET

    Dec 07 2010

    We had two "We Did IT!" this week! And an awesome number of listener emails that we talk through as they deal with family boundaries, make up sex, and your encouraging words. Secrets can destroy your marriage. This week Tony & Alisa share how to talk about these secrets and how they have been able to overcome the ones in their marriage. Are you aware of how secrets are robbing your marriage of the intimacy you desire? Your marriage can survive your secrets when both of...more

  • 049: TIS THE SEASON TO HAVE SEX!

    Nov 30 2010

    Are you taking the steps necessary to maintain the intimacy in your marriage during this crazy time of year? This is a time when we can find ourselves so busy with all that “needs to be done” that we neglect the relationships that matter the most. One way to improve the intimacy in your marriage is to set a budget for holiday spending and STICK TO IT! Finances can be a marriage strain during this time of year but clear communication and a focus on making intimacy a priority ...more

  • 048: COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS

    Nov 23 2010

    Thanksgiving is just a few days away and this is a fantastic time to reflect back on all of your blessings both large and small. Sometimes in the midst of everyday life we lose sight of how much we have received. We challenge you during the next month to take the time to write down the blessings that you have received from your spouse and make it a gift to them. This is truly a priceless gift that only you can give. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858...more

  • 047: GETTING ON THE SAME PAGE

    Nov 16 2010

    We are almost to 2011 and it’s a great time to be thinking about your goals for next year. So often we focus on our individual goals but it’s time to sit down and work through the goals the two of you have for your marriage. Listen in as we talk through the Lukas Coaching goal setting worksheet. Get on the same page and see what happens in 2011! 2011 Goal Setting Worksheet Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663

  • 046: ARE YOU KEEPING SCORE?

    Nov 09 2010

    So often in our marriages we are playing this invisible game where we keep track of everything our spouse does, comparing it to what we are doing to see who is the winner and who is the loser. You are in a marriage NOT a game. There cannot be a winner and a loser if you want your marriage to survive. It’s time to stop keeping score and start making changes that are going to allow you to have deeper intimacy with your spouse. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | ...more

  • 045: CAN YOU FACE THE MUSIC?

    Nov 02 2010

    So often in our marriages we fail to take responsibility for our actions. Have you ever not apologized?  Just swept the issue “under the rug”? Waited for everything to blow over? STOP IT! It’s does not matter if you get the words right, what matters is that you say them. Start taking responsibility for your actions and words. In every relationship it takes two and you do have responsibility for your situations. Make a difference this week and own your part! What is ...more

  • 044: ON THE ROAD AGAIN

    Oct 26 2010

    Can the two of you maintain your intimacy while one is away and the other is at home? You both want to make sure that intimacy stays a priority in your marriage, but how do you make that happen when there is so much to do! Grab your drink of choice, sit back, and enjoy as we talk about how it can be done with just a little bit of effort. When you focus on emotional, intellectual, and physical intimacy you can come home to a marriage that you both desire. How do you make y...more

  • 043: I DON’T WANT THE WORLD, I WANT YOU!

    Oct 19 2010

    Have you stopped to think about what your spouse and family really want from you? Do you know that most of them would be willing to have less “stuff” if it meant more of you? Part of making your marriage extraordinary is investing in the relationships that matter most. This week we challenge you to really evaluate what intimacies you are providing your spouse. Casting Crowns - American Dream Subscribe to the ONE Extraordinary Marriage Podcast: Leave a review on iTunes |...more

  • 042: DO I REALLY WANT TO MAKE A CHANGE?

    Oct 12 2010

    Are you just talking about change or are you ready to step up to the plate and make things happen in your marriage? It’s time to stop trying and start doing! Whether it’s getting in shape or trying a new position make things happen today. It’s easy to talk about what you are going to do but your actions may tell a completely different story. What do you want the story of your marriage to be? This is the workout program we are going to do for the next 3 months, Fat Loss...more

  • 041: IS YOUR MARRIAGE AN ADVENTURE OR A BURDEN?

    Oct 05 2010

    Have you taken the time to think about how you view your marriage? Every relationship has highs and lows but the difference is all in your mindset. Do you choose to look at the future wondering what is around the corner or do you dread every day. This journey called marriage should be the most exciting adventure...what are you waiting for? Hotel La Jolla Photos Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663

  • 040: SCREW THE KIDS…THIS IS OUR MARRIAGE

    Sep 28 2010

    Are you focusing more on your kids than on your spouse? It’s time to teach yourselves and the kids that they are not the center of the universe. It is so easy to get wrapped up in what the kids need that we lose sight of what our marriage needs and our spouse needs. When the marriage is strong the family is strong. What changes can you do this week that will have a lasting affect? Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663

  • 039: HEAVEN HELP US!

    Sep 21 2010

    This week we wrap up our small group podcast on Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage. Week 6 –  Stripped Down 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Small Group Podcast Over the past 6 weeks we dove into the other 11 Keys and this week is no different. So, lets get started! Are you tired of the mundane, same old place, same old position? Our sex lives need to have some change so that we can enjoy all that we have to offer our spouse. This ...more

  • 038: IS YOUR BEDROOM A SANCTUARY?

    Sep 14 2010

    It’s time to take some action this week, starting with your bedroom. Week 5 –  Stripped Down 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Small Group Podcast Your bedroom needs to be a sanctuary, a place where the two of you can get away from it all. Clean out the clutter, the electronics and make it a special place for the two of you. Some areas you can concentrate on is your bedding, candles, paint and whatever speaks to the two of you! Romance, we talk about it, w...more

  • 037: LOOKING GOOD AND FEELING GOOD

    Sep 07 2010

    Have you thought about how being physically active impacts your marriage? Week 4 –  Stripped Down 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Small Group Podcast Yes, you know the kind that makes your heart rate beat fast in your chest while the sweat pours off your brow. We’re talking physical activity not sex. But, if this is happening during sex, kudos to you. Well, physical activity can do a lot for the intimacy in your marriage. We then take it a step further a...more

  • 036: WHAT IF?

    Aug 31 2010

    What if we had never done the 60 Days of Sex Challenge? Where would our own marriage be today? Where would the ONE Community be? We talk through the last two years and challenge you to stop asking the "what if" question and start doing something today to make your marriage what you want it to be. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663

  • 035: PENCIL ME IN

    Aug 24 2010

    Challenge yourself this week to show your spouse just how much they matter by getting them on your calendar. Week 3 –  Stripped Down 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Small Group Podcast Whether it's taking a hike together, reading a devotional, or making love schedule the time together so that it doesn't get overlooked with life's other commitments. While your at it, make the time even more memorable by taking the lead. Give your spouse a break from having...more

  • 034: CAN WE TALK?

    Aug 17 2010

    Communication is vital to any marriage and it's importance cannot be overstated. Week 2 -  Stripped Down 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Small Group Podcast You need to work past the surface conversation and learn about what is really going on with them. Money matters builds on this as financial intimacy can be very difficult in a marriage. Money is often hard to talk about and yet is the cause of so many marital problems. It's time to get on the same page....more

  • 033: FROM THE TOP DOWN & MORE

    Aug 10 2010

    This is the first of our small group podcast on Stripped Down:  13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Marriage. Each week we will be covering the different Keys that you can use in your marriage today, tomorrow, and into the future to build passion, romance, & intimacy. Join us as we talk about... Chapter 1 - What is Intimacy? Chapter 2 - From the Top Down (Key 1) - Are your priorities in order?  Does you spouse know that they are important? Chapter 3 - Enough Already (Key 2 -...more

  • 032: HOME SWEET HOME

    Aug 03 2010

    We spent last week in Morro Bay on our family vacation. We had a lot of fun together and a few not so fun times. Just goes to show that we are still a work in progress and that this thing called marriage takes on-going effort. Come join us as we recount those ups and downs. Make sure not to miss Want a Fit Marriage? Here's You Chance! Tolosa Winery Bubble Gum Alley Central Coast Brewing Big Sky Cafe San Luis Obispo Children's Museum Brown Butter Cookie Company S...more

  • 031: QUEEN SIZE BED

    Jul 27 2010

    This week we are not in the studio aka the garage, but instead podcasting from a rock overlooking Morro Bay. We used our digital recorder and Tony's portion is a bit crackly. Sorry about this and we'll make sure to have this corrected the next time. Luckily this one is only 15 minutes. Enjoy! It's when we get out of our comfort zone of home that we learn something about the size of our bed. Cuddling is important to our physical intimacy and the size of the bed might be...more

  • 030: SEX IN THE BEDROOM

    Jul 20 2010

    Are you able to share your sexual passions and desires to your spouse? What's keeping you from having meaningful conversation about this area of your life? There are so many distractions pulling us in so many directions that we forget that God has given us this beautiful thing called SEX. It's time to sit down and have an honest discussion with your spouse-be open to your spouses desires keeping in mind that anything suggested or tried needs to be comfortable to both partner...more

  • 029: BUT NOTHING

    Jul 13 2010

    Do you put a period or a comma after "I'm sorry"? If you are putting a comma, then think about this. When you qualify your apology you minimize the apology and put the blame for your actions/reactions on the other person. What impact does this have on your marriage or your other relationships? It tears them down instead of building them up. Take responsibility for and take control of yourself. Make the changes now! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (8...more

  • 028: LIFE INSURANCE, IS IT WORTH IT?

    Jul 06 2010

    It's a tough conversation to have but one that is so worth it...what happens if one of us dies? Are we adequately prepared in terms of life insurance? After seeing a family member deal with the unexpected loss of her husband 4 years ago we both increased our policies to the point that if something happens there are no financial worries. We also put into place a trust including all end of life documentation (wills, power of attorney, guardianship, etc.) It's never too soon...more

  • 027: THE WHOLE ENCHILADA

    Jun 29 2010

    Are you loving your spouse with your whole self, serving them in all areas or are you just giving them a part of yourself? Intimacy involves more than just the physical intimacy we think of most the time. There is emotional, intellectual, recreational, financial, and spiritual as well. Stop focusing on just your physical intimacy and ENJOY all of it for an extraordinary marriage. The 5 Love Languages The Jen and DAVe Show House of Sarager - Jackie's 7 Days of Sex Bl...more

  • 026: IT’S SUMMERTIME

    Jun 22 2010

    How do you make intimacy a priority when schedules are all over the place? With kids out of school, vacations, late nights and other unpredictability what are you doing to make your spouse #1? How are you being creative this summer? We are finding ways to connect...text messages, voicemails, love notes. It's all about creating an intimacy lifestyle that works in your marriage. Flight of the Conchords - Business Time Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Cal...more

  • 025: GETTING AWAY

    Jun 15 2010

    It's time to get away with your spouse and reconnect. Getting away gives you the opportunity to have those deep conversations, to sleep late and explore new places with your one and only. Getting away allows you to refocus your priorities and make your spouse #1. Where will you be going next? Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663

  • 7 DAYS OF SEX CHALLENGE: DAY 6 – PRAYER

    Jun 11 2010

    Praying for sex! Over the last 5 days we've prayed, you've prayed, and many others have been praying for all of us. But, have you really thought about allowing God into your bedroom during your most intimate moments? Let God into your bedroom today and witness his Glory and Power. Tell the ONE Community how Day 6 has gone for the two of you. Send us your feedback or leave a comment on our listen feedback line: (858)754-9937. Has the ONE Extraordinary Marriage Podcast m...more

  • 024: WHEN IT’S NOT ON THE RADAR SCREEN

    Jun 08 2010

    What does your marriage look like when intimacy is not on the radar screen? We had a personal case study last week and it wasn't pretty. It is never too late to make intimacy a priority in your marriage, it just takes making a decision and making the effort. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663

  • 7 DAYS OF SEX CHALLENGE: DAY 3 – CELEBRATE THE QUICKIE

    Jun 08 2010

    5 minutes no problem! Make every minute count.   With a quickie you can do just that and just about any place you choose.  Quickies can be exhilarating, passionate, and amazing we just need to be on the same page with our spouse.  Have a quickie this week and enjoy. Tell the ONE Community how Day 3 has gone for the two of you. Send us your feedback or leave a comment on our listen feedback line: (858)754-9937. Has the ONE Extraordinary Marriage Podcast made a differenc...more

  • 7 DAYS OF SEX CHALLENGE: DAY 2 – CHANGE IT UP

    Jun 07 2010

    Do something different! God intended us to enjoy sex so make sure you do. Go somewhere, discuss different positions and then do them, make love during the day, keep your eyes open when climaxing, use a flavored lubricant, whipped cream, or anything else that would get you from doing what you have done in the past. It's time for a change and this week is the perfect time to do so. Go make it happen. Tell the ONE Community how Day 2 has gone for the two of you. When posting yo...more

  • 023: GET UNPLUGGED AND FIND YOUR CONNECTION

    Jun 01 2010

    We spent Memorial Day weekend unplugged out at Agua Caliente State Park...no phones, no computers, no video games. It was an amazing time of re-discovering the joys that we have in each other. It was a weekend of togetherness, laughter and conversations. Now that we are home the real challenge starts. What changes do we need to make so that we know and the kids know that they are more important than the electronics? How do we balance our lives with the electronics? Wha...more

  • 022: IS IT SAFE TO SHARE MY EMOTIONS

    May 25 2010

    Have you created a marriage where it is safe to share your emotions-both the good and the bad? Are you willing to let the person, who is supposed to love you the most, in on what is truly going on with you? It's a struggle for us and we share the ups and downs of trying to be more emotionally intimate. Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage ebook is available Busy Moms Podcast launched last week with a lot of fan fare 1st Annual 7 Days of Sex Ch...more

  • 021: ALL IS FAIR IN LOVE AND MARRIAGE

    May 18 2010

    Do you feel like things aren't fair in your marriage? Are you busier keeping track of who did what than how you are serving your spouse? Listen as we respond to a twitter question about whether marriage is fair or can be fair. We talk through our own thoughts and come to some unexpected insights into marriage and fairness. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663

  • 020: SHAKING THINGS UP

    May 11 2010

    Has your marriage fallen into a rut? Do you want to break out of the routines both emotionally and sexually? Join us for the 1st Annual 7 Days of Sex Challenge. Today we talk about the details and how this can be transformational for your marriage.  This is a chance to be part of community actively working to improve their marriage.  Join us! Studio 6 Sense Bo's Cafe Personal Accountability & QBQ Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663

  • 019: GOD WANTS YOU TO MAKE AN IMPACT

    May 06 2010

    "Small acts done with great love can transform the world." —Jill Todd Do you realize the power that you have? Every day we are presented with opportunities to change someone's life be it through a conversation, a situation, a prayer. This isn't about the recognition, but rather it's about making a positive difference with no expectation of reward, true giving. What can you do today to make an impact? Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663

  • 018: FACEBOOK AND YOUR MARRIAGE

    May 04 2010

    We are pleased to have had the chance to interview Jason & Kelli Krafsky authors of Facebook and Your Marriage. Jason & Kelli have been married since 1994 and been on Facebook since 2008. They have written a number of articles, including "How Facebook Can Improve Your Marriage Relationship", "Is Facebook a Cyber-Threat to Your Marriage", and "Our Top Dozen Do's and Don'ts for Facebooking Couples". They also blog at www.marriagejunkies.com and live in the foothills of Washing...more

  • 017: ARE YOU TOO TIRED TO TRY?

    Apr 29 2010

    Have you worn yourself down? Are there too many "things" demanding your attention? In this weeks podcast we tackle the issue of fatigue in our marriage and how it has the ability to wreak havoc on our marriage and your relationships. We don't always get it right but we do keep trying. Studio 6 Sense Pursuing a Balanced Life with Cliff Ravenscraft Facebook and Your Marriage by Jason and Kelli Krafsky The Soloist Sleepless San Diego Matthew 11:28-30 Phillipians...more

  • 016: AN ATTITUDE OF SERVICE

    Apr 22 2010

    You can make a difference in your marriage, in your life, in the world. Do you have an attitude of service in your marriage? By choosing to serve, without expectation or requirement of a return, you free yourself to fully enjoy intimacy. You choose to become a giver instead of a taker. When both spouses have this philosophy you will see amazing changes in you marriage. The 5 Love Languages Positive and Encouraging K-Love Bo's Café Sleepless San Diego The Simpl...more

  • 015: HOW DO YOU LIKE TO BE TOUCHED

    Apr 15 2010

    We crave physical touch both non-sexual and sexual. Are you able to communicate your desires to your spouse? Are you open to what your spouse might suggest? This week we challenge you to share your desires and make a commitment to deepen the intimacy in your marriage. Intimacy Ignited - The book that launched 60 Days of Sex Shaloma Mama Blog Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663

  • 014: FAMILY GATHERINGS

    Apr 08 2010

    In California we drive. We drive a lot to tell you the truth so this week on our drive home from Easter with the DiLorenzo family we decided to make use of our drive time. Join Alisa and I as we talk about the family dynamics during a holiday get together. What is it like when your family gets together, more laughter or more frustration? Come along for the ride. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663

  • 013: THE DIFFERENCE ONE WEEK CAN MAKE IN YOUR MARRIAGE

    Apr 01 2010

    Can 7 days really make a difference in your marriage? We believe that it can. Decide that for one week your spouse is going to be your number one priority and see what happens. Celebrate as you rediscover the communication in your marriage. Why? Because you have to be working through the annoyances if you are going to choose intimacy. Anticipate the connection with your spouse as you both choose to be present with one another. It's going to be amazing. Fireproof Your M...more

  • 011: OUR BEGINNING…HOW THE ROMANCE STARTED

    Mar 25 2010

    We step back in time to talk about how it all started for us. It was the summer of 1994 when Alisa came to the University of Colorado at Boulder on an internship program. I was a student, cook, and maintenance man around the fraternity house where she was staying. It was by chance that we met that summer, but the memories are some of the best we have of our relationship. Join us as we step back and discuss the good times and the difficult times we had that first summer. T...more

  • 010: CAN YOU ADMIT WHEN YOU ARE WRONG?

    Mar 18 2010

    Listen in as we share our less than perfect week. Can you admit when you are wrong? Or are you quick to jump on the defensive when your spouse brings up an issue? Alisa was moody and irritable, quick to dismiss anything that Tony had to say. Listen to the he said/she said of what happened and how we were able to learn from this experience. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663

  • 009: ARE YOU DATING YOUR SPOUSE?

    Mar 11 2010

    You've heard everyone talk about it...but are you doing it? Date night that is. Low budget or over the top, spending time with your spouse is critical to the life of your marriage. Listen as we talk about some of our most recent date nights and what you can do to make date night a priority in your marriage. Listen to what Anita had to say about an upcoming Date Night she is doing for her husband. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663

  • 008: EYES WIDE OPEN

    Mar 04 2010

    Are you able to communicate your desires to your spouse? How do you react when he/she suggests trying something new. In this podcast Tony and Alisa talk about one of Tony's ideas and how it played out in the bedroom. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663

  • 007: PORNOGRAPHY – A SECRET THAT CAN DESTROY YOUR MARRIAGE

    Feb 25 2010

    Are you aware of the destructive force that pornography can have in your marriage? 28,358 individuals are viewing porn every second Internet porn generated $2.84 billion in 2006 70% of porn is viewed between the 9-5 eight-hour workday (LJ INdex, September 2007) Pornography not only distorts your perception of your spouse, but it also creates unrealistic and unattainable expectations. It is NOT harmless as so many want to believe. Regain intimacy in your marriage ...more

  • 006: POWER OF PRAYER

    Feb 18 2010

    The Power of Prayer...change is possible, are you willing to ask for what you want and wait for it to happen? In our microwave society we want what we want RIGHT NOW! The reality is this... we can't change our spouse or their actions no matter how much we want to do so. The power of prayer gives us the opportunity to pray for our spouses, our relationships, our issues, and ourselves. These opportunities to focus on various aspects of our relationships will eventually crea...more

  • 005: SEX – QUANTITY VS QUALITY

    Feb 11 2010

    It's the ultimate marriage chicken and egg scenario... Are you satisfied with less frequent mind blowing sex? OR Does more frequent sex lead to better sex because you learn how to better please your spouse? We weigh in on these options and discuss what has happened in our marriage. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663

  • 004: LISTENER FEEDBACK

    Feb 04 2010

    In this episode we answer a number of questions from one of our listeners about ONE Extraordinary Marriage. Click here to read the email. We talk in depth about our financial issues, becoming debt free, as well as the miscarriage of our second child. Some of the questions we answer are: Who we are? Why we are doing this? Where did ONE come from? Why an Extraordinary Marriage? What we do behind the microphones? If we haven't covered something, leave us a comment.  It m...more

  • 003: REJECTION – OUR MCDONALD’S THEORY

    Jan 28 2010

    Have you ever given any thought to the power the word NO has on your marriage? What might be a minor decision for a wife/husband (do we or don't we make love tonight) can have a larger impact on our marriages, especially if the rejection is repeated often. Stop rejecting your spouse and watch your marriage flourish. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663

  • 002: CAN WE TALK? GOING BEYOND THE WEATHER AND THE KIDS

    Jan 22 2010

    Do your talks with your spouse go beyond the small talk about the weather and the kids? Is there a yearning to go deeper in your conversations? Are you wondering how to get the conversation started? Join us as we talk about how we use communicate in our marriage. Over the years we have learned to dig deeper into our conversations as we talk about our dreams, desires, and fears. This has led to an incredible bond between the two of us. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit ...more