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  • Savage Lovecast Episode 782

    Oct 19 2021

    Our opening "Sexcess" story features a woman who discovered she's natural born pegger. After some initial reticence, now her man begs for it. A gay man has a fraught relationship with his parents. He visits them, but they don't visit him. He learned recently that he has Aspergers Syndrome, and also that his family thinks he's an asshole. So, with his newly understood diagnosis, does he owe them an apology? Or are his parents the assholes here? On the Magnum, Dan interviews one of our favorite gu...more

  • Savage Lovecast Episode 781

    Oct 12 2021

    Ok, exactly how many people need to be involved for it to be called an orgy? A woman has been mulling over something that happened 20 years ago between her and her brother-in-law. When she was 19, and her sister was away, her sister's husband put on some porn, and asked her a bunch of wildly inappropriate sex questions. Then he asked her to keep their conversation secret. Unsurprisingly, they are now divorced. The caller never told her sister about this. Should she tell her now? On the Magnum ve...more

  • Savage Lovecast Episode 780

    Oct 05 2021

    "Wait. Where did that flared base, glass butt plug go? Oh, that's right! It's still up my butt!" The caller tried to do everything right. But she might need surgery to get it out.A woman's boyfriend cheated on her with a sex worker... who also happens to be her own damn hairdresser! Dan and the caller have a conversation, and you get to listen in. On the Magnum version of the show, Dan FINALLY interviews the wise and prolific Drs John and Julie Gottman. These two have conducted more than 40 year...more

  • Savage Lovecast Episode 779

    Sep 28 2021

    Wedding drama ahoy! A man's dad had a fight with his sister. Years later, the sister got married, and at her wedding, her dad orchestrated a big walk-out of many of the family, leaving the bride in tears. (That's some stone cold revenge right there.) Should the caller break off contact with his dad over this? A 44 year-old married woman with 2 kids wants to be open-minded about her husband's request to bang a 25 year old gal. But when he tells her that this new woman is "magical" and that he's "...more

  • Savage Lovecast Episode 778

    Sep 21 2021

    It's the sight that strikes fear in everyone's hearts: WHITE DREADS. One of his lovers has them, and just doesn't wanna cut them off. His other partners are offended. Should he keep seeing this woman? Is she oblivious to the connotations, or a bit of a troll? A gay man's boyfriend is a very kinky lad. He loves to be denigrated and roughly used. But the tender-hearted caller loves him so much that he feels uncomfortable treating him that way. On both the Micro and the Magnum, Dan chats with Leigh...more

  • Savage Lovecast Episode 777

    Sep 14 2021

    A woman had sex with her super-hot neighbor. Then she found out that not only is he unvaccinated, but uses a fake vax card. Should she continue to share her body with this monster? A young gay man wants to be able to both top and bottom. But when he's topping his gets so in his head that he loses his erection. Dan Savage! Help this man keep a rock hard boner!On the Magnum, a caller who escaped her family's cult when she was a teen has been invited to her sister's wedding. But their abusive cult ...more

  • Savage Lovecast Episode 776

    Sep 07 2021

    Have you ever lost a dildo up your butt? This man has, but somehow the tale ends up as our opening "sexcess" story. A 51 year-old woman is seeing a 33 year-old man. It's fantastic, but how long can it last? On the Magnum, Dan brings back Lina Dune, from "Ask a Sub" to talk about some subby listener questions and her new podcast. Finally, a couple won't watch porn for ethical reasons. And he doesn't want to be poly or open. She wonders...how can they have any fun?!206-302-2064 voicemail@savagelov...more

  • Savage Lovecast Episode 775

    Aug 31 2021

    A man's randy co-worker has slept with the wives of other workers and tons of women on the job. He nearly got fired for it, but he's back. Should the caller confront this man and tell him to knock it off? Warn all the females on staff?If someone you were chatting with from an app told you that his previous relationship was with his own therapist, would you consider this a red flag? Would you meet him anyway?On the Magnum, great news! Apple is installing mass surveillance on the iPhone. Just kidd...more

  • Savage Lovecast Episode 774

    Aug 24 2021

    Everyone's worried that they are taking up too much space. A straight man feels guilty that he signed up for an activity meant for folks in the LGBT community. And, a transman ventured into a gay leather bar with his girlfriend and got the stink-eye. Is it cool to bring your girlfriend into dedicated gay male space?Everybody's talking about the new animated educational series "Welcome to Kinkyville" that's being developed. Dan interviews co-creator/host Emily Blake about this awesome project, an...more

  • Savage Lovecast Episode 773

    Aug 17 2021

    On this episode, we are treated to a couple of calls concerning pronouns. One comes from a man who doesn't understand how to use the familiar 2nd person plural when one or more are non-binary. Another comes from a man who proposes a new catch all gender-neutral pronoun to rule us all. Will it stick?On the Magnum, Dan chats with Dr Carole Hooven, author of Testosterone: The Story of the Hormone that Dominates and Divides Us. They discuss how testosterone works, and how we all have to live with it...more

  • Savage Lovecast Episode 772

    Aug 10 2021

    A woman is sick of being a dirty little secret. Her boyfriend's ex-partner would withhold access to the kids if she found out about the relationship. Can she demand that he tell his ex?A woman fantasizes that she's a gay man when she's having sex. But the rest of the time, she feels like a cis woman. Dan issues a label for her and sends her on her way.On the Magnum, a comedian is creeped out that her ex-boyfriend might come heckle her at her stand-up shows. Dan welcomes comedian Jen Kirkman to t...more

  • Savage Lovecast Episode #771

    Aug 03 2021

    Our opening "sexcess" story will make all the licensed massage therapists cringe. We are truly sorry.A woman and her girlfriend have gotten in the habit of using baby voices with each other. They know this is terrible, but they can't stop. Dan! Make them stop!On the Magnum, Dan continues crushing out on dominatrixes. This week, he interviews Goddess Charlotte Lashes about financial domination, kinky conservatives, and boyfriends who are being dominated by their mothers. Goddess Charlotte COMMAND...more

  • Savage Love Episode 770

    Jul 27 2021

    A nice bi man just wanted to join a nudist community and hang out with his nudist homies, not wearing any clothes and being naked. He certainly DID NOT want to be ogled or groped by the creepy leader of the group. So now what? Should he try to oust the creep, give up on the group, or return and try to avoid him? A woman learned that her boyfriend has been leading a secret double life. Have you ever led a secret double life? Well! This man's secret double life involves an online dom commanding hi...more

  • Savage Love Episode 769

    Jul 20 2021

    Women beware! A new form of negging has emerged. If you followed a hook-up on Instagram, but he didn't follow you back, it could be INSTA-NEGGING. A trans man iplans to do a lot more butt sex once he has bottom surgery. How can he prepare on a daily basis? On the Magnum, is it ever ok to leave your wife when you are in your 70s? Dan and senior sex writer Joan Price disagree... And, a lesbian begs all those straight couples who pour into lesbian bars at closing time looking for women to be in a t...more

  • Savage Love Episode 768

    Jul 13 2021

    A bi woman wants to try three-ways with her boyfriend. He enthusiastically agrees. But it's been a while since she's been with a woman, and wants to have a trial run with just her unicorn. Now, he's getting a little nervous... A woman with a 12 year-old son has been toying with the idea of starting an Only Fans account. The problem? Her son might see some of her content. How can she have this very difficult parental conversation? In one of our favorite interviews of all time, Dan brings on lingu...more

  • Savage Love Episode 767

    Jul 06 2021

    Dear Emily Post: What am I to do when I encounter my boyfriend in the basement enjoying large amounts of cocaine, in women's attire, with a gentleman we both know very well? A kinky woman already agreed to open up her relationship with her boyfriend. So why did he have to go out and cheat? On the Magnum, a very ethical stripper, bartender and sugar baby has contracted MRSA and worries she is putting others at risk. Not sure what MRSA is? Well, you will  know plenty about it after you listen to D...more

  • Savage Love Episode 766

    Jun 29 2021

    After a dazzling "sexcess" story, we launch into three tales of dreadful parents. Conservative, manipulative, disrespectful, bigoted parents. If you have this kind of parent, our hearts go out to you. Are you a thoughtful gift giver? This woman is, and she REALLY wishes her boyfriend would reciprocate... On the Magnum: Save the lesbian bars! For they are disappearing.  Dan interviews Lea Delaria (from "Orange is the New Black") about the Lesbian Bar Project. Kick in, won't you? https://www.lesbi...more

  • Savage Love Episode 765

    Jun 22 2021

    A mother in Central America is worried that her son is being a little too risky when he walks home from the beach in women's clothing. When she confronts him about this, he calls her a transphobic, homophobic boomer. Teens! Am I right? A woman is afraid that her boyfriend will cheat on her. And yet, she fantasizes that her boyfriend is cheating on her. How can she preserve her self-esteem while indulging her cuckqueen instincts? On the Magnum, it turns out the ancient Greeks were wrong about cun...more

  • Savage Love Episode 764

    Jun 15 2021

    Our opening "Sexcess" story should flood all you postpartum parents with optimism. A married straight couple has an arrangement where she can go outside the relationship, and he remains monogamous to her. All good. But she wants to tell everyone about it, and he wants to keep it under wraps. Who wins? On the Magnum, meet the elite proctologist and anal surgeon, Dr. Evan Goldstein of Bespoke Surgical. He and Dan talk about centering pleasure and beauty in proctology. We loved Dr. Goldstein, and s...more

  • Savage Love Episode 763

    Jun 08 2021

    Sometimes the "happy ending" in an erotic massage can go both ways. Our caller enjoyed orally pleasuring his masseuse so much that he wants to continue the relationship outside the parlor. What is the proper etiquette for asking out an erotic massage practitioner? (Sorry LMTs! We know you don't want to hear ANY of this...) A married woman discovered a gif of jiggly boobs with her sister's face superimposed over them. Where did she see this? On her husband's computer of course. So now what? On th...more

  • Savage Love Episode 762

    Jun 01 2021

    Dan! Dan! My dildos melted together in the drawer! Horrifically, this is not uncommon if you buy cheap-ass sex toys. A gay man is establishing a potentially great friends-with-benefits relationship. The problem? The guy won't stop sending him stupid little memes all the damn day long. How can our caller put an end to this childish behavior? Over on the Magnum, a Nervous Norman is worried about possible harm that could come to his willy if he got a vasectomy. Reassurance arrives in the form of Dr...more

  • Savage Love Episode 761

    May 25 2021

    Our opening "sex-cess" story is extra delightful this week, because it centers the "Climbing Boy." Our caller advises you to get yourself one, pronto. Ok, neo-pronouns. Just how ridiculous are they? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Seattle writer Matt Baume about the friendly, pervy world of furries and the super-interesting work they've been doing with virtual reality spaces. And, commenting on a shopgirl's ass- can you get away with it if you're a queer woman? 206-302-2064     This episode is br...more

  • Savage Love Episode 760

    May 18 2021

    Boundaries are hard! For instance, a married couple of 12 years decided to open the relationship. So naturally, she started sleeping with her husband's brother in their own house. Of course. And! If you knocked on the door, and your kid confessed that they were masturbating, would you A) Mutter, "Sorry!" and walk away. B) Walk in and chuckle at the site of their underpants. C) Run screaming from the building. You'll have to listen to learn what this lady did. On the Magnum, Dan speaks with Dr. A...more

  • Savage Love Episode 759

    May 11 2021

    My, what a fetish-y show we have for you this week! Genital stretching? Check. Chastity belts? Sure. Piss play? Why not? Gainer/Feeder? Let's go!  In a more wholesome turn, Dan welcomes Dr. Debby Herbenick back to the show. The sex educator answers a question about the nature of multiple orgasms for women and the unwelcome phenomenon of sex headaches. And finally, Dan gets into some complex thermodynamics as he explains how to keep your dildo nice and cold. But not too cold. 206-302-2064    voic...more

  • Savage Love Episode 758

    May 04 2021

    It's a boy! A pregnant woman upon learning the sex of her unborn baby is devastated that she's not getting the daughter she always dreamed of. Can she learn to love...a son? Have you heard the Death, Sex & Money podcast with Anna Sale? Well! Anna joined us to talk about her new book "Let's Talk About Hard Things."  She and Dan answered a few calls together, which somehow leads to a discussion about an esoteric BJ technique. Some is on the Micro, all is on the Magnum. A married lesbian found ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 757

    Apr 27 2021

    "Soooo. About my daddy." A gay man has developed a pleasant non-monogamous sugar-baby/sugar-daddy relationship. How can he tell his dates and boyfriends about his very special daddy? A woman has discovered that her boyfriend of 2 years has been seeing cam girls and compulsively giving them money. He isn't interested in sexy pictures of the caller, poor thing. Should she accept this...proclivity... as a healthy sexual outlet? He's back! The good doc! Doc Barak! He and Dan talk about vaccine hesit...more

  • Savage Love Episode 756

    Apr 20 2021

    When your baby has a peanut allergy and your in-laws don't take it seriously, well, the sparks are gonna fly. The eternal question: can you make your penis bigger? Dan's answer may not shock you. ON the Magnum version, Dr. Shanna Swan author of "Countdown" is on to talk about declining sperm counts, environmental toxins and the fate of the human race. Pop yourself Xanax before listening. And, hear two separate tales of women looking to hire unicorns for one special evening. 206-302-2064 voicemai...more

  • Savage Love Episode 755

    Apr 13 2021

    In our opening Sexcess Story, a German man offers this kind-hearted maxim: "It's hard to stay mad when you are covered in come." A man wonders if his covid vaccine is what caused his libido to spike. His female friend said the same thing! She claims she had 10 ORGASMS right after getting her shot. So, hey Science! Is this causation or correlation? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Justin Randall of the "We Were Christian Kids" podcast, about relationships after you've grappled with a hyper-religious...more

  • Savage Love Episode 754

    Apr 06 2021

    In our opening Sexcess story, a very delightful woman in her 60s has discovered that one wee edible before sex can yield untold orgasms. A gay man has discovered that he enjoys voyeurism and exhibitionism. But how can these be acted out ethically? On the Magnum, Dan talks with Kelsy Burke, a sociologist who studies the intersection of sex and religion. They talk about the recent Atlanta murders of sex workers, and how the Evangelical Christian conception of "sex addiction" may have warped the ki...more

  • Savage Love Episode 753

    Mar 30 2021

    Let the swooning begin. Dan brings on one of his heroes, comedian Nick Kroll to answer some questions and to talk about his show Big Mouth. They chat about meeting sleazy, pre-teen masturbation, dating while famous and many other things.  We love Nick Kroll, and so do you. Some of the interview is on the Micro version and all of it is on the Magnum. Have you ever been eaten out while on acid? The caller in our opening sexcess story heartily recommends it. A male erotic massage therapist has only...more

  • Savage Love Episode 752

    Mar 23 2021

    Gather round. Hear the cautionary tale of the gaslighting vibrator thief. It's tough out there for a male gynecologist. A man in his Ob Gyn residency asks for tips on giving exams that put his patients at ease. Dan brings on Dr. Ian Fields, Assistant Program Director for the OBGYN residency at OHSU to discuss being a man in the mix. On the Magnum, our beloved, longstanding guest cartoonist/sex toy expert Erika Moen is on with her partner Matt Nolan to talk about their new book for teens: Let's T...more

  • Savage Love Episode 751

    Mar 16 2021

    "Dear Miss Manners, Am I obliged to respond to the gentlemen I encounter on 'Grindr,' even if I am not in the least bit interested?" Dan counsels yet another woman who lays herself down as a human doormat. DTMFA! If your man hasn't yet told his friends that he's dating you, it's time to move on. On the Magnum, we have a very special What You Got?: Listen, we can't put this delicately. There are birds out there that prefer to have sex with cowpies over the females of their species. Dan interviews...more

  • Savage Love Episode 750

    Mar 09 2021

    A gay man has started seeing a new guy. But the lad said he wanted to wait until marriage to have sex. This is highly unusual amongst homosexuals, don't you think? Is it possible to have a loving, romantic relationship, and also engage in financial domination? Sounds spicy! Clear a path! Clear a path! Here comes RANDY RAINBOW, the brilliant YouTuber whose musical theater political parodies single-handedly got us all through the past 4 years. It should come as no surprise that he and Dan have big...more

  • Savage Love Episode 749

    Mar 02 2021

    Have you ever been blocked? This man was! When he and his boyfriend of 6 months had their first big fight, they broke up, and the boyfriend slammed the door shut. Now the caller wants closure. Dan Savage is here to hold his hand through it. A man is attempting to grow some foreskin through...techniques. He thinks circumcision should be outlawed. But when he discusses this with some of his Jewish or Muslim pals, it doesn't go over well. On the Magnum version, Dan chats with Dr. Stacy De-Lin about...more

  • Savage Love Episode 748

    Feb 23 2021

    Is it wrong to suggest to your unsuccessful internet date that she start seeing your roommate instead? A woman's friend-with-benefits pal is becoming obsessed with sex! He fills her drawers with sex toys for her to use on him. But he pays scant attention to her pleasure. What's the next step here? On the Magnum, Dan interviews Charles M. Blow- the acclaimed journalist and op-ed columnist for the New York Times. They discuss his new book The Devil You Know: A Black Power Manifesto. Blow is an ama...more

  • Savage Love Episode 747

    Feb 16 2021

    A woman has discovered she has a taste for bisexual dudes. But so many are closeted, or don't lead with their bi-ness on apps. How can she root them out? Dan wades into drama, intrigue and subterfuge! A gay man's acquaintance has dark designs on a straight man in their life. Should the caller warn his unwitting straight friend? Or stay out of it? On the Magnum, Dan welcomes Dr. Sarah Hunter Murray to discuss the misperceptions about male sexuality and desire. C'mon! Fellas need to feel like sex ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 746

    Feb 09 2021

    In the intro: You wanted to hear what Dan Savage thinks of the Armie Hammer scandal? Now he will tell you. A sugar baby had been seeing a married man for 2 years, when they fell in love. Now that there's nothing transactional going on, is it less ethical? Finally! Dan Savage deconstructs drag. Are we allowed to enjoy it? (Spoiler: Yes, yes we are.) On the Magnum, all hail Jon Ronson! The author of The Psychopath Test, The Butterfly Effect and many other works in various media, is on to help Dan ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 745

    Feb 02 2021

    Sure, sure. He's a good boyfriend...during a pandemic. But when the covid glasses come off, will he still be right for her? After 20 years of marriage, a woman finally understands that she is asexual. She wants nothing of sex, whatsoever. She would love for him to get laid outside of their relationship, but he's an introvert, and not inclined to open their marriage. And if he found a woman to have sex with, would he leave her? On the Magnum, degenerate homosexual Dan Savage teaches potty-mouthed...more

  • Savage Love Episode 744

    Jan 26 2021

    Welcome to the sisterhood! A trans woman got aggressively propositioned by one of the men in her macho friend group. Another one slut-shamed her after she posted a bikini pic on Insta. Wait. Men are pigs??? You may recall, a couple weeks ago we heard from a woman with recurrent UTIs. We got flooded with responses from women who have also suffered, with a wide variety of recommendations. Some sounded a little...iffy. So we brought on Dr. Jen Gunter, author of The Vagina Bible to address this. Lis...more

  • Savage Love Episode 743

    Jan 19 2021

    He took part in the Moderna vaccine trial, which puts him at the front of the line to get his shot. But he's a young, healthy man who works from home. Should he wait, lest he deny someone who needs it more than him? A woman starting a new relationship used to have an eating disorder that damaged her heart to such an extent that she gets easily winded. What should she say if her new man wants to go mountain climbing? On the Magnum, Dan chats with our favorite lawyer, Diana Adams, about asking you...more

  • Savage Love Episode 742

    Jan 12 2021

    When your wife is buddies with the MAGA crowd: Dan counsels a man whose wife hangs out with covid-denying, conspiracy theory-believing, Trump-loving simpletons. He is pretty conservative himself, but these people! It's too much! A middle-aged man is newly grappling with his bisexuality. The wife isn't into it. How can he find other guys like him in his tidy suburb- you know, guys who just want to get together, play some poker and blow each other off? On the Magnum, "There's a big difference betw...more

  • Savage Love Episode 741

    Jan 05 2021

    Ah, the pleasures of getting rimmed! But what if you are alone, during quarantine times? Is there a sex toy out there to help a lass get off? Starting in kindergarten, a woman began masturbating using a very specific and very odd technique. Now she needs to do this, and she's super-embarrassed about it. How can she get over her shame, and possibly move on to more conventional orgasm inducers? On the Magnum version of the show, is Instagram going the way of Tumblr- removing all sexual content? Wr...more

  • Savage Love Episode 740

    Dec 29 2020

    In our opening "sexcess story", how to turn your tiny quarantine apartment into a home sex-club discotheque. A woman has thoughtfully chosen to not have children. So why do friends and strangers hassle her about this? On the Magnum, Dan goes toe to toe with his (formerly) Republican enemy Tim Miller. Before Miller saw the light he was the communications director for Jeb Bush's 2016 campaign, and also worked for John McCain and Mitt Romney. Then along came Trump and he became a "never-Trumper" an...more

  • Savage Love Episode 739

    Dec 22 2020

    Our opening "sexcess" story features a woman willing to indulge her boyfriend's drool fetish. A woman has come to understand that her husband has a belly fetish. And she has a lot less belly than she used to... Oh, and guess who's here! It's the brilliant Sarah Silverman! She and Dan chat about staying friends with exes, the difference between doing stand-up comedy and recording a podcast, her political activism and so much more. Then, Sarah and Dan take calls together on the Magnum. So if you h...more

  • Savage Love Episode 738

    Dec 15 2020

    A woman needs a giant wiener to feel satisfied. That's just how it is. But how can she vet prospective partners ahead of time? How can she tell her current man that his average-sized dick just isn't big enough? Ah the hypocrisy...a man is turned on by videos aimed at voyeurs, where people don't know they're being filmed. Then! He was filmed at a bathhouse, and now that the pics are out...he's furious. He knows he's being hypocritical, but what can he do? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Dr. Rachel ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 737

    Dec 08 2020

    A woman was listening to an anonymous confessional podcast, and heard her friend talk about being abused as a child. The caller is certain it was her friend, and never knew about the abuse. Should she bring it up? A gay man has a friend group that makes insensitive, cavalier rape jokes. His boyfriend thinks he needs to grow a thicker skin. Is he being oversensitive? On the Magnum, NERD ALERT. Dan brings on Dr. Katie Mack, an astrophysicist who brings her unique perspective (the end of the univer...more

  • Savage Love Episode 736

    Dec 01 2020

    A woman is worried because her boyfriend claims he doesn't have any kinks. Is he covering something up? HOW CAN HE NOT HAVE ANY KINKS? A straight man enjoys photoshopping the heads of his female friends over naked bodies. He then deletes his masterpieces. Is this wrong? Should he feel bad? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Amy Chan of the Breakup Bootcamp, about how to recognize recurring patterns we go through when we break up over and over again. And, a caller wonders if the American flag must go ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 735

    Nov 24 2020

    A man in his 60s is just like a teenager! But in the wrong way- he comes too soon. How can he resolve his little PE problem? After a man's girlfriend came out him (drunkenly) as bi, he realized he is bi too! But now he's jealous of his girlfriend's female exes that she maintains friendships with. He is lost at bisexual sea. On the Magnum, Dan chats with Elle Chase, author of Curvy Girl Sex, about body size issues, and dating as a large woman. And, a woman wonders if she should have pepper-spraye...more

  • Savage Love Episode 734

    Nov 17 2020

    Have you ever had to quickly mute yourself on a Zoom meeting because your girlfriend was getting spanked in the other room? Just asking. Dan brings back Lina Dune from Ask a Sub to discuss the ethics of public displays of *kinky* affection. You know, like, leading your slave around by his leash in the grocery store. On the Magnum, it's the anxious return of the esteemed epidemiologist Dr. Daniel Westreich, aka "Dr. Bummer." He's on to talk about the spiking spike of cold cases across the United ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 733

    Nov 10 2020

    Our opening "sexcess" story features a black light. You people are creative! Dan counsels a gay man whose boyfriend is so closeted and scared of his military father, (this boyfriend lives in his parent's basement,) that he has to sneak in and out under cover of night. Kind of fun when you're in high school, but in your 30s? Not so much. On the Magnum: Have you ever heard a rabbi say: "The religion is messing you up"? Meet the fearless rabbi Jeremy Gerber. He and Dan discuss blow job technique as...more

  • Savage Love Episode 732

    Nov 03 2020

    Our opening covid-era Sexcess story features seniors in a retirement community huffing on ice bongs and getting it on. If they can do it, you can too. A Wiccan druid witchy woman is dating a Christian dude. They let each other be. But when he requests that they do some role playing where she dresses up as a "sexy witch" and puts a spell on him, she wonders if she should be offended or just hop on his broomstick already. Dan interviews Adam Sass, author of Surrender Your Sons- a YA thriller about...more

  • Savage Love Episode 731

    Oct 27 2020

    A man and his much younger girlfriend decided to seek a unicorn through swinging apps. Her only rule was to set the age limit to women over 30. So, naturally, he went for women in their 20s. What's the problem?! A queer woman is into being choked. She knows it's unsafe. Is there any way to do breath play safely? On the Magnum, Dan chats with the Political Gabfest luminary Emily Bazelon about the conservative shift in the Supreme Court. Sexy! And, a woman's boyfriend was able to get her off using...more

  • Savage Love Episode 730

    Oct 20 2020

    A woman is considering becoming a 24/7 slave for a man in a don't-ask-don't-tell relationship with his wife. But maybe he's just cheating on the wife? How can you be sure? Over a decade ago, a woman was in an abusive relationship. He went too far and they broke up. He has been apologizing ever since. Now that she has forgiven him, she wants to connect with him again. Should she? On the Magnum version of the show, Dan chats with disabilities activist Andrew Gurza about some very inappropriate PDA...more

  • Savage Love Episode 729

    Oct 13 2020

    A woman's friend is acting like a damn fool. Again. She plans to travel across the country to meet a man she met online, without even having spoken to him on the phone. Is she getting catfished? Who knows? Should the caller try to talk her gullible, sensitive friend out of this recklessness? An erotic dancer feels guilty when her customers fall in love with her. Is she leading them on? On the Magnum, Dan welcomes back writer and digital rights activist Cory Doctorow. They discuss the appeal of c...more

  • Savage Love Episode 728

    Oct 06 2020

    A woman would like a gigolo please. Or two. She knows she could score a man for free, but likes the idea of paying for it. Is this possible? How? Whoopsy daisy! A woman was texting her friend about the crippling crush she has on a co-worker, when she realized she was texting the co-worker herself. The gal reacted gracefully, but now what? On the Magnum, Dan interviews Dr Raphael Landovitz, about the promise of a new injectable version of PrEP. And, a 17 year old girl had penetrative sex for the ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 727

    Sep 29 2020

    Some rando started following a woman on Insta. He confessed that he jerks off to her yoga photos. She told him she would have to charge him a fee for this. He agreed. The question is... how much? A woman Googled her dad. What did she find? She found videos of women in bathing suits. If you Googled her dad, you would see this. Should she tell her dad? Good lord, how? On the Magnum, let's talk about anal prolapse, shall we? Because it's so sexy! Tristan Taormino, author of The Ultimate Guide to An...more

  • Savage Love Episode 726

    Sep 22 2020

    A woman is still friendly with her ex-husband. So friendly that she sends him nudes which he pays for. But she just learned that he's re-married! Is it unethical to continue this naughty exchange? A woman begs Dan to tell her to break up with her emotionally shut-down boyfriend. Dan obliges. Dan chats with 24/7 sub goddess Lina Dune about the healing power of safe, sane, consensual kink. A little of the conversation is on the Micro and all of it is on the Magnum. And a woman notices that her boy...more

  • Savage Love Episode 725

    Sep 15 2020

    A woman was babysitting her neighbor's 3 year-old daughter. The girl took her clothes off and started touching herself. Should the caller say something to the parents? Is this behavior a red flag for abuse? Or is this just how the 3 year-olds roll? A man with a very girthy penis can't come without extended penis-in-vagina action. But sometimes his ladies can't handle it. He started faking his orgasms. Any other solutions here? On the Magnum version of the show, Caitlin Doughty (host of Ask a Mor...more

  • Savage Love Episode 724

    Sep 08 2020

    A woman has had a LOT of sex, mostly with men. But she is realizing that she is truly only attracted to women. The problem is, when she talks to a hot woman, she starts stuttering and stammering in terror. How can she grow to be comfortable in her true skin? A man's girlfriend fantasizes that she's a gay man when they have sex. Does this mean she's trans? She insists she's all woman, but the caller is worried, worried, worried. On the Magnum, a deep dive onto vaginas (yup!) with Dr. Jen Gunter, ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 723

    Sep 01 2020

    A woman's husband had low testosterone, so he started taking T. But then, he turned into a total asshole! Is this normal? Is this just what testosterone does? A trans woman has not yet had bottom surgery. While she waits, how can she find a woman who would want her as she is now, and how she will be later? On the Magnum, Dan chats with sex researcher Alexandra Marcotte about her study looking at how men and women differ in their enjoyment of dick pics. A woman has a girlfriend but they don't liv...more

  • Savage Love Episode 722

    Aug 25 2020

    A woman started dating a transman. But then his personality completely changed. I this just a trans thing? Or a coincidence? A verse dyke working as a nanny in an uptight conservative community can't find any other lesbians. She's so horny she would settle for a man. But how can she find someone willing to be her "walking dildo?" On the Magnum, a deep dive into cuckolding, with the utterly charming Venus from the Venus Cuckoldress Podcast. What drives a man to be turned on watching his partner g...more

  • Savage Love Episode 721

    Aug 18 2020

    Have you ever gone snorkeling...naked? On a long anticipated second date? She has. Hear ALL about it... A woman's sister is *still* planning her 100 person wedding for this October. Will covid-19 be over by then? Certainly not. So should the caller go or tell her stupid sister to postpone her stupid wedding already? On the Magnum, Dan chats with clinical psychologist and sex therapist Dr. David Ley, about the difference between sex addiction and kinks. And, can extroverts successfully date intro...more

  • Savage Love Episode 720

    Aug 11 2020

    A man's new boyfriend is really great in every way! Except...he believes in mythical creatures, thinks he has super-powers and that the government is communicating with him through the radio. So, should the caller leave his mentally ill new boyfriend or try to get him some help? Meanwhile, a woman's sister has started dating a "professional" astrologer who had gotten kicked out of the marines, believes in conspiracy theories and wants to move to Mexico with the caller's sister after dating for j...more

  • Savage Love Episode 719

    Aug 04 2020

    Our opening covid-19 "sexcess" story is extra special this week. You will never think of Tollhouse cookies the same way again. Don't you hate it when your brother-in-law steals your underpants, and uses them to jack off? This little sordid story only gets worse. On the Magnum, meet the dominatrix who commands her clients to read Black feminist theory. Mistress Velvet and Dan discuss performative wokeness, allies vs. accomplices, and the transformative power of S&M among many other things. Mi...more

  • Savage Love Episode 718

    Jul 28 2020

    An Irish man has found dating success with his "personal operating manual." After the second date or so, he slides over a piece of paper delineating his likes and dislikes, in bed and out. It cuts through a lot of clutter, says he. For those of you separated from your loved ones because of travel restrictions, there could be some hope maybe? Dan chats with Chelsea from "Love is Not Tourism" a group working to allow stipulations for folks who want to reunite with their beloveds in other countries...more

  • Savage Love Episode 717

    Jul 21 2020

    A man has been with his boyfriend for a year. The boyfriend's supposedly straight roommate gives intimate hugs and drops obvious homo hints when he's drunk. The caller doesn't like him or trust him. Does he have to put up with this? This lady likes a giant, huge, enormous, really big penis. She proposes a hack for when she's with a more modestly endowed gentleman. Could she insert a yoni egg inside her vagina, to simulate that Big Dick feeling? Would this work? Dan? On the Magnum, we welcome the...more

  • Savage Love Episode 716

    Jul 14 2020

    A young gay man is having a great time with his boyfriend who is 14 years older than him. Can it last? How? On the Magnum, be charmed by comedian Jay Jurden. We were. Jay and Dan talk about gays, three-ways and Catholic guilt, among other things. A woman has a fantasy of being "taken" by an older man with power over her. But wouldn't any man who acts this out with her be a total creep? Finally, are there dog toys sold in pet stores that are secretly meant to be sex toys? For humans? Voicemail@sa...more

  • Savage Love Episode 715

    Jul 07 2020

    Hear the tale of the NB lesbian who snooped and found out that  the sex worker they want to hire makes more money than they do, and finds this unacceptable. (Confidential to the caller: you'll eventually get over the pummeling Dan gives you.) We were so honored to welcome Dr. Erin Berry -regional Medical Director of Planned Parenthood. Dan and Dr. Berry blasted through a bunch of your questions (HPV vaccine for men, molluscum, IUDs, bidets for women, more!) and of course they discussed abortion ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 714

    Jun 30 2020

    A gay married man faces a choice. He can keep his stable job, if he moves to...Kansas. Dan brings on Kansas State Representative Brandon Woodard to try to sell his state to the caller. At the top of this list of the midwestern state's redemptive qualities: Kansas is only 3 hours away from everywhere else! So, they've got that going for them. A woman is horrified that her husband wants to "suckle" her breasts as if she were lactating. "Just one time?" he begs. On the Magnum, Dan gushingly chats w...more

  • Savage Love Episode 713

    Jun 23 2020

    Thongs! They are so sexy! But when used as a face mask at the hardware store, what then? A woman has been dating a guy for a few months. He has one of those giant penises you have heard about. So there's that. But he is also saying some troubling, racist and sexist things. So. Should she continue to see the big dick with a big dick? On the Magnum, Dan chats with women's health expert Dr. Tami Rowen about the near ubiquitous practice of pubic hair grooming. Why are so many women bush-whacking? Ar...more

  • Savage Love Episode 712

    Jun 16 2020

    Oh Jesus Mary and Joseph, our opening sex during quarantine story is scorching hot this week, hoo boy. A woman is working from home with her boyfriend. He sets up his computer monitors with one screen always playing Twtich streams with young blonde hotties. Is the caller allowed to be annoyed by this? On the Magnum, sex toy expert and generally charming person Erika Moen is on to make a bunch of recommendations for gear to get you through these extremely challenging times. Also, what is up with ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 711

    Jun 09 2020

    At a business meeting, an older, sophisticated gay man gave a presentation with a couple buttons of his jeans undone. Was he sending a message? If so, what? A woman has noticed that men are now wearing wedding rings on BOTH hands. Are they sending a message? If so, what? On the Magnum, it's a deep anal-sex hygiene dive with gay culture columnist Ty Mitchel. A caller wonders why the younger men he sleeps with have trouble keeping...fresh. Dan and Ty are here to help. And, a woman's roommate is go...more

  • Savage Love Episode 710

    Jun 02 2020

    A remote controlled buttplug? In the bath? This pandemic is getting pretty fun! A woman asks a question that so many of us are also wondering: is it safe to be romantically intimate with someone who has already recovered from covid-19? When? Dan brings on the intrepid Dr. Barak to answer, and as usual hits him with a gnarly second question just to make the good doctor squirm. Are you a parent? Have you had some challenges raising your kids? Is your kid a foot fetishist? If you answered either ye...more

  • Savage Love Episode 709

    May 26 2020

    A married couple in an open relationship used to enjoy glory holes at play parties. Then along came some covid-19. But did that stop them? Hell no! They grabbed the kids' old sheets and made a home glory hole. Now THAT'S what I'm talking about, America! A man's mother died when he was 13, and his father quickly re-married. He found a letter revealing that his father and step-mother had been having an affair before his mother died. Now what? His dad is sick and old. Should he confront him about i...more

  • Savage Love Episode 708

    May 19 2020

    A married man is sick of his military husband being overseas all the time. How can they make their  chronically long-distance relationship work?   Ok, here's something you've all wondered: how do you get rid of sex dolls? Are they too toxic for the landfill? Is there a market for "gently used?"   On the Magnum, how are the poly people supposed to do their poly thing, right now? Dan chats with Diana Adams, a lawyer and mediator who specializes in LGBTQ and polyamorous families.   Is there a polit...more

  • Savage Love Episode 707

    May 12 2020

    We open the show with a marital tale of delicious rug burn. It's the battle of the podcast Goliaths! Dan welcomes Marc Maron to the show, and the two engage in a civil debate about whether porn can be "addictive." Also, they discuss a very special piece of equipment. Some of this convo is on the Micro version and all of it is on the Magnum. He likes to wear womens' clothing when he spanks it. She thinks this makes him queer. He insists he's not. She says he should find a lady who likes that sort...more

  • Savage Love Episode 706

    May 05 2020

    Have you ever done it hanging from a cliff in your mountain-climbing harness? This caller has. They named the climb "Quarantine." Meanwhile in Italy, a woman managed to slip a finger in her boyfriend's butt. He didn't stop her, but didn't say anything about it, and they haven't discussed it since. How can she bring it up with him and resume this activity when they are reunited? On the Magnum, Dan chats with JoEllen Notte, author of "The Monster Under the Bed: Sex, Depression, and the Conversatio...more

  • Savage Love Episode 705

    Apr 28 2020

    Hear the tale of the garden wanker, or "What Really Happens in the Asparagus Patch." Dr. Bummer is back! Our epidemiologist pal Dr. Daniel Westreich has returned to talk about the state of the pandemic, how the physical distancing is working, and to mull over the possibility that this could be an opportunity to eliminate ALL STIs. We can dream. On the Magnum, Dan chats with Katelyn Bowden, founder of the BadAss Army- a group that fights for victims of revenge porn. And, we end with a heartwarmin...more

  • Savage Love Episode 704

    Apr 21 2020

    This pandemic is getting sexier and sexier! Who's up for some Strip Ping-Pong? A gay man hooked up with a dude he had met a few months ago through an app. The dude asked our caller if he found him attractive. But the dude's photo was wildly inaccurate. He had gained weight since the photo was taken. When the caller tried to tactfully explain this, dude went ballistic, accusing him of being fat-phobic. Judge Savage issues his ruling. On the Magnum...let's get a lawyer! The pandemic will be mighty...more

  • Savage Love Episode 703

    Apr 14 2020

    We open with a quarantine sex story, in which a woman's boyfriend pulls on one of her dresses, and things get even better from there. A woman in a poly relationship knows she has to end things soon with her primary partner. So, naturally, she started sleeping with her roommate. Is it time to pull the plug? During these terrible times? How? At long last, it's the guest we've all been waiting for. Feminist comedic genius Erin Gibson, co-host of the Throwing Shade podcast and author of Feminasty: T...more

  • Savage Love Episode 702

    Apr 07 2020

    We open the show with a quarantine sex story featuring some very mysterious noises... Have no fear, Doc Barak is here! Dan brings on our long-suffering medical expert to reassure us about how covid-19 can and cannot be transmitted. The good doctor's giggle is, dare we say...infectious. On the Magnum, Dan interviews comedian and podcast host Pete Dominick to help him answer some questions from the hard-to-find straight male perspective. And, after a one night stand, a woman and her lover are stil...more

  • Savage Love Episode 701

    Mar 31 2020

    Just when you thought you understood the world, Dan chats with open relationships guru Tristan Taormino, to tell you to CLOSE IT UP. Monogamy is where it's at these days. Just for a while. A woman in a long distance relationship is trying to embrace video sex. But she worries that she doesn't look sexy when she's truly pleasuring herself. How can she learn to do the "performance" of video sex, and still get off? On the Magnum, Dan calls up Searah Deysach from the feminist sex-toy store Early to ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 700

    Mar 24 2020

    This week, Dan's guest is epidemiologist Daniel Westreich, who spells out the concept of physical distancing, and why sexual intimacy is going to be pretty difficult to attain for many of us. Some of the conversation is on the Micro, and all of it is on the Magnum. A man asks if virtual reality porn makes sense to help "spice up your sex life." Why yes, it makes  A LOT of sense right now. A woman who is engaged to be married to her boyfriend has a female friend. This friend made a drunken, preda...more

  • Savage Love Episode 699

    Mar 17 2020

    Here at Savage Lovecast world headquarters, in the heart of the epicenter of the Big Sick, we are keeping calm and carrying on, baby! Dan chats with Dr. Jen Gunter, who had to practice social distancing for ONE YEAR, so quit griping. She offers some strategies for how to deal with your new isolation. And, Dr.Debby Herbenick explains that although the corona virus is not sexually transmitted, you still can't just be mashing with anyone safely these days. Uh doy! Hear the tale of Maya, stuck in Sp...more

  • Savage Love Episode 698

    Mar 10 2020

    Sometimes people call us when they're drunk. Sometimes they call us about their dogs. Welcome to the center of this Venn diagram.  A woman has been invited to a "costume wedding." She will be required to dress up like a character in a movie. Is this asking too much? On the Magnum version of the show, it's a super-weird "What You Got?" with an evolutionary reproductive biologist who mulls over the *possibility* that the animal kingdom is teeming with same-sex behavior. Not just the homo penguins....more

  • Savage Love Episode 697

    Mar 03 2020

    A gay man was hooking up at a bathhouse. His brand new lover wanted to bring a little romance into the encounter by saying the caller's name and complimenting him. The caller was horrified. Isn't bathhouse sex supposed to be anonymous? Meanwhile, in another corner of our universe, a woman is appalled that her boyfriend closes his eyes when they're having sex. How can she get him to gaze deeply into her soul while pounding her real good? On the Magnum version of the show, Dan chats with stand-up ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 696

    Feb 25 2020

    A straight man was dating a woman, and it felt great. Until she gave him the "I'm not ready for a relationship" line. Is this always a lie? What does it mean? Dan spells it out, with no sugar on top. A man is worried about his new girlfriend. You see, she has never had penetrative sex. Is he special enough to be her first? On the Micro and more on the Magnum, Dan chats with weed journalist (now there's a sweet job if ever we've heard of one,) Lester Black. They talk about a woman whose smart hus...more

  • Savage Love Episode 695

    Feb 18 2020

    A man is going through a divorce from his wife of 7 years. Although their breakup was peaceful, now her communication is curt and unfriendly. Is he entitled to feel angry about her unwarranted coldness? A man kindly lent a friend some money. Now she keeps asking him for more and more every month! Should he just set her up with a regular payment, or cut off the friendship? On the Micro and the Magnum version of the show, Dan chats with Dr. Wednesday Martin, author of Untrue, about women's libido,...more

  • Savage Love Episode 694

    Feb 11 2020

    A young man has been dating a woman for a short time. She seems great...except. Except she is anti-abortion, and anti-gay in a lazy, not very heartfelt sort of way. Can he use his sex powers to change her feeble mind? Meanwhile, a woman is dating a guy also for a short time. He told her that if he got her pregnant, he would insist that she keep the child instead of have an abortion. Should she, maybe, dump him immediately? On the Magnum, Dan chats with the writer Jillian Keenan about spanking: I...more

  • Savage Love Episode 693

    Feb 04 2020

    A woman is hoping to find a monogamous partner who is also kinky. But when she puts the word "kinky" in her profile she gets flooded with ridiculous pervs. How can she filter out the clueless horndogs? Hear the very unpleasant tale of a gay couple who venture to an older man's apartment for a hook-up, only to find there were many more men there than promised. Why was this gentleman so dishonest? Aren't older men supposed to be supportive mentors for up and coming young 'mos? On the Magnum, Dan s...more

  • Savage Love Episode 692

    Jan 28 2020

    Have you ever experienced conflict during a family vacation? The first call on this show might put it all in perspective for you. A protective big sister can't stand that her 17 year-old sis is dating a 21 year-old man. Their parents don't mind. Should big sister give the guy a chance, or is the age difference unacceptable? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Dr. Elizabeth Sheff from Psychology Today about raising children within a polyamorous household. And finally, a woman is considering becoming a ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 691

    Jan 21 2020

    Scootch closer, ya'll. It's Bible study with Dan Savage. On with the show: A happily single woman finally broke down after pressure from her friend to have some sex. Against her misgivings, he convinced her to pursue a relationship, promising that if it didn't work out, they could go back to being friends, easy-peasy. Guess what! Now that she wants to break it off, he can't deal with being just friends AND they are starting a business together. Please take heed to this cautionary tale. A pregnan...more

  • Savage Love Episode 690

    Jan 14 2020

    Hand-wringing women, am I right? First we have a lady who feels guilty about masturbating at night when her partner is snoring next to her. And another woman feels guilty about "objectifying" her new cross-dressing boyfriend. Is it wrong to be attracted to him in his female garb? On the Magnum version of the show, Dan chats with John Moe, from the Hilarious World of Depression podcast about being a depressed person, or dating one. And, if you dare, hear all about the disturbing things a woman fo...more

  • Savage Love Episode 689

    Jan 07 2020

    Why, oh why (bemoans this woman,) is it that the indie, cool, female-owned sex stores never carry dildos that are big enough for her? WHY?! A gay man has been invited to be the man of honor at his sister's wedding. But you know what's weird? The sister is marrying a racist, anti-gay creep who has convinced her that the caller (and all gay people) are degenerates. So. Should our caller carry out his man of honor duties nonetheless? On the Magnum version of the show, Dan chats with Michael Hobbes,...more

  • Savage Love Episode 688

    Dec 31 2019

    It's kind of the bad actors show. A biting biter bit her boyfriend and drew blood. He didn't like it, so she calls him a baby. A dude wonders if can catch a contact high from sleeping with someone who is on meth. A man is miffed because a couple who came to the wedding didn't sent them a gift. Dan sternly chastises them all. People! It's 2020! Behave yourselves! On the Magnum, Dan interviews journalist L.V. Anderson about the history of herpes hysteria. And, vampire porn: How popular is it? Let'...more

  • Savage Lovecast #687

    Dec 24 2019

    A formerly repressed man is discovering his wild side. He and his wife like to do it in quasi-public in the mountains. He just got her a remote controlled vibrator, and wants to see if he can get her off in a restaurant. But is this ethical? Will people notice? Dan interviews the co-author of a study that finds that women tend to trust gay male shopkeepers over women shopkeepers. They theorize that women find another woman selling beauty products and clothes can't be trusted because their reptil...more

  • Savage Love Episode 686

    Dec 17 2019

    The show begins with an insecurity vampire. You know the kind. A person who sucks you dry with their endless need for praise and reassurance. This man is dating one, but is she entirely to blame? It's complicated. And, it's a wedding battle royale! In one corner we have our caller getting married to a man who has a child by a previous marriage- living out of town. In the other corner is the fiancé's mother, who wants to minimize contact between the kid and the caller. Whose side are you on? Grab...more

  • Savage Love Episode 685

    Dec 10 2019

    Hot tubs. Are they a safe, relaxing haven or a menacing vector of disease? Here's a poly peril. What do you do when you really, really don't like your boyfriend's other boyfriend? On the Magnum, all of your chastity cage questions are answered, including "Chastity cages? What are you even talking about?" Dr. Ashley Winter is a urologist, sexual medicine specialist and the co-host of "The Full Release Podcast." She knows her stuff. And, when your wife wants to go to the Amazon to hunt for psyched...more

  • Savage Love Episode 684

    Dec 03 2019

    A man went on a date and he felt fireworks. But later that she told him that wasn't feeling it, but wants to be friends. He doesn't need friends. He already has friends. Should he bother? This question is pretty simple. Her new lover has a gargantuan penis that is shaped like a sweet potato. How on earth is she supposed to accommodate him? On the Magnum version of the show, meet the woman who read every single one of Dan's newspaper columns since he started writing them in 1991. You could say sh...more

  • Savage Love Episode 683

    Nov 26 2019

    A man is getting re-married. Is it shoddy to use the same officiant as his first wedding? Dan talks to a woman who had a blurry encounter with another woman as a very sexually repressed Christian school. Her lover called it rape the next day. It's been ten years, and in this #MeToo era, the caller wonders if she should find the woman and apologize. On the Magnum, a biseuxal woman wonders how she can reconcile being shy and also explore her sexually dominant side. Dan brings the wonderful Midori,...more

  • Savage Love Episode 682

    Nov 19 2019

    A woman is concerned about her friend. Why? Well, for one, she is in a 24/7 dom/sub relationship with an abusive ex-con. They have kids, and the friend is open with them about the nature of her marriage. Is it possible to explain in a healthy way that mommy is actually a slave? We've been getting a lot of calls just like this one lately: a woman has a crush on her bandmate. He's married and it would ruin everything. But still...(You musicians are HORNY.) On the Magnum, sure, gender reveal partie...more

  • Savage Love Episode 681

    Nov 12 2019

    A woman wants her boyfriend to pee inside of her. Cool, cool. But he is pee shy! How can he get over it? A woman and her man love threesomes with women. But they don't want kids. Should they warn their unicorn that if she happens to get knocked up they will have no part in the parenting of her kids? Sssssexy! On the Magnum, Dan chats with worker's rights advocate Elle Stanger about the ongoing disaster that is SESTA/FOSTA. A 21 year-old man and his lady both live with their parents, and they hav...more

  • Savage Love Episode 680

    Nov 05 2019

    A young woman slept with her pal's ex about a year ago in one drunken evening. Now she is wracked with guilt. Should she tell her? A gay proofreader lives in a repressive country. He is tasked with fixing grammatical and spelling errors. One of his clients has written a novel riddled with homophobic tropes and forehead-slapping inaccuracies about gay people. Should he bring this to the writer's attention, or keep his head down and stick to "they're" vs. "their" mistakes? On the Magnum, Dan inter...more

  • Savage Love Episode 679

    Oct 29 2019

    A tale of two subs: What to do when both people in a couple are subs? Find one dom to rule them all? Take turns? A woman is super-duper annoyed that her Trump-lovin' brother is throwing a gender reveal party. Are they inherently unacceptable? On the Magnum version of the show, Dan casts about for a straight man to help him answer questions, and finds actor/comedian/author Michael Ian Black to discuss infidelity, betrayal and REVENGE. Also, a lesbian with Asperger's can't tell if her co-worker is...more

  • Savage Love Episode 678

    Oct 22 2019

    A woman was apparently dating Genghis Khan. He told her he had had a vasectomy, but she got pregnant anyway. And so had a bunch of other women he dated. Her lawyer says she has a battery case. Her friends tell her to chill out. What do you think? A married woman has a very dear gay male friend. She wants to go on vacation with him. But is this too much? Too close? Too weird?  On the Magnum, are we sick of drag yet? No. No, we are not. Dan brings on the ever-delightful Simon Doonan to talk about ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 677

    Oct 15 2019

    A woman has vowed to never date a Trump voter. But she lives in a small conservative town, and she's getting lonely... A woman did some sex work a couple years ago. She's dating someone new and wonders if, when or how to tell him. On the Magnum, Dan chats with Joan Price, author of "Naked at Our Age" about how to combat the effects of early menopause. Poor unicorn! Her couple broke up! Should she ask the lady in the (former) couple if she can continue to be with her ex? Awkward! 206-302-2064 Thi...more

  • Savage Love Episode 676

    Oct 08 2019

    An open-minded but shy woman has a gaggle of friends who all talk about sticking their fingers in their boyfriends butts- to everyone's delight. But the caller isn't into it. Is she depriving her boyfriend of this singular pleasure? A woman got a tattoo and felt turned on by the experience. Her husband reaped the benefits of this lust later that night. But is it wrong to secretly perv on her tattoo artist? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Elle Chase, author of "Curvy Girl Sex" about LOVING YOUR BOD...more

  • Savage Love Episode 675

    Oct 01 2019

    An anonymous LinkedIn contact has asked a woman if she would be his FinDom. He would give her money every week in a form of submission to her. But he refuses to reveal his identity. Should she take him up on it? Would you? A gay man has an out-of-town friend who is straight, conservative and engaged to be married. But when the caller was checking out gay hook-up apps he discovered his friend there. Should the caller reach out to his closeted friend and let him know he knows? Try to stop the wedd...more

  • Savage Love Episode 674

    Sep 24 2019

    It's your typical story: Man has sex with girl who has only 2 fingers on one of her hands. Man never calls girl again because he only wanted casual sex anyway. Years later, man feels guilty for not calling girl with disability because he worries she will think he ghosted her because of her weird hand. Man calls homosexual sex advice podcaster for absolution. A man and his wife are embarking on some sex club explorations. Dan chats with the man about how to stay safe and keep his head together an...more

  • Savage Love Episode 673

    Sep 17 2019

    A married woman has just hosted her mother-in-law in their small apartment. After seeing her husband and his mother interact, she just doesn't fell like having any sex at all. How can she clear out the in-law vibes? Morning! A woman emerges from sleep in the full throes of an orgasm. But her dream was mundane and not even close to sexy. What in god's name is going on here? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Dr. Lehmiller of the Kinsey Institute about whether men and women are equally kinky. And, a yo...more

  • Savage Love Episode 672

    Sep 10 2019

    A woman's boyfriend used to achieve orgasm with ease. But now he can't come from penetration. The caller worries that in her boyfriend's eyes, she has become the madonna, when she used to be the whore. Dan speaks with a bisexual man, whose first attempt at unicorning (yes, we verbbed the word "unicorn,") went poorly, mainly due to his straight couple maybe getting a little too drunky? Anyway, next time will go better, brave unicorn! On the Magnum: Dental dams- Nobody uses them. That is the conse...more

  • Savage Love Episode 671

    Sep 03 2019

    A gay man is fed up with all the public sex at gay pride parades! It's bad PR! Enough already! Will Dan agree? Listen and find out. A woman is planning to marry. Her fiancé has a lot less money than she does, and they maintain separate bank accounts. When she marries, should they combine their finances? Should she get a prenup? Dan brings in Paul Sullivan- the "Wealth Matters" columnist from the NYT- to discuss these potentially thorny issues. On the Magnum, Dan Savage (a known homosexual male) ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 670

    Aug 27 2019

    What do you do when love being single, but also want that new relationship energy? A woman vents some righteous fury that many women don't find short men attractive. IT'S NOT FAIR. On the Magnum, Dan chats with the very amazing RIVAL but BELOVED advice columnist E. Jean Carroll. She has been writing "Ask E. Jean" for Elle Magazine since 1993, and recently came out with her book What Do We Need Men For----A Modest Proposal. It exposes the hideous men she's encountered, including our current presi...more

  • Savage Love Episode 669

    Aug 20 2019

    A 76 year-old woman wonders if everyone is doing polyamory these days, or if there are any monogamous couples left. A woman's twin brother has become a white supremacist, and is getting sucked in to a very scary community. Dan brings on Christian Picciolini, who himself was recruited and eventually left the white power movement. He now combats extreme hate groups, with a message compassion and understanding. On the Magnum, Dan chats with writer Zachary Zane, on the challenges and resources for c...more

  • Savage Love Episode 668

    Aug 13 2019

    A man keeps sending his female friends sexual texts and pics, later apologizing saying it was a mistake and sent to the wrong person. Both our caller and podcast host know better. A man's husband will sometimes wake in the middle of the night and have wild, uninhibited sex. Then he forgets it happened in the morning. Is it wrong for the caller to enjoy these midnight romps? On the Magnum, Dan chats about one of his favorite subjects: blow jobs- with comedian Jacqueline Novak. And, a bi man's 16 ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 667

    Aug 06 2019

    Is it common for straight men to be "secretly into dick?" Because that's what this woman's boyfriend is. A transwoman got together with a guy in a dungeon. But she forgot to tell him that she is trans. Her lover told her it would be wise to reveal this detail early on. Should she? Must she? On the Magnum, a middle-aged woman is too damn horny. Dan brings on the ever-helpful Dr. Debby Herbenick to see if there's a medical cause or source of relief. And, a "poly-minded" man is only poly-minded whe...more

  • Savage Love Episode 666

    Jul 30 2019

    A woman is tormented that her partner of 7 years has not learned how to pee without spraying the area. Dan's response is both charitable and practical. A 70 year-old man is in an open relationship with his wife. He is communicating with a 30 year-old woman online who lives out of town. How can he verify her identity without offending her? Also, he doesn't want to take advantage of her. But who will be taking advantage of whom? Now. Did you notice the episode number? On the Magnum, Dan interviews...more

  • Savage Love Episode 665

    Jul 23 2019

    A woman has been dating a man for 4 months. She just read on his public blog that he thinks he isn't clicking with her. Should she admit she read his blog? Why would he write such a thing? A gay man encountered a willing slave in the bathroom at an orgy. (As one does.) It turns out this slave wants to be in a 24/7 slave/master relationship. He is also closeted, and politically conservative. Sooooo....is his masochism born out of self-hatred? How can (or should) the caller help this twisted soul?...more

  • Savage Love Episode 664

    Jul 16 2019

    A reasonable woman is about to visit her over-the-top Christian family. Her sister has invited her to join a book club when she's there. Guess what the book is! Should the caller sit through her sister's stealth Bible study, or find a way to politely decline? Or perhaps there's yet another way... A man used to be the cartoon editor for his college newspaper. This was before he got woke, and he is now mortified to recall some nasty anti-gay comics that he published. Should he apologize? Submit ne...more

  • Savage Love Episode 663

    Jul 09 2019

    A man still has hot videos he took of his ex. He loves his current girlfriend, but the sex isn't nearly as good. How wrong is it to view the historical footage? A straight man has HAD IT UP TO HERE with all this "they/them" stuff! And sometimes, you use "they/them" and they still get mad! "What are we doing here, Dan?" On the Magnum, Dan chats with Rob Walker- Human Resource columnist for Lifehacker, about dealing with various schmuckos at work. Also, a woman and her fiancé happily trade chores ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 662

    Jul 02 2019

    It's the One-Minute Wonder Show! That's right. Your calls were one minute or less. Dan's answers were 2 minutes or less. We blasted through so much, it feels like a blur. Blowing air in vaginas, toxic Drag Race fans, squirting cleanup, anal skin tags, finding that clit, how to avoid getting things stuck up your butt, jizz enemas, micro infidelities, orgasm farts, figging, Gallagher, sounding- this is just a fraction of the rich content you'll hear today. We are all exhausted, actually. 206-302-2...more

  • Savage Love Episode 661

    Jun 25 2019

    Just in time for your pride parade, it's the all gay episode! Calls by, for and about queer people. We got nervous lesbians who are scared to introduce the girlfriend to their moms, we got homos who come too soon, or get spooked by conventionally attractive men. Look! It's a bisexual woman who has never been with a woman before and wants to "scratch the itch" while her boyfriend is out of town. A woman whose trans husband has been outed at work, gay cleaning products...wait. What? Gay cleaning p...more

  • Savage Love Episode 660

    Jun 18 2019

    A gay man is dating a self-described "Sex Pig." His antics in public are epic. The caller wants to figure out if he can learn to be more carefree and uninhibited or negotiate some rules to please them both. Hear and learn from the cautionary tale of the dutiful daughter housesitting for her parents, and the hidden videocamera. On the Magnum, Dan stammers through a conversation about a topic that makes him feel...uncomfortable: NUDITY. Stéphane Deschenes from The Naturist Living Show podcast trie...more

  • Savage Love Episode 659

    Jun 11 2019

    With the ever-charming and fearsome Mistress Matisse. She came to our studio to help Dan answer questions about bruises (wanted and unwanted,) gang bangs, the nasty kind of doms you'll meet on Reddit, rough sex when you're pregnant and the proper care and washing of your ball-gag. And more! And, on the Magnum, Dan chats with historian and author Peter Tupper on his new book A Lover's Pinch: A Cultural History of Sadomasochism. Yowwwwch! 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Talkspace- o...more

  • Savage Love Episode 658

    Jun 04 2019

    Here's a conundrum: A black, gay man is married to his white husband. They want to dive into threesomes, but the black man is only attracted to white men and the white man is only attracted to black men. So you see. This is a real pickle. Meanwhile, a straight man has fantasies where he is a gay leather daddy, and his real life butch lesbian friend is his sub "boy." Is this a thought crime? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Fast Company freelance journalist Sean Captain about the sad demise of Tumbl...more

  • Savage Love Episode 657

    May 28 2019

    Here are the Savage Lovecast we've noticed that we'll get a bunch of calls on a particular subject all at once. This week it was abortion and weddings. A caller asks if we should just sit on our hands and let Alabama and the other states hijacked by their far right politicians reap the political cost of criminalizing abortion. Hear Dan counsel a gay man who is getting married. A straight couple who the caller considered friends revealed that they couldn't come to the wedding because it violates ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 656

    May 21 2019

    A woman is dating a man who used to be a sex addict. He slept with hundreds of women. Now their relationship is solid and monogamous, but his many former lovers keep texting him and trying to keep in touch. The caller feels threatened and creeped out. A man has started going to hot yoga to get in shape. The room is filled with gorgeous women stretching and sweating and wearing next to nothing. Is the sexual vibe just in the caller's head? How can he approach some of them without looking like som...more

  • Savage Love Episode 655

    May 14 2019

    A man and his wife want to have kids. He would like to have a threesome before they do. Is it wrong to issue an ultimatum: "NO KIDS until we have that threeway?" Dan chats with Dr. Landon Trost from the Mayo clinic about vasectomies- how reversible are they? On the Magnum, Dan has a long conversation with a lesbian whose parents forced her to endure "conversion therapy" for years. She talks about the experience and together she and Dan hash out how to approach her relationship with her parents t...more

  • Savage Love Episode 654

    May 07 2019

    A woman keeps getting told to go home after she hooks up in the middle of the night. Don't any of these gentleman know how to make breakfast? A woman has learned that her beloved aunt has been having a lesbian affair for decades. Some but not all of her family knows. Should the caller tell everyone? At family gatherings? Because she just can't keep her mouth shut? Will she heed Dan's stern advice? On the Magnum, a woman wonders if the best orgasm of her life, way back when she was 16, was due to...more

  • Savage Love Episode 653

    Apr 30 2019

    A kinky woman enjoys having slaves. But the guy she really likes is vanilla. It didn't work out. This is sad. Does being kinky mean you can't have vanilla love too? A school teacher and her boyfriend want to go to a sex club. But she's worried about running into parents of her students, or school administration. How cautious should this sexy schoolmarm be? On the Magnum, Dan chats with sociologist and author Nicholas A. Christakis about his book: Blueprint: The Evolutionary Origins of a Good Soc...more

  • Savage Love Episode 652

    Apr 23 2019

    A woman claims that over 90% of the time, her casual hook-ups end with the man orgasming, and she gets...nothing. And then! When she asks for a little reciprocity, these men accuse her of being a demanding princess. Meanwhile, another straight woman loves it when her men say no at first. She loves the chase and her ultimate victory. Is this a kink? Is it something she can work into her long term relationships? On the Magnum, Dan speaks with writer and social researcher Dr. Wednesday Martin, abou...more

  • Savage Love Episode 651

    Apr 16 2019

    A bisexual man and his girlfriend want to try a threeway with another man. But he has never been with a man before and feels anxious. The girlfriend just feels turned on. He wishes she would suppress her desire and support him in this trying time. A woman's friend is beginning the process of coming out as a trans woman. But she wants to be help accountable. She asked the caller to send a coming out announcement to family and friends if the trans woman doesn't do it herself by a certain time. Is ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 650

    Apr 09 2019

    Look at her. She's only a lesbian when she's drunk! Why does she dream of a white picket fence with her loving wife by her side but only when she's had 5 whisky sours? A woman is planning to marry Prince Charming. He is so wonderful in every way. Except...when he wants sex he grabs her head and pulls it down to his crotch. Is this just how men ask for sex these days? On the Magnum, Dan's suspicions are confirmed by science ONCE AGAIN. This time, he speaks with Dr. Becky Lynn about the effect mar...more

  • Savage Love Episode 649

    Apr 02 2019

    A man often yawns soon after coming. He has to convince his partners that he's not bored. What up? A dutiful father worries that when he drops his used come-rag in the laundry along with his kids' clothes that his sperm is getting spread around the innocent garments. Does the come actually exit the washing machine? Does it go away? On the Magnum, Dan speaks with Kaytlin Bailey, host of The Oldest Profession podcast & Director of Communications for Decriminalize Sex Work. In case you were won...more

  • Savage Love Episode 648

    Mar 26 2019

    A woman has been dating her older boyfriend for 6 years, and she still hasn't met his kids. Does she have grounds for righteous indignation here? A woman and her boyfriend are considering bringing in another man for a threeway. How can they proceed with caution? On the Magnum version of the show, Dan chats with comedian Kate Willet about dating Trump voters, breaking up amicably and what to do when the boner fails to show up. Also, when your boyfriend prefers bathhouses to you. 206-302-2064 This...more

  • Savage Love Episode 647

    Mar 19 2019

    A woman and her husband are having a difficult year. And to top it off, he divulged that he likes to wear women's clothes, and would like to raid her closet. She worries that this is just the first step toward a transgender identity. Do straight men ever like to wear women's clothes? (Spoiler: Yes.) A woman's conservative cousin has started working at a "Crisis Parenting Center," that gives misinformation about abortion. Should she confront her? On the Magnum, Dan chats with his soul brother the...more

  • Savage Love Episode 646

    Mar 12 2019

    Yowsers! It's the TRIGGER SHOW. This show is pretty gnarly. There's molestation, pedophilia, incest, snuff porn, dicks in a drawer, blubbering boyfriends and even doggity style! Listen in if you dare. On the Magnum, we also have Dan's transman pal Jens Cinguemani on to take a few trans-oriented calls. 206-302-2064 This episode of the Savage love cast is brought to you by Everlane: Luxury basic clothing and accessories, made at ethical factories without those retail markups. For free shipping, an...more

  • Savage Love Episode 645

    Mar 05 2019

    A woman has taken up with two men. One of them is a pal, and it's all about the sex. The other one is her perfect fit emotionally, but the sex is on the "meh" side. How on earth can she choose between them? A while back we had on a guest who turned out to be a charlatan! He duped a lot of media outlets, the Lovecast included. Dan interviews the journalist from Gizmodo who outed this fraud. Crow: it's what's for dinner. On the Magnum, a woman is dating a guy who is great in every way, except! He ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 603

    Mar 01 2019

    A white man is dating an Asian man and tends to be attracted to Asian men. Does this make him a rice queen? Is it racist to be a rice queen? Can learn to feel attraction toward other races? A straight man has a great girlfriend except for one little problem. She gives painful blowjobs with her sharp little teeth.  After three long years, he's never complained. How can he explain what he likes down there? And on the Magnum, a man with staggeringly high libido (12 times per day sounds about right ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 644

    Feb 26 2019

    A man lives in a duplex below a couple women. One day, he heard them having sex, and it inspired him to have a wank. Now he feels guilty. Is he an Eavesdropping Tom? A woman hooked up with a younger man. He asked her if his penis looked like it was circumcised. He wasn't and she told him so. How could a fella possibly not know this about himself? It is very perplexing. On the Magnum Dan has a long conversation with Johann Hari - the author of "Lost Connections: Uncovering the Real Causes of Depr...more

  • Savage Love Episode 643

    Feb 19 2019

    When bisexual friends go wild: A lesbian has been buddies with a bi woman for a while. Guess what happened when they got drunk! Now, the bi friend is asking her boyfriend for a hall pass to sleep with the lesbian friend. But will their friendship be able to withstand all this newfound passion? Hear two tales concerning the ethics of HIV disclosure: A male/female couple have always been bi and open. But when they both got HIV it became much more difficult to find other partners willing to take th...more

  • Savage Love Episode 642

    Feb 12 2019

    A woman makes twice as much as her boyfriend. When he learned this his eyes went wide. Now she feels guilty. Should she start paying more of the bills? Do you like piña coladas? A kinky woman started dating a new man. Before she could tell him about her kinks she discovered that the dude she's been talking dirty with on Fetlife is THE SAME GUY, but he doesn't know it yet. How can she tell him that they are already...acquainted? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Eric Leue from the Free Speech Coaliti...more

  • Savage Love Episode 641

    Feb 05 2019

    Hey uncircumcised fellas! Would you get cut because your girlfriend wanted you to? Because she thought that it made your dick bigger? Would you really? This guy did. Hear the tale of a man's sexual adventure in Las Vegas, and how he can't seem to find a lady unless he's paying her. Gracing us on both the Micro and the Magnum, sex researcher Dr. Zhana Vrangalova explains the current state of the science on squirting. What exactly is that stuff anyway? Then she stayed on to help answer a question ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 640

    Jan 29 2019

    Therapy is good right? It gets you in touch with your feelings. Unless...those feelings you are getting in touch with are jealousy, paranoia and possessiveness. Sometimes it's time to BACK AWAY FROM THE FEELINGS. Anyway, here's the kind of question you really came for: A woman is about to turn thirty and wants to throw a big sex party with XTC a'flowin'. But she is also a mom and wants to invite her other mom friends. Should she offer them party drugs too? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Andrew Gu...more

  • Savage Love Episode 639

    Jan 22 2019

    Let's call this the BAD BEHAVIOR show, because some of you are doing terrible things. We start with a teen who has been sneaking off with her mother's vibrator. How can her long-suffering parents encourage her to use one without using *that particular* one? A woman's new boyfriend begs her to let him change her tampon, saying it would bring them closer together. Is this a fetish of his? Is this a fetish of anyone's? This isn't "bad," per se but just what the Sam Hill is going on on here? On the ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 638

    Jan 15 2019

    A gay man is sick of always having to initiate with his new boyfriend. The boyfriend is a big guy, but very submissive. How can the caller get the dude to make a move now and again? A woman caught her fiancé wanking to photos of his exes. Now she feels jealous and insecure. How can she get over it? On the Magnum, hear two tales of companionate marriages: How to do it right, and how to do it wrong. And, a woman with baby fever is single, but hell bent on reproducing. She is convinced her parents ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 637

    Jan 08 2019

    A Jewish woman is bringing her boyfriend to the Hanukkah party. Great, right? But as always, there's a problem. He has a HITLER MUSTACHE. Because he "likes the look." Dan chats with this woman, and you get to listen. A young man's parents discovered kinky sexts on his phone. How can he explain BDSM to his freaked out mom n' pop? On the Magnum, a man is in an open relationship, but his girlfriend doesn't like that he sees sex workers. He just likes it. Should he try to stop? Or keep doing it and ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 636

    Jan 01 2019

    The first call of 2019 is all about public sex. So that's how things are looking. We then move on to a deep, methodical analysis of the life cycle of your vibrator. How long should those things last anyway? On the Magnum, Dan chats with queer sex writer Sophie Saint Thomas about her article in Playboy titled "Are Some People Just Slapping the Poly Label on their Cheating?" We are very sorry to report that the answer is yes, yes they are. And, an anxious sister wants to counsel her 16 year-old br...more

  • Savage Love Episode 635

    Dec 25 2018

    Gather round the Lovecast Christmas tree children, and see what audio gifts we have for you! Why, here's a question from a power bottom who pees when he gets fucked!  And look! A woman's boyfriend won't use sex toys on her if they've been used before. Should she ask Santa to get her some brand new, still-in-the-box butt plugs? And, oh good heavens, Dan's friend Philip has some advice for a woman with hemorrhoids. He likens them to "a heart attack in your ass." On the Magnum version, which you sh...more

  • Savage Love Episode 634

    Dec 18 2018

    Dear Australia, Hi! This is the Savage Lovecast. Listen. Do you guys refer to the very common sexual position where a man enters a woman from behind while she is on all fours as ..."Doggity Style?" No? We didn't think so. (Both Dan and Nancy are gobsmacked by this call.) A man's friend has been accused of sexual assault from when they were both in a pseudo-Christian cult. The caller believes the women, but also wants to support his friend and help him to become a better person. How? Strap-ons......more

  • Savage Love Episode 633

    Dec 11 2018

    A woman had sex with a pre-op transwoman. But she didn't make the caller come, or even try. Now the caller wonders if this is a "vagina-bodied" vs "non vagina-bodied" problem, or just a "jerk" problem. A married gay man with kids begs Dan for a quick n' dirty guide on how to add a third partner into their relationship. How can they have adventures and maintain the sanctity of their family unit? On the Magnum version, check out Canada! They are slowly but surely opening sex doll & robot broth...more

  • Savage Love Episode 632

    Dec 04 2018

    A man has tried group sex a couple times. But when he shows up his dick doesn't. What is going on here? Oh this story! A girl started seeing her therapist at age 17. At age 19, she confessed to her 45 year-old therapist that she loved him. So, naturally he told her that he loved her back. They married and had a kid. (Really.) Then they divorced. (Of course.) Now, when her kid or friends ask how she met her ex, she doesn't know what to say. What should she say? And how can she process all the dis...more

  • Savage Love Episode 631

    Nov 27 2018

    Well looky who blew into town! Stormy Daniels came on over to our studio to answer callers' questions about blow jobs, toxic men, protecting the male ego and other hazards. Stormy and Dan got on like a house on fire, and you must listen to it. A couple questions are on the Micro version and many more are on the Magnum. Also, how to get used to using "they/them" pronouns. 206-302-2064 This episode of Savage Lovecast is brought to you by Away. Away makes first-class luggage at coach prices that al...more

  • Savage Love Episode 630

    Nov 20 2018

    We have a word for a woman who sleeps with a straight couple. That's a unicorn, of course. But what should we call a man who provides the same service? Cuz we have a male caller who is totally down. A woman has reconnected with an old high school chum. The friend immediately asked the caller to be the bridesmaid at her upcoming wedding. The caller said yes, only to learn that the groom-to-be is a Trump-supporting, racist jackass. Should she bail on her sacred duty? On the Magnum version of the s...more

  • Savage Love Episode 629

    Nov 13 2018

    Here in Seattle, we have a sportsball team called "The Sounders." On the Savage Lovecast, well, it's another matter altogether. Oh look! It's Nancy, putting the men who fear/refuse vasectomies on blast. Dan's on your side, fellas. Nancy is not. On the Magnum, a caller has hit rock bottom and quit drinking. But he wonders if he can ever have a single beer again. Is it possible to drink in moderation if you're an alcoholic? Dan brings on clinical psychologist (and co-founder of CheckUp & Choic...more

  • Savage Love Episode 628

    Nov 06 2018

    A woman has been with her fiancé for 4 years. All of a sudden, out of nowhere, he's started moaning and groaning in bed like a porn starlet. Why the sudden vocalizations? IS HE CHEATING ON HER? An asexual, non-binary person feels like an invader when they show up at BDSM parties. Is it alright to join that community when you are uninterested in sex? On the Magnum, we are delighted to welcome back author, sex educator and bitter podcasting rival Tristan Taormino. She and Dan discuss strap-ons, an...more

  • Savage Love Episode 627

    Oct 30 2018

    A sugar baby has fallen in love with her sugar daddy. He loves her too! Except, he kind of doesn't want her to meet his actual daughter. Does she have the right to demand it? A coach at a college has been asked to drive one of her students to get an abortion. Because of where they live, it will take 4 hours. Should she do it? Welcome to America. On the Magnum, things get a little gnarly with our urologist pal, Dr. Stephen King. How many times you can handle hearing the words "dorsal slit" being ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 626

    Oct 23 2018

    In the intro, Dan and blogger/trans rights activist Parker Molloy fume over 45's latest anti-trans bluster. A straight man who is apparently just learning some basic facts about our world, wants to know: Do gays ever get divorced? On the Magnum, things get a bit more complicated. Dan interviews Dr. Justin Lehmiller, author of ".” They discuss the origins of kinks, and if you can shut them off if they bum you out. Finally, a woman is majorly skeezed whenever she thinks about the existence of ince...more

  • Savage Love Episode 625

    Oct 16 2018

    A couple adopted a disturbed dog, hell-bent on destroying their sex life! It jumps on the bed, and barks when they try to get busy, and whimpers, barks and whines when left outside the door. Dan "Dog Whisperer" Savage leaps to the rescue. Speaking of mental illness, Ellen Forney, the brilliant cartoonist behind "" is back to discuss dating with bipolar disorder, and her new book "." If you are or love someone with bipolar, this is the show for you. Also, you should buy her books immediately. On ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 624

    Oct 09 2018

    If you found out that your gal pal in her 20s had a hook up with a 17 year-old lad, would you call the cops on her? Should you? Ok, seriously. What is up with adult babies? Dan interviews Lo, of the Dream a Little podcast exploring the relationships between folks who get off on this kind of role play. We suspect you will emerge enlightened. A woman uses the tried and true "pillow humping" technique when she masturbates. Her boyfriend wants her to film it so he can watch. But will he be turned of...more

  • Savage Love Episode 623

    Oct 02 2018

    A married couple's teen daughter gets super-irritated when her parents have noisy sex. She sends them snarky texts imploring them to stop. Maybe she includes an eye-rolling emoji or a throwing-up kitten or some such teenaged thing. The dad in this couple doesn't want to "break her." What does Dan Savage have to say? Our guest this week, (on the Micro! You're welcome!) is Brook Urick of Seeking.com- a site where sugar babies can meet their ideal sugar daddy. Hooray! But is this relationship by na...more

  • Savage Love Episode 622

    Sep 25 2018

    Parents, hear this cautionary tale: A man has been in his loving, kinky, poly marriage for 21 years. His wife accidentally clicked the wrong button and synched up her super gnarly BDSM pics onto her 9 year-old daughter's phone. So now there's some 'splaining to do. A woman lives in an apartment building in NYC. At first, her neighbor appeared to be really nice! Then he started sending her dick pics with his infant in the background. On the Magnum: "Honey? What would you like for your birthday?" ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 621

    Sep 18 2018

    A woman enjoys anonymous webcamming with older men. But do they cross a line when they both pretend that she's... very young? A poly father doesn't know how to explain his healthy, happy relationships to his 5 year old daughter. On the Magnum, Dan enlists JP Brammer, author of the "Hola Papi" advice column to talk about interracial dating and to take down a personal trainer/tease. And, a guy with a girlfriend is sick of everyone asking when they're going to have kids. They don't want kids. What ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 620

    Sep 11 2018

    A young woman's boyfriend regularly gets her sexually aroused and then rolls over and goes to sleep without finishing the job. And then they fight. Why would he do this? A young gay man doesn't understand why his fuckbuddy only texts him when he wants to...well, fuck. On the Magnum: If you are a gay man, and want to give blood, you're out of luck. Blood centers do not accept blood donations from gay men. Is this based on science or stigma? It's a little of both, as it turns out in this discussio...more

  • Savage Love Episode 619

    Sep 04 2018

    A woman's mother died last year. Her dad is dating someone new. The caller and her siblings just aren't ready to welcome their dad's girlfriend into their lives, let alone include her at Christmas. The caller feels she has to choose between her siblings and her father. Tough times, these. A straight man felt slighted when a woman wouldn't give him her phone number, and in public! He feels sad and humiliated and wonders if the male ego should be given just a little more weight and protection. On ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 618

    Aug 28 2018

    We start this week's adventure with a couple who have a secret unicorn at their beck and call. The wife in the couple doesn't want anyone to know. But the unicorn lass has already told some friends and wants to be more open about the relationship. Who will win this one? A 27 year-old woman has a distant relationship with her father. He is 64. Guess how old his new girlfriend is. You're right! Same age as the caller! Now, whenever they chat, he puts her on speaker-phone if the new girlfriend is t...more

  • Savage Love Episode 617

    Aug 21 2018

    A woman got together with what seemed to be the perfect man for her. Kinky. Into spanking. And social justice! But after they got together she discovered that he is really the married pastor of a conservative mega-church. Dan counsels her on whether to unmask this lying creep. A gay man came out late in life. When he tells his dates this, they balk. How can he reveal his truth to the men in his life and still earn their respect? On the Magnum, Dan chats with the estimable Dr. Lori Brotto about h...more

  • Savage Love Episode 616

    Aug 14 2018

    Come hear the sordid tale of the couple who invited a woman over, only to have her wet the bed so thoroughly that she soaked right through to the mattress. Bad unicorn! Erika Moen of "Oh Joy Sex Toy?" is on to review her husband's fave new toy. What could it be? On the Magnum, a woman dislikes her parters the instant she has sex with them. How can she yank out that bad wiring? And, pineapples. They are laden with meaning. 206-302-2064 This episode of the Savage Lovecast is brought to you by Boll...more

  • Savage Love Episode 615

    Aug 07 2018

    A woman keeps dating men who hide her and won't acknowledge that she exists on social media. What on earth is going on here? A woman knows that her personal trainer is a Christian. But is he the good kind or the bad kind? Should she find out before she continues her patronage? On the Magnum version, Amp from "Watt's the Safeword" is on to explain and discuss the phenomenon of "sub drop" in pornography and in the wild. And, what it really means when you're attracted to Wonder Woman. 206-302-2064 ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 614

    Jul 31 2018

    "Dan? If someone sticks a lollypop in my vagina, will I get a yeast infection?" Sincerely, the very first caller. A married woman was horrified to discover raunchy pics of her husband's first cousin on his phone. Would this horrify you? On the Magnum, did you know that you can find instructions for a home abortion...in the Bible?! Well you can, and Dan's guest, the blogger Jesse Cramer tells us all about it. Also, a VERY WOKE man, who ALWAYS OBTAINS CONSENT, because he VERY MUCH CARES ABOUT WOME...more

  • Savage Love Episode 613

    Jul 24 2018

    A woman who lives in a group house likes listening in when someone is having sex near her. Handwringing ensues. Is this unethical? Should she feel guilty? Should she stop? A woman who has gone from eating way too little to eating way too much, wrestles with how to talk about the diminishing sex with her boyfriend. On the Magnum, Dan convenes a high-powered lesbian panel to handle a few questions concerning processing, fighting, processing, how to define yourself, and processing. Lady-loving ladi...more

  • Savage Love Episode 612

    Jul 17 2018

    A lesbian is a divorcée at age 20. How can she tell her future girlfriends that she had spectacularly bad judgement when she was of a tender age? Hey everyone! Meet Jason, the offended gay Christian! He wishes Dan wouldn't be so derisive of religion. Dan has an answer for him. On the Magnum, a caller is studying to become a sexuality professor. This makes her dates FREAK THE FUCK OUT. Dan brings on an actual sexuality professor -Dr. Debby Herbenick- to address how she dealt with her dating life....more

  • Savage Love Episode 611

    Jul 10 2018

    A liberal, PC, feminist, woke man loves to humiliate, slap and call women sluts in the bedroom. (Always consensually.) How can he reconcile the two opposing sides of his personality? A woman and her husband have befriended another family in their new town. The couple revealed that the man is a transman, and that she should ask any questions she wants to. But the caller clammed up and didn't ask. Is it too late to ask about them? How can she learn about the trans experience without offending? In ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 610

    Jul 03 2018

    A woman has started up with a great new guy. The problem? He kisses "like a robot." And not a sexy robot! How can she train him to kiss properly? A man's daughter is non-binary, and dating another non-binary. When they have sleep-overs should the father worry about his daughter when her partner is in male mode? On the Magnum, Dr. Justin Lehmiller is on to talk about his research studying what people really fantasize about. Don't you want his job? A married woman's husband loves it when she talks...more

  • Savage Love Episode 609

    Jun 26 2018

    A woman's boss did something so nasty that she successfully prosecuted him and got him on the sex offender registry. But how can she get a new job with such an uncomfortable story to tell about her last one? Dan brings on Rob Walker, a.k.a. The Workologist from the New York Times to strategize. A skinny, insecure gay dude likes big muscle men. But he can't understand why they like him. On the Magnum, Dan interviews sociologist Eran Shor about his work analyzing pornography and whether it is gett...more

  • Savage Love Episode 608

    Jun 19 2018

    A woman had offered an Amazon delivery guy a drink of water in her house, and gave him her phone number. One year later he started sending her nasty messages and dick pics. Should she report him to his employer? Call the cops? A divorced man's 13 year-old daughter came out to him as a "homo-romantic asexual." Should he tell her conservative Christian mother? Also, is this just a phase? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Phd student Sam Hughes about his work exploring why some people are kinky. And, h...more

  • Savage Love Episode 607

    Jun 12 2018

    A kinky woman is sick and tired of men assuming she's a horny slut ready for anything at any time. How can she explain in her dating profiles that she's kinky AND discerning? A woman was hanging out fishing with her old high school buddy when the buddy asked, "So is it true you like to get peed on?" Don't you hate it when that happens? How should she spread the word among her old friend circle that in fact, this isn't to her taste? On the Magnum, look out! It's a lesbian take-over! The delightfu...more

  • Savage Love Episode 606

    Jun 05 2018

    Mom discovered a portable pussy sex toy in her teenaged son's backpack. Are you a mother? Do you plan to be one someday? What will you do when you discover a portable pussy in your teenaged son's backpack? A man and his girlfriend see each other every few months. And when they do, hoo boy! They have sex every few hours. By the end of their time together she feels sore. Right? She wants to try pegging him so he can understand what it's like to be penetrated so frequently. He wonders if this is ev...more

  • Savage Love Episode 605

    May 29 2018

    A woman was chilling with her male friend, you know, the way friends do, and sure, he wishes they were a couple, but she's not into him that way, so anyway, she invited him over after some drinking and masturbated in front of him, you know, the way friends do, except now things are weird? A lesbian was told by a transwoman who still has a penis that it's transphobic to not want to have sex with her. Discuss. On the Magnum,  it's time for a Second Opinion! Dan chats with the newest sex advice col...more

  • Savage Love Episode 604

    May 22 2018

    A 60 year-old man has been dating a woman for 4 months. He wishes she would lose some weight. Oh, and also? She lost her breasts to cancer. Does he have the right to ask her to get a boob job too? Sidle up, dear listener, and hear the tale of the woman, her much older boyfriend, and...and her boyfriend's...son?  After hearing this, one of the tech-savvy at-risk youth had to take a walk around the block.  But fearlessly, we continue! On the Magnum, Dan interviews Inka, the creator of : Erotica ma...more

  • Savage Love Episode 602

    May 08 2018

    A woman's husband installed a hidden camera in their house. We aren't saying WHERE he installed it, but you should know that this call made us take off our headphones for a second. As a young man navigates through his dating life, he finds that the girls he's really attracted to ghost him, and the gals he's lukewarm about chase him with conviction. Why?! Dan chats with the lad and gives him a clue. On the Magnum Dan speaks with Dr. Lori Brotto about having a fulfilling relationship with an asexu...more

  • Savage Love Episode 601

    May 01 2018

    A married man and his wife are planning some swinging fun times. But one of the people who responded to his anonymous post is his high school pal! Should he tell her who he is? That he knows who she is? Oh my god, this could be SO EMBARRASSING. A woman and her boyfriend used to have frequent, fantastic sex..when he was drunk. Now that he's sober, their love-life is bland and scant. How can they have hot, booze-free sex? On the Magnum, Dan interviews Dr. John Scott, a sociology Professor from Bri...more

  • Savage Love Episode 600

    Apr 24 2018

    You guys? We've been making this podcast for 600 episodes. How do we celebrate? By talking about pee pee! A woman who is about to get married is having a total freak-out affair! She's been seeing her lover for only 3 months, but she thinks it's true love. Should she call off the wedding? A woman spontaneously comes whenever she sits in a sauna. Why Dan, why??!! Dan chats with the charming and super-freaky Sunny Megatron & Ken Melvoin-Berg-- sexuality educators, hosts of American Sex Podcast,...more

  • Savage Lovecast #599

    Apr 17 2018

    "Dear Dan. What is up with cock rings?" Dan is all too delighted to answer. A married woman is in an open relationship, and hooks up with a friend of theirs. This "lover" doesn't make her come. Rather, after her insufficient sessions with him, she returns home to her husband who gets the job done. Should she tell the lover that he is inadequate when it feeds such a hot dynamic with her husband? On the Magnum, welcome to Poly Town! The wonderful Cunning Minx, host of the Poly Weekly podcast, is o...more

  • Savage Love Episode 598

    Apr 10 2018

    The kindly mother of a 12 year-old boy wonders if she should discreetly leave some lube by his bed as he learns to love him himself fully. A woman is horrified to discover that her hook-up doesn't have sheets on the bed. "The bed is no good," she laments. Should she see him again? Is there a fix here? Dan and the mighty Mistress Matisse revisit the horrifying SESTA/FOSTA bill snaking its way into law. This bill will be devastating to sex workers and the internet in general. Please follow #LetUsS...more

  • Savage Love Episode 597

    Apr 03 2018

    A woman went on a date, and everything went so well. Until...he disappeared without a trace. Did this man truly turn into a ghost? Dan calls her back and gets the full story. On the Magnum, for a "What You Got?" Dan chats with Kristin Mark on how to maintain sexual desire in long term relationships. And, a woman's husband suffered an injury that he is slowly recovering from. But it has wreaked havoc on their sex life. How can they get back to the good times? This "In sickness and in health" stuf...more

  • Savage Love Episode 596

    Mar 27 2018

    A straight man is having a hard time getting laid. His female friends tell him he has to be more aggressive and less respectful with the ladies. Dan weighs in. The "baby" in a baby/daddy relationship is jealous because her daddy is getting it on with a couple and not inviting her. No, crying is not a solution. Sometimes you gotta reach out to a dick doc. (The more dignified word is "urologist." ) On the Magnum, Dan does just that, chatting with the good Doctor Stephen King, to answer a couple qu...more

  • Savage Love Episode 595

    Mar 20 2018

    A trans man is losing his hair and worries that he won't be able to rock the hyper-masculine bald guy look. Can you be sweet, sexy and bald all at the same time? Dogs! Sex! These two topics come together not once, but three times on this very show. On the Magnum, Dan speaks with writer and cultural critic Alana Massey on the misguided Stop Enabling Sex Traffickers Act (SESTA.) A woman's best friend has a husband who calls her a "horrible wife" and "slut" under his breath. The caller isn't quite ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 594

    Mar 13 2018

    After 10 years of marriage, a man is dismayed to admit that he married a jizz-hater. His wife detests the stuff and doesn't want to be anywhere near it. What is the solution? The ever-delightful and intrepid Erika Moen of "Oh Joy Sex Toy" is on to discuss a sex toy that will send you packing. A woman's boyfriend wants to get a $2000 anatomically correct sex doll. The caller, and (as you will hear) Dan Savage are super-squicked. Finally, gather round dear listeners, and hear the story of the neig...more

  • Savage Love Episode 593

    Mar 06 2018

    A straight man knows he has the dreaded Madonna/Whore Complex. But how can he overcome it? A 47 year-old woman has just started working at a sex toy store, and loves her funky, kinky co-workers. But she's scared to invite them to her wedding for fear that mommy and daddy won't approve. On the Magnum, Dan chats with Emily Best, the force behind "F*ck Yes" -a new channel that offers up super-hot shorts showing how consent can be very sexy indeed. We love what they are doing, and you should check i...more

  • Savage Love Episode 592

    Feb 27 2018

    A woman gave her husband permission to see an escort when he was out of town. But she didn't give him permission to spend a small fortune on her!! An open-minded straight man has had quite enough with the sexual cavorting that takes place in his gym's hot tub, thank you very much! Is he being homophobic? Should he rat them out? On the Magnum, kids are getting in big trouble for sexting, sending pics and other activities that most teens routinely engage in. Dan speaks with Robby Soave from Reason...more

  • Savage Love Episode 591

    Feb 20 2018

    A gay man's boyfriend insists on showering just before sex, every single time. But the caller likes a little funk! How can they reconcile this fundamental difference. Dan's answer is sneaky. Don't be alarmed, but one of this week's questions requires the expertise of a mortician. On the Magnum, Dan enlists New York Times rival columnist Roxane Gay for a Second Opinion on folks who get dumped, and can't deal. Also, hear the tale of the man and his very, very rich employer-  a petty woman who does...more

  • Savage Love Episode 590

    Feb 13 2018

    A woman is worried that a couple she's friends with will ask her and her husband to swing. How can she politely tell them that she and her husband don't roll that way? A man's new boyfriend is so wonderful! Their relationship is beautiful and amazing.  Unfortunately, he is also a homeless, lying meth-head. How can the caller confront his boyfriend with compassion? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Dr. Justin Lehmiller about a study looking at cuckolding among gay men. And, a woman's mother's boyfrie...more

  • Savage Love Episode 589

    Feb 06 2018

    A female college student is busy planning her orgy. She wants to make sure the night is comfortable, fun and safe, with minimal awkwardness. Dan Savage, (the Martha Stewart of orgy planning,)  is here to help. A man's good (female) friend is planning to go on a date with one of his acquaintances. What the man knows, and the friend doesn't is that this date is a transman. Should he tip off his friend ahead of time? Or let it unspool in it's own sweet time? Yikes! The robots are making the porn no...more

  • Savage Love Episode 588

    Jan 30 2018

    Gather round, and hear two nasty tales of violent, crazy girlfriends. Would you date someone who painted all over your sheets and poured liquor on your clothes? You would? Oh, never mind then. On the Magnum, Dan chats with Nicole Mazzeo, founder of Pleasure Pie and creator of  "The Art of the Solicited Dick Pic" a zine for the folks out there who love a naughty surprise on their phones.    And, a phone sex worker wonders how she can handle men who want to engage in emotionally scarring sex chatt...more

  • Savage Love Episode 587

    Jan 23 2018

    Whoa, no way! It's Sarah Silverman! This week Dan caught up with Sarah Silverman to chat about her show "I Love You America."  They also answered some callers' questions about conquering jealousy,  and kids sticking things up their butts, among other things. She is a superior human and you should listen to the whole thing. A sub woman has been chatting with a dom. But he lacks experience, and he's maybe too short? How can she end it without offending him? Also, a woman just can't reclaim the inh...more

  • Savage Love Episode 586

    Jan 16 2018

    This week is no big deal. Our guest is just Cecile Richards, the PRESIDENT OF PLANNED PARENTHOOD. She graciously joined us to discuss her mighty organization, the battle they do daily to provide sexual health, and to answer a question about a woman's yucky Trump-supportin' mama. If, by some weird fluke you have not yet donated to Planned Parenthood, you are commanded to do so immediately. Also, a woman and her husband don't quite know how to ask a couple they are friendly with if they would like...more

  • Savage Love Episode 585

    Jan 09 2018

    A man is into being tied up and pegged. But his wife finds it dull, tedious, boring and stultifying. Should he give up on the idea, or find a way to convince his wife that she could have some fun here. Oh no! More S&M trouble! A woman had a great date with a hot dom who dommed her so, so right. But now she feels nothing but shame. How can she clear out all the kink-phobia from her naughty brain? On the Magnum, our resident sex toy reviewer Erika Moen has found a toy to help you DO YOUR KEGEL...more

  • Savage Love Episode 584

    Jan 02 2018

    A woman is facing old school, mild harassment at her law firm, of all places. How can she learn to shut these men down without looking like a Grumpy Gertie? A man is dating a new woman who seems great. But! She reminds him so much of his abusive ex, that he can't even. Should he explain his sudden absence to her? Break up cleanly? Try to make it work? On the Magnum, racial erotics ahoy! It would appear that white men want black men to fuck them. But what of the black man who just wants to get fu...more

  • Savage Love Episode 583

    Dec 26 2017

    A woman struggles to advise her friend who is intolerant of her husband watching a little porn. Hear the dark drama of a gay man who made plans to get tied up by a stranger. All hail Luke Burbank! The clever and kindly host of TBTL and Live Wire Radio demeans himself to discuss open relationships, anal sex as revenge, and the rise of the sex robots. How he manages to keep his dignity intact is a bit of a head-scratcher. Also, a woman is burdened with unwanted cuckold fantasies. Should she purge ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 582

    Dec 19 2017

    A woman's 13 year-old brother wants to shave his crotch. And now mom is FREAKING OUT and the whole family is in disarray over the pubes she found in the sink! A straight couple gets recognized in a bar from an online profile they placed together a long time ago. The woman in the couple pretended it wasn't them. Was this a) wrong, b) chicken, c) sex shaming to man who noticed them, or d) all of the above. On the Magnum, Dan chats with feminist writer Vonny Leclerc on how hard men have it now that...more

  • Savage Love Episode 581

    Dec 12 2017

    The kinksters have their "aftercare"- time after a rough sexual encounter to reconnect and comfort each other. But what about after casual vanilla sex? A woman wants to instigate an aftercare revolution for all. Dan gently, patiently explains away some men's rights nonsense to a man incensed at at a fictional "double standard." On the Magnum, a woman who tends to choose abusive men wonders how she can prevent herself from making this mistake over and over again. Dan brings on Lynn Fairweather, d...more

  • Savage Love Episode 580

    Dec 05 2017

    A man is enjoying his new cool girlfriend. The thing is? She isn't an insane lunatic like his other girlfriends. Is this a problem? Oh man. This one's good. Should a woman accept her ex's offer to give his KIDNEY to her desperately ill father? Will there be strings attached? Oh my god? On the Magnum, Dan chats with stand-up comedian Cameron Esposito. And, a woman had some awesome group sex at an Air BnB. The owner gave her a very public negative review. Was she sex-shamed? Should she be more dis...more

  • Savage Love Episode 579

    Nov 28 2017

    "Why won't my girlfriend go down on me?!" asks this nice man, who goes down on her plenty. Does she not like it? What? Nancy and Dan wring their hands together about words, and Nancy reveals something truly horrible about herself. On the Magnum, Dan and Google's powerhouse Distinguished Scientist Blaise Agüera y Arcas discuss artificial intelligence, facial recognition software, privacy and other deeply creepy topics. A woman and her husband of 6 years have discovered that they share the same ra...more

  • Savage Love Episode 578

    Nov 21 2017

    A married man is deliciously conflicted as his wife sleeps with women. It turns him on at first, but then jealousy and resentment settle in. How to reconcile? A woman newly broken up with her boyfriend has some recent boudoir photos kicking around. Should she send them to him? On the Magnum, listen in on our live show in Vancouver with Esther Perel, author of "Mating in Captivity." Dan and Esther take long hard look at the history of human relationships and our culture's obsession with monogamy....more

  • Savage Love Episode 577

    Nov 14 2017

    It appears we have reached a cultural moment when we need "The Ten Dick Commandments." Dan chisels a few in the tablet. Gather round the circle listeners, as Dan invokes the serenity prayer to council a woman who is being trolled by her neighbor's WiFi network name. A trans man who has not yet begun his transition, is angry and frustrated that he can't find any gay men who are interested in him. Buck Angel, (a.k.a the Man with a Pussy) swoops in to give much-needed, rational perspective. On the ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 576

    Nov 07 2017

    Fire up a giant J-bone, brothers and sisters cuz it's the WEED EPISODE. With professional marijuana enthusiast David Schmader -author of "Weed: A User's Guide." David joined us in our studio to talk about how marijuana can enhance sex, what strains are the sexiest, what to do if you NEED marijuana to get off, and more. 206-302-2064 Thanks to Bombfell for supporting Savage Lovecast. Bombfell is an online personal styling service for men that helps find the right clothes for you. Get $25 off your ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 575

    Oct 31 2017

    A woman from the UK wonders why Americans are so quick to commit to each other after just a little bit of sex. Dan's history lesson explains it all. A woman and her husband are into hot-spousing. It's been super-fun and brought them closer together as a couple. But her husband gets racked with guilt each time, and runs to tell his priest ALL ABOUT IT.  What's his damage? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Mayor Betsy Hodges of Minneapolis about being on the vanguard of urban resistance. Keep fightin'...more

  • Savage Love Episode 574

    Oct 24 2017

    A married woman is totally accepting of her husband's newfound love of cross-dressing. But! She wishes he wouldn't borrow HER clothes. Dan interviews high powered lawyer Carrie Goldberg about her work prosecuting online harassers, revenge pornography and domestic violence abusers. She is a hero. On the Magnum, how can a woman stop masturbating to thoughts of her ex? Finally, a father worries that his children's idea to go as "gay rights" for Halloween might be...misguided? 206-302-2064 This epis...more

  • Savage Love Episode 573

    Oct 17 2017

    A woman has been monogamous with her boyfriend for 5 years.  But she really wants to fuck the Swedish handyman. Should she fuck the Swedish handyman? A white woman and her boyfriend are into the whole Japanese schoolgirl thing. Is this racist? Is it wrong? On the Magnum, Dan interviews Carsie Blanton, creator of a dirty, nasty, filthy card game that sounds really fun. Check it out at www.thefingtruth.com. And, a divorced man finds he keeps dating women who say they are down for casual relationsh...more

  • Savage Love Episode 572

    Oct 10 2017

    The Kissing Clause: should kissing come standard in a relationship? Dan interviews Angela Robinson, the director of "Professor Marsten and the Wonder Women"- a documentary about the poly, Dom/sub, super-freak creator of the Wonder Woman comics. On the Magnum, a woman's male co-worker is getting pimped out against his will by his boyfriend. Dan brings on sex worker rights activist Mistress Matisse to discuss how to support the lad. And, a man in a 7-year triad, fears he will soon be replaced. 206...more

  • Savage Love Episode 571

    Oct 03 2017

    Darling? Whatever shall we do at our coming trip to the Bondage Bed & Breakfast? A married woman gets busted by her husband for camming. She doesn't consider it cheating, and it gets her so, so horny. How can she reconcile with her husband and still get her camming rocks off? On the magnum, Dan brings back our regular guest, Erika Moen to go over a HEAVY sex toy you all should add to your arsenal. And, a man's sister is a former prison guard who started dating one of the inmates. He doesn't ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 570

    Sep 26 2017

    A woman is considering finding herself a sugar daddy to make ends meet. Should she tell her boyfriend? A man has a friendly relationship with his ex-girlfriend. He just doesn't want to see her and her new man splattered all over his social media. Would it be petty to mute her for a while? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Eli Finkel, author of "The All-or-Nothing Marriage." And, a woman's husband suddenly has a glamorous job with lots of fancy perks! She has been the bread-winner all this time, and ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 569

    Sep 19 2017

    This show begins and ends with circumcision. A woman is dating her first uncut man and wonders if Dan has any... tips. Then, at the end of the Magnum, an uncut man who is into "pig play" (that's dick-stank- you're welcome,) wonders if he should get himself an adult circumcision. So there's that to ponder. A high school teacher and her pal wonder why the kids are so into hickeys. On the Magnum, Dan chats with Slate writer Mark Joseph Stern, about the infuriating phenomenon of left wing anti-semit...more

  • Savage Love Episode 568

    Sep 12 2017

    A woman offers proof that sexual harassment is about power. One of her students, a gay man, sexually harasses her regularly. Why would he do this? A fetish too far: A woman's boyfriend can only get off if they are doing play simulating kidnapping, bondage and human trafficking. She broke up with him because she just couldn't go there all the time. But now he feels shamed. Poor baby. Dan welcomes comedian Amy Miller to talk about the inadvisability of fucking comedians. Also, hear the tale of the...more

  • Savage Love Episode 567

    Sep 05 2017

    A couple are dismayed that the condom keeps slipping off when they're doing it doggie style. Dan offers some time-honored tricks. Disability Awareness Consultant Andrew Gurza, schools us all about dating folks with disabilities. On the Magnum, Dan chats with author Jesse Bering about penis size and natural selection. Science! And speaking of penises, can you pump that thing up and make it bigger in the same way you can stretch an earlobe? 206-302-2064 Today's episode of the Lovecast is brought t...more

  • Savage Love Episode 566

    Aug 29 2017

    We start the show with a cavalcade of yucky calls about Nazis! Can a dom command his sub to come? Does this really happen? On the Magnum, Dan answers a bunch of calls from parents of teens with Deb Hauser, President of Advocates for Youth. 206-302-2064 Today’s episode is also brought to you by Blue Apron- the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get your first 3 meals free by going to . Thi...more

  • Savage Love Episode 565

    Aug 22 2017

    What do you do when your best friend is dating a con man? A woman has been with her boyfriend for a year. He has a key to her apartment, and regularly lets himself in when she isn't there, even though she told him not to. How big of a problem do we have here? On the Magnum, Dan talks to Alexander Cheves who published a controversial article in The Advocate about what place, if any, women have in gay bars. And, a woman's best friend also happens to be her step-mother. (Same age though.) How can t...more

  • Savage Love Episode 564

    Aug 14 2017

    A seemingly kind man only gets off when his girlfriend is in pain. She noticed this and plays it up to please him. Don't tell him this, but she isn't in pain. She loves it. But what if her acting skills fail? A  woman has started dating a man who travels a lot and has a girlfriend in every city. Should she join his sprawling harem? On the Magnum, Dan interviews Dr. Samantha Joel, in a "What You Got?" about the psychology of what make someone finally decide to end a relationship. And, a woman get...more

  • Savage Love Episode 563

    Aug 08 2017

    On the opening rant: Coming Out 101. What happens next? A mother's pre-teen daughter wants to wear a leather S&M-style choker. How can mom explain why this might not be a good idea? For both the Magnum and the Micro version we were honored to have Dr. Sarah Pentlicky from Planned Parenthood in the studio to answer some gnarly medical questions. Dental dams? Check. Warty dicks? Check. Surf Shorts? Check. Wait, what? As you would expect, she handled them all with supreme calm, poise and intell...more

  • Savage Love Episode 562

    Aug 01 2017

    If your boyfriend wants you to help him to film women so he can scratch his voyeur itch, is there an ethical way to do this? Hear the sordid tale of the the woman who wants to call Child Protective Services on her own damn boyfriend. On the Magnum, Dan chats with writer and BDSM educator Mollena Williams about "sub space" -what it is, and what it isn't. Also, a woman is getting annoyed that her boyfriend keeps presenting her with highly scripted sex scenarios that probably originated from porn. ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 561

    Jul 25 2017

    A gay man hooked up with a hot guy- great lover. But his micro-penis made the caller wonder if his lover was perhaps a transman. Should he ask him? Does it matter?  A man's ten year-old son has come out as gay. The worried father bemoans his child's fate living on the "margins of society." Dan issues a reality check and a rebuke. It's 2017 dad, not the 1800s. "Margins of Society" indeed... On the Magnum, Jon Ronson, author of "The Psychopath Test" is on to talk about "bespoke pornography" and co...more

  • Savage Love Episode 560

    Jul 18 2017

    A man's girlfriend won't let him watch Game of Thrones due to all the violence against women. Does she have the right? Should we all be boycotting the show? Salon's Amanda Marcotte is here to weigh in. A lesbian is exploring dom/sub play with her girlfriend. Her girlfriend wants her to talk dirty and tell her to shut up. But our lesbian feels uncomfortable in their small apartment with thin walls. What's a GGG girl to do? On the Magnum, how much fisting is too much fisting? A University of Washi...more

  • Savage Love Episode 559

    Jul 11 2017

    If your Tinder guy can't get it up, should you move on, or give him a chance? A woman is dating a man 13 years her senior. Is this sort of age difference inherently immoral because...Woody Allen? On the Magnum, a deep dive into trans world with Buck Angel (a.k.a. The Man with a Pussy.) He is simply wonderful, and you must listen. 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Astroglide O- USDA certified organic dual-purpose massage oil and personal lubricant. Try a free sample at , and indulge ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 558

    Jul 04 2017

    A gay marine wants to keep his dick locked up in a chastity cage. His problem is...wait. Isn't that first sentence enough for you? A straight man has noticed that ALL of his friends are into feet. Why would this be? On the Magnum we welcome Mistress Matisse, to talk about her new magical lube. Also with Mistress Matisse, how can you explain the beautiful bruises your dom gives you? 206-302-2064 This episode is also brought to you by Audible. Get a free 30-day trial at . Today’s episode is also b...more

  • Savage Love Episode 557

    Jun 27 2017

    A man is just about to end his Grindr relationship with a dude whose girlfriend knows nothing of his exploits. Should he drop the info on this poor girl before he leaves town? Dan interviews Seth Davidowitz, author of "Everybody Lies: Big Data, New Data and What the Internet Can Tell Us About Who We Really Are." Basically, when you look at Google searches, people are just as nasty as can be. On the Magnum, Dan chats with Viro, co-host of the furry relationship advice podcast "Feral Attraction" o...more

  • Savage Love Episode 556

    Jun 20 2017

    Wait. Are public orgasms ok now? A man and his girlfriend observed a woman having one, right there, out on the street, in broad daylight.   A gay man broke one of his rules. His boyfriend is still closeted to his family, and when they come to town, the caller has to clear out. Can this work? Does he have to break up?     On the Magnum, Dan chats with author and editor Michael Hobbes about the particular challenges middle-aged gay men face in dating.   Finally... "Hey there, old friend who I used...more

  • Savage Love Episode 555

    Jun 13 2017

    A woman is engaged to be married. She has been with about 80 lovers, and he has never been with anyone but her. He begs her to tell him all about her adventures to the point of obsession. Why does he wants to hear it all, and does she have to tell him? A man with a roommate feels like he's living with our horrible president: i.e. rich, entitled, lazy and mean. How can he convince this brute's girlfriend that she can do better? On the Magnum, a man wishes LA had the kind of kinky parties that NYC...more

  • Savage Love Episode 554

    Jun 06 2017

    A woman wants to try a three-way. But all the posts online are riddled with spelling and grammar errors. (Not sexy!) How can she forge a more classy connection? A woman has been with her fiancé for 5 years. He loves to play with her nipples, but she hates it. And guess what? She has never told him this. Before they wed, how can she confess that she's been grinning and bearing it the whole time? On the Magnum, how drunk does a straight boy have to be before he'll get it on with another guy? An in...more

  • Savage Love Episode 553

    May 30 2017

    Oh, that nasty chef! A woman works in a restaurant where her manager is having an affair with the married chef. Sometimes the caller has to serve the chef's poor innocent wife. It's so cruel, that all the servers are about to revolt. A married man harbors a cuckolding fantasy. He is certain his wife would never-ever be into it. But would she? Also, we couldn't help but play a couple of Rachel Lark songs, cuz they're so good. And on the Magnum, have you heard of "Hypersomnia?" A woman can't keep ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 552

    May 23 2017

    A straight male weight-lifter likes to shave his chest and pits. His friends are giving him grief about it. How can this sensitive strongman get over the peer pressure and revel in his smooth, lovely body? A gay man's foster son has had a rough life. And now he realizes they are both on Grindr. Awkward? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Nathaniel Frank, author of Awakening: How Gays and Lesbians Brought Marriage Equality to America.  And, a woman's sister used to be in an abusive relationship, which...more

  • Savage Love Episode 551

    May 16 2017

    A man and a woman used to date, but now they're just friends. The woman got married and doesn't want her rich husband to know that she used to date the caller. Is it because she's embarrassed that the caller doesn't make enough money? From three-way to third wheel...a gay man with a long term boyfriend opened up their relationship to bring on another man. But now the boyfriend is getting closer and closer to the new guy. Do we have a problem here? On the Magnum, Dan chats with our go-to sex toy ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 550

    May 09 2017

    A couple of ex-Mormons started dating. He broke up with her because she wasn't "nice." But don't worry everybody- he immediately came back to her. Then he broke up with her because he's gay. But it's ok! He changed his mind on that as well and came back to her. Now he isn't sure if he wants to be with her because of her jealousy issues. Ah, true love. A 13 year-old girl came out as gay to her mother, who easily accepts this. But grandma! She's a big ole Christian homophobe. Should the caller out...more

  • Savage Love Episode 549

    May 02 2017

    A gay man living in Jerusalem wants to get with one of the orthodox guys who are always furtively eyeing him. But how can he make his move? A married man in an open relationship is SO BUSTED when he installs recording devices in his wife's room when she's having a man over. How can he channel his voyeur fetish on a consensual way? Dan sidles right up next to Rachel Bloom, star and creator of "Crazy Ex-Girlfriend" to talk about Tinder jerks, anal novices and getting ogled on stage. Some is on the...more

  • Savage Love Episode 548

    Apr 25 2017

    A man has been with his lady for one year. She has lost her sex drive, and asks for him to find ways to limit his libido. Should they try counseling? Meditation? Chemical castration? Or maybe there's another option... A gay man and his straight friend used to fool around together when they were children. After a long silence, the straight friend has reemerged with a proposal to resume. It's a small town. There are aren't many gay people. The guy is totally hot. Should the gay man take him up on ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 547

    Apr 18 2017

    A woman's in-laws have 12 cats. They won't travel to see the caller's family (including the 2 small children,) because they can't bear to leave the mewling kitties. Are they mentally ill and is there any way to explain this behavior to the kids? A bondage-loving lass goes to clubs and gets tied up by a strictly platonic tying partner. Her boyfriend is ok with it, but feels a little spooked. How can she reassure him that what she and the tying partner do isn't sex? On the Magnum, it's our first d...more

  • Savage Love Episode 546

    Apr 11 2017

    Gather round, Lovecast listeners. Hear the tale of the pansexual housecleaner and the nasty surprise. Can a giant penis instigate menstrual bleeding? Is there anything a giant penis can't do? Ob/gyn and activist Leah Torres, is here to answer. On the Magnum, Dan speaks with Marc Andreyko, creator of Love is Love: the beautiful, heart-rending compilation of comics commemorating the Pulse shootings. If you haven't yet gotten a copy, please do. Dan and Marc chat about the horror of that event as we...more

  • Savage Love Episode 545

    Apr 04 2017

    A man gets turned on by the sight of his girlfriend smoking. The problem is, she doesn't smoke. We get our monthly sex toy review by the delightful (and knowledgable) Erika Moen. This week: a big ole vibrator called The Doxy. On the Magnum, Dan interviews Dr. Terri Conley in a "What You Got?" about the relative happiness of monogamous vs. non-monogamous couples. And, how to break up with a dumb, religious bigot. Quick answer: Immediately. 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by , the subs...more

  • Savage Love Episode 544

    Mar 28 2017

    A straight man is into pre-op transwomen in an odd way. He wants nothing to do with their penises, but just likes knowing they're there. In another penis-obsessed call, a man with big 'un is dismayed when a lady fails to swoon at the sight of his flaccid dong. Doesn't she know about showers vs. growers?! On the Magnum, Dan welcomes RIVAL advice columnist Minda Honey from Leo Weekly in Kentucky. They discuss the etiquette of what one does when a fellow dominatrix basically STEALS your financial s...more

  • Savage Love Episode 543

    Mar 21 2017

    A woman's father is planning to go to Russia to fetch his new mail-order bride. How can the caller convince her delusional father that this is not such a good idea? Hear the sordid tale of the Ambien-befuddled, drunky, but also kind of hot step-mother who came on to her step-son in a most aggressive and lascivious way. Now that some years have passed should the caller seek redress? On the Magnum, remember the "Cannibal Cop?" He was the NYPD cop who chatted with his buddies about plans to kidnap,...more

  • Savage Love Episode 542

    Mar 14 2017

    For all you Belle fans out there, a little advice: For god's sake, don't sleep with the beast! Dan and Salon journalist Amanda Marcotte tear down Disney's latest. Dan consoles a man whose employee immediately slept with his ex-girlfriend, right after they broke up. People! On the Magnum, Dan chats (at length) with Michael Hobbes about his Huffington Post article: "The Epidemic of Gay Loneliness." And speaking of gays, a gay man is intrigued but also nervous by the prospect of selling his sweaty ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 541

    Mar 07 2017

    Are you, (or is someone you love) stuck in a region which refuses to teach realistic sex ed? Never fear, Lindsey Doe from the YouTube channel "Sexplanations" is here to infiltrate and educate. She's our new fave, and you will love her. She and Dan talk about explaining porn to kids, nudist households, and actionable advice to counter meds that dampen libido. Listen to this interview and then go watch all of her . Like, right now. What happens when a sugar daddy relationship ends? Can you go on b...more

  • Savage Love Episode 540

    Feb 28 2017

    A woman's 61 year-old father confided that he has discovered kink. Should she help to connect him to kink resources when she herself is vanilla, and also...his daughter? A man worries that his attraction to East-Indian women might be racist. Dan helps unpack the complicated issues around attraction to specific races. On the Magnum, Dan talks with Randi Kreger, author and expert on Borderline Personality Disorder about dating someone with this unpleasant condition. And, all hail the Cuck-Queen!  ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 539

    Feb 21 2017

    Savage Lovecast #539 A gay man has had small breasts ever since he was a kid. His lovers aren't so into it. He doesn't want to get them removed because he feels they are a part of him. How should he explain his extra bells and whistles? A woman getting into bondage wonders how to communicate a safe word when she has a gag in her mouth. Mmrrrmmff! On the Magnum, Dan chats with a professional dominatrix about the hazards of doing sex work and raising children in a conservative country. And in an u...more

  • Savage Love Episode 538

    Feb 14 2017

    A couple tricky pregnancy situations on this show: A newly pregnant woman has discovered that her boyfriend snoops through her personal stuff with no apology.  Should she dump him and embrace single motherhood? Our other pregnant woman misjudged the timing, and now has the unenviable duty of telling her current boyfriend that he is probably not the father. Bummer right?  On the Magnum, Dan chats with researcher Adam Safron for a "What You Got?" about the neuroscience of female orgasm. Finally, w...more

  • Savage Love Episode 537

    Feb 07 2017

    A man's girlfriend moved to NYC to become a ballerina. But instead she's been boozing and eating food! Is it his place to tell her that ballerinas don't actually, you  know, eat? A transwoman has moved heaven and earth to get herself through college, despite her parents cutting her off. But then! Her school sent their choir to sing at You Know Who's inauguration. She's considering dropping out in protest. Don't worry, Dan talks her out of it. On the Magnum, welcome to PolyLand! Dan chats with Cu...more

  • Savage Love Episode 536

    Jan 31 2017

    A married Canadian lesbian is about to meet the Syrian refugees that her parents are hosting. But she worries that they will not approve of gay people. How should she present herself and her wife to these traumatized people from a different culture?   A woman gets strep throat every time she gives head. What the hell?   On the Magnum, a gay man's mother keeps expecting him to go back in the closet when he visits with relatives. How can he train his mother to act like a decent human being?   A po...more

  • Savage Love Episode 535

    Jan 24 2017

    "Boyfriend, boyfriend, there's a lump in your testicle!" Should the caller deliver this news bluntly or keep her discovery to herself? A mother's 9-year old son wants to be a stripper when he grows up. How can this mom advise him and keep her cool? Erika Moen from "Oh Joy Sex Toy!" is on for our monthly Sex Toy Review to talk about a whizzy little toy that will make you happy, and won't bankrupt you in the process. Her boyfriend's uncle just served Hamburger Helper. It's the first time she's met...more

  • Savage Love Episode 534

    Jan 17 2017

    We are totally Trumping it up this week, guys. First Dan explains why it could be possible that DT is into piss despite his claim of being a germo-phobe. He gets an assist from The Gist's Mike Pesca. Then! Angel Padilla from the brilliant Indivisible Guide explains how to use Tea Party tactics against the new administration. He also bravely attempts to offer a cure for nasty-tasting, insulin-reeking come. On the Magnum, we don't stop. Newsweek writer Kurt Eichenwald is on to answer a Trump-lovin...more

  • Savage Love Episode 533

    Jan 10 2017

    A man's friend came out when they were in high school. Now after a sojourn to the desert to "pray away the gay" the tortured closet case is "church hunting for a bride." Can his pal talk him out of this? A woman's co-worker tried to kiss her at work, despite her unrelentingly professional demeanor, and complete lack of interest. Now they have to go on a work trip together. How can she bat him away? Should she skip the trip? On the Magnum, Dan chats with a kink expert about choking. Anybody have ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 532

    Jan 03 2017

    A 45 year-old man has observed his 21 year-old niece putting up suggestive pics on Instagram. Would it be the correct avuncular gesture to talk to his niece about the folly of her actions? Meanwhile, a woman's boyfriend's cousin called her a "fuckin' bitch" when she wrecked him at laser tag. Her boyfriend won't defend her honor. Who will? On the Magnum version of the show, Dan counsels a woman sick with jealousy over her boyfriend's unilateral decision to have an open relationship. 206-302-2064 ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 531

    Dec 27 2016

    In these dark times, there is a man to bring us joy. His name is Randy Rainbow. Dan and Randy talk about his brilliant YouTube videos, dealing with the election and farting. A woman in a long distance relationship doesn't like the way her man goes down on her. So, she just sits there and waits for it to be over. Maybe there's a better strategy to explore? On the Magnum, Dan talks to author and Editor of Bustle.com, Gabrielle Moss about  a practice you need to acquaint yourself with: grapefruitin...more

  • Savage Love Episode 530

    Dec 20 2016

    It's the happiest time of the year here at the Savage Lovecast, as we gather in Portland and also Seattle (somehow) for our annual-ish Christmas Special Extravaganza! Come for the snarky sex-advice, stay for the magnificent Shirley Gnome. This episode of the Lovecast is brought to you by Winc- the wine club that helps you to choose wine that suits your taste and ships it right to your door. For $20 off your first order, and complimentary shipping, go to .   Today’s episode is also brought to you...more

  • Savage Love Episode 529

    Dec 13 2016

    A woman is living at her boyfriend's house with his parents while he is away. Guess what! The dad has started kissing her on the mouth and tries to slip her the tongue. Should she tell her boyfriend that his father is a loathsome fiend? Speaking of loathsome fiends, a woman's boyfriend is so obsessed with her keeping slim that he snatches food out of her mouth and tosses it on the floor. Any ideas what she should do? In a "What You Got?" a researcher discusses his study about men who are attract...more

  • Savage Love Episode 528

    Dec 06 2016

    A poly woman is very happy with her much older dom. But ever since her mother saw some photos of her daughter all trussed up and naked, the boyfriend is totally not invited to Thanksgiving or Christmas. Is it the age difference? How can our caller convince her mother that her lover is a good guy?   A hand-wringing, feminist, good-hearted man wants to try rape-play with his wife. How can he delicately, tenderly suggest he pretend to rape her. You know, if she wants him to.   Welcome to our first ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 527

    Nov 29 2016

    A gay man wonders if it's possible to have a happy, healthy, poly triad. Can sex give you acne? Dan consults a professor of dermatology to get to the bottom of this one. On the Magnum, a special treat for you uber-kinksters. The gentlemen from the No Safe Word podcast are on to discuss (among other things,) 24/7 master/slave relationships, scat play, and gay orgies in Texas. You're welcome. 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50% off just about any item, plus free ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 526

    Nov 22 2016

    Here's a happily married couple. He digs exhibitionism, which she indulged after taking a deep breath. She wants to try BDSM, but he isn't having it. Is it her right to demand it, and what's his god damn problem? A married woman likes to be fashionable and step out looking GOOD. But guess what! Her husband, wishes she would wear jeans and a grubby tee so all the men will stop looking at her.  Dan wants to help her pick out a smart outfit for divorce court. On the Magnum, make way for the robots!...more

  • Savage Love Episode 525

    Nov 15 2016

    Welcome to the Savage Lovecast where we are ready to fight like hell to take our country back. Are you? Apparently, Trump-voting family members are a thing. Should you spend your holidays with these people? Dan's answer will not shock you. A divorced man has started dating a new woman. When he was married he got caught seeing a sex-worker and it became a public scandal. When should he tell his new love about his past? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Dr. Lori Brotto in a  "What You Got?" about asex...more

  • Savage Love Episode 524

    Nov 08 2016

    A woman has been dumped by her boyfriend of 6 years. She is considering some sort of grand gesture to win him back. Should she throw a parade? Hire a lesbian motorcycle gang to deliver one single rose? Or maybe let him go? A 22 year-old gay man has been dating a 58 year-old man for 2 years. His family isn't crazy about this. The caller is beginning to doubt this romance. Like a sharp beam of sunlight slicing through his cloud of confusion, Dan Savage gives him permission to break up. On the Magn...more

  • Savage Love Episode 523

    Nov 01 2016

    On the worst birthday EVER, a woman learns that her beloved long distance boyfriend...has a wife. If the wife asks her, should she lie for him? A man's friend is dating a guy who gets coked up, turns the photos of her face-down and hires prostitutes to sleep with him in their shared bed. How can the caller convince his friend to DTMFA? Hey California! How's it going? Please vote NO on Prop 60, won't you? Dan and porn activist/performer Conner Habib explain it for you. On the Magnum, a woman who ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 522

    Oct 25 2016

    A man has been with his boyfriend for 1.5 years. The caller's family is loving and welcoming to the boyfriend. But the boyfriend's family won't accept his homosexuality and won't allow the caller to join them at Thanksgiving etc. How long must our caller wait for his boyfriend to grow a pair, and tell his family to piss off already?   Next up, we'll just share the title of this call: "Take Your Chances at the All-Girl Orgy?" NOW you're gonna listen aren't you?   On the Magnum, Dan chats with the...more

  • Savage Love Episode 521

    Oct 18 2016

    How is a sex worker supposed to deal with it when her clients keep quoting Donald Trump?! A woman is dating an insecure man who grabs her boobs at inappropriate times and then pouts when she tells him to stop. Can she retrain him to not act like such an imbecile? On the Magnum, Dan talks to Law Professor Alexander A. Boni-Saenz about the tricky concept of sexual advance directives. A man's mother has Alzheimers. His step-father is taking care of her, and confessed to carrying on an affair with h...more

  • Savage Love Episode 520

    Oct 11 2016

    A woman asks her boyfriend to tell her erotic stories when they are having sex. Is this too much to ask? He's running out of plots. A distraught woman discovers that her ex from years ago put up naked photos of her online. Is there anything she can do? On the Magnum, a long discussion about some pros and cons of pornography with sex therapist and author Dr. Marty Klein. And, hear the sad tale of an overweight beagle that nobody wants. 206-302-2064 Today’s episode is also brought to you by the d...more

  • Savage Love Episode 519

    Oct 04 2016

    Dan welcomes Trae Crowder, or "the Liberal Redneck" (our favorite redneck) to tackle some questions about conservative Christian bigots, guns and spit. It's a great conversation- do have a listen. Also, a lesbian is dismayed that her girlfriend insists she take a shower every time they have sex. Is she a germophobe or... what? And, a man's girlfriend has announced that she wants to take up smoking. Nicotine. Not even weed. Why? Because her father smoked... AND, a man working on a political campa...more

  • Savage Love Episode 518

    Sep 27 2016

    A woman is horrified to discover her new boyfriend's disgusting habit. This habit truly is one of the most revolting things we've ever heard, and you do know that we've heard a LOT, right? You'll have to listen to find out what it is. A woman and her husband want to take the plunge and have a three-way with a woman. But there are some logistics to work out. How do they find a girl, and do they have to get a babysitter for the night? Dan chats with Cheryl Strayed, author of Wild, and co-host of t...more

  • Savage Love Episode 517

    Sep 20 2016

    A lesbian is about to go to a wedding with a bunch of conservative guests. And guess who's going to be there! You'll never guess. Ricky Santorum! How should she take advantage of this unusual opportunity? Dan chats with pro-dominatrix, writer and activist Mistress Matisse about SWOP Behind Bars- a project to support incarcerated sex workers. And of course she helps answers some questions about KINKY SEX. Get your naughty ass over to SWOPBehindBars.org this instant. A woman is dating a man who m...more

  • Savage Love Episode 516

    Sep 13 2016

    A man is seeing a woman 12 years his senior. His friends think he's nuts, but he's having a great time. Is there something wrong here? A married man has come to realize that he is poly. His wife is still as monogamous as the day she married him. How can he get her to accept his polyamorous nature and let him sleep with lots and lots of lovely ladies? Dan chats with his smarty-pants brother Bill (an associate professor of English) on the historical roots of American anti-immigrant stupidity. On t...more

  • Savage Love Episode 515

    Sep 06 2016

    A bi man in a poly triad wonders how to bring home his couple to meet the conservative parents. A woman enjoys following men around for the feeling of  "predatory power" the pursuit gives her. Is this a problem? On the Magnum, Dan  speaks with Professor Barbara Sarnecka, in a "What You Got?"  showing how uptight our society is about leaving children alone. The study is HERE. And, while on a trip to NYC, and gay man finds someone he knows from back home on Grindr. When he contacted the friend to ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 514

    Aug 30 2016

    Hey Chicago! We were in you! And we recorded the whole thing. Have a listen to our live show from last Spring at the Music Box Theatre. On the Magnum, Dan dares to argue with Heather Havrilesky (a.k.a "Ask Polly" from New York Magazine,) about the role of honesty in relationships. Also, a gay man saw someone he knows in some online porn. Should he tell the guy? 206-302-2064 Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 513

    Aug 23 2016

    A closeted bi woman, newly aware of her own bisexuality, feels guilty when she so much as hugs another woman. How can she get over it already? A lesbian is about to have her wedding. Does she have the right to exclude Trump supporters from the guest list? On the Magnum, Dan chats with NYT columnist Rob Walker, of the Workologist, about how to deal with some sexist, bigoted schmucks at the workplace. A bi woman started seeing a super-sexy bi gal. But! She only gets to sleep with her when the boyf...more

  • Savage Love Episode 512

    Aug 16 2016

    Special guest ranter Ana Marie Cox tells us what it's actually like at a Trump rally. (Spoiler: terrifying.) A gay man is living in a group house with a straight couple. When the man in the couple drinks, he gets a bit...handsy, much to his girlfriend's delight. Should the caller get together with his roommate? Will the girlfriend give her permission? What exactly is the etiquette when you discover that your long distance boyfriend of 4 years actually has a wife and kid? Should you ghost him? Or...more

  • Savage Love Episode 511

    Aug 09 2016

    A young man living at home is getting blamed for his father's second divorce. That sounds like kind of a raw deal doesn't it? A man is in a GREAT relationship with his girlfriend. It's SO AWESOME. Except when she gets drunk and verbally abuses him. So there's that.  On the Magnum, Dan chats with identical twin, queer, pop-star heart-throbs, Tegan and Sara about online dating, and what to do with that bottle of conditioner your ex left behind in the shower. A man and his wife are going through ha...more

  • Savage Love Episode 510

    Aug 02 2016

    A man has started dating a woman he suspects is a virgin. She's hot, but he doesn't want to have to teach her about sex. Should he bail, or give her a few lessons? A woman fell into bed with a man so drunk, that he didn't remember going down on her. Now he's asking her friends what happened that night. Should she tell? On the Magnum, Dan chats with MTV's Ira Madison III about the complex issues that come with being a black man with submission fantasies. And, the sleepover that fried a mother's b...more

  • Savage Love Episode 509

    Jul 26 2016

    A woman is in a new relationship with a wonderful man! But! His ex keeps coming around leaving love notes, Victoria's Secret receipts and otherwise marking her territory. How can the caller flush out the intrusive ex? What is the etiquette in asking out a guy at the gym to join you and your husband for a threeway? Should your husband be present for The Ask? On the Magnum, Dan chats with the creators of Tickled- a documentary about a seemingly harmless fetish, that turns strangely sinister. Also,...more

  • Savage Love Episode 508

    Jul 19 2016

    Last week, we asked our African-American listeners to call and speak their minds. Please listen to them at the end of the show. It's  the American thing to do. A woman is married to a man she knows is a creep. He pervs at all the wrong times to all the wrong people. So is it a good or bad idea to open their relationship? On the Magnum, Wonkette's Rebecca Schoenkopf takes some calls about the continuing rift between Bernie supporters and Hillary supporters. Also, should a woman get a harmless-but...more

  • Savage Love Episode 507

    Jul 12 2016

    A woman with Catholic in-laws tires to figure out whether she should cave in to them and get her little baby baptized. Dan’s advice…may shock you. Then, Dan chats with ex-muslim sex blogger and children's book author, Elynah about sex negativity in conservative Muslim communities. On the Magnum, Dan speaks with trans activist Parker Molloy about the problematic connection the clueless make between transwomen and drag queens. And, another marriage falls apart as a man discovers his wife textin’ a...more

  • Savage Love Episode 506

    Jul 05 2016

    The ins and outs of HUMP! Dan chats with Hump! Producer Tracey Cataldo about the Hump! Film Festival- what kinds of films you can expect to watch and how to make the kind of porn we want to see. What to do when your open relationship comes to a screeching halt? A married woman has been getting it on with her married female friend, but neither husband can handle it. Should they continue in secret? On the Magnum, It’s Emily Galati, live at our show in Madison, Wisconsin. This is some seriously fun...more

  • Savage Love Episode 505

    Jun 28 2016

    A woman has endured 10 years of sexual harassment from a creep she works with. How can she get him to stop without getting him fired? (Hint: It’s a trick question.) Dan and another gay guy get into a BIG FIGHT about guns!!! In a far more civil discussion, on the Magnum, Dan chats with Moira Weigel, author of “Labor of Love: The Invention of Dating” about how your grandparents viewed dating and going steady. And finally, hear the sordid tale of man who finds himself cat-fished by his own girlfrie...more

  • Savage Love Episode 504

    Jun 21 2016

    A tortured gay man can’t envision a world where it’s better to be out than to stay in the closet. Dan tries his darnedest to convince him. Hey fellow homos: call us and pitch in, won’t you? A woman catches her boyfriend signing up for a hook-up app. What does this mean? On the Magnum, Dan chats with the Queen of Ireland, a.k.a Panti Bliss- the drag queen who took on Irish homophobes and won big. A true hero who looks fabulous in heels. And, hear the wisdom of a Trump supporter! 206-302-2064 This...more

  • Savage Love Episode 503

    Jun 14 2016

    Please listen to Dan’s heart-rending response to the Orlando massacre. In lighter fare... A 19 year-old bi lass worries that she’ll never get to try ladies if she stays with her monogamous-minded man…forever. Is there any hope for her? A man is about to meet a woman he’s been having phone sex with for the first time. Where he just wants to “bone down,” she’s been talking about moving to his town to start a relationship. How can he proceed with caution in this delicate situation? On the Magnum, D...more

  • Savage Love Episode 502

    Jun 07 2016

    A man is dating a woman who stopped putting on make-up and fixing her hair. If he asked her to start gussying herself up again, would that make him, like…you know…an asshole? A woman asks a question that sends Dan scurrying to the red phone to call a veterinarian for some expert advice. Why does Dan need a vet? You’ll have to listen to find out. (Cat humping.) On the Magnum, Dan and sex blogger Ella Dawson are here to SMASH THE HERPES STIGMA once and for all. Glad that’s out of the way. Also, a ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 501

    May 31 2016

    Ever since her brother walked in on her masturbating as a child, our poor caller thinks about him when she’s fantasizing. How can she get her brother out of her sex-head? In other yucky family dramas, a woman’s father has advanced dementia, and tugs it openly, all the time. It’s gotten to the point where she doesn’t want to see a single penis- not even her dear boyfriend’s. How can she get her father out of her sex-head? Man. What is going on out there? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Emily Bazelo...more

  • Savage Love Episode 500

    May 24 2016

    This is our 500th episode. And we’re just getting started! This week, Dan chats with stoner, writer and delightful person David Schmader about his book “Weed: The User’s Guide.”  Speaking of green, Dan has a thing or two to say about the Green Party. A 24 year-old Texan woman worries that if she breaks up with her boooorrring boyfriend she’ll be called an “old maid.” And, guess who sashays in to harsh our mellow with “science?’ It’s Doc Barak! 206-302-2064 Thanks for listening for so long, you g...more

  • Savage Love Episode 499

    May 17 2016

    What is the etiquette for when you run into someone who stood you up on a date? A woman’s friend is in a crappy marriage with 4 kids and a lying, cheating husband with a high profile in their church community. How can the caller convince her friend to DTMFA? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Jillian Keenan, author of “Sex with Shakespeare” about vetting a dom, and her new book. Also, a caller wonders how to help his 96 year-old grandmother experience sexuality in her life. It’s Joan Price to the res...more

  • Savage Love Episode 498

    May 10 2016

    A caller wonders if super-rich people are naturally less monogamous than the rest of us. In other inane questions, exactly which, and how many of One Direction are gay? On the Magnum, Dan takes a few lesbian-oriented calls with author Anna Pulley. And, in a “What You Got?” Dan interviews Lea Seguin on the men who fake orgasms and why they would do such a thing. 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Get a free 30-day trial at Today’s episode is also brought to you by the deliv...more

  • Savage Love Episode 497

    May 03 2016

    A woman’s sister has been in a secret relationshipfor 7 years. Can or should she talk her sister out of what shethinks is an unhealthy relationship? A woman discovers that she gets off from spitting inher boyfriend’s mouth. Is this common? Is this wrong? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Alice Dreger, author ofThe Talk: Helping Your Kids Navigate Sex inthe Real World about whether it’s cool to let your 12 year olddaughter get that teeny-tiny, little bikini. And a shy straight guy can’t figure out ho...more

  • Savage Love Episode 496

    Apr 26 2016

    It's the sex toy extravaganza! After receiving a preternaturally high number of questions about sex toys, we decided to bring in a crack team of experts from women-centered, sex-positive stores across the US and Canada. What actually fits in a cock ring?  How do you keep a dildo clean? What's the best restraint to start out with? Do sex toys carry emotional baggage? All these questions and more are answered for you. And additionally, on the Magnum, a man out on parole wonders when and how to tel...more

  • Savage Love Episode 495

    Apr 19 2016

    Furries and Cheeseheads: Join us in Madison, Wisconsin as Dan loves up his old college town. He took about a million questions from the audience and messed with their Midwestern heads. On the Magnum, Dan chats with the charming hosts of Feral Attraction- the furry community’s sex and relationship advice podcast. Meow. 206-302-2064 This episode is also brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 10 free gifts, plus free shipping when you enter offer code "Savage". This podcast is also brought to you by...more

  • Savage Love Episode 494

    Apr 12 2016

    A woman loves sexting with strangers she meets online. But she has no desire to meet in person. How and when should she let her fellas know this about her? What happens when homophobic parents never come around? Dan speaks with writer Aaron Hartzler, author of “Rapture Practice,” about coming out to intractable family.  On the Magnum, Dan chats with Peggy Orenstein, author of “Cinderella Ate My Daughter” and “Girls and Sex: Navigating the Complicated New Landscape” about the distorted expectatio...more

  • Savage Love Episode 493

    Apr 05 2016

    Let’s just say your girlfriend gets turned on by listening to you talk to other people on the phone. Would it be so, so wrong to keep the customer service agent from Verizon on the line, just so your girlfriend can listen to you from the other room, masturbating furiously? A woman in an open marriage has started to see a woman. Her husband is fine with it. The caller is fine with it. The girlfriend is fine with it. So what’s the problem? Her friends! Her friends are NOT FINE WITH IT. Dan chats w...more

  • Savage Love Episode 492

    Mar 29 2016

    The rarest of lovely creatures, a male unicorn, is ANGRY because he sees a double standard among the straight couples he joins. They reject him when they learn that he’s been with other men before them. Whaaaaaat? PSA: Couples! Treat your unicorns right, will you please? In a classic conundrum, a woman is attracted to her husband’s best friend. And Snapchat isn’t helping…   On the Magnum, fall down the poly rabbit hole with Allena Gabosch, Founding Director of Seattle’s Center for Sex Positive C...more

  • Savage Love Episode 491

    Mar 22 2016

    A straight man has begun a relationship with a transwoman. To put his question bluntly, is he obligated to suck her dick? How on earth is a nice gay man supposed to deal with his father when dad has sworn to vote for Donald Trump? A woman is horrified to see boudoir paintings of her boyfriend’s ex staring at her from the walls. Does she have the right to ask him to take them down? On the Magnum, a woman gets turned on when she experiences anxiety. She even had a couple orgasms in the airport whe...more

  • Savage Love Episode 490

    Mar 15 2016

    Aw sheeeeeeee, guys. It’s Abbi and Ilana from BROAD CITY.  Dan and the gals talk about period sex, pegging, smoking weed, beards and bumpkins among other things. You’ll also hear some inside dirt about their process in making Broad City and their plans for the future. These two are twin forces of nature and you should listen to the whole raucous conversation.  Also, if a guy sends you a dick pic with some possible evidence of an STI, should you speak up? Or giggle demurely? 206-302-2064 This epi...more

  • Savage Love Episode 489

    Mar 08 2016

    It’s the Valentine’s Day show! We recorded this at Portland’s Revolution Hall on February 14 in front of a very live audience. With musician/force of nature Rachel Lark, comedian/force of nature Bri Pruitt  and three game straight boys. 206-302-2064 Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your first order when you go to MeUndies.com/Savage. This episode of the Savage Lovecast is also brought to you by BollandBranch.com...more

  • Savage Love Episode 488

    Mar 01 2016

    A man raised fundamentalist Christian has discovered the pleasures of “titty-bars” where he can behold “beautiful boobies.” Now that he’s getting divorced, how soon should he tell the lucky ladies that he plans to date about his marital status? A woman’s boyfriend tells her to be quiet when they are having sex. “Shhhhhh,” he says. How can she get him to cut that shit right out, and also get a little freaky in bed? Dan welcomes Seattle journalist Eli Sanders to discuss his new book, While the Cit...more

  • Savage Love Episode 487

    Feb 23 2016

    A mature 18 year-old has somehow failed to tell her real age to her new boyfriend who thinks she’s at least 20. How can she come clean? A man is totally into being cuckolded. Does his girlfriend have to tell her other lovers that they are part of a bigger picture? We are honored to welcome Dr. Sara Pentlicky from Planned Parenthood to help answer a plethora of medical and reproductive questions. Herpes! HPV! Birth control for transmen! We’ve got you covered. 206-302-2064 Today’s Lovecast is brou...more

  • Savage Love Episode 486

    Feb 16 2016

    A woman is thinking of surprising her boyfriend with another woman to have a three-way with. Can Dan talk her out of it? An evenly bisexual man had to come out at his macho job as gay when was engaged to a man. Now that he’s dating a woman, does he have to come out again as straight? On the Magnum, Dan and writer Ephi Stempler do a deep dive on companionate marriage. And a woman watches horrified as her friend gets ready to marry her lying, cheating fiancé. Should she and her friends stage an in...more

  • Savage Love Episode 485

    Feb 09 2016

    A gay man wants nothing more than to watch strong men flex their muscles for him. His straight friend is willing…but would it be too weird? A woman recently got broken up with by her boyfriend. She used to pay all the bills and float him cash. How can she ask for the money he owes her? Dan chats with the absolutely fabulous Midori about learning to embrace your kinky side and play the dom, even if your spirit animal is a sub. And, a gay man has been chosen by his friend to police the behavior of...more

  • Savage Love Episode 484

    Feb 02 2016

    If you are a straight girl, is it ok to seek friendship with a lesbian? Even if she has a girlfriend? (Actual question. Actually asked.) A young man is dating a former anorexic, former model and the sex is great. But! She is still living at home and has burned through all of her allowance, and now has $3 to last her all month. The young man is beginning to doubt the wisdom of dating this hot mess. And…football! Mike Pesca from The Gist joins Dan to sportsplain the complicated psychology behind b...more

  • Savage Love Episode 483

    Jan 26 2016

    A woman’s roommate up and left without notice, leaving  behind some expenses in the care of her sick, aged cat. Dan gets in full Judge Judy drag to help arbitrate this rather mundane dispute. Meanwhile, a lesbian wants her butt-plug back! She lent it to her girlfriend and then they broke up. Although things are friendly, should the caller make that awkward ask? Don’t you just love horses? Enough said. On the Magnum, Dan chats with porn star Bailey Jay about the pleasures and perils of sharing di...more

  • Savage Love Episode 482

    Jan 19 2016

    A young woman is about to embark on a three-way with her boyfriend and another man. How can she make sure the experience isn’t demeaning? A gay man has incest fantasies. How can he find a man willing to role play a father-figure? A married woman and her husband prefer to use condoms. So why is everyone around her so smug and condescending about it? On the Magnum, Dan speaks with Dr. Robert Garofalo about a father whose kid calls himself transmale, but often presents as female. They discuss the c...more

  • Savage Love Episode 481

    Jan 12 2016

    What to do when your drunken cousin starts blabbing about all the affairs she’s having and all the cocaine she’s snorting and all the traffic accidents she’s having? A professor is in anguish because she is about to sleep with a much younger, very good looking FORMER student. A couple of her (male) colleagues think this is a bad idea. Most of them (all women) say “ Go for it.” What do you, dear listener, think she should do? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Dr. Lori Brotto, about a woman’s numb cli...more

  • Savage Love Episode 480

    Jan 05 2016

    In two separate calls, straight men are harassed by their gay male friends. One caller had his buddy drunkenly grope him. The other’s pal assails him with aggressive sexual innuendo. Knock it off fellas! A married woman has a husband who doesn’t trust her. She comes home late from her bar job and he assumes she’s cheating on him. She’s never been unfaithful. How can she turn this ship around? On the Magnum, Dan gets a Second Opinion from Mallory Ortberg, Slate’s delightful, new “Dear Prudie” adv...more

  • Savage Love Episode 479

    Dec 29 2015

    A woman has started “living her passion” by working as a webcam girl. But she’s nervous about telling her mother about her new career. How can she break the news? A woman fulfilled a lifelong fantasy of having a super-hot threeway with two bi men. But now, she wants to escalate the situation and get with some gay men. How can she troll for homos while still respecting their boundaries? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Dr. Justin Lehmiller for a “What You Got?” about  lower STI rates among the non-m...more

  • Savage Love Episode 478

    Dec 22 2015

    A woman’s husband makes unpleasant sexual innuendos and gropes her right in front of the kids. How can she get him to stop? Are you into puke porn? OMG so am I!  Anyway, a very kind hearted, GGG woman wants to help her husband to realize his fantasy of having her throw up on him. But that might not be a healthy kink in the end, right? Dan chats with Cass King of the Wetspots (creators of our fabulous “What You Got?” stinger) about their upcoming burlesque musical. Also, are men becoming more mod...more

  • Savage Love Episode 477

    Dec 15 2015

    A stoned gentleman is wracked with guilt for making the dog he’s caring for stop masturbating already! (Maybe he should be hitting the indica rather than the sativa, say the TSARY.) “Virginity is obsolete as a concept,” declares this 20 year-old woman, who is seeing an 18 year-old lad with precious little experience. How can she take care of her little darling and gently guide him to the land of sexual pleasure, honoring the campsite rule? A strident feminist has found a man who can really get h...more

  • Savage Love Episode 476

    Dec 08 2015

    It’s the One-Minute Wonder Show! You asked your questions in one minute or less, and Dan tried to keep his answers brief, with diminishing success. Here’s a smattering of topics: The dangers of road head, olive oil as lube, haggling with your sex worker, tingly come, excluding dog-fuckers from your orgy and so much more. Also, Nancy gets riled up! On the Magnum, the long-suffering Dr. Barak gently explains that no, men cannot get bacterial vaginosis, and answers a requisite question about pee. 2...more

  • Savage Love Episode 475

    Dec 01 2015

    A man’s boyfriend went as a “slut” for Halloween. It turns out, this was a really bad idea. A woman loves getting tied up. But she also needs to touch herself to get off. So…how is this gonna work? On the Magnum, Dan chats with trans writer Parker Molloy about the challenges of transitioning for both partners in a relationship. And, hear the story of a woman who enters “The Land of Pleasure.” By which she means having sex with over 30 men in one long evening. Dan chats with her about how to enjo...more

  • Savage Love Episode 474

    Nov 24 2015

    As you gather around the Thanksgiving table to bask in the warmth and glow of your loved ones, here are some reasons you will feel thankful:  Your sister’s boyfriend isn’t beating her up, your wife isn’t a transphobic Russian, your boyfriend’s father doesn’t beat him up, your mother isn’t a toxic evil mess and your step-father (who is also your boss,) doesn’t kick your dog. If any of these things are true for you, well then this show will offer company for your misery. It’s the Families Show! Al...more

  • Savage Love Episode 473

    Nov 17 2015

    “Bark! Bark! Bark!” That’s what a kinky woman’s dog will say when it hears her getting spanked. She worries that this might be a problem, and so, should she maybe not get a dog? A divorced woman is sleeping with the repair man. Her ex-husband is sleeping with their children’s former nanny. Were you just complaining about your life being too complicated? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Jonathan Eig, author The Birth of the Pill. Finally, a man’s girlfriend catches him masturbating to a picture of h...more

  • Savage Love Episode 472

    Nov 10 2015

    Hear the sordid tale of what the gay man saw when he woke up to find his boyfriend absent from the guest bed while they were visiting a …friend. Meanwhile in another corner of the cheat-o-verse, a man sees his best friend’s girlfriend on a daitng app. He thought they were monogamous. Should he rat her out to his pal? On the Magnum, Dan brings on a couple of guests. Debra Soh is a writer whose latest article in Salon ruffled some feathers. She wrote about our dysfunctional approach to treating pe...more

  • Savage Love Episode 471

    Nov 03 2015

    It’s episode 420! Oh wait. No it isn’t. We totally spaced episode 420. But better late than never! Dan, Nancy and the Tech-Savvy, At-Risk Youth journey to Denver, Colorado where we recorded a live show, baked out of our skulls. Because pot is legal in Colorado, you see. Does pot enhance sex?  Does lube infused with THC actually work? Will Dan and his weed-addled panel end the show sounding even vaguely coherent? You’ll have to listen to find out. 206-302-2064 This episode is  brought to you by A...more

  • Savage Love Episode 470

    Oct 27 2015

    In the opening rant, Dan finally opens up and tells us what he *really* thinks of the Catholic Church. Hear the strange and seedy tale of a male lap dance gone horribly wrong. On the Magnum, Dan chats with RIVAL sex advice podcaster Dr. Debby Herbenick about PReP for women and condom aversion for ladies. And, your amazing, supportive calls to the 20 year-old lesbian from last week who feels trapped with her unkind family. You guys are the best. Donate! To the following organizations: Ali Forney ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 469

    Oct 20 2015

    How can a man convince his lady to give him the kind of sloppy head that makes her gag? It’s not like he’s anti-feminist or anything! A woman’s mother-in-law does NOT APPROVE of her poly lifestyle. But mom doesn’t know that her precious son is also as poly as the day is long. Should they cut off contact from his mother? Or is it time for him to come out already? Tear jerker! Dan tries to talk a suffering, abused gay kid into leaving her parents’ toxic home. On the Magnum, get kinky with Mollena ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 468

    Oct 13 2015

    At the top of the show, Dan speaks with a clever lass with a foolproof plan to ensure the defeat of Canada’s dreadful Stephen Harper. A man is very close to an old childhood friend. Although they have always had a platonic relationship, his girlfriend of 6 months is beginning to freak out. If he attended a wedding as his pal's plus-one, would that be crossing a line? A woman's new boyfriend told her he's into cuckolding. But how soon is too soon to indulge this complicated fetish? A self-profess...more

  • Savage Love Episode 467

    Oct 06 2015

    Dan has some helpful suggestions for the NRA! A woman saw a man exposing himself outside a family-friendly restaurant. She called the cops. Was this wrong? In order to prove that his girlfriend doesn’t put out as much as he would like, a man documents their sex life on an app. The girlfriend finds this creepy. Dear listener, do you? Rachel Percelay from Media Matters has been studying Fox News’ coverage of trans issues. She and Dan discuss what she found. And finally, Christopher Frizzelle from ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 466

    Sep 29 2015

    A woman who identified as lesbian of 15 years (with a wife even,) has taken a younger, male lover. So, how is this gonna work? A man’s girlfriend insists that if and when they have kids, he will have to go through “labor simulation.”  He thinks this is batty. But what does Dan Savage think? On the Magnum, Dan chats with trans luminary Kate Bornstein about words vs slurs, the Caitlin Jenner effect and Kate’s deep, dark past with Scientology. 206-302-2064 Today’s episode is brought to you by Blue ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 465

    Sep 22 2015

    It’s the dick show! Do you have one? (Or are you one?) Gather around for a “What You Got?” with Dr. Cynthia Graham about condoms and male sensitivity, the poor things. Then! On the Magnum, Mike Pearl, a writer for Vice Magazine discusses the science behind the need to rename Death Grip Syndrome. Also, how do you deal with it when a flasher lives in your neighborhood? And tons more. 206-302-2064 Today’s episode is brought to you by Blue Apron, the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients...more

  • Savage Love Episode 464

    Sep 15 2015

    Have you ever loved someone so much, even though you’ve known them for only 6 weeks, that when they break up with you, you call a sex advice podcaster sobbing and sobbing?  Meanwhile, a married man with his wife for 11 years, is working on forgiving her for cheating on him, and on opening their relationship so she can be her full self. Also, he thinks it’s kind of hot.  On the Magnum, Dan chats with trans porn star/occultist Bailey Jay about the effects of hormone therapy on libido.  Also, what ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 463

    Sep 08 2015

    It’s the “Let’s Decriminalize Sex Work” episode! Dan chats with Vox writer German Lopez on the evidence which shows the benefits of legalizing sex work. (Like duh…)  And on on the Magnum, Dan chats with adult film actor Dirk Caber about the real effects of the federal raid on Rentboy.com.  Also, you’ve heard what Dan thinks about the Republican field, but what does he think about the Dems?  And, how would you deal with a roommate who shows up in your room wearing nothing but a lecherous smile?  ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 462

    Sep 01 2015

    A man has entered into a committed poly triad… and mom’s not having it. How can the caller get his mother to accept his other girlfriend?  Dan’s take on the shenanigans of hilarious comedian, Bill Cosby.  A woman’s boyfriend REALLY wants to do anal. He wants this so badly that he’s willing to try it without warning, lube or consent. And it causes her tremendous pain. Can any of you guess what Dan’s advice is?  On the Magnum, Dan chats with New York Times religion writer Mark Oppenheimer about hi...more

  • Savage Love Episode 461

    Aug 25 2015

    Pee drinking in the UK: How common is it? Do mates drink each other’s urine routinely, or do they have to kind of know each other a little better? A tale for the vault, folks.  How should you handle a nasty blabbing co-worker who tells everyone that you have herpes?  On the Magnum, slaves, Mistress Matisse joins us in the studio (on the 23rd floor of the Washington Mutual Building overlooking the beautiful Puget Sound,) to discuss the sex workers’ rights movement and also how to overpower your w...more

  • Savage Love Episode 460

    Aug 18 2015

    Dan and Peter Sagal, host of NPR’s “Wait Wait… Don’t Tell Me” join forces to discuss baptism, Jewish vs Catholic guilt, clingy, needy human doormats, and the special torture that open relationships can bring on. Peter is hilarious and delightful- this show is not to be missed. Some of it is on the Micro, all of it is on the Magnum.  Also, how to approach a cute amputee without causing offense. 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you byHarrys.com. Get $5 off your first purchase by entering th...more

  • Savage Love Episode 459

    Aug 11 2015

    Dan on the Republican empathy gap. Why does the Republican party care so much about Fox News’ Megyn Kelly, but not so much about you?  A woman doesn’t understand how bondage, S&M, humiliation and rape fantasies can take place in the context of a loving relationship.  On the Magnum, Dan and writer/blogger Amanda Marcotte dish about the Republican primaries, and how the “War Against Women” is still very much ON.  A man keeps his past open relationship secret. How can he be an ambassador for op...more

  • Savage Love Episode 458

    Aug 04 2015

    Dan speaks to an actual lesbian about how to get started in the homosexual lifestyle.  Also hear the sordid tale of the evil rock star training an army of dick-biting groupies.  On the Magnum, Dan welcomes Dr. Vy Chu, to discuss a worst case ass scenario and how to care for your sweet, sweet bottom.  New Number! Use it. Live it.  206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code S...more

  • Savage Love Episode 457

    Jul 28 2015

    A woman feels so insecure about the way her vagina looks, she won’t let her boyfriend near it. How can he convince her that she is beautiful all over? A disabled gay man has a boyfriend who refuses to have sex with him. His psychiatrist thinks they should stay together. Dan thinks otherwise.  On the Magnum, Dan speaks with Matt Baume, author of “Defining Marriage” about the heroes of the marriage equality struggle.  Also, a pestering professor asks his former student to sleep with him, right aft...more

  • Savage Love Episode 456

    Jul 21 2015

    After a wedding guest sat and endured some anti-gay loony talk from a bigoted pastor, a woman wonders what she could have done better. Walk out? Audibly boo? Hear a couple of calls from women who get off on lesbian porn, and the very different reactions their boyfriends have to this unspeakable perversity. Dan welcomes Joan Price, author of Naked at Our Age, to answer some calls concerning sex for the senior set. If you’re looking for sex toys for your parents or grandparents, this show is a mus...more

  • Savage Love Episode 455

    Jul 14 2015

    An opening rant on Zachery Anderson, who was unfairly imprisoned and put on the sex offenders registry, because an uptight judge wants you to know that hook-up apps are terribly naughty.   A man wonders if he should personally confront a guy he knows who creeps on women.  On the Magnum, Dan chats with author and rival advice columnist Tristan Taormino about reclaiming the pleasure of anal sex after an assault.  And, hear the tale of the strangest job a housecleaner has ever been offered.  206-20...more

  • Savage Love Episode 454

    Jul 07 2015

    While you and I danced in the streets, Dan was trapped in Australia, where marriage equality is NOT YET LEGAL. Hear his thoughts on the Supreme Court decision. A woman is attractive, accomplished and has big plans. But when potential dates start talking to her, they quickly shut down and move on. What is she doing wrong? Is her grandmother correct that she talks to much?  A woman was sexually abused by her mother. Is she obligated to explain this to her 16 year-old son?  On the Magnum, Dan speak...more

  • Savage Love Episode 453

    Jun 30 2015

    This week we are delighted to welcome Hillary Frank, host and creator of The Longest Shortest Time podcast, to answer some questions about reclaiming your sex life after pregnancy. Also, a woman tends to date messed-up, and/or addicted guys, because she likes to try to heal them in their “time of darkness.” How can she keep doing all this groovy healing without constantly dating damaged men? A woman’s husband is bisexual. He came out to a friend at their subtly anti-gay church group and the man ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 452

    Jun 23 2015

    OMG it’s actual movie star famous guy celebrity JASON SCHWARTZMAN. And guess what? He’s clever, funny and super-nice. He and Dan talk about his new movie The Overnight, swinging, swastika tattoos (spoiler: he’s against them,) controlling mothers, and the famous people you want to sleep with. Don’t miss it. There’s some on the micro, and more on the Magnum.  Also, a man’s new boyfriend has the same name of a former abuser of his. How can he get over the horrible association?  And, how can an expe...more

  • Savage Love Episode 451

    Jun 16 2015

    A divorced single mother can’t seem to get it through her lovers’ heads that she just wants casual relationships. How can she convince them that there’s no ring required?  A woman’s mouth is dick Kryptonite! Her boyfriend’s penis always goes soft when she tries to go down. What on earth is she doing wrong?  On the Magnum, Dan talks to author and bioethics professor Alice Dreger as well as documentarian Liz Canner, who created Orgasm Inc, about the hype and general scumminess surrounding the new ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 450

    Jun 09 2015

    An 18 year-old man and his girlfriend are learning how to get it on. She can make herself come, but he can’t get her there himself. Would a vibrator be such a bad idea?  Dan welcomes comedian, writer and actress Ophira Eisenberg (host of NPR’s “Ask Me Another”) to discuss the wisdom of face tattoos and the sexiness of mansplaining.  On the Magnum, a family tiptoes around their gay son’s atrocious behavior because they’re afraid he’ll call them homophobic.  Hey penis-havers! Do you ever have afte...more

  • Savage Love Episode 449

    Jun 02 2015

    The complicated nature of abusive relationships: Dan speaks with Seattle author Jason Schmidt about his memoir A List of Things That Didn’t Kill Me, a raw, honest look at the mix of neglect, abuse and fierce love in his own upbringing. You should buy this book, and then read it.  Also, a gay man is about to go to drama school at a conservative Christian college. Should he stay in the closet just long enough to graduate and then begin the lifelong project of exacting his revenge? On the Magnum, a...more

  • Savage Love Episode 448

    May 26 2015

    Mom has been having an affair for 17 years, and dad just found out about it. How can this beleaguered daughter support both of her parents?  A gold star lesbian fell into bed with a man, and discovered that…she liked it. A lot. Now what?  On the Magnum, what makes people rat out their friends or family for infidelity?  Dan speaks with Dr. Dan Kruger for a “What You Got?” about why people blow the whistle.   Also, a woman is dating a man who happily accepts blow jobs, but won’t go down on her bec...more

  • Savage Love Episode 447

    May 19 2015

    A woman finds herself in the middle of a poly free-for-all when she falls for a guy who is sleeping with every woman he can get his mitts on. Is this the poly lifestyle, or just a dude with a harem?  A woman is nursing a crush on a man she suspects to be gay. Is there any way she can divine the truth?  On the Magnum, Dan speaks with Dr. Andreas Baranowski for a “What You Got” on what happens to women when you take fear out of casual sex in a sexy, sexy laboratory. (Warning! The sound quality in ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 446

    May 12 2015

    This week we delight in welcoming the incomparable poet, writer and filmmaker Sherman Alexie. He and Dan discuss white chicks who embrace “Native American spirituality,”  how to pretend to be abstinent to placate your psychopathic preacher, and whether it’s creepy to ask your younger girlfriend to call you “daddy.” Sherman is a treasure and this is not to be missed.  This episode is brought to you by NatureBox: the subscription service dedicated to smarter snacking. Get a free sample, by visitin...more

  • Savage Love Episode 445

    May 05 2015

    Conservatives smile with their mouths. But liberals smile with their eyes. So says social psychologist Andreas Wojcik in a "What You Got" proving once and for all that lefties are happier than right-wingers.  A young man suffers from CUNNILINGUS LOCKJAW. Although Dan has never experienced this particular ailment, he nonetheless  has some advice to give. On the Magnum, Dan chats with trans rights activist Chelsea Poe about straight cis men who are attracted to transwomen.  A woman used to cut her...more

  • Savage Love Episode 444

    Apr 28 2015

    A priest and a rabbi come onto a podcast… This week Dan welcomes the retired gay Episcopal Bishop of New Hampshire, Gene Robinson, as well as a Rabbi Jeremy Gerber to tackle some thorny religion/sex issues.  How should straight men act at gay pride parades?  Are facials inherently misogynist? A woman has just discovered that her husband had an affair. But when they finished fighting about it, the sex was hotter than ever! A married man notices that when he and his wife fight, she tends to withho...more

  • Savage Love Episode 443

    Apr 21 2015

    After a long dry spell, a woman's husband is finally going down on her. But his stubble is causing considerable discomfort! Dare she use her words and suggest he take a razor blade to his pretty face?  A teen girl in Utah has just discovered feminism. She realizes she has only seen images of passive women on the tee-vee, and worries that she won't know what to do in bed. How can she learn to take an active role?  On the Magnum, are you ready to rumble? From our live show in Portland this year, w...more

  • Savage Love Episode 442

    Apr 14 2015

    Can Dan convince a young woman to accept and forgive her father for having a 9-year-long affair with a married woman?  Listen in as Dan deftly navigates through the kind of  theoretical quandary that only a conservative silly person could present.  Dan interviews Laura Anderson about her Slate article covering the history of condoms and why they could be so much better.  On the Magnum, fall down the poly rabbit hole with us, won't you? Dan chats with poly activist and lawyer Diana Adams about th...more

  • Savage Love Episode 441

    Apr 07 2015

    This week, we are delighted to welcome Dr. Kara Cadwallader from Planned Parenthood to answer a backlog of medical questions about herpes, meningitis, IUDs and the good ole flu.  When you cheat and cheat and cheat, is it time to call yourself poly?  On the Magnum, Dan chats with writer, journalist, and transgender woman Parker Molloy, about seeking the understanding and acceptance of family members when dating a trans person.  And, a gay man wants to try a threeway with a woman included. Does he...more

  • Savage Love Episode 440

    Mar 31 2015

    Her fiancé would rather enjoy congress with an unwashed blow-up doll than his betrothed. Does this spell ruin, or just a happy companionate marriage?  Hear the steamy tale of the nude model, the super-hot art teacher and the things he does with his laser pointer.  On the Magnum we've been saving up parenting questions for the indomitable Amy Lang, sex educator and creator of Birds + Bees + Kids, to help parents talk to their kids about s-e-x.  And, Dan interviews Alison Stevenson about her artic...more

  • Savage Love Episode 439

    Mar 24 2015

    Trapped in LA, Dan chitty-chats with comedian Jeffery Self about self lubricating, bossy slaves, "little brother" role playing and three-ways with celebrities among other things. The Gay is strong with this one.  Also, on the Magnum Dan talks with Sex and Family Educator Stephanie Mitelman about the struggles people on the autism spectrum have with sexuality and dating.  206-201-2720 Today's Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20%...more

  • Savage Love Episode 438

    Mar 17 2015

    The Lovecast is delighted to welcome Mistress Matisse. Dan and our favorite dominatrix/sex-worker rights activist talk about getting started with domination, the perils of being a sex worker and (what else?) 60 Shades of Grey.  When planning a three-way with your wife and a friend of yours, how do you choose the lucky friend? And how can you minimize the awkwardness when you make the ask?  On the Magnum, hear the spooky tale of a mother-in-law's mysterious vibrating couch.   206-201-2720 This ep...more

  • Savage Love Episode 437

    Mar 10 2015

    A self-professed "pervert" is married to a self-professed "Christian." He wants to keep watching his porn in peace, she forbids it. Should he sneak to see Hump, or fess up and invite her along?  A hand-wringing lesbian feels guilty whenever she gets the foot massages that turn her on so.  Dan chats withJonathan Capehart (of the Washington Post and MSNBC)  about homophobia in black culture, and the CONSPIRACY to destroy black families by making black men gay.  On the Magnum, Dan welcomes Historia...more

  • Savage Love Episode 436

    Mar 03 2015

    The Lovecast welcomes Anna Sale from WNYC's "Death, Sex & Money" podcast to pick over the nuances of Dan's thinking on non-monogamy.  We check in on a caller from last year who has recurring cancer, and a boyfriend who wasn't quite ready to marry her. Learn how she is doing, and whether they tied the knot.  Hear the tale of yet another deflowered, "abstinence-only" Christian. (It's kind of hot…)  So much. Always so much.  206-201-2720 This podcast is brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on th...more

  • Savage Love Episode 435

    Feb 24 2015

    An amputee is offended when her new boyfriend warns his brother about her disabilities. Is she being too sensitive?  A man is being ask to lie about his sister-in-law's abortion. How should he handle the complicated family dynamics?  How do gay people happen? Do mommies cause them?  On the Magnum version of the show, a very smug Dan Savage interviews Dr. Amy Muise about her recent paper which proved, (PROVED!) that being GGG is beneficial to relationships. Science says so.  A woman is horrified ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 434

    Feb 17 2015

    A married woman has lost all sex drive. Her husband is willing to let her be with other men. But the thought of her husband with another woman makes her so jealous that her mouth goes dry. Is this gonna work out ok? A straight man with a newly issued hall pass is having a hard time meeting ladies who will sleep with him because they know he's in a relationship. Why must it be this way? Why?!  On the Magnum, Dan chats with author Johann Hari, on our silly little drug war, and how drug abuse resul...more

  • Savage Love Episode 433

    Feb 10 2015

    A kinkster is worried that her feminist mother will see some bruises and assume the worst about her boyfriend. How can she explain that they are in a loving, mutually satisfying Dom/sub situation?  A woman doesn't like to swallow her boyfriend's come. Is this a rare condition?  On the Magnum, Dan chats with Zoë Tersche from the website ThisWink.com about how to comport yourself at kinky play parties.  And, a man with a heart condition is sick of his lovers going easy on him in bed. Can he ethica...more

  • Savage Love Episode 432

    Feb 03 2015

    Gather round, heathens: It's Bible study time! Dan and gay Evangelical Christian Matthew Vines talk about how gay Christians can help the less "affirming" churches to come around to tolerance. They also geek out about the Bible like you wouldn't believe.  206-201-2720 This podcast is brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale. This episode is also brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog...more

  • Savage Love Episode 431

    Jan 27 2015

    On this, the week of Dan and Terry's 20th anniversary, Dan grapples with some tricky, tricky questions: At exactly what point in the dating process would it be polite to disclose that you are already in an open relationship?  A woman likes to be thin. Her man prefers a more hefty physique. How can she deal with his compliments if they only come when she feels bad about herself?  And, a woman's boyfriend is losing his hair, and plans to get a buzz cut. But she really likes a head of long, luxurio...more

  • Savage Love Episode 430

    Jan 20 2015

    It's the Getting Women to Come Show! Sometimes ladies can't come and want to. Sometimes ladies can't come and they don't want to. Dan sure talks a lot about female orgasms on this show, considering he's never been near one.  Bad Science Alert! Female Ejaculate: Is it pee? Dan speaks with fearless blogger Amy Luna Manderino about some annoying hyperventilation in response to a recent study on squirting.  On the Magnum, Dan chats with Cooper Beckett from the Life on the Swingset podcast about the ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 429

    Jan 13 2015

    How can you tell when a slap to the face is welcome or unwelcome in a BDSM situation? A weepy slapper wants to know.  How much trouble can naughty photos on Tumblr cause your new boyfriend?  Chest tattoos: hot or not? Dan welcomes Heather Havrilesky of "Ask Polly" to tackle this one in a Second Opinion. And on the Magnum, does a woman have a right to ask about her new boyfriend's prescription for Cialis? Nancy weighs in!  206-201-2720 This podcast is brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the mi...more

  • Savage Love Episode 428

    Jan 06 2015

    A husband can't be bothered to bring his wife to orgasm. Why? It's too much work! His hand gets tired! A man is pretty sure his nephew is gay. The rest of the family is homophobic. How can he soften the ground with the family, and let him know he has support without outing or embarrassing him?  On the Magnum, Dan welcomes comedian Mike Birbiglia to tackle a question about REM sleep disorder. Also Annie.  A woman is willing to be a sub in the bedroom, but when her new boyfriend barks out orders i...more

  • Savage Love Episode 427

    Dec 30 2014

    A drunken lass has intellectual crushes on her professors. How can she express her "love for their intellect?"  A man is totes bummed when a date ditches him after discovering that he smokes cigarettes. Is this just what online dating is like?  One condom. Three people. Does this math add up?  On the Magnum, Dan chats with uber-lesbian author and sex educator Allison Moon about female ejaculation and the geyser that sometimes results.  And, listen to a cavalcade of remedies for PMS! This podcast...more

  • Savage Love Episode 426

    Dec 23 2014

    Come all ye faithful. It's the Lovecast Live Christmas Extravaganza!  Recorded at Seattle's Neptune Theatre, this show features singer-songwriter Rachel Lark, comedian Derek Sheen, and a suddenly recruited, unwitting therapist! And Dan uses the scientific method to prove once and for all that Christmas. Isn't. Sexy.  But you be the judge. Photos are at www.thestranger.com/LovecastChristmasPics 206-201-2720 This podcast is brought to you by ExtremeRestraints.com. Go buy something, and be sure to ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 425

    Dec 16 2014

    If you're a bisexual man in a monogamous relationship with a woman, is a little twink porn so wrong?  When mothers move in: A woman's libido plummeted right around the time that her boyfriend's mother moved in to the apartment below them. Coincidence?  In an action-packed Magnum, Dan welcomes rival advice-giving powerhouse Carolyn Hax to grapple with some serious poly drama and super-freaky, non-communicative parents.  Also, all hail Evan Wolfson! He's the architect of the national gay marriage ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 424

    Dec 09 2014

    A bi man from a conservative Christian family had been through conversion therapy twice as a child. Strangely enough, it didn't work. He's all grown up now and coming out for real. How can he maintain a decent relationship with his "family?" A high school teacher and his entire class is horrified to see a female student masturbating in class. How can he teach her the timeless lesson that wanking in pubic is more trouble than it's worth? On the Magnum, Dan speaks with a researcher on the science ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 423

    Dec 02 2014

    A woman dating a water-sports enthusiast is having a hard time, just "letting go." A straight man is horrified by misogynistic, abusive porn. Why is it popular? How can he avoid it?  In another instance of straight male bewilderment, a man in his 50s doesn't "get" bondage. How can he find a woman who isn't interested in 50 Shades of anything?  On the Magnum, Dan spars with family therapist Damon L Jacobs on the PREP controversy.  And a sad tale of yet another rape at a fraternity, with a victim ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 422

    Nov 25 2014

    If you or someone you love is considering coming out over Thanksgiving, you simply must listen to the Magnum version of the show. A lesbian's father is a religious leader, who begged her to stay in that deep, dark closet or he might lose his "job." He's gonna have a rough holiday this year. Stay tuned.  Dan welcomes Erika Moen, graphic artist and creator of "Oh Joy, Sex Toy," a must-read comic.  And, Dan issues a public service announcement for all you pee drinkers out there.  And so much more. ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 421

    Nov 18 2014

    Wait. You haven't yet heard "My Brother, My Brother and Me?"  Well, we've rectified that situation, as Dan joins forces with the Brothers McElroy for a Second Opinion on how to change your boyfriend's look, the cruel practice of "sexile" and a cold hard look at the institution of the "dude's night out."    On the Magnum, hear Dan try to talk some sense into a young man whose fuckbuddy is a heroin enthusiast. She's twitchin' and scratchin' but he's "leaning toward eating her pussy." Hhhhot!  This...more

  • Savage Love Episode 420

    Nov 11 2014

    This week Dan speaks with Janet Yassen from the national rape support organization RAINN about recovering your sexuality after a sexual assault.  A father struggles to explain his affair to his 12 year old daughter. On the Magnum, Dan dishes with Dan Pashman, host of WNYC's The Sporkful on the connection between food, sex, and general deliciousness.  And, does the HPV really vaccine work? The answer is yes. But in case you are still skeptical, Dan brings on an expert to confirm.   206-201-2720 G...more

  • Savage Love Episode 419

    Nov 04 2014

    Dan and the incomparable RuPaul chat about Drag Race, foot fetishes and living in Wyoming.  A man's girlfriend wants to seize control of his alcohol intake. But… he's a brewer.  A woman's boyfriend has a nasty, ill-tempered dog that licks and licks and licks him. Yuck?  On the Magnum, Dan speaks with Dr. Brock Bastian about his study which shows how pain brings people together. Awwww.  And, the developing story of "The Cuddle, the Nipple and the Ask. " 206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you...more

  • Savage Love Episode 418

    Oct 28 2014

    It's the triumphant return of Dr. Barak, here to reassure us that drinking pee is still "pretty darn safe."  Is guzzling jizz the equivalent of drinking a protein shake?  Should a man rat out his boss for watching porn on his phone after work?  On the Magnum version, Dan speaks with Katha Pollitt about her new book, Pro: Reclaiming Abortion Rights.  And more.  206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you byHarrys.com. Get $5 off your first purchase by entering the code "Savage"when you check out....more

  • Savage Love Episode 417

    Oct 21 2014

    Delusion and disfunction; this episode has more than it's fair share. Inevitable break-ups, sexless marriages, cheating and scheming. Feast your ears!  On the sweet, sweet Magnum, Dan chats with sex party luminary Polly Superstar! Also, in a "What You Got?" Dan chats with Dr. Rachel Jones from the Guttmacher Institute about the much maligned withdrawal method. 206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Naturebox: the subscription service dedicated to smarter snacking. Get a free sample, by v...more

  • Savage Love Episode 416

    Oct 14 2014

    It's the Savage Lovecast LIVE from Vancouver BC. Featuring the super-delightful sex researcher Dr. Lori Brotto and the incomparably filthy singer-songwriter Rachel Lark.    You only live once... 206-201-2720 This podcast is brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale. This episode is also brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 10 free gifts, plus free shipping when you enter offer code "Savage". This episode is also brought to ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 415

    Oct 07 2014

    A man is getting a yucky feeling from his best friend's new girlfriend. They've never met, mind you. But she seems kind of superficial? On social media? Should he speak up to protect his friend, or butt out already?  A very naughty woman is sexting with her ex-boyfriend. AND HE DOESN'T KNOW IT'S HER.  On the Magnum, Dan and comedian Cameron Esposito yak about straight men in lesbian bars, pathetic closet cases, and a woman who is trapped in and oppressed by her given name.    Cameron's got a rea...more

  • Savage Love Episode 414

    Sep 30 2014

    This week, Dan brings on heavy-hitter advice columnist Margo Howard (daughter of THE Ann Landers…) to cackle and spar about cooking your way into your boyfriend's heart, and TANTRIC SEX of all things.  Also, a very sad call about a woman who can only get off when she watches realistic date rape porn.  On the Magnum, Dan brings on super lawyer Diana Adams to discuss custody battles and whether your open relationship can be held against you in court.  And a lot more.  206-201-2720  This episode is...more

  • Savage Love Episode 413

    Sep 23 2014

    A man's wife uses their dom/sub relationship as ammo when they are fighting. And THAT AIN'T FAIR!  Should it be a deal-breaker if your boyfriend doesn't like your sense of humor? (Hint: YES.)  A gay man is having some complicated orgy issues. Don't we all?  On the Magnum, Dan chats with Sarah Mirk- the online editor of Bitch Magazine about feminist-friendly porn; how to find it, and how to avoid the bad stuff.  And more, more, more.  206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Le Tote- the fa...more

  • Savage Love Episode 412

    Sep 16 2014

    Hey Dan Savage! What do you think about waiting to have sex until marriage? Dan? Good idea?  A woman enjoys sharing naked photos of herself. Her friends warn her against it. But it gets her off, so why should she listen to them?  On the Magnum, we welcome Debby Herbenick to discuss the vibrator addiction epidemic plaguing ladies across the land.  And, a ton of kind, thoughtful responses from our listeners to the lass who was trapped in a hot & cold relationship with a cold-blooded sociopath....more

  • Savage Love Episode 411

    Sep 09 2014

    A woman is shocked to learn that her best friend is a trans woman. Why did she keep it secret? Should the caller feel betrayed?  Hear the tale of the French maid outfit that destroyed a relationship.  A college lesbian is horrified to discover that her roommate is an aggressively anti-gay Christian. A woman's former rapist continues to harass her online. In both cases the archangel Dan Savage raises his mighty sword to do some smiting.  We love a good smiting. 206-201-2720   This episode is brou...more

  • Savage Love Episode 410

    Sep 02 2014

    What do you do when your potential new roommate comes with his very own stalker?  Dan chats with Dr. Vy Chu about the real risks of sleeping with honest, HIV-pos guys. On the Magnum, we are delighted to bring back fashion force-of-nature Simon Doonan, to discuss the feminist implications of camel toes.  And a ton more.  206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Naturebox: the subscription service dedicated to smarter snacking. Get a free sample, by visiting Naturebox.com/savage This episode...more

  • Savage Love Episode 409

    Aug 26 2014

    Dan and his old co-host Mary Martone talk about cat jealousy, mate poaching, and have an epic, drag-out battle over fat-shaming.  This episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 10 free gifts, plus free shipping when you enter offer code "Savage". This episode is also brought to you by Babeland. Get 10% off plus free shipping when you enter the offer code "Savage" at checkout.  This podcast is also brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postag...more

  • Savage Love Episode 408

    Aug 19 2014

    This week, Dan welcomes author Joan Price to talk about sexuality for older folks. Meanwhile, back in high school, a gay lad is suffering because his boyfriend has suddenly decided he's straight.  On the Magnum, Dan chats and spars with prolific freelance writer Jillian Keenan about whether kink is a sexual orientation.  And, how can a gentle giant figure out how to dominate his lady in the way she really wants?  206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Naturebox: the subscription service ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 407

    Aug 12 2014

    Take it from us, whatever you do- don't offend the adult baby.  Also, how should you respond when you get hit on by a 13 year-old?  On the Magnum, Dan speaks with "Lazlo" -organizer of the Orgy Dome at Burning Man about sex at the sandy festival.   And, welcome to yet another abstinence-before-marriage train wreck.  206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Naturebox: the subscription service dedicated to smarter snacking. Get 50% off your first order, by visiting Naturebox.com/savage This ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 406

    Aug 05 2014

    Starting the show, Dan invites co-ranter Congressman Patrick J. Murphy to discuss why democrats treat military personnel better than the Rs.  A gay man is getting cat-called by his horn-dog neighbor. How can he politely tell him to knock it off? On the Magnum, you'll hear a "What You Got" with Sociology Professor Elizabeth Armstrong, about how rich girls slut-shame poor girls on college campuses. Also, does anybody have a lead on really great Slovakian dating sites?  206-201-2720 This podcast is...more

  • Savage Love Episode 405

    Jul 29 2014

    Dan and infectious disease doctor/science writer Jonathan Golob talk about people who are anti-vaccine and whether you should have sex with them.  On the Magnum, Dan chats with YouTube sensation Arielle Scarcella about the wide, wide world of lesbians.  Also, spunk up the nose; big problem, or little problem? Also, Dan knows NOTHING about he Bible.  206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you byHarrys.com. Get $5 off your first purchase by entering the code "Savage"when you check out. This episo...more

  • Savage Love Episode 404

    Jul 22 2014

    Dan and his buddy Lucy chat about spanking, cheating, pervy cousins and sleeping with the cab driver.  206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Naturebox: the subscription service dedicated to smarter snacking. Get 50% off your first order, by visiting Naturebox.com/savage

  • Savage Love Episode 403

    Jul 15 2014

    When a guy uses concert tickets to entice you to spend time with him, should you accept, even if you feel no attraction? Or would that make you mercenary?  A lesbian wonders how to let her potential employers know that she's gay during her job interview.  On the Magnum, Dan chats with Japanese bondage trailblazer Midori, about getting what you want out of a kink relationship.  Also, is the X-men character Mystique bisexual or what?  And more.  206-201-2720 This podcast is brought to you by Extre...more

  • Savage Love Episode 402

    Jul 08 2014

    Dan welcomes special guest ranter Martha Plimpton to talk about Hobby Lobby. A gay male couple were locked in a pattern of cheating to get revenge on each other. Now that they've cut it out, how can they bring in some trust?  On the Magnum, how much do little children remember? WIll they remember the trip to Disneyland? Will they remember their first day of kindergarten? Will they remember the home video of mommy they stumbled on where she shows her bum-bum? Also, Dan chats with perversity exper...more

  • Savage Love Episode 401

    Jul 01 2014

    A gay man appears to be a straight man magnet. Straight men declare their love for him more than gay men do. Why? And how can he make it stop?!  Meanwhile, in the mountains of Alaska, a couple have reached the divide where one of them wants kids and the other doesn't. One of them will win. One will lose.  On the Magnum, it's our second Second Opinion! This time, with "Ask Amy's" Amy Dickinson who braves some raunchy territory with naughty Dan Savage.  Also, Alice Dreger on talking to your kid ab...more

  • Savage Love Episode 400

    Jun 24 2014

    A woman discovers through dubious sources that her step-mother might be cheating on her father. Dan walks her through a way to deal with this unpleasantness.  A woman still living with her ex-husband and son wonders how poly people balance all those boyfriends and girlfriends.  On the Magnum, Dan welcomes philosophy professor and gay marriage diplomat John Corvino to discuss ethics and the state of the gay rights movement. And more.  This episode is brought to you by Babeland. Get 10% off plus f...more

  • Savage Love Episode 399

    Jun 17 2014

    A woman battling cancer wishes to marry her boyfriend. But he's not quite ready. Maybe a sex-advice podcaster can convince him?  Another woman doesn't understand why her married male friends keep kitting on her. What signal is she sending out and how can she make it stop?  On the Magnum, Dan chats with the trans-man filmmaker Buck Angel about the changes in sexual desire that can accompany transitioning.  And, the next time you orgasm, check out your toes.  206-201-2720 This podcast is brought t...more

  • Savage Love Episode 398

    Jun 10 2014

    A man has learned that his father was sadistic, abusive and cruel. The caller is in to S&M. Does this mean he is destined to be just like his reprehensible father?  A woman is offered a "free" trip to the Caribbean. But the trip is so NOT free, as the offer came from a work superior who clearly wants to fuck her and has to sign off on her upcoming promotion. Should she buy a new bikini?  On the Magnum, Dan and Global Health & Medicine Dr. Jared Baeten talk about the pros and cons of usin...more

  • Savage Love Episode 397

    Jun 03 2014

    A woman is going nuts because her boyfriend insists on keeping a memento of his previous girlfriend. Is he being unreasonable, or is she the mayor of Crazytown?  A straight man wonders if it's too weird to ask his martial arts partner to be his "kink buddy."  On the Magnum, Dan chats with Salon writer Tracy Clark-Flory about the "Involuntary Celibates" community, and the rampant misogyny within it. Yikes! Also, meet yet another casualty in the Kissing Wars.  206-201-2720 This episode is brought ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 396

    May 27 2014

    A woman notices that her gay friend is dating younger and younger guys. At what point does young become too young?  A bisexual woman feels stifled in her marriage because she misses ladies. Does this spell inevitable ruin?  On the Magnum, Dan and Dr. Debby Herbenick discuss premature ejaculation and why it doesn't have to be the end of the world.  Also, a public service announcement from a miffed college professor.  And more... This episode is brought to you byHarrys.com. Get $5 off your first p...more

  • Savage Love Episode 395

    May 20 2014

    In our first installment of "Second Opinion," Dan and Slate's Dear Prudence face off on how to deal with poisonous in-laws, and how much to tip when you receive an unexpected happy ending.  On the Magnum, Dan chats with Dr. Paul Vasey about feeders, and whether it's possible to re-wire your kinky brain.  And so much more.  206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Naturebox: the subscription service dedicated to smarter snacking. Get 50% off your first order, by visiting Naturebox.com/savag...more

  • Savage Love Episode 394

    May 13 2014

    Can two Aquarians last as a couple? Can they really?  Pop quiz! When is the best time to tell your girlfriend that you have crabs: a) Before you make sweet love to her all weekend. b) After you make sweet love to her all weekend.  On the Magnum, Dan speaks with Dr. Christian Grov for a "What you Got?" about what genuinely concerns male sex workers.  Also Dan chats with filmmaker David Thorpe on gay voices, and why people have such strong reactions to them.  And so very much more.  206-201-2720 T...more

  • Savage Love Episode 393

    May 06 2014

    He grew up conservative and Christian. Now that he's over it, he's dating an awesome lass. But she likes to talk about sex, and he's still shy and giggly about it.  A woman and her husband have embarked on a long-distance, open relationship. But that doesn't mean she wants to hear every damn thing about the girls he's yakking with on Chat Roulette.  On the Magnum version, Dan speaks with Ellen Forney, creator of the amazing graphic novel "Marbles" about dating and disclosure when you have bipola...more

  • Savage Love Episode 392

    Apr 29 2014

    How can a man best comfort the woman he just dumped?  A woman is scared to tell her parents that she is engaged to a man thirty years her senior.  And, Cleveland Steamers demystified!  On the Magnum, our house urologist- Dr. Stephen King tells more than you'll ever want to know about Peyronie's disease.  Also, lying drunk, pregnant friends, breast implants, and teenaged caretakers all await you on the Magnum version of the show.  206-201-2720 This podcast is brought to you by Stamps.com. Click o...more

  • Savage Love Episode 391

    Apr 22 2014

  • Savage Love Episode 390

    Apr 15 2014

    Dan counsels a woman in yet another a conservative small town on how to help her lesbian daughter make it out of there alive.  A gay man has gone above and beyond to fulfill his partner's fireman fantasy. How can he get a little reciprocation? For the Magnum version's "What You Got," Dan speaks with Amy Muise on why women monitor their partners on Facebook.  Fat, nerdy virgin seeks super-model: Men kind of think they can have anything they want, don't they? And more! Lots more!  206-201-2720  Th...more

  • Savage Love Episode 389

    Apr 08 2014

    Bisexual erasure no more! Dan interviews Benoit Denizet-Lewis on his recent piece in the NYT Magazine.  Dan councils a heart-broken lesbian with universal advice for the recently rejected.  A woman's mother over-shares about her sexless marriage. What is a helpful daughter to do?  And finally! Concrete, informed answers to the question of whether it is bad for a dog to lick your moisturized face.  206-201-2720   This episode is brought to you by Naturebox: the subscription service dedicated to s...more

  • Savage Love Episode 388

    Apr 01 2014

    This episode is riddled with parents creeping out their kids.  A man in an established open relationship is horrified to learn that his step-daughter caught him chatting with other ladies. How can he explain to her that he's playing by the rules?  It gets much worse. We won't reveal all here, but let's just say that your father might be into panties.  And finally in our trilogy of parental distress, how the hell do you tell your kids that your family is…special? Dan brings on poly lawyer Diana A...more

  • Savage Love Episode 387

    Mar 25 2014

    Dan speaks with Seattle sex workers Mistress Matisse, Savannah Sly and Dehlia DeLions about the biz. Topics covered: proper client etiquette, telling people in your life that you have done sex work or see sex workers, how to hire your unicorn, and what to do if a client has a really weird looking dick.  The Magnum has a ton more this week, so indulge. 206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Naturebox: the subscription service dedicated to smarter snacking. Get 50% off your first order, by...more

  • Savage Love Episode 386

    Mar 18 2014

    This week, bizarrely, Dan welcomes 74-time Jeopardy! winner Ken Jennings to banter and chat. Sure, Jeopardy boy can handle minute details about the Spanish-American war, but how does he fare when confronted with questions about naked men running through the halls? Listen to the Magnum to find out.   An obese gay man finally learns about chubby chasers!  A man discovers that the dream woman he's been dating has a body very altered by cosmetic surgery. It creeps him out. Can he get over it?  And m...more

  • Savage Love Episode 385

    Mar 11 2014

    On the Magnum version, Dan speaks with Irish drag queen Panti Bliss about his battle with litigious homophobes and the mighty, mighty power of drag.  Dan welcomes author and therapist Dr. Marty Klein to advise a woman whose dear friend has cut off all contact with females in his life because he has been diagnosed with sex addiction.  What do you do when your new man's belly makes it impossible to fuck?  And finally, what would you rather lose: your unibrow or your virginity? Plus a ton more. 206...more

  • Savage Love Episode 384

    Mar 04 2014

    We are delighted to welcome back Mollena Williams, a.k.a "The Perverted Negress," to talk about the kinky men you'll meet online who start the conversation with "KNEEL BEFORE ME, SLAVE!" On the Magnum, Dan speaks with Dr. David Ley about pornography addiction, and why the idea is overblown.  Also, a drunken bi lad wonders if he should tell his girlfriend that he is a sex worker.  And a lot more.  206-201-2720 This podcast is brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage...more

  • Savage Love Episode 383

    Feb 25 2014

    This week on the Magnum version of the Lovecast, Dan enlists heavyweight ethicist Randy Cohen (the former New York Times columnist) to help answer some pretty twisted questions.  A woman feels guilty for dumping her boyfriend. She dumped him because he didn't so much kiss her as stab her with his tongue sword. Could she have maybe taught him the subtle art of kissing instead?  An impatient male unicorn wonders if he should call, text and otherwise pester his intended couple.  And so much more.  ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 382

    Feb 18 2014

    It's the LIVE Valentine's Day show, taped at Seattle's Neptune Theatre.  The theme was sex and death, (a.k.a "Coming and Going.") With special guests Caitlin Doughty from "Ask a Mortician," comedian Kristine Levine and musical guests the Wet Spots.  This show is fantastic and you simply mustn't miss it.  The Magnum version features Kristine Levine's hilarious and heartbreaking tale of working in a porn shop when one of the customers dies. Also hear a second set by the Wet Spots, and you're going...more

  • Savage Love Episode 381

    Feb 11 2014

    We open with a heartrending call from a woman in the Bible belt, whose own children condemn her for dating a black man. The year is 2014. Dan chats with Hanna Rosin (Author of "The End of Men",) on women's changing relationship with their careers vs. partners. Remember children: "Mommies can kiss wherever they like." On the Magnum, a fascinating "What You Got" with Professor Jennifer Glass.  Her study shows that conservative Christians not only have a higher divorce rate, but anyone who lives ne...more

  • Savage Love Episode 380

    Feb 04 2014

    This is one of our all-time favorite shows, people.  Dan speaks with Russian journalist Masha Gessen, about the alarming rise of anti-gay oppression in Russia.  Is it wrong or unwise to include condoms in erotic fiction? And step aside! On the Magnum version of the show, Dan chats with the force of nature that is Lea Delaria from Orange is the New Black. They discuss sex with dykes, the dreaded LBD, (Lesbian Bed Death,) why lesbians like to watch gay male porn and Dan's endangered boy pussy. It'...more

  • Savage Love Episode 379

    Jan 28 2014

    A first-time unicorn finds herself alone and naked on the bed, while her couple argue. Should she give them another chance?  A woman has lost 180 lbs. If her new lovers knew she used to be so heavy, would they still want her? And how can she forgive them if the answer is no?  On the Magnum, Dan and his brother Billy talking about sports? Pinch us, we're dreamin'!  A man in the music industry works with a rising star. But, the singer is deeply closeted. Should the man urge his client to come out ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 378

    Jan 21 2014

    A man with his dream girl, simply cannot forgive her for cheating on him at the very beginning of their relationship. What is the remedy? "Why do I like older men??!" asks a young gay man, with nearly audible hand-wringing. Boner Pills! Do they work? How? On the Magnum…Dan chats with a scientist working to pit herpes against cancer. (We think they deserve each other…) And, listen in as Dan accuses a woman of being "The sentient stove with agency who keeps burning someone." And a ton more.  206-2...more

  • Savage Love Episode 377

    Jan 14 2014

    On this show, Dan welcomes Seth Stephens-Davidowitz from the New York Times to shed some light on how many men are actually gay in the US.  A young man sure likes the idea of being gay, but only gets into relationships with women. How can he test his sexuality?  On the Magnums, Dan speaks with Jesse Bering, author of Perv, on what percentage of people are truly kinky.  Also, a new couple both enjoy swing dancing. But the man is consumed with jealousy. How can he get over it and watch his lady da...more

  • Savage Love Episode 376

    Jan 07 2014

    Red Bull and Vodka makes him last and last and last. But is it the Red Bull or the Vodka?  A man and woman want to try a three-way. Do ex-girlfriends make good unicorns?  On the Magnum, Dan chats with Diana Adams, a lawyer who specializes in polyamorous families. It's the new frontier.  Also, a woman wonders if she has to tell her new boyfriend about her financial troubles, and a straight man wonders how he's going to get laid when everyone thinks he's gay.  206-201-2720 This podcast is brought ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 375

    Dec 31 2013

    A gal is convinced her good friend is a homo. Should she use her wiles to lure him out of the closet?  A lad is good friends with a woman who admitted she has a crush on him. He doesn't feel the same way about her, but knows she would make a great life partner. Should he suggest a companionate marriage from the get-go?  On the Magnum version, Dan speaks with psychologist and sex researcher Dr. Lori Brotto about women's libido, and the need for variety in both genders.  Also, some loud neighbors ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 374

    Dec 24 2013

    In this very special "Christmas" episode of the Savage Lovecast, you may detect a theme of problematic families. Bigot uncles, closet cases, intolerant mothers, that sort of thing. However! You get to wash it all down with some Dina Martina at the end, so, there's that. But seriously folks. Happy holidays from all of us at the Savage Lovecast. We hope you find your warmth in a true, loving family, whatever that looks like.  206-201-2720 This podcast is brought to you by ExtremeRestraints.com. Go...more

  • Savage Love Episode 373

    Dec 17 2013

    A gay man and his straight friend find their relationship has changed forever. To find out why, you'll just have to listen.  Can porn kill your boner? How to deal with a creep-o co-worker. On the Magnum version, a lesbian is sick of her girlfriend being closeted. But is this specific Christmas the right time to come out to them? Speaking of secrets, a woman works at an abortion clinic. Her husband's family is ultra conservative, and anti-abortion. How long can she keep her job secret from them? ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 372

    Dec 10 2013

    A sexually active woman is slut-shamed by her own roommates in a prudish house intervention.  A caller wonders if gay men will pay to be dominated. In the deep South.  On the Magnum version, Dan speaks with author Emily Maguire about how our culture puts forth the idea that women don't enjoy sex, so men needn't bother making it pleasurable for them. Dreadful, really.  And, hear the tale of a woman who had a secret affair with her former high school teacher.  206-201-2720 This episode is brought ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 371

    Dec 03 2013

    When attending an orgy, what is the proper etiquette in explaining that you are deathly allergic to beeswax, and therefore cannot kiss anyone for fear one of attendees might have used lip balm?  Demi-sexuality: Is it a thing?  A woman wonders if she should try to explain birth control to her inexperienced cousin, on her wedding night.  Continuing on the Magnums, Dan speaks with Sophia Wallace, creator of "Cliteracy" about her art and her message.  And more!  206-201-2720   This episode is brough...more

  • Savage Love Episode 370

    Nov 26 2013

    A man and his wife have agreed to divorce. But they have to keep living together for 3 more months. Would it be shabby to start sleeping with the hot gal that lives down the block?  An 18 year old girl is engaged to be married to a man who she already knows to be sexually incompatible with her. So what's the problem? Dan chats with Dr. David Sarwer about libido changes following weight-loss surgery.  In Magnum-land, a couple embarking on an open relationship disagree on who to tell and how to te...more

  • Savage Love Episode 369

    Nov 19 2013

    Is it selfish to have a vasectomy?  Lesbian roller derby sleepover! A lesbian couple are hosting a sleepover for the all-girl roller derby team that they coach. Some of the girls are gay, and coupled. Should the girls all sleep in one big dog pile where they can be monitored, or should the couples have their own private suites?  A man who blogs about his dating adventures asks if he is morally obliged to tell his dates that they may be written about.  On the Magnum version, what should you tell ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 368

    Nov 12 2013

    An erotic masseuse has serviced an estimated 5000 dicks, over the course of 23 years, to support her family. Now what?  A gay man engaged to his boyfriend of 7 years tumbled into bed with a woman after getting drunk. His specific question for Dan is "What am I DOING?!" On the Magnum Lovecast this week, Dan chats with Daniel Bergner on foot fetishes and the shame surrounding kinks.  Also, Dan works his magic on a woman whose family fears she is possessed by a lesbian demon.  And a lot more.  206-...more

  • Savage Love Episode 367

    Nov 05 2013

    Do bisexuals need a new label? Dan interviews Salon writer Anna Pulley on bi nomenclature. Listen in as Dan convinces a mother to leave her conservative, bigoted church because of their anti-gay views.  A poly couple have brought a new lover into the fold. But there's a hitch! He's terrified of vaginas.  And so much more. 206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at   This episode is also brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 10 free ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 366

    Oct 29 2013

    This week Dan talks sex and death with Caitlin Doughty of Ask a Mortician. Spooky!  Dan also chats with Dr. Sydnee and Justin McElroy of the Sawbones podcast about "treatments" for STi's in medical history including huffing mercury, injecting liquid silver and squashing anal warts between stones. Also, mummies with crabs. Scary!  And, a woman is having premarital sex. That's sex BEFORE she gets married. Her mother feels nothing but horror.  Happy Halloween, ghouls.  206-201-2720 This podcast is ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 365

    Oct 22 2013

    Welcome to Season 16 of the Savage Lovecast! This Magnum season has 26 episodes, from October 22 through April 22. Go to www.SavageLovecast.com to get yours.  On this week's Magnum, Dan interviews Jesse Bering, author of "Perv: The Sexual Deviant in All of Us." They discuss finding the right porn, spanking, "everysexuals," exhibitionism, and amputee fetishists, all while undergoing an experiment in auto-unerotic asphyxiation. Diapers not included.  Also on the Magnum, a woman suspects she was fi...more

  • Savage Love Episode 364

    Oct 15 2013

    Next week is your chance to get in on the full Magnum season from the very beginning. www.SavageLovecast.com A gay man wonders if he should bring mace to his first date.  Dan consoles a woman who feels horribly guilty for blowing a selfish, but scorchingly hot dude. When a lover threatens suicide as a means to prevent a break-up, is this pure manipulation, or a credible threat? Dan speaks with an expert on suicide prevention.  On the Magnums, Dan speaks with Dr. Meredith Chivers for a What You G...more

  • Savage Love Episode 363

    Oct 08 2013

    Season 15 approaches! The new season will start on October 22. Be sure to go to www.savagelovecast.com then, to renew or or subscribe for the first time.  A maligned man is stigmatized among his social circle for having herpes.  A closeted bi woman wonders if she should stop slapping the asses of the rest of the ladies on her team in the showers. Rowwwrrrrr. A 20 year old lesbian has a great relationship…when they see each other. When they communicate online, they rip each other apart.  On the M...more

  • Savage Love Episode 362

    Oct 01 2013

    There's a lot of bisexuality sloshing around this show. Dan speaks with Ellyn Ruthstrom of the Bisexual Resource Center on coming out, and seeking acceptance from both straight and gay folks.  A bi woman who is married to a man wonders how to let the world know she's bi, when the topic doesn't come up all that often. On the Magnum show, strap on your bonnets people, it's Simon Doonan, fashion correspondent, window dresser, and generally hilarious human. (We suspect he might be a homosexual.) He ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 361

    Sep 24 2013

    Are young ladies allowed to call or "text"  unattached, young men to ask for a date? Or would this tarnish a girl's valued reputation?  A sex worker wonders if it's ethical for her to fake orgasms with her clients. On the Magnum version, Dan speaks with the saintly Carl Siciliano, from NYC's Ali Forney Center, the nation's largest organization dedicated to homeless LGBT youths. (Confidential to homophobic parents everywhere: You don't really want your kid to live on the streets do you? Do you?) ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 360

    Sep 17 2013

    A gay man's truly evil step-mother falsely accused him of sexually assaulting his younger siblings. His father never rose to his defense. Should he forgive his father or cut off ties?  Penises, penises, penises. That's all her ex-girlfriend could ever think about! Is Penis Envy a real thing? And now that she's free of this lunatic, does it matter?  On the Magnum side, is there such a thing as "legitimate slut-shaming?"  Did you know that the United States prison system has recently enacted progr...more

  • Savage Love Episode 359

    Sep 10 2013

    Dan speaks with pro-gay rights Christian John Shore about the NALT Project. Non-douchey Christians: here's your chance to speak up. www.NotAllLikeThat.org  A woman discovers (through snooping, how else?) that her boyfriend is into cross-dressing. How can she let him know she approves without letting on that she snooped?  A man in a sugar mama relationship feels awkward about accepting his lady's largess. You should have such problems.  On the Magnum version, Dan interviews Dr. Jeffrey Parsons ab...more

  • Savage Love Episode 358

    Sep 03 2013

    A man (with a British accent that had the tech-savvy, at-risk youth  panting like hound dogs at noon,) likes to cat around town, despite his ostensibly monogamous relationship. (Even the way he says "monogamous" is swoon-worthy.) Can or should he change for his girlfriend?  Dan speaks with the venerable Dr. Chu about the rare phenomenon of HIV positive men who have undetectable viral loads.  A woman knows a man who is being tossed out of his college for sexual assault. Is she obliged to testify ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 357

    Aug 27 2013

    Dan helps a woman determine the fine line between over-permissiveness and slut-shaming for her 14 year-old step-daughter.  In more hand-wringing, a young man wants to be sure he obtains consent from his lucky ladies, but how much asking is too much asking? On the Magnum show, a woman's boyfriend enjoys a nosefull of cocaine every month or so. She hates it. Does she have the right to ask him to choose between her or his precious blow? Dan explains the finer points of slut etiquette to a lass who ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 356

    Aug 20 2013

    "Cum Dumpster." Is this a sweet, sexy term, or just plain nasty?  A straight woman in Texas feels like a nelly gay man trapped in a woman's body. How can she find her people?  A woman has been using OK Cupid for 2 years and still hasn't gotten any action. So Dan chats with OK Cupid co-founder Christian Rudder on what she might be doing wrong.  On the Magnum version, Dan interviews sex researcher Dr. Joye Swan on risk-taking and using the idea of monogamy as a magical shield. And more.  Today's e...more

  • Savage Love Episode 355

    Aug 13 2013

    After over a year of dating a woman online that the caller had never met, he is horrified to learn that she isn't at all who she said she was. What now?  Bloody lovin': Dan brings on a pointy-headed professor to discuss the taboo against sex with a menstruating woman.  On the Magnum version, Dan chats with an expert on when and how to call Child Protective Services.  A lesbian who is getting married can't help but notice that her mother was WAY more engaged in her two straight daughters' wedding...more

  • Savage Love Episode 354

    Aug 06 2013

    A straight man has been the recipient of some rather shoddy pegging. Dan sets him on a better course.  A woman's older boyfriend insists her gay friends are out to sleep with her. Dan senses dark machinations at work.  Are you, a straight woman, obliged to inform your hook-up that his dick stinks to high heaven? On the Magnum version, Dan interviews feminist blogger Amanda Marcotte on the hysteria surrounding female sexuality and hook-up culture on college campuses. A woman is so darned pretty t...more

  • Savage Love Episode 353

    Jul 30 2013

    A woman has become a regular third (unicorn) for a couple's three-ways. They buy her dinner and drinks. Should she get get over feeling like a mooch and just gracefully accept their largess?  When he was in first grade, a man recalls a friend who used to roll around with him and kiss him. How normal is this, and when does it tip into molestation?  And more.  On the Magnum show, the long-suffering Doc Barak weighs in on the ethics of some clumsy doctoring in a Southern small town.  A woman tries ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 352

    Jul 23 2013

    Listen in as Dan Savage and Ari Shapiro (fancy-pants White House correspondent for NPR) drink, talk about monogamy and Dan's book, drink, talk about covering the Mitt Romney campaign, something about Dan's son "coming out" as straight, drink, talk and then drink.  This all went down on Father's Day at Town Hall in Seattle. It's super fun.  Be sure to listen for the ill-timed champagne cork.  Today's episode is brought to you by . Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at chec...more

  • Savage Love Episode 351

    Jul 16 2013

    Her boyfriend wants it every day. She can manage 4-6 times per week but he still berates her for not putting out enough. Who's side will Dan come down on?  Here's another gem of a boyfriend: He won't compliment her or show any signs of affection. He hasn't told his friends about her, and won't pay for anything or inconvenience himself in any way. Foreplay? Nope! And yet, our heroine is still smitten. Meanwhile, over at Seattle's gay pride parade, did an angry mob of lesbians brutally attack a ki...more

  • Savage Love Episode 350

    Jul 09 2013

    Hooray for happy rants! Dan tells you how he felt and what he did when he found out that DOMA was repealed.  A man's random ejaculation resulted in a child. Now the child is 12 and neither she, nor her mother's husband knows that he is her biological father. Should he tell?  Is there a way to warn the straight females of the world about your sociopathic sex addict ex-boyfriend?  On the Magnum version, an interview with the father of the modern marriage movement, Evan Wolfson, on the implications...more

  • Savage Love Episode 349

    Jul 02 2013

    First off, prepare yourself for the most Depressing Rant Ever. (We recorded this show well before DOMA went DOWN.) A young gay man connected with another lad on Grindr. Then he met up with a different man, at the SAME HOUSE. What tomfoolery is this?  A lad and his boyfriend are planning to try out a bathhouse for the first time, and ask Dan for some basic tips. What he suggests…may shock you.  And, the inimitable Garfunkel & Oates come on the show to explain a shameful evasive strategy that ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 348

    Jun 25 2013

    Kids today! A woman agrees to give her new lover her used panties. He then reports that his eleven-year old nephew got a hold of them and did unspeakable things with them. What kind of messed up family are we dealing with here? Another kid! Listen to this kid! She's 18, and her gay co-worker is setting up "dates" between her and his 30 year old friends to have sex with her while he watches. But lest you think he's a monster, don't worry- he's offered to provide the drugs and booze.  And over on ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 347

    Jun 18 2013

    How soon is too soon for anal?  A woman who had a brief foray into sex work long ago wonders how to tell her partners without shame, rejection or titillation.  And more.  On the Magnum version you'll hear everything in the Micro version plus… An interview with Daniel Bergner, author of What Women Want about ladies, their libidos, and whether monogamy suits them or not. (Spoiler alert! It does.) Hear the tale of the spooked unicorn. Note to couples who invite in a partner for a three-way: When yo...more

  • Savage Love Episode 346

    Jun 11 2013

    On this week's Micro version, how should you comport yourself when you're the Dungeon Monitor, and you have to watch your ex-girlfriend be some other guy's slave?  A woman with high libido drifts from sex-negative guy to sex-negative guy. Why would she do this?  Dan speaks with Tom Plummer from ImmigrationEquality.org about the plight of international gay couples. And more.  On the Magnum podcast, you'll hear an interview with Dr. Marty Klein about shrinks. Are they good for your sex life?  A wo...more

  • Savage Love Episode 345

    Jun 04 2013

    This show is for the ladies.  First Dan attempts to smash the patriarchy with his opening rant.  Then he sticks up for a woman whose military husband won't fuck her.  And! The magically clever and hilarious Lindy West comes forth with the female perspective on men who think your vagina is disgusting.  There was a long line of women who offered their techniques for getting rid of grabby, cat-calling men. Listen in.  Also, David Jay, from asexuality.org talks to Dan on how to come out as a non-sex...more

  • Savage Love Episode 344

    May 28 2013

    A woman met a man in a bar and they exchanged numbers. Then she sent him some steamy, hot, erotic fiction that she wrote. About him. What's the reading on the Good Sense-O-Meter? Ladies! When creeps dish out cat-calls and unwanted touches, how do you respond? We want to hear your stories. 206-201-2720 On the potential side effects of hair loss medication, the ever prudent Dan Savage counsels "Don't gamble with your boner." And that's just the beginning! On the Magnum side… Sordid tales of video ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 343

    May 21 2013

    "She wants a dom, not a dick." Gather round everyone, and listen in as Dan Savage and Mistress Matisse gab about BDSM, where kink comes from, fantasy BDSM vs. non-consensual abuse and how to meet a kinky mate.  Also, hear the blow by blow account of a woman who went from her unicorn audition to opening night in a single date. Three-way etiquette tip #46: Couples- it is polite to thank you unicorn with a kind note. 206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by www.Squarespace.com. They make ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 342

    May 14 2013

    This week on the Savage Lovecast: Tales of open relationships gone horribly wrong. Is it so wrong to move in with your boyfriend to save on rent? Also, is it against the rules of matrimony to not serve cake at a wedding?  Plus  on the Magnum show, Dan speaks with sexual health educator Debby Herbenick about lube and ladies and Vibrator Addiction Syndrome. Also Dan drags his older brother on to talk about how they tormented each other as children. And a lot more.  206-201-2720 This episode is bro...more

  • Savage Love Episode 341

    May 07 2013

    How should you respond when your cousin accidentally sends you a naked pic?  Dick growing pills. Any money in that racket?  Dan speaks with Dr. Thomas Clark from the CDC about a new worrisome meningitis outbreak among gay men.  And, over on the Magnum side: Finally the answer to the age old question of whether it's ok for a woman to eat her own female ejaculate! Dan speaks with Dr. Abraham Morgentaler, author of "Why Men Fake It" about why men fake it.  And, an avalanche of responses from men an...more

  • Savage Love Episode 340

    Apr 30 2013

    "Am I just his beard?" asks a woeful girlfriend.  Another gal did a little snooping, and discovered that her man has a "happy endings map" of all the places he could visit that will add pleasure to his upcoming business trip. Should she freak?  Over on the Magnums, drag queens in hillbilly country, and an interview with Aaron Harzler, author of Rapture Practice, on how to deal lovingly with your nutjob, conservative Christian family.  206-201-2720 Today's episode is also brought to you by . Get ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 339

    Apr 23 2013

    Dan helps a sneeze fetishist concoct a plan to make her sex life more…sneezy.  Growing up, a man had insufficient testosterone. Now that he's taking meds he suddenly has the drive to pursue women. How can he develop the confidence to match?  Over at savagelovecast.com you can sign up for a Magnum show that's twice as long, with no ads.  206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at Today's episode is also brought to you by . Get 50 per...more

  • Savage Love Episode 338

    Apr 16 2013

    Dan speaks with Slate editor Emily Bazelon on sexting, slut-shaming, bullying and suicide. A meddling friend watches in horror as her Mormon friends pursue a divorce.  And more.  206-201-2720 This podcast is also brought to you by . Go buy something, and be sure to enter GGG2013 at checkout.

  • Savage Love Episode 337

    Apr 09 2013

    A woman caring for her father with dementia discovers that he is a pedophile, though she thinks he never acts on his desires. Should she tell her mom? The nurses in his house?  A man needs to think about lesbian relationships before he can nod off to sleep. What are lesbians- chamomile tea?  Ken Cuccinelli: What does his name *really* mean?  You're gonna tell us. 206-201-2720   This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at Today's episode is also b...more

  • Savage Love Episode 336

    Apr 02 2013

    What a chatterbox Dan Savage is this week! He speaks with a foot model about creepos in the foot fetish community, and tears 14 new…apertures into a misbehaving drunky lass who just doesn't get straight privilege.  Confidential to Drunky McBlackout lass– they're having a sale on sheets over at LinenSource. 206-201-2720   This episode is brought to you by They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage4 for a 10% discount and free web...more

  • Savage Love Episode 335

    Mar 26 2013

    Meet Naughty Dr. Pee-Pee and the Patient with a Secret. Those of you in the medical or dental professions will find this episode most… illuminating. A man is feeling hella anxiety over the fact that his girlfriend makes a lot more money than he does. Should he make her pay for dinner already? A young gay man is considering an old lover's offer to fly him to his city for a weekend of dom/sub play. Is the lad allowed to go sightseeing or should he expect to spend all of his time in the hotel room?...more

  • Savage Love Episode 334

    Mar 19 2013

    This week Dan speaks again with Slate reporter Daniel Engber now that Gilberto Valle, AKA the Cannibal Cop, has been found guilty. Sleep a little easier, ladies everywhere.  Also, how to get your lover to open up a (consensual) can of whup-ass on you, whether breast feeding fuels teenagers' erotic imaginations, and the ethical ramifications of knowing that your friend's fiancé slept with this same friend's... father.  It's complicated.  206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by They make i...more

  • Savage Love Episode 333

    Mar 12 2013

    It seems like everyone is angry at the gays. Hear the super-sad tale of a father outed and then hated by his own daughter. But she doesn't hate him too much to accept his financial aid... And, 4 years after proposing on the top of the Eiffel Tower to his wife, a man finally comes out. His friend is furious at him. Can she get over it? Ever?  And strap on those earphones real tight. is here to talk about pegging.  Did you get that?  206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Downloa...more

  • Savage Love Episode 332

    Mar 05 2013

    How does one go about inviting a man over for dinner, when you really want to initiate the three-way sequence?  Pointy-headed science writer Jesse Bering speaks with Dan about the ubiquity of fantasies involving power and control.  And, squirm along as Dan speaks with Slate reporter Daniel Engber on the horrifying tale of the cannibal cop.  206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by Eyewear. Be sure to check out their home try-on program, and for god's sake, use offer code: Savage.  Toda...more

  • Savage Love Episode 331

    Feb 26 2013

    This week Dan welcomes two guests. Joan Price, author of "Naked at Our Age" talks about sex in your golden years. And John Schwartz author of "Oddly Normal" speaks with Dan about the challenges of raising a gay teen.  And a lot more.  206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at    Today's episode is brought to you by . Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout. Facebook page.

  • Savage Love Episode 330

    Feb 19 2013

    This is the live taping of the freaky show we did at the Neptune Theater featuring Simon Rich, Mistress Matisse, Audrey from Babeland and others. Have a listen, close your eyes and use your twisted imagination.  206-201-2720  This episode is brought to you by Babeland.com. Get 10% off plus free shipping when you click the Babeland ad on your mobile or the Savage Love web site. This episode is also brought to you by They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want t...more

  • Savage Love Episode 329

    Feb 12 2013

    A young lesbian is offended that her parents won't let her have her best friend, also a lesbian, join her for a sleepover. Are her parents being homophobic? Or just parents?  Another lesbian's conservative Christian parents have moved from bald unacceptance to covert unacceptance. Is this progress?  Dan speaks with Eric Klinenberg, author of Going Solo, about the pressure society places on single people to quit being so single, already.  There's this wonderful boy I want you to meet.  206-201-27...more

  • Savage Love Episode 328

    Feb 05 2013

    Dan desperately tries to convince a young gay man to use a condom when hooking up with random hot Australians.  The amazing Buck Angel speaks with Dan about dating FtM transsexuals.  And sex educator Amy Lang helps explain how to teach your son to avoid the dreaded Death Grip Syndrome.  And more. 206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by . Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout.

  • Savage Love Episode 327

    Jan 29 2013

    All hail Planned Parenthood! On today's show the Lovecast welcomes Dr. Anna Kaminski, senior physician for the venerable organization, who can calmly explain to Dan that scabies are not spiders, and consider the dangers of drinking blood without running screaming from the building.  When can we have you back, Anna?  206-201-2720   This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audio book of your choice today at      Today's episode is brought to you by . Get 50 percent off almost any...more

  • Savage Love Episode 326

    Jan 22 2013

    Tales of addiction; A woman in recovery worries that if she introduces S&M into her relationship that it will consume her life like booze or heroin. And, Dan speaks with Dr. Marty Klein on challenging the .  A woman with homophobic, conservative parents has two gay brothers. How can she keep the peace?  How can you counsel your emotionally fragile friend, when you are messed up yourself?  And more.  206-201-2720   Tickets to the Valentine's Day show in Seattle are . Read Dr. Klein's article ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 325

    Jan 15 2013

    Dan welcomes very special guest star Mistress Matisse to discuss S&M when you're really, really mad. Also Dan goes into the finer details of hickey etiquette, and clears up once and for all whether mutual masturbation is fact or fiction. Call, call, call.  206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audio book of your choice today at   Today's episode is brought to you by . Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout.

  • Savage Love Episode 324

    Jan 08 2013

    A gay man started his coming out process by announcing that he was bi to his parents. Now that he knows he's a full 'mo, how can he convince his skeptical parents?  The ultimate revenge: a woman and her ex-fiance are long broken up. But his super-hot brother is coming to town… Sex in a cemetery- any tips?  And a lot more of this ilk.  206-201-2720 This episode is also brought to you by They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage1...more

  • Savage Love Episode 323

    Jan 01 2013

    Welcome to 2013 where the sexual landscape seems just as freaky as it did in 2012. Highlights from todays show: a woman dating a closet asexual, a daughter who realizes that both she and her mother are subs, a man whose boyfriend rejects him because he isn't hairy enough, and a man who literally gets a boner at the sight of money.    Sweet, sexy money.  206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audio book of your choice today at

  • Savage Love Episode 322

    Dec 25 2012

    Well, well, well. What heartwarming tales have we to share on our very special Christmas Lovecast? Why, here's one about the crippling guilt and shame a woman can't shake from her promiscuous past. And look! A lad who snooped on his twin brother's phone discovered naked pictures of his ex-girlfriend! And here we have a gentleman who works up detailed spreadsheets of the qualities he requires from his girlfriends. Kind of like Santa's list, only pathological!   And more about pedophiles. Merry Ch...more

  • Savage Love Episode 321

    Dec 18 2012

    There's a lot of cheating in this episode. Through the miracle of audio, you'll experience the world through the eyes of a former cheater, an aspiring temptress and the judgmental sister of a home-wrecker.  And just to make sure you feel some feelings, Dan's rant is about guns. And there's a self-loathing pedophile in here too.  Call us up.  206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audio book of your choice today at     Today's episode is brought to you by . Get 50...more

  • Savage Love Episode 320

    Dec 11 2012

    Is there reasonable etiquette regarding the casual eating of pussy? A man refuses to go down on ladies he doesn't know well. Does this make him an asshole?  When she was 14, she made up a violent rape and milked the lie for drama to her boyfriend at the time. Now they are friends and he still believes the story. How on earth can she come clean?  And just when you thought you'd heard it all, Dan counsels a soon-to-be grieving woman on which of her polyamorous partners she should bring to her fath...more

  • Savage Love Episode 319

    Dec 04 2012

    Lesbians! Have you noticed that wherever you go you run into your lover's ex and your friends are all the same and there's only one lesbian bar in town? Thought so.  The continuum of culpability; when is infidelity a misdemeanor and when is it a felony?  When underpants = biohazard: A frolicsome lass had a super-hot time with a lad involving her underpants. Now, she wants to keep them as a memento, but worries the magic will eventually disappear or ...worse. Whatever should she do?    As always,...more

  • Savage Love Episode 318

    Nov 27 2012

    A bride-to-be faces a problematic wedding guest list. Should she invite her gaggle of gay friends and let them commingle with her conservative, bigoted relatives and coworkers? Hear the complicated tale of the not-quite-out lesbian and her chattering godmother. Your fetish! It is impossible! Simply impossible! Sometimes they really are. 206-201-2720   This podcast is brought to you by . Go buy something, and be sure to enter GGGNovember at checkout. Today's episode is brought to you by . Get 50 ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 317

    Nov 20 2012

    A man receives a mysterious image of a woman's pregnant belly, accompanied by a simple message telling him he's the father. Does he have the right to ask for proof? A conversation with Jillian Keenan, whose article in the New York Times explores her obsession with spankings and how she learned to "come out" about her kink. And an update from the newly out gay kid whose family demanded he go back in the closet AND come home for the holidays. Spoiler alert: He did neither. We love holidays! But ho...more

  • Savage Love Episode 316

    Nov 13 2012

    Cock blocked! A man's friend did his best to steal the girl. How can the caller tell his "buddy" to get lost?  Can Dan Savage prevent a potentially disastrous three-way from occurring?  A man ruined his chances with a lovely lady by getting a little too drunk and getting a little too gropey. How can he get a second chance to show her the "real" him?  Call us and show us the real you.  206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by Honey Toad Studios. Be sure to check out their online sexy com...more

  • Savage Love Episode 315

    Nov 06 2012

    Hear a nail-bitten, wretched Dan Savage counsel the lovelorn despite a wracking flu, and election day jitters. Topics! Coming out at your cousin's bar mitzvah. Introducing your ugly new boyfriend to your friends. Telling your jerko ex-boyfriend that he got you pregnant.  Don't worry Abby. The election will be over soon.  206-201-2720 This podcast is brought to you by . Go buy something be sure to enter GGGNovember at checkout. This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audio book...more

  • Savage Love Episode 314

    Oct 30 2012

    Face-eating zombies, infested snacks, and buckets and buckets of blood! It's the Lovecast Halloween show, featuring true tales of sex-related horror. Plus an interview with Caitlin Doughty of . Listen only if you dare.  206-201-2720 This podcast is brought to you by . Go buy something, and be sure to enter GGG500 at checkout. This episode is also brought to you by . They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage11 for a 10% discount ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 313

    Oct 23 2012

    Dad likes to wear women's clothing. This doesn't bother his daughter, but she doesn't want to hear much more. (But knowing his dress size might come in handy over the holidays.) When your "straight" friend appears on a gay online dating site, does that mean he's out?  A gay man loves to huff his boyfriend's body odor. The boyfriend finds this revolting, and prefers to wear deodorant and cologne. Whose side will Dan Savage take in this skanky debate?   You'll have to listen to find out.  206-201-...more

  • Savage Love Episode 312

    Oct 16 2012

    An autistic virgin woman wants to get into the swinging lifestyle. Should she get sterilized now, or kick that can down the road? During a fight with his ex-girlfriend, a big man discovered that he likes getting slapped around a bit. How can he let future lovers know this, and get over his shame?  A woman on painkillers finds that she's turned on by the idea of a man "taking advantage" of her while she's blotto on meds. Is this a thing? Can it be done safely?  Silly kinkster! Everything is "a t...more

  • Savage Love Episode 311

    Oct 09 2012

    Paging Miss Manners! A man's mother detests his wife's mother so much, that she wants to exclude her from the baby shower. How can he tip-toe his way through this field of turds?  A woman very much wants to pursue amorous relations with a hot fireman. But she has insider information suggesting he might be a dick-head. Should she throw caution to the wind?    Hear mighty Dan Savage blush like a schoolboy at theater camp as he interviews the swoon-worthy Andrew Rannells from Book of Mormon.   And...more

  • Savage Love Episode 310

    Oct 02 2012

    A man's ex-lover nearly blabs some very personal info about him to the caller's sister. How much should he now reveal to her? Does he owe his sister the whole story?  A 7-months pregnant lady has never been hornier. And she's scaring her husband's dick to death.    A porn watching pastor is scared he's going get busted by his wife and fired by his church for watching porn. So what does he do? He calls a very popular sex advice podcast and tells everyone listening about his problem.    Call us w...more

  • Savage Love Episode 309

    Sep 25 2012

    Ah, the sex toy double standard. He doesn't mind her vibrator, but she feels threatened by his Fleshlight.   Is it reasonable to be in favor of gay rights but be against gay marriage for religious reasons?   Open marriage: Is it bad for kids? Is there a way to make it work in the long run?   Also, Dan interviews Salon's sex and relationships writer Tracy Clark-Flory about the tendency in kinky circles to belittle and disdain vanilla folk.     Call us, won't you? 206-201-2720   This episode is b...more

  • Savage Love Episode 308

    Sep 18 2012

    This week the Lovecast welcomes Cindy Gallop, creator of .  Dan and Cindy discuss her project, the effect of pornography on real sex and relationships, and the state of the porn industry, while Dan tries in vain to get a word in.   This one is long, and amazing.   206-201-2720  Today's episode is brought to you by . Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout.  Please visit and    The Tech-Savvy At-Risk Youth are still waiting for the picture of Cindy Gallop we were...more

  • Savage Love Episode 307

    Sep 11 2012

    When you're an 18 year-old homo living in the South, and your mother is a conservative Christian pastor, how on earth do you come out?  Oooooh, how tantalizing! A famous comedian is maybe cheating on his wife based on dubious hearsay!  We all  know that gays should come out as soon as it's safe for them to do so.  But what about folks in open relationships? Does mom need to know about partner #2?  Oh, and if you were planning on sending Dan a carton of smokes for Christmas, you might want to ret...more

  • Savage Love Episode 306

    Sep 04 2012

    If you knew a gal had an unreciprocated crush on you, would you kiss her on the forehead and cuddle with her, knowing these actions would be misconstrued? Well, would you?? In other news, we got a man who loves to receive blow jobs, but hates to eat pussy.    And, once you switch to anal sex, can you ever go back?    These questions, and important matters of pronunciation are addressed right here.    206-201-2720     This podcast is brought to you by . Go buy something and be sure to enter GGGS...more

  • Savage Love Episode 305

    Aug 28 2012

    It's the One-Minute Wonders show! All questions less than a minute! Fast!  Topics: Prostate massage, kinky punishment, kiss-o-phobes, deep throat breath play, uncut blowjobs, yucky facials, double penetration and so much more.    You can do it too.  206-201-2720   This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audio book of your choice today at   Today's episode is brought to you by . Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout.    Comment on this episode ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 304

    Aug 21 2012

    Is it stalking if you know where a cute girl works and you just happen to…pop in?  A man's friend sends him unwanted pictures of his dick. How can the caller tell his pervy friend to knock it off without ruining the friendship?   A man snooped and caught his girlfriend cheating with another "bro". Does the "bro code" stipulate that he must rat out the cheating girlfriend, and let said "bro" know that she is as nutty as a fruitcake?    These, and many other questions you never knew you had are a...more

  • Savage Love Episode 303

    Aug 14 2012

    Meet the Savages! This week, in deepest, darkest Iowa, Dan sat down with his sister and two brothers to discuss strippers, the word "vagina," and good ol’ fashioned dog-fucking, among other things.      Just like you do with your family, right?  206-201-2720     This podcast is brought to you by . Go buy something and be sure to enter GGGAugust at checkout.   This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audio book of your choice today at

  • Savage Love Episode 302

    Aug 07 2012

    Damaged buttholes? Penis cracking? Molluscum contagiosum? Dr. Vy Chu fears nothing! Hear Dan and the venerable men's health expert discuss everything under where the sun don't shine.    And don't worry ladies. There are some gems in here for you too.    Ask Dan a question: 206-201-2720 Keep it under a minute and it might be aired on the upcoming One Minute Wonders show.     This podcast is brought to you by . Go buy something and be sure to enter GGGAugust at checkout.   This episode is also bro...more

  • Savage Love Episode 301

    Jul 31 2012

    Isn't it sad when your kink makes you sad? A woman who likes (and even needs) to be cuckolded wishes her kink wasn't all about her own humiliation.  In another call of cuckolding weirdness, a woman's boyfriend wants her to sleep with her fuck-buddy while he hides in the closet and watches. Should she keep the caper secret, or secretly tell the lover?  And, it gets weirder. A very GGG lady simply cannot be her adult baby husband's "mommy" with any genuine enthusiasm. Should she let him find a new...more

  • Savage Love Episode 300

    Jul 24 2012

    We're back! And what did we come back to? Online dishonesty, webcam addiction, and incest paranoia.    Ah, you people. It's nice to be home.   206-201-2720     Today's episode is brought to you by the magical Stack Soap. Stack Soap allows you to merge your old soap slivers into a brand-new bar that lasts forever. You get clean AND touch infinity. www.stacksoap.com.     Today's episode is brought to you by . Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout.    Comment on thi...more

  • Savage Love Episode 299.5

    Jul 17 2012

    Sorry folks- no show this week. Dan is on "vacation," in deepest, darkest Europe, "relaxing." Or something.   Call us and cry about it: 206-201-2720 See you next week.

  • Savage Love Episode 299

    Jul 10 2012

    A man's boyfriend's super-hot ex-lover is coming back to town. Should he feel jealous and insecure when they go out for drinks, or start scheming to make a three-way happen?    A man got dumped by his girlfriend. He demanded that she submit an explanation in writing. For some reason, she hasn't done this yet. Any chance they'll get back together?    And a typical question about dick-biting.    Ho hum.  206-201-2720       This podcast is brought to you by . Go buy something and be sure to enter G...more

  • Savage Love Episode 298

    Jul 03 2012

    A most magnanimous woman is married to a man who likes trans women. Instead of buying her an anniversary present, he bought himself time with a trans dominatrix. She wants to forgive.    A kinky widow is falling for a trans woman. But she isn't used to the staring and general hostility toward trans people. How can she tell her vanilla friends all about her new, interesting girlfriend?    Dan speaks with activist, sex educator and kinky blogger about losing the childhood shame around kinky desir...more

  • Savage Love Episode 297

    Jun 26 2012

    Do you know what a "'bater" is? A 'bater only wants to masturbate. No sex. Now, now would a relationship between a 'bater and a sex-loving fella work out, you think?    A bride-to-be enlists Dan's advice on how to bring her rape fantasy to life on their honeymoon.    A woman has sex-crippling vaginal pain. Dan speaks with human sexuality expert Dr. Debby Herbenick on what she can do.    And more.  206-201-2720   Today's episode is brought to you by . Get 50 percent off almost any item when you e...more

  • Savage Love Episode 296

    Jun 19 2012

    This week, we present a live recording of the Savage Lovecast. We recorded the fundraiser show in Seattle at the Neptune Theatre, along with musical guests Garfunkel and Oates and a special appearance by Washington State senator Ed Murray.   And the usual topics were covered: auto-fellatio, giving vibrators as gifts, sex with ducks. Ho hum.   This was a super-fun show. We hope you like it.   You can contribute to Washington United for Marriage by going to their website:   This episode is brough...more

  • Savage Love Episode 295

    Jun 12 2012

    Naughty butt plug! Why must you fly out of my bottom?!   A lesbian has a male best friend—her “dyke Mike.” But this gentleman has been sending her rambling missives of a highly sexual nature. Is it the pain medication he’s currently on, or does she need to tell him to keep his horny thoughts to himself?   A woman begs the straight male population to please stop sending pictures of their penises.   And more!   206-201-2720   Savage Lovecast Live sold out? Not to worry. You can listen to it in an ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 294

    Jun 05 2012

    Isn't it sad when a lady can't come? Hear two tales of ladies who can't come with another person involved, and Dan's elegant solutions.  You know what else is sad? When a man can't get horny. That's sad. Maybe he just needs rest and a sandwich.  "But how do mangos fit into all of this?" you ask.    Listen, and you will find out.  206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audio book of your choice today at     Today's episode is brought to you by . Get 50 percent off...more

  • Savage Love Episode 293

    May 29 2012

    Ugh! She's so BORED. Bored of tying up her boyfriend and having sex with another woman. Bored with calling him a "little bitch." The real problem is that he won't lift a finger to give her what she wants. It just goes to show that when you're into vanilla, kinky sex can be dull, dull, dull.  Another woman wonders how to be GGG when the sex he wants makes her cry.  And yet another woman asks how she can forgive her boyfriend for stealing naked pictures of her off her computer.    Boy. Some of you...more

  • Savage Love Episode 292

    May 22 2012

    Gentle listeners: Are you sitting down? Now that you and Dan have been communing lo these past six years, he feels that he can trust you enough to share a little secret. We won't say what it is here, but it involves his butt.   A straight girl feels like a prying fool for asking her lesbian coworker how she got pregnant.   Dan speaks with Jennifer Pritchett, owner of Smitten Kitten, about toxic sex toys and how to avoid them. Find Smitten Kitten at www.SmittenKittenOnline.com. View a video about...more

  • Savage Love Episode 291

    May 15 2012

    Dan advises a recovering alcoholic on how to let people know why he's drinking ginger ale in the bar without causing the date to come to a screeching halt. Is it better to admit that you've been dumped or keep on circling around trying to seek "closure"? Hey, cute, flirty straight boys! Why do you have to tease your homo buddies so hard? And more.  Can you stand it?  206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by . Enter the code “Savage” and get 20 percent off your entire order.   Today's episo...more

  • Savage Love Episode 290

    May 08 2012

    A woman gets paid to dress up like a superhero and roll around in bed. Nothing sexual. Is she obligated to tell her boyfriend about this revenue stream? A 40-year-old man is dating a 20-year-old man who was a friend of his kids from a previous marriage. Is it just one of love's many whims or is he the mayor of Creepytown? And hear a cautionary tale of lies, passion, and extortion on Grindr. 206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by . Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Sav...more

  • Savage Love Episode 289

    May 01 2012

    How do you hit on someone with Aspergers? This week on the Savage Lovecast, Dan speaks with Maxine Aston, author and relationship counselor who specializes in relationships and Aspergers Syndrome. Find her at Also, supporting sissy sons, kinky glitter and the damage that youthful experimentation can do.  Confidential to everyone who lost your virginity last night: Congratulations!  206-201-2720   This episode is brought to you by . Enter the code SAVAGE and get 20% off your entire order. This e...more

  • Savage Love Episode 288

    Apr 24 2012

    Bisexuals! Grab your pitchforks and fire up those torches. This show is all about you.    Also, does a BJ get you into the Mile High Club?    A man who will be staying with his sister-in-law for a few months wonders if he needs to keep his carnal relations inaudible.    Shhhhhhh!  206-201-2720   Neal Boulton is over at   This episode is brought to you by . Enter the code SAVAGE and get 20% off your entire order.   This episode is brought to you by . They make it easy to build a website or blog....more

  • Savage Love Episode 287

    Apr 17 2012

    Dan counsels a very GGG woman on how she can lovingly kick her boyfriend in the nuts.   Rape scenarios are tricky, aren't they? You have to plan and communicate clearly, or you might end up in jail. But does it kill the sexy to say, "Okay, honey, I'll rape you next Tuesday"?   And "Miss Manners" Savage has the solution for how to send the third in your three-way off to the guest bed.   Is there nothing Dan Savage can't solve? 206-201-2720   This episode is brought to you by . Enter the code “SAV...more

  • Savage Love Episode 286

    Apr 10 2012

    A gay man is being stalked by a sexually aggressive woman… in his DREAMS. Another man is being stalked by an actual lady in a waking nightmare. Also, serious conversations about domestic violence and confronting politicians with little knit tchotchkes.   Call us with your quandaries. 206-201-2720   Knit those lady bits! Check out Government Free VJJ here:   The National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1−800−799−SAFE(7233)   Today's episode is brought to you by . Get 50 percent off almost any item wh...more

  • Savage Love Episode 285

    Apr 03 2012

    Dan welcomes his old MTV tour wife, the ever-gigglin' Lucy to talk about getting dumped, gender queers and furry pride.    Let Lucy's infectious merriment fill your heart with love.    206-201-2720   Today's episode is brought to you by . Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout.   This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audio book of your choice today at    Comment on this episode at

  • Savage Love Episode 284

    Mar 27 2012

    How can a chronically adulterous lass embark on an open relationship when she is also chronically jealous?  When he was a youth, he and his cousin used to play strip poker. Now the cousin is all grown up, a born again Christian, and pissed. Should make for an awkward family gathering, yes?  A woman is dating a callous, disdainful and incredibly handsome man. He won't have sex with her, but will only deign to accept blow jobs. Any ideas on what she should do with this young man?    But he's so ho...more

  • Savage Love Episode 283

    Mar 20 2012

    When lesbians flirt: What is a red-blooded lad to think when his lesbian pal makes goo-goo eyes at him?  Are parents today too sex-positive? Dan and sex educator Amy Lang talk about water sports among 3-year-olds and a bad place to put Legos.  And more.  206-201-2720 This podcast is brought to you by . Go buy something and be sure to enter GGG2012 at checkout.  This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audio book of your choice today at    Comment on this episode at   Check out...more

  • Savage Love Episode 282

    Mar 12 2012

    Introducing… the Panty Bandit! Coming to a bed near you?    A woman is enjoying a friends-with-benefits relationship. But the lad always bolts out of bed postcoitus without so much as a quick kiss good-bye. Would a little cuddling kill him?    A woman's boyfriend admits that he isn't sexually attracted to women. He's exclusively attracted to animals. Dan brings in Dr. Jesse Bering of Scientific American to help him with this one.    Neigh? 206-201-2720   Today's episode is brought to you by . Ge...more

  • Savage Love Episode 281

    Mar 06 2012

    We begin our podcast with arguably the sleaziest caller we've ever encountered. It really has to be heard to be believed.  How can you help a friend when she's hung up on a psycho?  To aid a man who's wife has no libido whatsoever, Dan enlists the help of human sexuality expert, scientist, author and the generally convivial Dr. Debby Herbenick. And Dan speaks with mighty Washington state Senator Ed Murray on the strategy for winning gay marriage rights.    And win, we will. 206-201-2720 Today's ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 280

    Feb 29 2012

    Yet another snooping girlfriend finds a cache of straight anal porn on her boyfriend's computer. Does this mean he should try sleeping with men?   Poor babysitter: The 5-year-old she was taking care of accidentally watched some homemade porn starring… her parents! How can the babysitter mitigate the damage?   And, is it possible to come out… too much?   Plus a lot more.  206-201-2720   This episode is brought to you by . They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you w...more

  • Savage Love Episode 279

    Feb 17 2012

    A lesbian's partner shows her love by paying for everything. Unfortunately, she's kind of a jerk otherwise.  A man can't please his lady in bed unless he's blasted drunk. When sober, he worries that she's too tender and shy for the rough treatment she likes.  The mother of a little person is worried about all the little-people fetishists out there who will be interested in her daughter. She's only 17 months old, but when you're a mother, you worry.    Call us with your questions, large and small...more

  • Savage Love Episode 278

    Feb 14 2012

    The doctor is IN. Kindly, long-suffering Doctor Barak is back to answer your medical questions and submit to Dan's unique brand of torture. Dan and Doc discuss smoking weed while pregnant, herbal abortions, torn penises, and more. Some choice lines to listen for: "We aren't running out of Jamaicans" and "Grab the babies and run." Call us up to make us giggle and squirm. 206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by . Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout. Thi...more

  • Savage Love Episode 277

    Feb 07 2012

    This week on the Savage Lovecast, a topless maid agonizes over her role in the aiding and abetting of infidelity. A man's sister employs a nanny. The nanny is hot. Should he shtup the nanny? And hear Dan's timeless Valentine's Day advice. Hint: It holds true on other days of the year, too. 206-201-2720   This podcast is brought to you by . Go buy something and be sure to enter GGG at checkout.    Today's episode is brought to you by . Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at...more

  • Savage Love Episode 276

    Jan 31 2012

    Swoon! It's Ira Glass, off his perch at This American Life, to join Dan in dispensing both sex advice and fart jokes.  It's Ira as you've never heard him before...   Don't miss this one. 206-201-2720     This podcast is brought to you by . Go buy something and be sure to enter GGG  at checkout.    Today's episode is brought to you by . Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout.   Comment on this episode at

  • Savage Love Episode 275

    Jan 21 2012

    We've been getting lots of calls about losing one's virginity. Dan addresses a couple of them. Hey, 17-year-old boy: The tech-savvy at-risk youth would very much like to go back in time and lose our virginity to you. A man catches a lot of heat for being attracted to large women, so he dates thin women. How can he get over this?  And you will learn a little Hebrew.    We teach you all sorts of things on this show. Teach us something: 206-201-2720     This podcast is brought to you by . Go buy so...more

  • Savage Love Episode 274

    Jan 17 2012

    A newly employed dishwasher wants to have sex with both of his bosses because he suspects they may be swingers. Is this a wise course of action?  Dan discusses the intricate financial and marketing strategies of selling your used underpants. Everybody worries about coming out to their parents, but what about grandparents? Here's a big shout-out to the open-minded oldsters out there.  And we know you're out there.  206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audio book...more

  • Savage Love Episode 273

    Jan 06 2012

    If your lady has a dream about being penetrated by five dicks, does that mean she actually wants to be penetrated by five dicks? Have you ever masturbated for a pretty lady on Chatroulette? Well, here's a man with a pretty face who looks a lot like a lady. Perhaps you've already met. And for those of you with troubled relationships with your siblings, come hear the horrid tale of the woman who hacked into her sister's e-mail, discovered that she has bi tendencies, and then forwarded these e-mail...more

  • Savage Love Episode 272

    Jan 03 2012

    Dan speaks with Dr. James Cantor, professor of Psychiatry at the University of Toronto, about pedophilia. What the hell can be done?    Also, Science weighs in on the mysterious case of the mushroom in the jizz.    Happy New Year.    206-201-2720   Today's episode is brought to you by . Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout. Comment on this episode at www.thestranger.com/lovecast

  • Savage Love Episode 271

    Dec 27 2011

    It's the long-anticipated holiday horror show!  We asked for your tales of holiday lovin' gone wrong, and you delivered in force. You'll hear some freaky shit, a cautionary tale or two, and even some holiday gift ideas!!! Thanks for calling, listening, and sticking with us all these years.    206-201-2720   Comment on this episode at www.thestranger.com/lovecast

  • Savage Love Episode 270

    Dec 20 2011

    Dan speaks with cancer physician and researcher Dr. Ted Teknos about the HPV vaccine.    A GGG married woman acts out a cuckolding fantasy for her husband, and discovers that she likes it an awful lot. He- not so much. Can she make it work, or is it doomed to be a failed experiment?   And finally, prepare to have your tears jerked, folks. Dan speaks with the kid from episode 266 who was struggling with coming out to his conservative Christian family over the holidays. If you know anyone in this ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 269

    Dec 13 2011

    She received some flowers from her ex for her birthday. Does her current boyfriend have the right to freak the fuck out?  A woman wants to be splashed with her husband's semen, and have the semen be "live." How can they store jizz so that it remains potent? Like Santa Claus, she makes a list. Unlike Santa, she fucks every man on the list, and then crosses them off when she's done. Is this so wrong?  And more.  Call us, and leave us a tale of holiday love gone wrong, right or weird.  206-201-2720...more

  • Savage Love Episode 268

    Dec 06 2011

    It's Lucy's last show. Hats off to Dan's brave, plucky assistant. Small hands- big heart.  The calls! Wood. He shows it and grows it at the earliest opportunity. Is this a turn-off or something to cultivate?  A woman discovers her boyfriend has stashed away some women's underpants. They're definitely not hers…is this a problem?  A stunningly insecure gay man wonders if he should get circumcised to please his rude lover.  And so much more.  206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Audible. ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 267

    Nov 29 2011

    Dan converses with a former rent boy, and you get to listen in. Should a man with a jealousy problem date his neighbor who happens to be a stripper?  Gather round, listeners, and hear the spooky tale of the lover who still carries a torch for his dead mother. And other oddities. 206-201-2720   Today's episode is brought to you by . Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout.   Check out Ask Dominic:   Comment on this episode at

  • Savage Love Episode 266

    Nov 21 2011

    Lucy is back to help Dan navigate his way through questions about dicks snapping right off, living with sex addiction, and a triad of soft weenies.  Happy Thanksgiving, one and all.  206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by . Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout.   Comment on this episode at www.thestranger.com/lovecast

  • Savage Love Episode 265

    Nov 15 2011

    Poor, lonely Dan, broadcasting from an empty hotel room, finds it in his heart to advise a pee-shy watersports fetishist, an insecure autofellator, and a couple of sisters who both humped their cousin. All this before room service. (But don't worry! No on-air eating!) 206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by . Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout. This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at Comment on th...more

  • Savage Love Episode 264

    Nov 08 2011

    Baby? I know we don't know each other all that well, but I dig you so much that I want you to sleep with another man. Ok?  Is it true that soon churches will be FORCED to marry same sex couples or lose their delicious tax exemption???  A woman who hasn't had sex for years is considering ordering in. But should she rent a man or a woman?  And more. Lordy, you people are interesting!  Call us up with whatever you got: 206-201-2720   Today's episode is brought to you by . Get 50 percent off almost ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 263

    Oct 31 2011

    A woman is in an unacknowledged fuck-buddy situation. He calls her up to "watch a movie or something," and then they have sex. But he always seems to call her when she's on her period…   An open-minded mother isn't worried that her son watches porn. It's just that she doesn't like the kind of porn he's into.   Listen in as Lucy learns what a cream pie is.   And a lot more.     Call us with your questions, but please—not from the car. 206-201-2720   This podcast is brought to you by . Go buy some...more

  • Savage Love Episode 262

    Oct 25 2011

    This week, Dan is joined by his animal handler, Lucy! Lucy can answer questions about shit skid marks left on couches, cheating lying girlfriends, jerk dom creeps AND do Dan's laundry with a smile.    She is truly a wonder.    Call us with your questions.  206-201-2720   Today's episode is brought to you by . Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout. Comment on this episode at www.thestranger.com/lovecast

  • Savage Love Episode 261

    Oct 18 2011

    Come hear the tale of the woman who wanks like a toddler. Remember that boy who got booted out of the Christian singing group "Psalm 100" for being gay? Dan chats him up a bit.  How can a fickle bisexual chicken take the plunge and suck some cock already?    And more.  206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audio book of your choice today at   Comment on this episode at www.thestranger.com/lovecast

  • Savage Love Episode 260

    Oct 11 2011

    "No sex before the game!" Is this bit of conventional wisdom wise?    A gay man wonders if his date being specifically NOT invited to a family wedding is in any way bigoted.    A man and woman are married only in the legal sense. But they still live together and enjoy each other's company. How do they roll out the nature of their odd relationship to potential lovers?    And more, more, more. 206-201-2720   Today's episode is brought to you by . Get 50 percent off almost any item when you e...more

  • Savage Love Episode 259

    Oct 05 2011

    Ladies: How should you react when your boyfriend accuses you of cheating on him because he can feel that your vagina is looser than he remembers it being? Oh, and he has a really small dick. Do you have man boobs? Maybe you shouldn't. Do lesbians perform oral sex on strap-ons? DO THEY??? And! Dan responds to Douchegate 2011. 206-201-2720 This podcast is brought to you by . Go buy something and be sure to enter SANTORUM at checkout.

  • Savage Love Episode 258

    Sep 23 2011

    Apparently, there is someone more qualified to answer your filthy questions than Dan Savage. The identity of Dan's replacement may shock you… A man's buddy is accused of sexual assault by an acquaintance. The caller is dubious, but pretends to believe her. Should he confront her or lie in order to protect his friend?  Is there a polite way to suggest that a lady shave her nether-regions?    Remember: Think of the children.  206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a fr...more

  • Savage Love Episode 257

    Sep 20 2011

    It's the fairy dust show! Can Dan Savage reach into his man-purse, pull out a handful of pink fairy dust, sprinkle it all over your sexual problems, and cure you of whatever ails you?  No, he cannot.  206-201-2720  Today's episode is brought to you by . Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout. Comment on this episode at

  • Savage Love Episode 256

    Sep 09 2011

    This week the Lovecast is honored to welcome Dr. Anna Kaminski, medical director from Planned Parenthood. Hats off, everyone. Dan and Anna discuss the risks of herpes, chlamydia, pre-come, ass-licking and other deep medical topics. Anna quotes from scientific studies and Dan makes repulsive off-color jokes.   What's not to like?     Call us up: 206-201-2720   Today's episode is brought to you by . Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout. Comment on this episode at ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 255

    Sep 06 2011

    The Savage Lovecast is delighted to welcome Mistress Matisse, Seattle's charming and terrifying dominatrix. Can sadists get it on with other sadists? Is domming a viable career choice? Can the master-slave relationship work when it's time to do the dishes? All of this and more await you, worm. 206-201-2720 This podcast is brought to you by . Go buy something and be sure to enter SANTORUM at checkout.

  • Savage Love Episode 254

    Aug 26 2011

    After a young queer woman came out to her high-school friends, one of them utterly rejected her and expressed retroactive squeamishness for all the hugs they ever shared. What a creep.  A woman's gay friend with internalized homophobia disparages other gays and comes on to women when he's drunk. What a jerk.  A young lesbian's cousin sends her links to anti-gay reparative-therapy sites. Asshole!  Each one faces Dan's wrath. 206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 253

    Aug 23 2011

    A son is more than a little jealous that his dad has multiple orgasms, and prays that perhaps it's genetic?  Research scientist and hymen expert Debby Herbenick confirms that *spoiler alert* the hymen does indeed exist.  You think you got it bad? At least YOU have a rectum…   And more.  206-201-2720   Today's episode is brought to you by . Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout.   Comment on this episode at www.thestranger.com/lovecast

  • Savage Love Episode 252

    Aug 15 2011

    A woman who enjoys vanilla sex feels discriminated against by her kinky, poly posse.  A man recently home from Iraq doesn't know how to speak gently to the ladies anymore.  And hear the tale of Mike's friend's wife's nipples and the trouble they're bringing to his relationship.    Naughty nipples! 206-201-2720    Sex at Dawn is now out in paperback. Read the book that Dan Savage wants to marry.   Today's episode is brought to you by . Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at...more

  • Savage Love Episode 251

    Aug 05 2011

    Gentle listeners of the podcast, it pains us to have to remind you to TEND TO YOUR UNICORN. In other words, if you have secured a lovely lady who is willing to be the third in your three-way, you are obligated to do her the courtesy of providing her with an ORGASM. Jesus Christ, people.   In other matters concerning etiquette, it is now officially BAD FORM to open your relationship to include your brother.   A young curmudgeonly lass has a long list of deal breakers. No drinking, no drugs, and n...more

  • Savage Love Episode 250

    Jul 27 2011

    What is the proper etiquette when you are offered $20 on the street to perform a sex act? A female sex worker in a new relationship wants to leave the life. Her boyfriend wants her to leave the life. But the money is so damn good! Can she ask him to support her while she gets her new life together? Can slapping a girl who didn't want to be slapped be reasonably construed as a "dick move"? We thought so, too. 206-201-2720 Oh! And we almost forgot! Hear Rachel's response to last week's marriage pr...more

  • Savage Love Episode 249

    Jul 25 2011

    The open-minded father of a 14-year-old lesbian wonders if he should allow her to have sleepovers with her girlfriend.Dan's position on the Mormon poly lifestyle… revealed!Is it intolerable to dump your boyfriend right when he's about to go into surgery?And more ethical dilemmas.206-201-2720Comment on what you heard here at And be sure to get yourself a copy of the Savage Love App for iTunes and Android.

  • Savage Love Episode 248

    Jul 19 2011

    A meddling, deluded mother changes the relationship status on her gay son’s Facebook page to say he’s interested in women. How can this patient son help his mother through her tantrum phase?       A young woman’s 19-year-old cousin is planning on meeting a 42-year-old man she met online. He claims to be in an open relationship. What could go wrong?       A woman and her Method-actor boyfriend planned a night where they acted out their rape fantasy. Let’s hear how it went, shall we?     ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 247

    Jul 12 2011

    A bi man and his lady enjoyed glorious bi-friendly sex until they had a baby. Then she demanded an immediate end to his bisexuality for fear he isn't a good enough role model for their son. Doesn't that suck?    A lesbian and her lady made a commitment to lose weight together. Our heroine has succeeded where her partner hasn't even tried. Does the caller have the right to demand that her partner lose a few pounds?    Dan speaks with David Jay, founder of Asexuality.org about what asexuality is...more

  • Savage Love Episode 246

    Jul 05 2011

    Dan Savage? What is the connection between homosexuals and unicorns?    Can a gay man make out with a straight girl? Can he do that??   A woman complains that her boyfriend lays out a mighty sexy scene when he's texting her, but when it's time to actually do anything, he can't deliver. Is this a case of Madonna/whore syndrome?    And so much more.  206-201-2720   This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audio book of your choice today at   This episode is brought to you b...more

  • Savage Love Episode 245

    Jun 28 2011

    Seriously now. What's the most environmentally friendly way to dispose of your jiz?    When encountering a man masturbating under cover of bushes in a public park, is it your responsibility to report him to the authorities?    A woman is having mind blowing sex with a chronic liar. Should she just nod and smile and take the sex, or run as fast as she can in the other direction?    What would you do?  206-201-2720   This episode is brought to you by www.PinkVisual.com. They innovate, you mas...more

  • Savage Love Episode 244

    Jun 21 2011

    More rantings about a man named Weiner. Are garter belts inherently sexist, and is there a male equivalent?  Dan interviews Ogi Ogas, co-author of "A Billion Wicked Thoughts"  in which two computational neuroscientists embark on the largest study of sexuality since Kinsey.    And more.  206-201-2720     Today's episode is brought to you by . Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout.   This episode is brought to you by FyreTV- the ultimate adult video experien...more

  • Savage Love Episode 243

    Jun 14 2011

    Is it wrong to contact the subsequent lovers of your lying, cheating, abusive ex and compare notes? What if one of the notes is that you have herpes?    A closeted lesbian is worried that if she comes out it will impact her parents- pillars in their conservative community.    A jealous lover makes his boyfriend write essays about his previous relationships. Dan has five special letters for this caller.      Now class. Your assignment is to call: 206-201-2720   Today's episode is brought t...more

  • Savage Love Episode 242

    Jun 07 2011

    How do you ask your lady if her boobs are the work of god or man?    A woman engaged to be married wants to help a gay couple she knows by being a surrogate mother. Her fiancé isn't having it. Who should prevail?    Poppers! Deep fried snack or sex enhancing drug- they're both nasty.    Call us. Tell us everything.  206-201-2720   This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audio book of your choice today at   Today's episode is brought to you by Netflix. For a free 30-day t...more

  • Savage Love Episode 241

    May 31 2011

    Today we are joined by the venerable athiest, science-lovin', feminist blogger Jen McCreight who has a thing or two to say about skepticism. She takes Dan to task for his lack of critical thinking while interviewing a recent guest about female ejaculation.    So, the calls today are all viewed through the cold, hard prism of science. This all BEFORE the rapture proved to be a non-event. That took courage.    Call us up: 206-201-2720   Check out Jen's magnificent blog: at www.blaghag.com.   ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 240

    May 24 2011

    This week we are joined by the good doctor Vy Chu- a specialist in gay men's health.  So there's a lot of talk about butts.        And balls. 206-201-2720   Today's episode is brought to you by . Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout.   Today's episode is brought to you by Netflix. For a free 30-day trial, go to www..   You can and should comment on this show over at

  • Savage Love Episode 239

    May 17 2011

    What does a neglectful drunk have to do to win his wife back?    A man with a doll fetish wonders if his turn-on for the "little girl" look automatically makes him a pedophile.    An attractive man with a homely girlfriend wonders if he's missing out by leaving all the world's hotties on the table.    And more.  206-201-2720   Hello Randy Marquardt from West Bend K-12!  Email ole Randy at rmarquardt@west-bend.k12.wi.us  Or give him a friendly jingle at 262-306-2601   Today's episode is br...more

  • Savage Love Episode 238

    May 09 2011

    Too much information? A woman confides in a friend that she is having an affair. Now the friend feels on the hook with this unwanted knowledge. Should she tell or clam up? A man and his girlfriend have agreed to embark on an open relationship. But it's open only for him. She's not allowed to go outside the relationship. Is this okay? Heike Rodriguez, an educator who teaches women how to achieve female ejaculation, talks with Dan in the studio and makes him squirm in about a dozen ways.  Two word...more

  • Savage Love Episode 237

    May 02 2011

    What happens when you're turned on by rape fantasies and then you actually get raped? Time to find a new fantasy.    Marijuana! Is it Viagra for women?    A transvestite in Kansas: A college crossdresser finds it hard to meet women who will accept him for who he is.      We accept you.  Call us at 206-201-2720   Today's episode is brought to you by Netflix. For a free 30-day trial, go to . Today's episode is brought to you by . Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage"...more

  • Savage Love Episode 236

    Apr 26 2011

    A woman is having an affair with a man who is probably gay. Should she help him to cross the line into homo-land, or butt out and find somebody who digs chicks?    A man is dating a gal who is perfect in every way except for one little problem. She is bat-shit, loony tunes crazy. Is the sex worth it?    A queer woman has a girlfriend who's a real snoozer in the sack. She calls her hot gender-queer pals whenever she wants sex, fucks them and then comes home to her girlfriend to read in bed and ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 235

    Apr 19 2011

    OMG! Don't you hate it when you go to a gay bar, make out with TWO gay men (even though you are a woman), and then totally don't remember it because you were, like, too drunk? How do you tell your on-again, off-again lover that you are suddenly into kink? This includes a bonus anti-choking sermon from Father Dan Savage. Don't do it. A lost lesbian bemoans the fact that she is a butch dyke attracted to other butch dykes. Can she meet anyone like her? Maybe if she moved out of Tulsa, Oklahoma… And...more

  • Savage Love Episode 234

    Apr 12 2011

    It's the one-minute wonder show! All calls less than one minute long! All answers less than one minute long! Why me talking like Hulk?    Topics covered: Friends with overgrown bushes, herpes dating sites, more come, less come, loud neighbors, master-slave role-play, icing on boobs and so much more.   Call us quickly!!  206-201-2720   This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audio book of your choice today at   Comment on this episode at www.thestranger.com/lovecast.

  • Savage Love Episode 233

    Apr 05 2011

    When he first met his future wife in college, she was a sex machine. Now their sex life is vanilla and boring. Is it all over for him? Has he missed out?    Dan speaks with a staff member for the ACLU, doing the work and opening up a can of whup-ass on bigots and homophobes.   A woman begs Dan to decode her dark fantasies. And decode them he does.    And more.  206-201-2720   Today's episode is brought to you by . Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout.   C...more

  • Savage Love Episode 232

    Mar 29 2011

    How to engineer the perfect fuck-buddy. She has him somewhat trained. But he won't buy his own condoms, and he won't switch and let her sub for a while. Can she perfect him?    A woman and her husband have agreed to open up their marriage. But what will their friends and neighbors think when the gossip starts to fly?    A man and a woman are coworkers. They share a small lab space together and work long hours. She is in love with him. He isn't in love with her. That's one bad petri dish.    A...more

  • Savage Love Episode 231

    Mar 22 2011

    We start the show off with a little wedding drama. The best man turns out to be a skirt-chasing cad. Should the bride & groom boot him out of the wedding or plug their noses and let him stand up?    A married man isn't getting any at home. Can we blame him if he accepts the occasional blow job from a gay man?    An American woman living in the Middle-East is dating a Pakistani man. He's a lousy, selfish lover, and deeply religious. Any ideas what she should do with him?      Any ideas at...more

  • Savage Love Episode 230

    Mar 09 2011

    At the age of 22, a married woman is sick of sex with her husband and wants to branch out. Can Dan save her marriage?  How can you avoid the typical pitfalls of a friends-with-benefits relationship?  After a sadistic lover violated her safe word, a kinky woman is feeling gun-shy about kinky sex. So is her husband.  And more. 206-201-2720  Today's episode is brought to you by . Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout.

  • Savage Love Episode 229

    Mar 04 2011

    Mike Huckabee? You're not going to like this show one bit.   When friends are dickheads: two tales of nasty pals. One who insults his girlfriend and treats her poorly. Another who writes about his girlfriend on a sex blog against her wishes. Eeesh.   She's young. She's kinky. She has a high sex drive. And… she likes to wear diapers and drink from a sippy cup. How can this lass find true love?   And a lot more. Tell us your tale, won't you? 206-201-2720   This episode is brought to you by Audible...more

  • Savage Love Episode 228

    Mar 01 2011

    A gay man who used to be bullied in high school testifies that when you get older, not only does it get better…it gets interesting.    Three tales of porn: A man's long distance girlfriend forbids him from watching porn. A porn-friendly lady wants more porn, porn made for ladies. And, a man's boyfriend fucks him like it's a porno movie- no foreplay, no nothing. And that sucks!    By the way, we hope you enjoyed Lady Porn Day.   Call us up!  206-201-2720   Today's episode is brought to you ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 227

    Feb 22 2011

    A crazy bitch who goes out dancing on a second date with a guy she really likes ends up making out with a completely different guy on the dance floor, and then she worries about being perceived as a "crazy bitch." "I want to do anal right," proclaims a man preparing to pleasure his girlfriend. To help field this one, Dan enlists the help of Tristan Taormino, author of "The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women."  A man wonders aloud if he has any recourse when his white flannel sheets get staine...more

  • Savage Love Episode 226

    Feb 11 2011

    It's the long-awaited episode with Mistress Matisse! Meet one of the few people who can make Dan Savage squirm. Topics covered: a sub who scares her dom's dick; "skin play"; unsexy, unwilling hostage situations; and a lot more. Faggot + dominatrix = delightful rapport. 206-201-2720   This episode is brought to you by . Go buy something and be sure to enter "Pony" at checkout. Mistress commands you to visit her website:

  • Savage Love Episode 225

    Feb 08 2011

    Come hear the tale of the lying bisexual who chickened out and denied her bisexuality to a friend. Now she's paying the price.  An ex-Mormon teen wants to have some casual hook-ups. But it turns out that you can take the girl out of Utah, but you can't take the Utah out of the girl.  The sugar-daddy decision: One caller is considering finding a sugar daddy to help pay the bills. Another caller has a chilling cautionary tale about being a sugar baby. Is it worth it?  Be careful ladies... 206-201-...more

  • Savage Love Episode 224

    Jan 26 2011

    This week, Dan brings on Amy Lang—sex educator, author, and a generally hilarious and charming guest.  All of today's calls concern how parents deal with sexuality and how to talk to your kids about sex.      Call us at 206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by . Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout.    Learn about Amy Lang at  Amy will also be answering your questions over at

  • Savage Love Episode 223

    Jan 21 2011

    A woman who broke up with her boyfriend after one year suffers from ADG (advanced dumper's guilt.) How can she get over it? In what sounds like an after-school special, a high-school couple really want to get it on. But the boy's violin teacher is poisoning the relationship! The drama! Violins! A queer woman wonders if she can maintain her friendship with a conservative Christian woman who thinks she's going to hell. How can you be friends with a woman like that?   Can you? 206-201-2720  T...more

  • Savage Love Episode 222A

    Jan 18 2011

    New and Improved!   Reduce, reuse, recycle. Does this apply to condoms? Should a boyfriend be expected to help pay for birth control pills? A rape survivor wonders if she should let her boyfriend engage in "rape play" as a form of therapy. And a lot more Call us at 206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout.  Click here: http://j.mp/SavageAdamEve

  • Savage Love Episode 221

    Jan 11 2011

    Sorry about the sound quality on some of this, folks. It gets better.  Speaking of! Dan talks with the brilliant Rebecca Drysdale about her nearly perfect song/video to accompany the It Gets Better Project.  A woman's ex-lover and current roommate is wacking off in a pair of her old underwear. Just how creeped out should she be?  A bisexual man is frustrated that people (both men and women) dump him when they find out he's bi. So why should he even tell them?  And more.  Call us up. 206-201-2720...more

  • Savage Love Episode 220

    Jan 04 2011

    A gay man posted some photos of himself wearing a dress. Now his family is FREAKING OUT. How can he explain that being a little freaky doesn't make him a transsexual?  Meanwhile, a very game woman is dating a confused cross-dresser. Is he gay? Is he transexual? Dan chats with Helen Boyd- author of "My Husband Betty" to get the scoop. A bisexual man is not out to his family. Is he morally obligated to tell them even when he doesn't have a boyfriend?  All this, and more.  Call us at 206-201-2720 T...more

  • Savage Love Episode 219

    Dec 20 2010

    A college co-ed is mortified at her own behavior at a frat party. Can she recast her image from drunken ho to witty sophisticate?  After 12 years of marriage a man finds himself at an impasse. He's not getting any. She's not giving any. He doesn't want to pay for it, demand it or lie about it. What's a hard-up husband to do?  It's hard to be out n' proud when you just feel like a lesbian homewrecker.    Hey baby. How's it goin'? Did you find this podcast "formulaic?" 206-201-2720     This episod...more

  • Savage Love Episode 218

    Dec 20 2010

    Her boyfriend wets the bed. Should this be a dealbreaker?  A straight man repeatedly "finds himself" getting his dick sucked by his creepy neighbor. Bi-curious much?  A 16 year old girl gets busted by her mother for sending pictures of herself to a 39 year old man. Who's the hero here? Call us.  206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Audible.com Download a free audio book of your choice today at www.audiblepodcast.com/savage Check out Dan's It Gets Better Project

  • Savage Love Episode 217

    Dec 14 2010

    "It's not you. I'm just not ready for a relationship." How should a man deal with these crazy-making words? A woman used to be a bit of a slut. Now she's monogamous with her man. But the man keeps obsessing about her past. How can they build trust? Don't you hate it when your new boyfriend has a crazy girlfriend that he's recently impregnated?    Jealousy. It's what's for dinner.   206-201-2720   Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you ent...more

  • Savage Love Episode 216

    Dec 07 2010

    A gay man's entire Catholic family knows he's gay. When will he come out already so they can meet his boyfriend?  Want to punish your parents? Why not join a queer porn collective?  Birthday etiquette: A concerned aunt gives her lesbian niece a packet of ex-gay propaganda, warning that she will go to hell if she doesn't magically turn straight. Is this a) kind, b) polite, c) a fun gift to get, or d) none of the above.    Relatives! 206-201-2720   Today's episode is brought to you by Adam and Eve...more

  • Savage Love Episode 215

    Nov 30 2010

    How do you make the transition from massage parlors to dating? A self-acknowedged cheater used to cheat, currently cheats and will cheat again. Should he consider an open relationship?   And more.  206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by Smitten Kitten. Get 20 percent off your order when you enter "Savage" at checkout: http://j.mp/SavageKitten Today's episode is brought to you by Get STD Tested. Call today for easy, reliable, and confidential STD testing: 888-387-1879

  • Savage Love Episode 214

    Nov 23 2010

    A young kinkster doesn't know how to tell her newly deflowered boyfriend that she wants him to slap her silly.  Beware the man who says he only meets women who are boring, or crazy or bitches.  Also, if you fool around with a man who doesn't listen to you when you say "no," it's quite alright to send him packing into the cold, cold night.  And other cautionary tales.  206-201-2720   This episode is brought to you by AudiblePodcast.Com/Savage.  Download a free audio book of your choice today.   C...more

  • Savage Love Episode 213

    Nov 16 2010

    Clown porn- balloon poodles will never be the same.  How do you tell your partner that she should lose a little weight?  Is it racist to dig Mexican men?  And Dan is joined by Wayne Besen of "Truth Wins Out" on how to deal with victims of the ex-gay movement.  Apniatic? 206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout.  Click here: http://j.mp/SavageAdamEve   Today's episode is brought to you by Get STD Teste...more

  • Savage Love Episode 212

    Nov 09 2010

    If you're dating a poly lady, does that automatically make YOU poly?  How do you keep those pesky pubic hairs from getting trapped in the cock ring?  Hear about how paella cost a man one week of sex. Hopefully it was really good paella. How many naked pictures of your boyfriend's ex are too many?  And more.  206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by Adam and Eve. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout.  Click here: http://j.mp/SavageAdamEve This episode is...more

  • Savage Love Episode 211

    Nov 02 2010

    A gay man watches in horror as his gay friend attempts to become straight in order to please Jesus Christ. Meanwhile, an ex-Mormon and current foot-fetishist wonders if it's dishonest to give his girlfriend a foot rub.  A grandpa is worried about the porn watching habits of his grandson. Though he used to spank it pretty good in his day... And more. 206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by Smitten Kitten. Get 20 percent off your order when you enter "Savage" at checkout: http://j.m...more

  • Savage Love Episode 210

    Oct 27 2010

    Dan is joined by Christopher Ryan, coauthor of Sex at Dawn. The two attempt to tackle your freaky sex problems from an evolutionary psychologist's perspective. Dan just wants to talk about plunger dicks, big sperm babies, and bonobo vulvas. Science! 206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audio book of your choice today here: http://j.mp/savageaudible Check out Dan's It Gets Better Project. Today's episode is brought to you by Get STD Tested. Call today for easy, ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 209

    Oct 19 2010

    It's the Damsels in Distress episode! A college coed lost her virginity while blasted drunk. Though she remembers giving consent, her shame caused her to call it rape. Now what? Another woman got pregnant with her brand-new boyfriend. Should she keep the baby? She and her fiancé broke up. Can they stay living together in their teeny tiny apartment as friends? Women! 206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by Adam and Eve. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at check...more

  • Savage Love Episode 208

    Oct 12 2010

    A woman and her mother have a tumultuous relationship. How will she take is when her daughter comes out as poly? A man and his wife have a great sex life, except she won't fuck his pal. Does pegging make you gay? Real men actually wonder this. Remember: It's just a dolphin. 206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by Adam and Eve. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout. Click here: http://j.mp/SavageAdamEve This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download...more

  • Savage Love Episode 207

    Oct 05 2010

    A woman is married to a cruel dickhead, pure 'n' simple. Will she DTMFA? Confused Unicorn: A married bisexual is chagrined by the treatment she gets among the gays. The poignant question is, —is the B in LGBT silent? A woman uses the wrong pronoun to address a transsexual pal. All hell breaks loose. And more. 206-302-2064 Today's episode is brought to you by Smitten Kitten. Get 20 percent off your order when you enter "Savage" at checkout: http://j.mp/SavageKitten Today's episode is brought to y...more

  • Savage Love Episode 206

    Sep 28 2010

    It's the bisexual visibility show! All bisexuals, all of the time. Happy belated Bisexuality Day. Call us up. 206-302-2064 Today's episode is brought to you by Adam and Eve. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout. Click here: http://j.mp/SavageAdamEve This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audio book of your choice today here: http://j.mp/savageaudible Check out Dan's It Gets Better Project

  • Savage Love Episode 205

    Sep 21 2010

    A gay man is bewildered when a lover asks him to save his spunk in a Ziplock bag. If the lady you're making love to tells you that you don't need to wear a condom, is she saying the same thing to all the other fellas? Two tales of massages with happy endings. One of them getting happier and happier… Feeling tense? Call us at 206-302-2064 Today's episode is brought to you by Get STD Tested. Call today for easy, reliable, and confidential STD testing: 888-387-1879 Today's episode is brought to you...more

  • Savage Love Episode 204

    Sep 14 2010

    A woman's boyfriend got fired in May and still hasn't gotten his ass off the couch. Should she cut and run or hang in there? A lesbian grapples with her hypnosis fetish. A woman's new lover whimpers like a kicked puppy when having sex. She finds this… not so sexy. And on and on. Call us at 206-302-2064 Today's episode is brought to you by Adam and Eve. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout. Click here: http://j.mp/SavageAdamEve Today's episode is also brought to ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 203

    Sep 07 2010

    Polyamory: There's a dark side, you know. When a stripper pays you extra attention at a strip club, does it automatically mean you're being hustled? Gusher on Aisle 3! This lady has the dubious problem of ejaculating so much that she needs three layers of towels lest she soak the bed. And more. 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audio book of your choice today here: http://j.mp/savageaudible Today's episode is brought to you by Smitten Kitten. Get 20 percent ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 202

    Aug 31 2010

    Dan is joined by Adam Carolla for a tag team on three-ways. (For the first and last time...) And more. 206-302-2064 Today's episode is brought to you by Smitten Kitten. Get 20 percent off your order when you enter "Savage" at checkout: http://j.mp/SavageKitten

  • Savage Love Episode 201

    Aug 24 2010

    It's the 'mo show! All homosexual men, all of the time! One 'mo's parents still can't deal with it, even though he came out a year ago. Another 'mo isn't out at work yet because he fears the response at his conservative office. Yet another 'mo is only a 'mo when he's drunk. Otherwise, he's busy swearing that he's straight to his girlfriend. And more 'mos. Call us at 206-302-2064 Today's episode is brought to you by Adam and Eve. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at check...more

  • Savage Love Episode 200

    Aug 17 2010

    Hear the sordid tale of the rat, the alley, and the eight-inch cock. A man and his buddy enjoy banging the same girl at the same time. Are they getting a touch of the queer? When your boyfriend calls sex an "ordeal" and prefers porn to you, you might have a quaver in your voice, too. And a cavalcade of dry-humping lesbians! Call us at 206-302-2064! This episode was brought to you by Audible. Download a free audio book of your choice today here: http://j.mp/savageaudible

  • Savage Love Episode 199

    Aug 10 2010

    Amnesia: How would you like to have to break up with your boyfriend over and over again? A young woman discovers that her mother is a part of a small S&M community. The problem is the daughter wants that community to herself! And an udderly mooooving tale about a lesbian on all fours. And more... Call us at 206-302-2064 Today's episode is brought to you by Adam and Eve. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout. Click here: http://j.mp/SavageAdamEve

  • Savage Love Episode 198

    Aug 03 2010

    A disgruntled boyfriend is sick to death of his girlfriend's meddling mom. Two homos grapple with their desire for allegedly straight friends. Dan goes into rant overdrive on the subject of, of all things, monogamy. And more. 206-302-2064 Today's episode is brought to you by Smitten Kitten. Get 20 percent off your order when you enter "Savage" at checkout: http://j.mp/SavageKitten

  • Savage Love Episode 197

    Jul 27 2010

    An interview with the victorious Constance McMillen. A message from Dan to high school teachers everywhere: You should err on the side of not fucking your students. A parade of autofellators. And more... Call us at 206-302-2064 Today's episode is also brought to you by Adam and Eve. Get 50% off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout. Click here: http://j.mp/SavageAdamEve

  • Savage Love Episode 196

    Jul 20 2010

    Will Dan Savage lose his job to 18-year-old Damian? Damian's classmates voted him most likely to replace Dan Savage. Hear Dan go mano a mano with a Twittering snot-nosed teenager. Call us at 206-302-2064 This episode was brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today here: http://j.mp/savageaudible Today's episode is also brought to you by Adam and Eve. Get 50% off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout. Click here: http://j.mp/SavageAdamEve

  • Savage Love Episode 195

    Jul 13 2010

    The Lovecast is humbled to welcome Dr. Anna Kaminski from Planned Parenthood. She and Dan discuss the twin bogeymen of herpes and HPV. The upshot? Not so scary! Also, Dan talks to Eyal Feldman, purveyor of Boy Butter. Sorry about the popping p's, people. Note to selves: must get second pop-blocker. Call us at 206-302-2064 Today's episode is brought to you by Adam and Eve. Get 50% off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout. Click here: http://j.mp/SavageAdamEve

  • Savage Love Episode 194

    Jul 06 2010

    Dan interviews Christopher Ryan, coauthor of Sex at Dawn, which uses evolutionary science to vindicate Dan's position on monogamy. Double rebound: two stories of ex-lovers who quickly find someone new, leaving their former partners behind to mope. Don't you hate it when you're caught masturbating by your sister's boyfriend, whom you secretly want to fuck? And more. 206-302-2064 Today's episode is brought to you by Smitten Kitten. Get 20 percent off your order when you enter "Savage" at checkout:...more

  • Savage Love Episode 193

    Jun 29 2010

    Sometimes spring-winter romances just can't work. Like when he is 19 years old, and she is 11. Dan helps a very confused bisexual woman and a virgin Muslim homo to come out—at least to themselves. After their third child is born, a man is no longer attracted to his wife. And he feels like a big jerk. And more. 206-302-2064 Today's episode is brought to you by Smitten Kitten. Get 20 percent off your order when you enter "Savage" at checkout: http://j.mp/SavageKitten

  • Savage Love Episode 192

    Jun 22 2010

    Hear the erotic tale of the woman who inhaled a gummy bear. Another whiny man who can't bear to get a vasectomy. And a call to all our self-fellating listeners. Call us even if you can't fellate yourself. 206-302-2064 Today's episode is brought to you by Adam Male: Get 50 percent off when you enter GUYS at checkout. http://j.mp/SavageAdamMale

  • Savage Love Episode 191

    Jun 15 2010

    Lots of dicks in this one. Really small dicks, bloody uncircumcised dicks, dicks that grow tremendously... and that doesn't even include the host! Zing! Call us at 206-302-2064 Today's episode is brought to you by Adam Male: Get 50 percent off when you enter GUYS at checkout. http://j.mp/SavageAdamMale This episode was brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today here: http://j.mp/savageaudible

  • Savage Love Episode 190

    Jun 08 2010

    A woman in a four-year relationship prefers anonymous sex without love. Her boyfriend wants monogamy. How can they reconcile this? How much porn does it take to call it a porn addiction? Two sordid tales of barebacking... And tons more. Call us at 206-302-2064 Today's episode is brought to you by Adam Male: Get 50 percent off when you enter GUYS at checkout. http://j.mp/SavageAdamMale Today's episode is brought to you by Sex Is Fun. www.sexisfun.net

  • Savage Love Episode 189

    Jun 01 2010

    Will a good fisting dislodge an IUD? She's too scared to ask her doctor. Men don't rape each other: true or false? Hey, fellas: Do you have an outie belly button? There's a lady who would like to meet you. And more. 206-302-2064 Today's episode is brought to you by Smitten Kitten. Get 20 percent off your order when you enter "Savage" at checkout: http://j.mp/SavageKitten

  • Savage Love Episode 188

    May 25 2010

    Dear girlfriend. I love you so much. But can you please wash your vagina? A woman at the beginning of an online dating adventure is warned that her potential paramour has a terribly bruised penis from extreme masturbation. Hot or not? A man wants to date dominatrixes, but not because he wants to be a sub. He just thinks they're hot. And tons more. Call us at 206-302-2064 Today's episode is brought to you by ExtremeRestraints.com www.ExtremeRestraints.com

  • Savage Love Episode 187

    May 18 2010

    Grandpa up and died. And he left behind his porn stash. Should his granddaughter rush in to hide it before the rest of the family discovers Grandpa's little secret? A man treats his boyfriend like a Madonna, when he just wants to be a whore. A 23-year-old woman is sick being the only single gal at her friends' weddings. She speaks fluent French. Why can't she land a man? The answer: Apitoiement. And tons more. Call us at 206-302-2064 Today's episode is brought to you by Adam and Eve. Click here:...more

  • Savage Love Episode 186

    May 11 2010

    Angry gay fucking: Her neighbors are doing it. How can she tell them to knock it off or at least keep it down? The tragedy of our inadequate sex education in the U.S. reveals itself in this call, in which a young man wonders how to get an abortion without telling his parents and how to find out if his girlfriend is indeed pregnant. Dan talks a man out of castrating himself. Seriously. And tons more. Call us at 206-302-2064 Today's episode is brought to you by Adam and Eve. Click here: http://j.m...more

  • Savage Love Episode 185

    May 04 2010

    Her new boyfriend can spray the walls with his spunk. How can she perform oral sex without drowning? A man and his prostitute are getting friendly outside of the business transaction. Would it be prudent for him to ask her out? A young homo in the South is rejected by the negative community for being positive. He's rejected by the positive community for refusing to bareback. How is he supposed to have any fun? And tons more. Call us at 206-302-2064 Today's episode is brought to you by AdamMale. ...more

  • Savage Love Episode 184

    Apr 27 2010

    Today, Dan is joined by special guest expert Francisco Ramirez! Francisco dishes out free sex advice in Washington Square Park. Hear Dan and Fran double-team on your weekly dose of smut. 206-302-2064 Today's episode is brought to you by Smitten Kitten. Get 20 percent off your order when you enter "Savage" at checkout: http://j.mp/SavageKitten Here's Francisco's website: www.franciscoramirez.org

  • Savage Love Episode 183

    Apr 20 2010

    Sympathy for the pedophile: Dan and Dr. James Cantor, assistant professor of psychiatry at University of Toronto, discuss the nightmare of being burdened with a sexual attraction to children. What treatment is there? Can pedophiles resist hardwired sexual urges all their lives? Also, hear Dan's conversation with a Christian virgin slut. And tons more! Call us at 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Click here for a free audiobook: http://j.mp/savageaudible Today's episode is b...more

  • Savage Love Episode 182

    Apr 13 2010

    A man who cheated on his girlfriend 10 years ago feels so guilty about it that he decides to come clean all over her. A cautionary tale about exploring S&M with a man who has anger-management issues. Boy loves girl. Girl doesn't love boy. Instead, girl has noisy sex with boy's best friend in his own damn room. And more. 206-302-2064 Today's episode is brought to you by Smitten Kitten. Get 20 percent off your order when you enter "Savage" at checkout: http://j.mp/SavageKitten

  • Savage Love Episode 181

    Apr 06 2010

    Can you think too hard about S&M? More pertinently, who really needs the gag? A young homo is joining the air force. How carefully should he cover his tracks when he goes back into the closet? Speaking of being careful, this man's girlfriend is on the pill and makes him wear a condom AND pull out. Would you put up with this? We wouldn't. 206-302-2064 Today's episode is brought to you by Smitten Kitten. Get 20 percent off your order when you enter "Savage" at checkout: http://j.mp/SavageKitte...more

  • Savage Love Episode 180

    Mar 30 2010

    Whatever happened to "mystery porn"? A blubbering crybaby is scared to get a vasectomy. Do they really end in castration? Okay. What's with the "Q" in "LGBTQ?" And tons more. Call us at 206-302-2064 Today's episode is brought to you by Adam & Eve. Receive 50% off most any item, when you enter "Savage" at check-out: http://j.mp/SavageAdamEve

  • Savage Love Episode 179

    Mar 23 2010

    A lucky, lucky man thinks he may have been subtly propositioned by a hot couple. How can he close the deal without looking like a creep? A woman living rent-free with her stepfather is horrified to discover that he occasionally masturbates. A young couple into Dom/sub play like to role-play in public. The caller's little sister doesn't understand why her big sister is being so mean. For the record, oral sex counts. Call us at 206-302-2064 Today's episode is brought to you by Adam and Eve. Receiv...more

  • Savage Love Episode 178

    Mar 16 2010

    It's the gay teen episode! Today's episode is brought to you by Smitten Kitten. Get 20 percent off your order when you enter "Savage" at checkout: http://j.mp/SavageKitten

  • Savage Love Episode 177

    Mar 09 2010

    Is it leotarded for a woman to suck on a man's nipples? A well-intentioned women tries to give her lover a blowjob in his sleep. Most men would kill for this--why did he freak out? Remember, homos: Every time a fag fucks his hag, an angel dies. And more. Call us at 206-302-2064 Today's episode is brought to you by Adam & Eve. Receive 50% off most any item, when you enter "Savage" at check-out: http://j.mp/SavageAdamEve This episode was brought to you by Audible. Download a free audio book of...more

  • Savage Love Episode 176

    Mar 02 2010

    Exactly how leotarded is it to have centerfolds up on the walls when you're in your mid 20s? When subs marry: How can they each get what they want, when what they both want is a good whuppin'? A man's sister is shocked, appalled, and very, very inquisitive about a three-way he had recently. Is it any of her business? Call us at 206-302-2064 Today's episode is brought to you by Adam & Eve. Receive 50% off most any item, when you enter "Savage" at check-out: http://j.mp/SavageAdamEve

  • Savage Love Episode 175

    Feb 23 2010

    Her boyfriend had sex with his ex, didn't tell her, and got the ex pregnant. Should the caller be angry? A man with an interracial cuckold fantasy has a very GGG wife, willing to do everything short of fuck a black man for him. In other interracial news, a black woman wonders if her white lover sees her whole self or just her beautiful black skin. Call us at 206-302-2064 Today's episode is brought to you by Adam & Eve. Receive 50% off most any item, when you enter "Savage" at check-out: http...more

  • Savage Love Episode 174

    Feb 16 2010

    Dan delivers a lecture to a teenage girl at the behest of her concerned father. Thin walls: The neighbor is making life unpleasant f